EFR 884: Yale Psychiatrist Explains the Science of Revenge (From Addiction to Forgiveness) and How Revenge Sabotages Your Health with James Kimmel, Jr.

  This episode is brought to you by Fatty15, LMNT and Audible. In this gripping and mind-opening conversation, Yale psychiatrist and author Dr. James Kimmel Jr. joins us to explore one of humanity's most primal urges—revenge. Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, and personal experience, Dr. Kimmel explains how revenge mimics addiction in the brain and why many of us unknowingly suffer from “revenge cravings.” He shares a deeply personal story of nearly acting on revenge as a teenager, the lessons he learned as a litigator-turned-researcher, and practical, science-backed ways to break the cycle. From mass shootings and bullying to road rage and “revenge bodies,” this episode dives deep into the psychology of retaliation, the illusion of justice, and how forgiveness may be the ultimate act of self-healing. ----- In this episode we discuss... 03:25 – What is revenge? Real-life examples and dangers 06:39 – Legal revenge: Lawyers as licensed avengers 11:30 – The definition of grievance and how it fuels revenge 16:00 – Mass shooters and "grievance collectors" 17:35 – Dr. Kimmel’s personal revenge story 25:02 – Masculinity, shame, and revenge 28:27 – Why revenge seems inevitable 30:15 – Why bullies see themselves as victims 33:38 – The monster isn't people—it's the craving for revenge 35:22 – Justice vs. punishment in addiction and revenge 37:54 – Can we solve revenge like an addiction? 40:45 – The neuroscience of revenge cravings 44:18 – Legal vs. illegal retaliation and the arrow of time 49:24 – Dr. Kimmel’s revenge addiction as a lawyer 53:06 – The pain of inflicting pain on others 56:04 – The Miracle Court mental role-play 58:45 – Neuroscience of forgiveness 01:00:05 – Justice vs. revenge: How language shapes violence 01:05:21 – Why revenge escalates: evolutionary roots 01:15:58 – Revenge body & revenge sex: healthy or harmful? 01:20:04 – Road rage and everyday revenge 01:21:26 – Hollywood’s revenge addiction: From Kill Bill to The Lion King 01:28:27 – GLP-1 drugs and reducing revenge cravings 01:32:43 – Forgiveness as the fastest cure 01:36:17 – Living Ever Forward: Forgiveness as freedom ----- Episode resources: Save an additional 15% on C15:0 essential fatty acid with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.Fatty15.com/everforward FREE variety sample pack with any electrolyte purchase at https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward FREE 30-day trial of Audible at https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more at JamesKimmelJr.com

This episode is brought to you by Pique Teas, Caldera Lab, Timeline Nutrition and Joi & Blokes. Today is about self-discovery and personal transformation during pivotal life transitions, particularly in your 20s and 30s. Through candid personal anecdotes, guest Krista Williams from Almost 30 explores the challenge of living a life dictated by societal expectations and the importance of embracing change to uncover one's true path and identity. She discusses the role of self-awareness, spirituality, and tools like personality assessments in understanding personal gifts and strengths. The conversation extends to the impact of personal growth on relationships, the liberating journey of redefining spirituality outside traditional religious constraints, and the courage required to maintain intimacy and vulnerability within relationships. Additionally, Krista highlights the significance of accepting oneself and partners as they are, fostering deeper connections and a more authentic, fulfilling life. Follow Krista @itskrista Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Navigating Life Transitions and Self-Discovery (06:53) Discovering Your True Self (13:02) Navigating Personal Growth and Relationships (28:23) Discovering True Identity and Purpose (34:45) Reclaiming Soul Outside Religious Constraints (39:48) Language and Spirit (44:11) Exploring Stillness and Soul Connection (56:30) Embracing Personal Growth and Authenticity (01:01:55) What Are Spiritual Awakenings? (01:05:09) Navigating Intimacy and Self-Acceptance ----- Episode resources: Save 20% for life on Pique Teas Save 20% on Caldera Lab men's skincare with code EVERFORWARD  Get FREE MitoPure gummies from Timeline Save 10% on any labs from Joi & Blokes with code CHASE Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more about Krista at Almost30.com

This episode is brought to you by Pique Tea, Joi & Blokes and Fatty15. We are joined today by Dr. Sarah Daccarette, MD founder of Interbalance. She is here to explain the most-pressing issues of women's hormone health in 2025. As hormonal imbalances increasingly affect younger women, Sarah sheds light on the environmental and medical factors contributing to this crisis. She also challenges misconceptions about birth control and synthetic hormones, advocating for informed consent and personalized hormone care. Dr. Daccarett also addresses the gaps in women's healthcare, particularly around hormone replacement therapy, urging a proactive approach to aging and health management. With a focus on genetic markers and lifestyle choices, this episode emphasizes the potential of natural hormone therapies and the importance of redefining menopause and perimenopause as empowering life stages. Follow Sarah @sarahdaccarettmd Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Women's Health Hormone Crisis (08:27) Key Women's Health Areas of Awareness (14:50) How Environmental Toxins Affect Hormones (20:04) Birth Control's Affect on Hormones (23:36) Genetic Markers and Metabolism (39:30) Female Hormone Replacement Therapy (44:28) Natural Hormone Optimization Remedies (52:19) Fasting, Longevity and Weight Management (57:48) Redefining Menopause and Perimenopause (01:05:32) Ever Forward ----- Episode resources: Save 10% on any diagnostic lab with code CHASE from Joi and Blokes Get 20% off for life and a free hand frother a mixing beaker from Pique Teas Get an additional 15% off the 90-day C15:0 essential fatty acid starter kit from Fatty15  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more about Sarah at InnerBalance.com

This episode is brought to you by Caldera Lab, State & Liberty, and Joi & Blokes. We are joined today by functional health coach Vince Pitstick. He delves into the intricate relationship between success and well-being, exploring the interplay of psychology, genetics, and nutrition. The episode covers a wide array of topics, from the effects of the "warrior gene" on dopamine metabolism and the challenges of anhedonia in high achievers, to the benefits of a diverse and seasonally adjusted diet. Vince also shares his personal journey overcoming OCD and addiction, illustrating the power of functional medicine and holistic approaches in achieving sustainable success and mental wellness. This episode is your comprehensive guide to unlocking your full potential by harmonizing physical, mental, and spiritual growth. Follow Vince @vince_pitstick Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Psychology and Physiology of Success (11:59) Link Between Biology, Genes, and Personalized Success (17:35) Build Your Best Diet and Nutrition Diversity (27:29) Why You Need Diet Variation (39:09) Optimizing Health With Lab Analysis (54:49) Integrating Functional Medicine (01:05:04) Balancing Fitness, Health and Success (01:12:10) Building a Foundation Before Optimizing (01:23:52) Benefits of Peptides in Biomedicine (01:32:10) Peptides cont'd, Cancer Risk, and GLP-1 (01:38:51) Metformin and Adaptation in Health (01:46:48) The Metabolic Impact of Chronic Dieting (01:54:57) Ever Forward ----- Episode resources: Save 20% on any men's skincare item with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.CalderaLab.com Save 15% on performance menswear that fits athletic build guys with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.StateAndLiberty.com  Save 10% on any labs with code CHASE at https://www.JoiAndBlokes.com  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more about Vince at VidalCoaching.com

This episode is brought to you by Pique Teas, Supp.Co and Cured Nutrition. In this episode, Meagan Nunez, CEO of She Bad, shares her transformative journey from living a life dictated by societal expectations to embracing her true self. Meagan discusses the pivotal role of solitude in her self-discovery, the delicate balance between physical movement and mental stillness, and the importance of aligning life with personal values. She addresses the harsh realities of social media, sharing her experiences with negativity and advocating for self-empowerment and authenticity. Her story offers practical insights into overcoming adversity, building self-trust through fitness, and fostering personal wellness and growth.  Follow Meagan @meagnunez Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Coming Home to Yourself (13:51) How Meagan Used Solitude to Find Herself Again (27:21) The Balance of Movement and Stillness (35:20) Embracing Growth Through Adversity (41:35) How Women Can Evolve Through Fitness (55:02) The Personal Journey of Self-Discovery (01:02:34) Ever Forward ----- Episode resources: Save 20% for life on Pu'er teas at https://www.PiqueLife.com/everforward  Test your supplements for FREE with the new app from https://www.Supp.co/everforward  Save 20% on Flow Gummies with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.CuredNutrition.com 

This episode is brought to you by FLYKITT, Audible, Cured Nutrition and Comrad Socks. Do you know what career you’re really meant to pursue? Can you identify the relationships you should really be investing in? Are you living your life to the fullest? Human Design has the answers. Human Design is a mystical personality assessment that uses NASA data, astrology, and Eastern philosophy to generate mind-blowingly accurate insights into how you uniquely thrive at work, in love, and beyond. In today's podcast, and in her new book How Do You Choose?, world-renowned Human Design coach and educator Erin Claire Jones transforms this mystical system into an accessible, practical tool for modern life. Follow Erin @erinclairejones Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Mystical Approach to Personal Growth (07:04) Practical Tools for Decision Making (18:42) Enhancing Relationships Through Human Design (27:31) Navigating Relationships Through Human Design (34:40) Understanding the Human Design Process (40:18) Discovering Language Through Human Design (46:01) Meeting People Where They're at Through Human Design (54:28) Overcoming Self Limitations (58:44) Human Design Evolution and Growth ----- Episode resources: Never get jet lag again and save 15% with code CHASE at https://www.FlyKitt.com Get Erin's book for free with your 30-day trial of Audible at https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward Save 20% on the all-natural Flow Gummies with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.CuredNutrition.com Save 15% on gradual compression socks with code CHASEC15 at https://www.ComradSocks.com Watch and subscribe on YouTube Erin first appeared in episode 304 Learn more at ErinClaireJones.com

This episode is brought to you by Chili Pad, Cured Nutrition, and Fatty15. Dr. Michael Breus, PhD, the renowned 'Sleep Doctor', is back on the show to share transformative insights and strategies to revolutionize your sleep. Dr. Breus delves into the science of sleep, discussing the crucial role of melatonin, the impact of alcohol on sleep quality, and the benefits of consistent wake-up times. This episode also holds practical advice for new parents, such as implementing an on-call system to improve rest and understanding chronotypes to optimize sleep schedules. You will learn about dream therapy, effective breathing techniques, and how to manage middle-of-the-night wakefulness. We also cover sleep optimization tools like blackout curtains and mouth tape, and emphasize the foundational importance of air, hydration, and sleep for overall wellness. With evidence-based strategies and personal anecdotes, this episode offers actionable insights to enhance your sleep and health journey. Follow Michael @thesleepdoctor Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:01) Top Sleep Tips for New Parents and Newborns (12:09) Newborn Sleep Health Tips (19:49) How to Properly Use Melatonin (30:42) Safe Supplements for Sleep Health (35:13) What is Dream Therapy? (45:02) Improving Sleep Quality Through Self-Awareness (54:35) Best Daily Habits That Help Sleep (01:05:07) Sleep Accessories and Techniques (01:17:47) Optimizing Basic Wellness (01:25:26) Sleep Testing ----- Episode resources: Save up to $315 on the Chili Pad cooling mattress topper at https://www.Sleep.Me/everforward  Save 20% on any natural sleep aid with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.CuredNutrition.com Save an additional 15% on the 90-day starter kit of C15:0 essential fatty acid with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.Fatty15.com/everforward  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Dr. Breus' first appearance on the show in EFR 024: How to improve every area of your life through the power of when Learn more at SleepDoctor.com

 This episode is brought to you by Timeline, Pique Teas, Caldera Lab, and LMNT. Dr. Joy Kong, MD is a UCLA-trained, triple board-certified physician and is here today to scientifically and succinctly explain the transformative potential of stem cells therapy. Dr. Kong delves into the multifaceted applications of stem cells, particularly in treating autoimmune disorders, cancer, and enhancing overall longevity. She provides insight into how stem cells can optimize mitochondrial function, immune modulation, and potentially slow the aging process. She also bridges Western and Chinese medical philosophies, emphasizing a holistic approach to health. Ethical and regulatory considerations surrounding stem cell therapy are discussed, with Dr. Kong addressing common misconceptions about the safety and legality of these treatments.  Follow Joy @dr_joy_kong Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Stem Cells and Regenerative Medicine (06:47) Expanding Healthcare Beyond Specialties (17:09) What is the Real Potential of Stem Cells? (29:35) Aging, Stem Cells & Longevity (44:06) Stem Cells for Men's Health (53:35) Optimizing Stem Cell Therapy Approaches (01:08:05) Stem Cell Therapy Safety and Regulation (01:21:04) Cost and Ethics (01:27:51) Stem Cell Therapy Exploration (01:33:22) Ever Forward ----- Episode resources: Get a FREE 3-day sample pack of MitoPure gummies at https://www.Timeline.com/everforwardsample  Get 20% off for life of Pu'er teas at https://www.PiqueLife.com/everforward  Get dad the gift of good skin this Father's Day with 20% off any skincare product with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.CalderaLab.com  Get the limited edition electrolyte flavor Lemonade Salt and a FREE variety sample pack with any purchase at https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more at JoyKongMD.com

This episode is brought to you by Fatty15, Pique, and Strong Coffee. Neuronutritionist Timothy Frie joins us today to delve into the intricate connections between dietary choices, trauma, and brain health. Tim shares his expertise on how our eating behaviors are often unconsciously shaped by past trauma, stress, and grief, emphasizing the importance of neuro nutrition in healing and recovery. The discussion highlights the transformative power of the MIND diet, which integrates Mediterranean and DASH dietary principles, to enhance mental well-being. We explore the challenges faced by individuals with chronic illnesses and mental health conditions, focusing on the nutritional needs of the brain and nervous system. Key topics include the Cell Danger Response, the impact of protein and micronutrient deficiencies, and the role of neuroplasticity in trauma recovery. The episode underscores the significance of personalizing nutrition to support cognitive function and overall well-being, advocating for a varied and colorful diet to optimize mental health. Follow Tim @timothyfrie Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) Understanding Nutrition's Impact on Brain Health (13:19) Nutrition's Role in Brain Function (18:35) Neuronutrition and Traumatic Stress (22:35) Cell Danger Response and Health Challenges (28:21) Nutrition, Brain Health, and Wellbeing (37:05) Protein Deficiency's Impact on Cognitive Function (43:11) Neuroinflammation and Nutrient Deficiency (47:40) Nutrition, Trauma, and Stress Impact (57:55) Understanding Trauma, Neuroplasticity, and Nutrition (01:05:35) Trauma, Therapy, and Neuroplasticity (01:17:36) Supplementation and Trauma (01:24:41) Exploring Neuro Nutrition and Curiosity ---- Episode resources: Save 20% for life on organic teas and drinks at https://www.PiqueLife.com/everforward Save 15% on C15:0 essential fatty acids with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.Fatty15.com/everforward Save 15% on organic lattes and coffee with code CHASE at https://www.StrongCoffeeCompany.com  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more at TimFrie.com

What happens when the familiar comfort of negative self-talk and procrastination becomes the biggest obstacle to our happiness? This episode promises a deep discussion with neurocognition expert Bizzie Gold, who sheds light on the destructive patterns of self-deception we often fall into. Bizzie and I dissect how these mental traps, like justifications and excuses, subtly sabotage our goals. With relatable examples—like the simple act of putting off chores—we explore how these patterns can be recognized and disrupted to foster genuine, sustainable change in our lives. Follow Bizzie @bizziegold Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:01) Rewire Your Brain, Break Patterns (13:30) Patterns of Control in Relationships (26:04) Reality vs. Perceived Reality (32:10) Turning Perception Into Healing (42:25) Navigating Self-Trust (46:02) How to Unravel Self-Deception (59:12) Understanding Brain Patterns (01:07:10) Ever Forward ----- Episode resources: Free audio book 30-day trial at https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward  Free sample pack with any purchase at https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward See how your supplements stack up with the free app https://www.Supp.Co/everforward Save 15% on FLYKITT and never have jet lag again with code CHASE at https://www.FLYKITT.com  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Bizzie's first episode was EFR 241