Asking Out, Moving On, and Starting New, Dear Guyset

What happens when you finally get everything you've been working toward, but the happiness doesn't last? In this episode of Guyset, I'm talking about the arrival fallacy, a psychological phenomenon that explains why achieving our biggest goals doesn't always bring the lasting happiness, satisfaction, or fulfillment we expect. Whether it's landing your dream job, finding a relationship, getting promoted, or reaching a financial milestone, so much of our 20s is spent believing we'll finally be happy when we get to that next stage of life. But what happens when we get there? I'm breaking down the psychology behind the arrival fallacy, including hedonic adaptation and why our brains quickly adjust to success. More importantly, I'm sharing practical ways to stop constantly chasing what's next, appreciate where you are right now, celebrate small wins, and find more happiness in everyday life. Because one day, you might look back and realize that some of the best moments of your life were the ordinary ones you were too busy to appreciate. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction: Why We Need to Celebrate Small Wins 02:16 What Is the Arrival Fallacy? 04:30 Why Achieving Your Goals Doesn't Guarantee Happiness 06:43 The Psychology Behind Chasing Happiness 08:42 Why Success Never Feels Like Enough 10:56 Are You Missing the Best Days of Your Life? 13:20 The Hidden Consequences of the Arrival Fallacy 15:36 How Chasing Success Can Affect Your Relationships 17:38 How to Break Free From the Arrival Fallacy 19:57 Redefining Success and Finding Joy in the Process 22:14 Balancing Ambition With Gratitude 24:31 Why Getting What You Want Can Feel Disappointing 26:41 How to Find Happiness in the Present ABOUT GUYSET Guyset is a guy's guide to what should be talked about. Every Tuesday, I talk about dating, relationships, confidence, mindset, career, and navigating life in your 20s. Have a question you want answered on a future episode? Submit it at https://guyset.com. Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday! For more Guyset: Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset Follow on Instagram: @guysetpodcast Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here See you guys next Tuesday! 

What does a healthy relationship actually look like? How do you know if you're with the right person? And what relationship advice is actually worth listening to? In this episode of Guyset, I'm back with another installment of Advice From the Internet, this time breaking down some of the best relationship advice I've found on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube. From knowing whether you're in the right relationship to choosing a partner who makes your life better, building confidence in yourself, and supporting each other through different stages of life, I'm sharing my thoughts on what makes a relationship healthy, happy, and worth fighting for. We talk about how to know if you really love someone, why the relationship you have with yourself matters just as much as the one you have with your partner, how to navigate difficult moments together, and why being there for someone through every stage of life is one of the greatest parts of being in love. Whether you're just starting to date someone, in a long-term relationship, or figuring out what you really want in a partner, I hope you leave this episode with one or two pieces of relationship advice that stick with you. Guyset is a podcast where I talk about dating, relationships, confidence, mindset, career, and navigating life in your 20s. Have a question you want me to answer? Head to https://guyset.com and submit it for an upcoming Dear Guyset episode. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe for more honest conversations and practical advice about navigating your 20s. For more Guyset: Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset Follow on Instagram: @guysetpodcast Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here See you guys next Tuesday! 

Welcome back to another episode of Dear Guyset, where I answer the real questions guys are asking about dating, relationships, career, confidence, and figuring out life in your 20s. This week, I'm answering seven questions about situations we've all probably found ourselves in at some point. How long should you talk to a girl on a dating app before asking her out? What do you do when you've been on a few dates with someone who's great, but something feels like it's missing? And how do you know if you're doing a good job when you've just started your first real job and feel like you're already supposed to know everything? I'm also talking about when to introduce someone you're dating to your friends, whether you should tell your girlfriend when something small bothers you, how to become more present in your everyday life, and some last-minute Halloween costume ideas. I'm not an expert. I'm just another 26-year-old guy figuring these things out alongside you. My goal with Dear Guyset is to share honest, practical advice that helps you feel a little less alone in whatever you're going through. TIMESTAMPS: 02:29: What should I be for Halloween? 04:00: How long should I talk to a girl on a dating app before asking her out? 10:30: I've been on a few dates with a girl, but something feels missing. Should I keep seeing her? 17:00: How do I get better at being where I am right now? 20:20: When should I introduce the girl I'm seeing to my friends? 23:35: Should I tell my girlfriend when something small bothers me? 27:15: I just started my first real job. How do I know if I'm doing a good job? 33:25: How to submit your own Dear Guyset question ASK ME ANYTHING: Have a question about dating, relationships, confidence, career, or life in your 20s? Submit it anonymously at https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything for a chance to have it answered in a future Dear Guyset episode. MORE FROM GUYSET: Website: https://www.guyset.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guysetpodcast Subscribe for new episodes of Guyset every Tuesday, where we talk about the things guys are thinking about but don't always know where to ask. See you next Tuesday!

What if you didn't have to wait until Monday, next month, or the new year to change your life? In this episode of the Guyset Podcast, I'm talking about The Fresh Start Effect, a psychological phenomenon that explains why we're more motivated to pursue our goals after meaningful milestones like birthdays, Mondays, and the start of a new year. But here's the thing: you don't need a fresh start to change your life. I'm breaking down the psychology behind fresh starts, why we keep waiting for the perfect moment to make a change, how procrastination and self-doubt hold us back, and what it actually takes to stop getting in our own way. I'm also sharing my own experiences with putting things off, setting goals, and waiting for the right moment to start. We'll talk about navigating life in your 20s, overcoming the fear of failure, building better habits, and finding the motivation to take action even when life gets busy. Whether you're feeling stuck, struggling to find motivation, trying to be more consistent, or wondering how to start over, I hope this episode reminds you that you don't have to wait for a milestone to make a change. You don't have to wait for the perfect moment. You can start today. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction 00:18 What Is the Fresh Start Effect? 02:37 The Psychology and Research Behind Fresh Starts 05:03 Why Do We Wait for the Perfect Moment? 07:14 How Fear of Failure Keeps Us Stuck 09:30 You Can Decide to Change Your Life Today 11:39 Stop Comparing Your Progress to Others 13:51 Why We Keep Putting Off Our Goals 16:08 The Perfectionist vs. the Doer 18:21 You Don't Need Permission to Start Over 20:29 How Everyday Responsibilities Get in the Way 22:51 Why It's So Hard to Start Something New 25:05 How to Stop Waiting and Start Taking Action 27:29 Get Out of Your Own Way and Just Try 29:42 Dear Guyset and Final Thoughts ABOUT GUYSET PODCAST I'm Josh, the founder and host of Guyset, a podcast helping guys navigate dating, relationships, confidence, mindset, career, and lifestyle. Every Tuesday, I'm here to talk about the questions guys have but don't always know where to ask. Read more about the mission here. Read more and submit your questions for Dear Guyset: https://guyset.com Watch new episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Guyset Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday! See you next Tuesday!

We all go through moments when we feel stuck, lost, overwhelmed, or just not like ourselves. Maybe something didn't go the way you hoped, you experienced rejection, you're having a bad week, or you've found yourself in a funk that you can't seem to shake. In this episode of the Guyset Podcast, we're talking about how to get back up again, reset your mindset, stop overthinking, and start feeling like yourself again. I'm sharing practical advice and strategies that have helped me get through difficult moments, from getting outside and moving your body to learning how to stop negative thoughts from spiraling, separating one bad experience from everything else in your life, and remembering to recognize your wins instead of only focusing on your losses. Whether you're going through a tough time, feeling unmotivated, struggling with self-doubt, or simply looking for ways to improve your mood and get back on track, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to stay where you are right now. You can pick yourself back up, change your perspective, and start moving forward again.

I'm back with more life advice from the internet and sharing what I actually think about it. From putting your phone down and being more present to worrying less about the future, figuring yourself out, doing the work, and remembering that what feels impossible today might feel completely different tomorrow, these are the pieces of advice that stood out to me. We talk about why everything feels harder when it's new, why there are no shortcuts to getting good at something, how to stop feeling like you need to have your entire life figured out in your 20s, and why sometimes the simplest things can make a bad day feel a little lighter. Not every piece of advice is going to hit you at the same time, but hopefully there's something in this episode that feels like exactly what you needed to hear right now. And if not, come back to it later. Sometimes the right advice hits completely differently depending on where you are in your life. For more Guyset: Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset Follow on Instagram: @guysetpodcast Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here See you guys next Tuesday! 

These are some of the things I wish someone had sat me down and told me when I was starting a new job, so I'm here to tell you them. From learning how to speak up and ask questions to handling feedback, owning your mistakes, saying no, building relationships, and actually showing the value you bring to a company, these are the lessons that can make you better at your job. Whether you're starting a new job, early in your career, or have been working for years, these are reminders that will help you in whatever job, position, or career you're in. For more Guyset: Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset Follow on Instagram: @guysetpodcast Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here See you guys next Tuesday! 

The internet is full of life advice about how to make the most of your 20s, but how much of it is actually helpful when you're living through them? In this episode, I'm going through some of the best advice I've seen online and figuring out what's actually worth listening to, what's easier said than done, and how I'd apply it to real life. I talk about comparing yourself to other people, celebrating your friends' wins, learning how to spend time alone, knowing when to walk away from a relationship, people pleasing, being okay with disappointing people, why good manners still matter, and finally doing the thing you keep putting off. If you're trying to figure out your 20s as you go, these are the pieces of life advice I think are actually worth hearing. For more Guyset: Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guysetpodca... Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything See you guys next Tuesday! 

What should you do when someone cancels a date on you? When should you meet the friends of someone you're dating? And how soon after matching on Hinge should you ask someone out? In this Dear Guyset episode, I'm answering real questions from guys about dating, relationships, career, and life in your 20s. We're talking about what to do when someone cancels a date at the last minute, whether you should go on a date you're not looking forward to, when you should meet her friends, who should plan the second date, how to tell if someone wants something casual or a serious relationship, and when to ask someone out after matching on a dating app. I'm also getting into career questions, including how long you should stay at a job before leaving, whether you should apply for a job even if you don't meet all the qualifications, plus when it's time to start buying nicer clothes. Timestamps: She Rescheduled the Date, Then Canceled 30 Minutes Before (2:25) How Long Should You Stay at a Job Before Leaving? (6:50) Should I Go on a Date I'm Not Looking Forward To? (11:48) Is It a Bad Sign If I Haven't Met Her Friends? (16:25) Should I Apply for a Job Even If I Don't Feel Qualified? (19:35) Who Is Supposed to Plan the Second Date? (21:53) How Do I Know If She Wants Something Casual or a Relationship? (24:02) How Soon After Matching on Hinge Should You Ask Someone Out? (27:48) When Should You Start Buying Nicer Clothes? (31:18) For more Guyset:  Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset Follow on Instagram: @guysetpodcast Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here See you guys next Tuesday! 

As we say goodbye to summer and work starts to kick back into full gear, I thought it was the perfect time for a work reset. In this episode, I'm sharing the things I think actually matter at work and the habits that can help you get your focus back, reset your mindset, and set yourself up for success. I'm talking about how to prioritize what actually matters, keep track of your accomplishments, understand your company's goals, work better with your boss, ask for feedback, speak up in meetings, build relationships with the people around you, and actually stay present at work. Whether you're starting a new job, stepping into a new role, or just trying to get back into the swing of things after summer, think of this as your reset for getting back on track at work. For more Guyset: Watch full episodes on YouTube: @guyset Follow on Instagram: @guysetpodcast Daily blog posts: https://guyset.com/ Ask Me Anything: https://guyset.com/ask-me-anything If You're Going On A Date This Week: listen here See you guys next Tuesday!