People pleasing pushes people away

All healthy guys are nice but not all nice guys are healthy (as my bf so lovingly put it). A break from the cautionary content, but with a dash of what a green flag looks and feels like in real time, sprinkled in with some personal anecdotes and male perspectives. To help those who struggle with understanding the difference between a healthy man who’s safe to be in a relationship with vs the thin veneer of perceived niceness and a not-so-safe man.

he worst part about ending a relationship is all the f*ck *ss advice handed around by people who say people should simply “just move on” and “just let it go” without acknowledging the actual turmoil that is the way your brain has changed while in the relationship. The tea is that breaking up and moving on from a relationship that “activated” you is quite literally the same as attempting to heal from the death of a loved one, and sometimes its even like trying to quit a substance. Most of the time, the act of missing the man is small in and of itself, we really just miss the high of being in a relationship. It’s why “time” is not enough, and “just moving on” is ineffective and will leave people wondering when they actually finally will move on. This is an updated breakup topic from a space of having moved on and what worked for me during my time of moving on from toxic men and all the advice that was mediocre to me in the long run.

When to break the rules in dating without losing yourself and centering men in the process, and a story time on how I got back into dating (in a non toxic, non angry way) after being boy sober for 10 months.Spoiler: If you're scared to lose a man because you have "too many rules", you probably are going to be hurt to lose him if you break them for him. This is not permission to break your dating rules, but a personal story time with touch points on when it just made sense for me too.

Emotionally unavailable men, through the lens of a verbal reading of “What men don’t want women to know”. For the woman who ever wondered why being mean made him text more, come closer, and why men enjoy “mean women” who “treat them badly”. The way dealing with these men can come with physical and mental pain, bargaining, and changing yourself to meet them where they are, and the regression that comes with that. Unpacking the lived experience of what it means to be a lover girl in the face of men who are on a quest of finding targets and victims to add to their roster. And more importantly, the misogyny that often is found in emotionally unavailable men. This opens up with therapy vibes, then pivots to a male POV of why men operate as they do with women (Reading the chapter “Double Standards”). Then cuts to a breakdown of the literature, and an analysis of why emotionally unavailable men interact with women who want serious relationships. The episode ends with a personal and semi-recent story of my brush with emotionally unavailable men. Want more content?Follow me⁠ ⁠on twitch⁠⁠ where I record these live!Join⁠ ⁠my patreon⁠⁠ for exclusive live stream replays + Support the podcast.⁠⁠My Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠My Tiktok⁠⁠⁠⁠Fleekazoid podcast on youtube⁠⁠New:⁠ I’m on substack now!

Can you tell when someone has a premium membership to the boys club? This episode contains a reading of the chapter “Men protecting men” written by Smith and Doe in 1998.Opening up a sociocultural conversation on what the boys club looks like in 2025 in the military, your work place, your relationship, your friendship circle and identifying it’s male and female members. For those affected by the benefits the boys club offers its members, this is a no sugar, straight up read, from one of the most controversial and hidden gem books on dating and men. This is a discussion on men (and sadly, sometimes women) who protect cheating/cheater types, misogynist, exploitative men, and those assisting in making sure some of the worst men you know have friends, jobs, promotions, access to money and endless opportunities despite how menacingly they move through society. Follow me ⁠on twitch⁠ where I record these live!Join ⁠my patreon⁠ for exclusive pre-access uploads of the podcast + Support the podcast.⁠My Instagram⁠⁠My Tiktok⁠⁠Fleekazoid podcast on youtube⁠New: I’m on substack now!

Loving the lie and not the man means the guy you created in your head, the version he showed himself early on to be (the classic first 2-3 weeks), or the person he tries to tell you he is, but actively shows you he isn’t. The lie hits like a drug whether we’re believing it, reliving it, or telling it to ourselves. This episode looks at the lies we tell ourselves and the lies we believe that are directed at us. How we find ourselves in self told lie loops, and when the lies go on for years. How they finally come to an end, and ways we can find the lies in advance.Want Early access to episodes and to see the BTS?Follow me ⁠on twitch⁠ where I record these live!Join ⁠my patreon⁠ for exclusive pre-access uploads of the podcast + Support the podcast.⁠My Instagram⁠⁠My Tiktok⁠⁠Fleekazoid podcast on youtube⁠New: I’m on substack now!

Yes, people pleasing has the opposite effect you think it has. If you call yourself a people pleaser as a badge of honor, this is an episode on why you're not having the impact you want to have. A honest look at how people pleasers are perceived, avoiding being passive aggressive, why healthy conflict can be good, and all the ways people pleasing can be deeply unsettling.Follow me ⁠on twitch⁠ where I record these live!Join ⁠my patreon⁠ for exclusive pre-access uploads of the podcast + Support the podcast.⁠My Instagram⁠⁠My Tiktok⁠⁠Fleekazoid podcast on youtube⁠ I’m on substack now!

Are we allowed to admit on the internet that we’ve been insecure at any point about our academic and career experiences?Today’s episode is about what career insecurity looked like within me, what fueled it externally, how it symptomatically presented itself to others, as well as the stressors and aggravators to it.For people who’s career insecurity reigns deep, why it’s not only you and some personal stories of my experiences with saboteurs from equal to higher levels.The toxic co workers, nepo hires, and toxic bosses who passed on theirs to me. How to spot and avoid sabotage before it’s too late, and how to chip away at your insecurity if you don’t have generational background knowledge on career climbing.

If you ever wondered if the guy who treated you like shit went on to become the dream man for the next woman - today’s special guest is the woman the Scorpio “changed” for 👀 “Strawberry” joins us today to tell us all about his new sugar daddy + financially generous approach to dating since leaving my home town, and what the changes look and felt like from her perspective as someone who had no idea who he was. This one is for every woman who cant stopping thinking about how their exes or situationships went on to become a better man, who think that they “trained him to be better” and “become the perfect boyfriend” for all the women who came after them.Why this isn’t true, and how these emotionally lazy men just slide back into their default setting = money.We revel in his new identity shift, hear about the con man lie he shares with women about how he was MY BOYFRIEND for two years? (The breakup content begs to differ). Just an all around, comedic, therapy and closure themed episode that goes back to the OG lore of the roots of this podcast.

Whether you were the one who centered a man and drifted from your friends OR your friends disappeared so they could center a man in peace (it happens, y’all). This is a firsthand perspective on what it feels like to be that friend who let men disrupt her circle, and how that isolation either happens to you or because of you.We’re looking at all sides of it in this exact order, and closing it off with when it's time to cut the cord or how to close the gap, IF it’s reconcilable.Want Early access to episodes and to see the BTS?Follow me on twitch where I record these live!Join my patreon for exclusive pre-access uploads of the podcast + Support the podcast.My InstagramMy TiktokFleekazoid podcast on youtube