The Professional With a Kinky Side

Neuroscientist Dr. Nicole Prause grew up in Texas, where sex education served up a platter of abstinence garnished with jump-scare photos of untreated STIs. Now, she runs a basement lab where people masturbate... for science! Michelle and Nicole talk about why porn doesn't meet the scientific bar for addiction, how anxiety hijacks arousal in bed, and what her research is finding about the moments right before orgasm.Find Dr. Nicole PrauseWebsite: https://liberoscenter.com/Produced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME.Portrait photo: Neal Preston.Chapters00:00 The shower question and the addiction label03:01 Growing up with Texas sex education04:28 Inside the sex-research lab07:02 Masturbation and depression09:08 What counts as addiction?11:45 Why people use porn13:41 When porn feels like a problem16:50 Porn, dopamine, and human touch18:29 When arousal feels like fear19:50 Refractory periods and sperm health21:50 The mystery of orgasm23:12 Studying the brain before climax26:44 The 3D-printed penis study29:44 What research taught Nicole about her body31:40 Closing and where to find Nicole Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

How do you flirt without being creepy? Why do men skip sex ed and consent talks, and where do they learn about sex instead? Sex and consent educator samantha bitty on rejection, the manosphere, and the questions men are too embarrassed to ask out loud.samantha bitty is a sex and consent educator based in Toronto.Find samantha bittyWebsite: samanthabitty.comInstagram: @samantha_bittyResources from samantha:nixit: Menstrual and sexual wellness products. samantha discusses her work as a spokesperson in the interview.samantha bitty’s media library: Articles, interviews and educational videos.Sex Sessions: samantha’s educational video series.Produced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME.Chapters00:00 Introduction03:21 Responding to nudes and checking consent05:54 Flirting with someone, not at them09:00 Inviting men into sex and consent education12:56 Porn literacy and partnered sex17:04 Safer sex, preferences and boundaries19:09 Rejection resilience and the manosphere27:26 The responsibility of teaching about sex30:52 Sexual harm, accountability and power35:53 The questions men ask in private37:05 Erections, early ejaculation and staying present39:41 nixit and live sex education events43:19 Credits Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

Mel Woods is a trans nonbinary journalist (they/them) who grew up outside Red Deer, Alberta, next door to a semi-truck driver named Todd. Five years ago they started testosterone, and they think about that choice every week. Mel shares what reality TV taught a generation of queer kids, what testosterone does that nobody warns you about, and why some cis women take it too. They also get into reporting on anti-trans politics from inside the story, and why going to play Magic: The Gathering after a brutal news day counts as resistance.About Mel WoodsMel Woods is an award-winning journalist, writer and editor originally from the prairies and now based in Vancouver. Now investigating anti-trans hate in Canada with the Canadian Anti-Hate Network, they were previously a senior editor at Xtra Magazine where they covered LGBTQ2S+ news and culture. Their freelance work has appeared in The Walrus, HuffPost Canada, CBC, Vice, Slate, The Tyee, and the Globe and Mail.Key Topics & Timestamps00:00 Finding joy in your body00:33 Meet Mel Woods03:37 Recognizing yourself04:33 Self-determination06:19 Reporting on trans rights10:41 Reality TV and queer identity16:13 Gender-neutral clothing19:39 Charlie Kirk coverage and anti-trans misinformation26:27 Reporting when you are part of the story28:38 Closing the laptop and living your life29:41 What testosterone gave Mel31:17 Living in a changing body35:06 Community and access to care37:52 Advice for starting transition40:21 Five years on testosterone40:57 Where to find Mel41:51 CreditsFind Mel WoodsWebsite: melwoods.meBluesky: @melwoods.meCanadian Anti-Hate NetworkGet Queer podcastMentioned in This EpisodeGLAADSurvivor (the show featuring Zeke Smith)Get Queer: Casually Queer (Mel’s interview with Zeke Smith)Get Queer: Trans TV (the conversation with Zeke continues)Get Queer: Housewives Get Queer (with Racquel Chevremont)Lorde’s “Man of the Year” and the permission to want (Mel Woods, Xtra)What “Gender-Neutral” Fashion Gets Wrong (Mel Woods, The Walrus)Trans people didn’t ask to get pulled into any of this (Mel Woods, Xtra)Charlie Kirk died a year ago. Trans people are still paying the price (Mel Woods, Xtra)Trans Journalists AssociationMagic: The GatheringTeenage Sex and Death at Camp Miasma (a film by Jane Schoenbrun)I Saw the TV Glow (a film by Jane Schoenbrun)Trans Care BC (gender-affirming care information and support in British Columbia)Produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios. Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

Hot people get herpes. So why can a diagnosis make you feel like nobody will want you?Courtney Brame remembers worrying that his sex life was over. In this episode, he joins sex therapist Michelle Fischler to talk about what happened after his diagnosis, the support that helped him, and learning to feel desirable again.Courtney is the founder of Something Positive for Positive People, a nonprofit supporting people navigating herpes stigma and helping partners and healthcare providers talk about sex.Michelle and Courtney get into the words that add shame, including “clean” and “dirty,” and why a diagnosis can feel like a verdict on who you are. They also try a second-date role-play: how do you bring up sexual health, find out whether someone is ready to talk, and hold a boundary without apologizing for existing?They talk about what healthcare providers can say that helps, what can leave someone feeling dismissed, and why telling one person you trust can be a place to start.If you’ve wondered how to tell someone, how to respond, or whether sex and dating can still feel good after a diagnosis, this conversation is for you.Key Topics & Timestamps00:00 First symptoms00:39 Introducing Courtney Brame03:21 Life before the diagnosis06:37 Diagnosis and family support11:21 Telling the next partner12:33 Inheriting herpes stigma16:17 Challenging “my sex life is over”18:42 The body as an apartment complex22:59 Retiring stigmatizing language26:47 Feeling desirable again27:58 Second-date role-play: talking about sexual health32:25 More than your diagnosis35:09 Responding to disclosure37:15 Stigma-informed healthcare40:13 One thing to do after a diagnosis41:44 Where to find Courtney42:57 CreditsFind Courtney Brame:Instagram: @CourtneyBrameSomething Positive for Positive People PodcastResources from Courtney:Herpes Support GroupHow to DiscloseStigma-Informed Training Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

Take two sex questions and call me in the morning. If only talking to your doctor about sex felt that easy.You rehearsed the question in the waiting room. Then the doctor walked in, and you swallowed it.Maybe it was about STI testing. Pain. Pleasure. A change in your body. Something you worried would sound strange, embarrassing or too personal for a medical appointment.Dr. Sheila Wijayasinghe is an academic family physician, medical educator, Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, longtime health expert on CTV's The Social, and co-host of The Doc Talk Podcast. She and Michelle explore how shame follows us into the exam room, how a provider's tone can open or close a conversation, and why sexual healthcare should make room for pleasure, not only pain or problems.Sheila offers a place to start when the words will not come: "I'm feeling embarrassed, but I'd like to talk about this."You don't need a polished explanation. You only need an opening.Find Dr. Sheila WijayasingheInstagram: @drsheilawThe Doc Talk PodcastResources mentioned in this episodeIWHC TorontoHassle Free ClinicBay Centre for Sexual HealthBooks Sheila recommends for talking with children about consent and body autonomyAges 0–3Will Ladybug Hug? by Hilary LeungC is for Consent by Eleanor MorrisonAges 3–5Don't Hug Doug (He Doesn't Like It) by Carrie FinisonYes! No! A First Conversation About Consent by Megan Madison and Jessica RalliMy Body! What I Say Goes! by Jayneen SandersAges 5–7Consent (for Kids!) by Rachel BrianLet's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect by Jayneen SandersMiles Is the Boss of His Body by Samantha Kurtzman-Counter and Abbie SchillerAges 7–10The Every Body Book by Rachel E. SimonSex Is a Funny Word by Cory SilverbergThe Care and Keeping of You by Valorie SchaeferAges 10–13You Know, Sex by Cory SilverbergWait, What? A Comic Book Guide to Relationships, Bodies, and Growing Up by Heather Corinna and Isabella RotmanCelebrate Your Body (and Its Changes, Too!) by Sonya Renee TaylorAges 13+S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-to-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather CorinnaConsent: The New Rules of Sex Education by Jennifer LangDoing It! Let's Talk About Sex by Hannah WittonGet in touchGot a story you want to tell on GETSOME? Email [email protected] @getsome_podcast on Instagram.Produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios. Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

You went to the doctor. The bloodwork was fine, the scans were fine, and you were told to live with it. So you assumed the problem must be you. But what if the pain, the softer erections, the coming sooner than you want were never in your head? What if the part of your body nobody named has muscles, nerves, and actual treatment options?Dr. Susie Gronski is a pelvic health physical therapist and AASECT-certified sexuality counsellor and educator who built her practice around the gap nobody else was filling. Men have pelvic floors. Those muscles get tight, tense, and crabby, and they can be rehabbed. She also has a phrase she gives every client before they get on the table: bodies do body things.About Dr. Susie GronskiWith over a decade of expertise in men's pelvic and sexual health, Dr. Susie Gronski is a Licensed Doctor of Physical Therapy, Pelvic Health Therapist, AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor and Educator, and founder of a multidisciplinary pelvic health clinic in Asheville, North Carolina. Through her clinic and Patreon, she helps men navigate taboo pelvic and sexual health concerns and works to make pelvic therapy more accessible.Find Dr. Susie GronskiWebsite: https://drsusieg.com/Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/drsusiegInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.susiegTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drsusiegBooksPelvic Pain: The Ultimate Cock Block, Dr. Susie Gronskihttps://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-book-for-menComing Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, Michelle Fischlerhttps://getsome.ca/coming-soon-bookMentioned in this episodeManhood: The Bare Reality, Laura Dodsworthhttps://www.lauradodsworth.com/manhoodMakeLoveNotPorn, founded by Cindy Gallophttps://makelovenotporn.tvErika Lusthttps://erikalust.comFeatured ResourcesLive Demo: Male Pelvic Floor Examhttps://www.patreon.com/drsusieg/posts/live-demo-male-159871249Live Demo: Female Pelvic Floor Examhttps://www.patreon.com/drsusieg/posts/live-demo-female-148634739Get in touchGot a story you want to tell on GETSOME? Email [email protected] @getsome_podcast on InstagramProduced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

You promised yourself you'd stop. You didn't. And then you took that as proof of something about you. But what if the porn and masturbation weren’t the whole story? What if they were the strategy quietly keeping something much scarier in place?A man reaching for porn instead of his partner may have found a version of sex that feels safer from shame.Lisa Etherson, UK-based psychosexual therapist and the originator of Shame Containment Theory, offers another lens: performance anxiety can involve fear of shame, and the behaviour we call “compulsive” or “addictive” can serve as a shame containment strategy.About LisaLisa Etherson is a psychosexual therapist, researcher, trainer and co-founder of The Shame Training Company.Connect with LisaTEDx talk: If you want to change your life, change your relationship with shameLinkedInProduced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME. Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

Shame doesn’t care how much it’s ruining your sex life. It just wants an audience. But instead of hitting up the concession stand, what if you sat in the front row and got curious? You might be surprised at what you learn (and how your body responds afterwards).David Bedrick is the founder of The Unshaming Way and the author of five books. Instead of asking how to move past the shame, he asks what the shame is trying to say. Because you’re not a problem: you’re a person with a story whose symptoms carry lots of intelligence.Content note: this episode briefly mentions childhood harm and sexual trauma.Topics covered00:00 Masculinity, erections, and cultural pressure02:30 What shame is and why symptoms carry intelligence04:28 How survival and cultural messages shape identity07:58 Why fixing and technique can deepen shame10:23 Listening to what erection difficulty and softness are saying12:30 What an unshaming witness does differently16:00 Gender, sexuality, and shame carried through silence20:54 What to notice when shame appears during sex21:50 Consent, “not yet,” and believing your body23:24 Why you cannot technique your way out of shame25:01 Healing as believing your own experience26:36 David’s current trauma work, courses, and SubstackFind David BedrickWebsiteCoursesBooksSubstackProduced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME. Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

LITTLE MISS BEE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE. By day, she’s a high-powered working professional proudly shattering glass ceilings and climbing the corporate ladder. But off the clock, she’s a kink-positive, active member of the rope bondage community.  In the final episode of the 3rd season of the GETSOME Podcast, we discuss personal authority, self-acceptance, and keeping it kinky. Our guest, Little Miss Bee, manages to keep her professional and personal worlds completely separate without losing touch with either side of herself. Ultimately, her openness and experiences give us the space to reflect on our own desires and boundaries, helping us find a path towards our own sexual, personal, and professional empowerment. Show Notes: [00:00:30] Little Miss Bee describes her very clear sense of direction and openness to various sexual and non-sexual experiences. [00:01:00] The dichotomy of Little Miss Bee's life: a professional by day, exploring her deepest desires by night. [00:03:00] Discusses the importance of consent and boundaries within the kink community, emphasizing her role as both a top and a bottom. [00:05:00] Little Miss Bee's passion for rope bondage, known as Shibari, and her journey from being tied to becoming a rigger. [00:10:00] Talks about seeking connections that go beyond physical interactions, aiming for a deeper, more meaningful connections. [00:15:00] Little Miss Bee reflects on her sexual evolution from a "desirous, sex-positive teenager" to  moving slower, taking in the sensuality of it all. [00:20:00] The challenges of maintaining non-monogamy, dealing with societal expectations, and the joys of living authentically. [00:25:00] The allure and etiquette of sex parties, describing them as spaces where consent and hedonistic desires meet. [00:30:00] A perplexing moment when Little Miss Bee confronted prejudice  while revealing her open relationship status. Disclaimer Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

Imagine being stuck in the “in betweens” of your sexuality. You’re not “gay enough,” but you’re not “straight enough.” Your sexuality is constantly oversimplified, or oversexualized. You’re stuck wondering… “Am I bisexual enough???” Though that may not be the reality for all bisexual men, it certainly is a struggle that a lot of people face. Our guest on today’s episode, West, is a bisexual man who learned to embrace his sexuality and accept that he is “enough” exactly as he is.  In his young adulthood, West thought his bisexuality might just be youthful curiosity. But, as his life continued to progress and West continued to mature, he came to realize that his sexuality wasn’t a “phase” or “curiosity.” It was who he was. His journey to this discovery was filled with societal pressures, self-doubt, and uncertainty. But ultimately, West found acceptance, pleasure, and confidence in his sexual identity.  If you have any questions, thoughts, or stories to share after listening to this episode, I’d love to hear from you. [email protected] Show Notes [00:00:00] West recounts a story of a dating app match that missed reading his bisexual identity listed on the profile and her reaction once finding out. [00:00:32] Discussion about the common challenges faced by bisexual individuals. [00:01:05] West reflects on his journey of self-discovery and the stigma associated with his sexuality. [00:02:03] Content Warning - Trigger warning for a discussion about sexual abuse. [00:03:14]West shares insights into how he recognized his attraction to both sexes early in his life. [00:06:08] Impact of Abuse - A candid discussion about how the impact of sexual abuse complicated his bisexual journey. [00:08:00] West discussed societal expectations and how they impacted his bisexuality. [00:8:04] Unlearning Sexual Shame Module awareness segment. [00:09:25] West discusses how his past experiences influenced his views on consensual sexual relationships. [00:17:30] The dating scene and challenges and observations from West’s experiences with online dating as a bisexual man. [00:21:01] West shares his approach to online dating as a bisexual man and how his focus on honesty and self-acceptance gets quality matches. Guest: West Host: Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler Production: Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios Listener Note: This episode contains discussions about sexual abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care while listening. Engage with Us: Follow us for more content and updates on Instagram: @getsome_podcast Disclaimer Help bring GETSOME to more peopleI’m in the Top Host competition, and I’d love your support. You can cast one free vote for me every 24 hours. The page also offers paid votes, but I’m only asking for the free one.Vote for Michelle Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.