94. It's All Made Up

Today's podcast is a recording of my recent masterclass--the most valuable hour of live training I've ever delivered. Here's what we cover:Why and when "normal" stress turns toxic + how to harness it to your advantageHow to tell the difference between useful emotion and non-useful emotion—and what to do about eachThe only 3 skills you will need for getting unstuck on any problem you’ll ever face My #1 tool for seeing what’s really holding you back, connecting you to your strength, and moving you forward powerfully

Effie recently guested on Mythic A.F. Radio with Carly Raemer, and the podcast took some very fun and magical turns. Today's episode is a portion of that conversation. Enjoy!. ✅ To learn more about Carly and her work, visit carlyraemer.com✅ The doors to my transformational 6-month group coaching program Feel Better For Good are OPEN on May 22 - and we're kicking things off with a very special free masterclass. To receive a personal invite, sign up for my email list at effielavore.com ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠

Episode 100, baby!! We made it. Do you soak in the moment when you're winning? Are you in the regular habit of celebrating yourself? If not, it could be the missing link between you and what you most want... If you want to learn a simple tool for shifting into the habit of daily celebration (and hear about my ultralush birthday spree!), this episode's for you. .✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com

Do you have the courage to be honest with yourself--and then change--the things that aren't working for you in your days?On my late winter hiatus, I was faced with the decision to A) let go of the podcast, or B) reform the way I did things around here. Guess which one I chose...? This episode gives you all the beef.Listen to this one if you suspect it's time to make a new plan, bury the bodies of overthinking and perfectionism, and show up differently. ..✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠

Freedom isn’t free. But neither is staying stuck.In this episode we break down the real price of emotional freedom—and the hidden cost of maintaining the status quo in your life. Everything you want is beyond your comfort zone.Which price are you willing to pay?..✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠

In this uncut audio from a recent social media video, I break down what it actually means to own your experience in dating. If you’re exhausted, discouraged, or feel like screaming every time someone doesn’t text back, this episode is for you.We talk about:How to stop outsourcing your confidence to the hive mindHow to enjoy the process of dating instead of bracing through it And why managing your mind is what ultimately positions you to meet the person you’re meant to be withIf you want love without losing your power, this is required listening..✅ Ready to turn the tide of your life in 2026? Then my group coaching program is for you. Applications for Feel Better For Good are now OPEN. Email now for more information and to apply: [email protected] ✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠

We’ve been taught that love is something to earn, secure, or lose.Your relationship isn’t broken. That premise is.In this special excerpt from my new course Relationship Revolution, I dismantle the conditional, performance-based model most of us are unconsciously running — and why it quietly guarantees insecurity, resentment, and dissatisfaction.If your access to love depends on someone else’s behavior, you’re not in love.You’re in a power struggle.This episode is about ending that struggle at its root...✅ Doors to my Feel Better For Good group coaching program are officially OPEN! To apply book your consultation now at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration

Love doesn’t feel hard because you’re broken. It feels hard because of how your nervous system learned to attach. In this episode, we unpack attachment styles from childhood to adulthood, how they quietly shape our relationships, work, and sense of self, and why so many people feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Then we shift into what secure attachment actually looks like in real life — not just in relationships with loved ones, but in how you relate to yourself, your purpose, and the life you’re building. This is about moving from survival mode into a life that feels steady, connected, and safe to live inside.Includes a 3-step practice for intentionally security creation in your life and relationships. .✅ Register for the free masterclass BREAKING THE LOVE CURSE: How to Have Better Relationships✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠

This episode is a vital exploration of the mental rulebooks we mistake for reality.Using the metaphor of dating, Effie looks at how unspoken rules, assumptions, and survival-based narratives shape our behavior—and why they often keep us stuck, reactive, and disconnected from our own authority. Today we're challenging the belief that certainty creates safety, and offers a new way of relating to discomfort, power, and choice.Because the most exhausting pressure in your life isn’t coming from reality.It’s coming from what you’re believing.Ep. 65 - Master Your 3 Most Important Relationships✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠

What if the thing holding you back isn’t a lack of confidence or discipline—but a brain that’s doing its job a little too well?In this episode, we break down how our natural negativity bias quietly shapes our goals, decisions, and willingness to go after what we want. We’ll talk about when pessimism is actually useful, what to do when it becomes self-defeating, and how to use unreasonable optimism to make bold moves without lying to yourself about reality.This episode is for you if you’ve ever:talked yourself out of a desire that really matteredquit on a goal and told yourself it “wasn’t meant to be”felt burned by the past and afraid to hope againWe’ll reframe optimism and pessimism not as personality traits, but as trainable habits—and I’ll show you how to channel both in a way that expands your capacity for courage, resilience, and reward...✅ ⁠ Leave a podcast review for a chance to win a $100 VISA gift card!✅ ⁠Follow on Instagram⁠ for daily tips & inspiration✅ Book your free coaching consult at ⁠⁠⁠effielavore.com⁠Episode #16: How to Believe in YourselfEpisode #42: How to Stop Doomscrolling in Your Head