Steer The Table

Every family has that one person who knows exactly how to turn a peaceful holiday dinner into a heated debate. But what if you didn’t have to let the loudest person determine the atmosphere?In week two of our eight-week holiday series, Ryan Leak shares how to steer conversations without controlling people, redirect uncomfortable discussions without creating more conflict, and use three kinds of questions to make your holiday gatherings more meaningful.You’ll learn how to ask questions that make people laugh, remember, and hope, along with practical ways to navigate difficult topics before they take over the table.This week’s challenge: Prepare three great questions before your next family gathering. One that makes people laugh, one that makes people remember, and one that makes people hope.Download the free holiday conversation guide with thirty questions at ryanleak.com/holiday.

The holidays are coming, and so are the complicated family conversations. But what if the biggest problem isn’t what someone said or did? What if it’s the conversation you’ve been avoiding?In the first episode of our eight-week holiday series, Ryan Leak explores why we talk about people instead of talking to them, how venting can become avoidance, and why addressing tension before the holidays might be the best gift you give your relationships.You’ll learn practical ways to start uncomfortable conversations, approach conflict with curiosity, and take responsibility for your part even when the other person doesn’t respond the way you hoped.This week’s challenge: Stop talking about one person and start talking to them. For Ryan’s latest holiday family guides and workbooks, check out ryanleak.com/holiday

What if the biggest opportunities in your life weren't just the result of hard work, but the people who opened doors for you? John Maxwell calls it Who Luck. In this episode, Ryan shares the remarkable chain of relationships that took him from a college student with a camera to stages around the world, including an Instagram Reel that caught Oprah's attention. He also explores how one invitation helped introduce Brené Brown's work to millions. The truth is, nobody gets where they are alone. Behind every success story is someone who took a chance, made an introduction, or saw potential before there was proof. You'll be challenged to thank the people who helped you get where you are and become the person who opens doors for someone else. Because you might not be the person who changes the world, but you might be the person who gives the world access to someone who will.

Negativity is everywhere. In your office, your group chats, your social media feed, and sometimes even your own thoughts. But just because the world has problems doesn't mean you have to be miserable. In this episode, Ryan challenges you to avoid the doom and gloom trap and recognize the difference between being realistic and being relentlessly negative. You'll discover why complaining drains your energy, how to shift from being a complainer to a contributor, and why optimism isn't naive. It's a choice. Life is hard, but you can still decide to enjoy it. And remember, attitude is contagious. Make sure yours is worth catching.

What if the hard thing you've been avoiding is actually the thing that's making you stronger? In this episode, Ryan explores the science behind willpower and why discipline isn't something you're born with. It's something you build. From difficult conversations to daily habits, every decision to do what matters instead of what feels good is an opportunity to grow. You'll discover why comfort can be costly, how discipline creates freedom, and why you don't get to skip hard. You just get to choose your hard. Because the life you want is often on the other side of something you don't feel like doing.

What if the thing holding you back isn’t a lack of planning, but too much of it?We tell ourselves we’ll start when the plan is perfect, when we have more clarity, when we’ve done enough research, or when we know exactly how everything will work out. But the perfect plan isn’t coming.In this episode, Ryan challenges the myth that you need certainty before you take action. Some information is only available on the other side of action. You can plan, prepare, and research, but eventually you have to move.You might not need more clarity. You might just need more courage.Make the best plan you can. Take the next wise step. Learn. Adjust. Keep moving.Because a good plan executed today is worth more than a perfect plan that never leaves the notebook.

What if you stopped waiting to feel like it?The truth is, you get the same results from doing hard things when you don’t feel like it as you do when you do. The mile still counts. The rep still counts. The page still counts. The conversation still counts.In this episode, Ryan challenges the idea that motivation has to come before action. Sometimes you don’t feel your way into action. You act your way into a feeling.Your feelings matter, but they don’t get to be your boss. They get a vote. They just don’t get a veto.So go uninspired. Start uncertain. Show up tired. And if you can’t beat the fear before you start, do it scared.

It’s all hard. Building a career is hard. Leading people is hard. Marriage is hard. Parenting is hard. Starting over is hard. Staying the course is hard.But some hard things get even harder the longer you avoid them.In this episode, Ryan talks about why avoiding a difficult decision doesn’t eliminate the consequences. It simply hands them to your future self, usually with interest. The conversation you don’t have today gets harder tomorrow. The boundary you refuse to set becomes more expensive later. And sometimes, indecision is a decision all by itself.You don’t always get to choose between hard and easy. Sometimes you’re choosing between hard now and harder later.It’s all hard. Choose the hard that builds the life you actually want.

Getting started takes bravery. Keeping going takes resilience.Life won’t always cooperate with your plans. Ideas flop. People disappoint you. Opportunities disappear. Doors close. And sometimes the hardest part isn’t what happened. It’s figuring out how to move forward after it happened.In this episode, Ryan talks about the difference between processing disappointment and parking in it, why you don’t always need closure to move forward, and what research on the “Progress Principle” teaches us about the surprising power of small wins.You don’t have to fix everything today. You don’t need a massive breakthrough. Sometimes you just need one conversation, one email, one workout, one page, or one next step.Whatever happened, it doesn’t get the final word.Keep it moving.

We spend a lot of energy trying to keep up with competitors who aren't even thinking about us. We scroll through someone's highlight reel and measure it against our behind-the-scenes. We compare our chapter 3 to their chapter 20. And every time we do it, we lose. Not because we're behind, but because we're running in the wrong race entirely.In this episode, Ryan shares the questions that actually measure progress. Are you stronger than you were last year? Wiser? More disciplined? Have your relationships gotten better? If the answer is yes, you're winning, even when it doesn't look like winning on Instagram.The greatest athletes in history weren't obsessed with the person in the lane next to them. They were obsessed with their own time, their own form, their own preparation. That's the competition worth showing up for.