Hoe Phases

"Under Pressure, You Don't Rise to the Occasion—You Sink to the Level of Your Training"This episode explores why intellectual understanding of somatic and erotic practices isn't enough for true transformation. I discuss how our nervous systems default to what we've practiced—not what we've learned.Key Insights:* Your sex life reflects your nervous system training, not your good intentions* When triggered during intimacy, we become who we think we need to be to survive, blocking access to our authentic erotic self* Research shows 300 repetitions create body memory, while 3,000 repetitions create embodiment (Strozzi)* We are always practicing something—our posture, breathing, and responses are constantly shaping our capacity for presenceThings we should all know but they never taught us in school.Arousal isn’t just sexual. Fear is also arousal. Here are the other main types of arousal:Emotional ArousalThis is the most common way we think about arousal. It's the physiological and psychological activation that accompanies strong emotions. The feeling can be either negative or positive.* Positive High Arousal:* Excitement and Joy: The feeling you get on a roller coaster, when your favorite team scores the winning point, or during a thrilling moment in a movie. Your heart is pounding, but you interpret it as exhilarating.* Passion and Love: The intense, energized feeling of deep affection or romantic interest in someone.* Elation and Triumph: The surge of energy and happiness after achieving a difficult goal, like finishing a marathon or getting a major promotion.* Negative High Arousal (besides fear):* Anger and Rage: A state of intense displeasure or hostility, often accompanied by a desire to confront a perceived threat or injustice. The physiological signs are very similar to fear (increased heart rate, adrenaline), but the emotional label and behavioral response are different.* Anxiety and Panic: While closely related to fear, anxiety is often more focused on a future, uncertain threat rather than an immediate danger. A panic attack is an extreme example of high arousal.* Distress and Agitation: A state of unease, turmoil, or restlessness that keeps you "on edge."Cognitive ArousalThis refers to your level of mental alertness, wakefulness, and focus. It’s less about emotion and more about your capacity to process information.* High Cognitive Arousal: You are highly focused, vigilant, and mentally sharp. This is the state you want to be in when taking an important exam, engaging in a complex debate, or learning a new, challenging skill.* Low Cognitive Arousal: You may feel drowsy, bored, or have difficulty concentrating. This occurs when you are tired or under-stimulated.Physiological ArousalThis is the underlying physical component for all other types of arousal, involving the activation of the autonomic nervous system. This system regulates involuntary bodily functions.* Sympathetic Nervous System Activation (High Arousal): This is the "fight-or-flight" response. The body releases hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, causing an increased heart rate, faster breathing, pupil dilation, and increased blood flow to muscles. This prepares the body for action, whether that action is running from a threat (fear), confronting an opponent (anger), or performing in a competition (excitement).* Parasympathetic Nervous System Activation (Low Arousal): This is the "rest-and-digest" response. It calms the body down, slowing the heart rate and conserving energy. This is the state associated with relaxation, contentment, and calmness.So, while sex and fear are both powerful forms of arousal, it's helpful to see it as one of many ways our bodies and minds become energized and alert to navigate the world. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

Ready to revolutionize your relationship with pleasure in just 15 minutes? Welcome to Conscious Quickies – a new podcast that proves the best conversations about sex and intimacy come in perfectly bite-sized packages.Hosted by Amina Peterson, somatic sexologist and founder of The Amina Institute for Embodiment & Healing, each episode delivers provocative yet educational insights that will make you blush, think, and crave deeper connection – all during your lunch break.Whether you're a busy professional stealing moments between meetings, a parent sneaking in some "me time," or someone ready to explore conscious sexuality without the overwhelm, these quickies are designed to leave you wanting more. More awareness. More pleasure. More authentic intimacy.From somatic practices to authentic consent, from pleasure pathways to embodied communication – we're diving into the conversations that matter most for your erotic liberation and conscious connection.No fluff, no shame, just 15 minutes of pure, conscious gold that transforms how you show up in your body and relationships.New episodes every week.Topics include: conscious sexuality, somatic awareness, authentic consent, pleasure practices, intimacy skills, embodied communication, and erotic liberation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

This was recorded in August of 2020, as my podcast days were dwindling down. Restarting my podcast this year has been a heavy conversation about the quality of the sound and what I tell myself a podcast is supposed to sound. With no producers around, sitting in a small house in rural Waimanalo, I did my best and that was plenty. So listen to this episode as I talk about creating pods for safety, a practice that is now the premise of my upcoming book. Enjoy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

This podcast is a throwback to Juneteenth 2020. Please know I am NOT on patreon anymore. If you want more love from me, my membership is now at www.atltantra.org — everything on this podcast is still as valid today as it was when we were masking for our lives. I hope you enjoy. And I hope you fuck better because you enjoy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

🎧 WAY BACK WEDNESDAY REPLAY: "Hoe Phases - The Good, The Bad & The Growth" By popular demand, we're bringing back one of our most requested episodes from the vault. Hot Girl Summer is ON THE WAY. Whether you're currently in your hoe phase, contemplating one, recovering from one, or just curious about what all the fuss is about – this episode is for you.In this raw and honest conversation, we dive deep into the cultural phenomenon of "hoe phases" – those periods of sexual exploration, discovery, and yes, sometimes chaos. Some highlights from this episode:- Why hoe phases aren't just about sex (hint: it's often about healing)- The difference between conscious and unconscious exploration- Safety tips that don't shame or judge- The unexpected lessons and growth that can come from these experiencesFair warning: This episode contains explicit discussions about sex, relationships, and personal growth, so expect unfiltered conversations and plenty of "oh shit, I thought I was the only one!" moments.Press play below to listen to the episode that had our DMs blowing up for weeks. And don't forget to check the show notes for resources mentioned in the episode.Love, pleasure, and protection,Goddess AminaP.S. Join the conversation! Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Your story might help someone else make sense of their own journey. 🖤 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

I am revisiting the idea of my podcast relaunch — listening to this for the pause. I love the fact that substack lets us do audio. Thinking of what this might mean as I also contemplate rest. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

WAP and why Black Women's Joy is a MAGICAL Weapon. How to ALLOW Yourself Experience Pleasure and planning for a sensual winter in a pandemic. Support the show (http://patreon.com/atltantra) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

In this episode Amina Peterson, Director of the Atlanta Institute of Tantra & Divine Sexuality discusses liberation, freedom and pleasure, transparency in relating and weaponizing the word HOE. Sponsored By Let's Get Checked use code FYSP to save 20% off any test - STD testing and more in the comfort of your own home!Attend the Listen to Black Women Summit!Produced by Denny LavishMusic by Michael Finnie#listentoblackwomen #juneteenth #sensualblackwomenSupport the show (http://patreon.com/atltantra) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com

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A little mid-month bonus. Let's touch ourselves and dance a little. Happy Masturbation Month!#31daysofpleasure Written by AminaProduced by Denny LavishSupport the show (http://patreon.com/atltantra) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goddessamina.substack.com