[August 2025] "Hey Narcissistic Leader... Who, Me?"

When we picture a leader, most of us imagine someone loud, bold, extroverted—someone who walks into a room and immediately takes charge. But leadership doesn’t always look that way. Some of the most powerful and effective leaders are the quiet ones. They don’t lead with volume, but with presence. They don’t demand the spotlight, but they make space for others to shine. Quiet leaders are listeners, thoughtful decision-makers, and steady examples. Today, we’re going to talk about the strengths, the challenges, and the calling of what I call “The Silent CEO”—the power of a quiet leader.

There’s a quiet danger in leadership—the slow drift toward narcissism. It doesn’t happen overnight. It starts small: a little pride, a little control, a little spotlight. But left unchecked, it can poison a ministry from the inside out. In this episode of In the Loop, we’re taking a hard look at the subtle shift from servant to celebrity, from called to controlling. This is a heart-check for every leader—because the most dangerous leader is the one who no longer sees the need to grow.

There’s a dangerous misconception creeping into the mindset of too many aspiring ministers today—a subtle but powerful lie that says the pulpit is the prize. That somehow, the goal of ministry is the microphone. Your pastor doesn’t need another sermon—he needs a servant. The spotlight doesn’t sanctify you—service does. Today, we’re going to talk about what it really means to be used by God, and why chasing the pulpit will never compare to carrying the load.

Let’s be real—you’ve had that moment. The lightbulb moment. The “this is it” kind of vision. It hits you out of nowhere and suddenly, you can see it. The future looks big, bold, and full of purpose. You start dreaming, planning, maybe even telling people about it. It’s exciting… until it isn’t. Because right after the vision comes the realization: this is going to take a lot of work. And that’s when doubt starts creeping in. The excitement fades, the energy dips, and you start wondering—*was this ever really the right path?* Today, I want to talk to you about that exact moment—when work starts feeling like the enemy of your vision. Because you’re not alone, and you're not crazy. Let's unpack it together.

In a world overflowing with sermons, reels, and leadership resources, it’s never been easier to deliver great content—but is that really what moves people? In this episode of In the Loop, I’m inviting pastors and leaders to step back and wrestle with a crucial question: Are we so focused on crafting messages that that fall short of connecting with the people?

Confrontation is one of the most challenging aspects of leadership, yet it’s an unavoidable and necessary part of growth. Welcome to today’s episode of Lead with Integrity. I’m your host, Tom Durrance, and today we’re diving into The Art of Confrontation—when, how, and why leaders must have difficult conversations. Whether you’re addressing performance issues, navigating team conflicts, or standing firm on organizational values, knowing how to confront effectively can make all the difference. In this episode, we’ll explore practical strategies to help you approach tough conversations with clarity, confidence, and care.

Leadership is frequently associated with authority, power, and control. In this episode of Leading with Care: The Power of a Compassionate Leader, we explore how compassionate leadership—rooted in empathy, self-awareness, and vulnerability—can create more resilient, motivated teams and elevate leaders themselves. By embracing care and emotional intelligence, leaders can transform their approach and make a lasting, positive impact on those they lead.

In this podcast, we'll dive deep into the hidden corners of our hearts and minds, exploring how we navigate and process our deepest thoughts, secrets, and questions of purity before God and ourselves.

Nothing but the Truth (white lies), is a podcast where we explore how even the smallest, seemingly harmless lies can profoundly affect our lives, relationships, ministry, and the world around us.

Could your personality be impending on your ministry? How would you score yourself in the context of your personality vs the Fruit of the Spirit? In this podcast, we'll change the personality to be more like the Fruit of the Spirit.