161: Why You Overthink Love and Assume the Worst

Why do you spiral when a text takes too long, when someone says “okay” instead of “okay!” or when plans change? That’s your brain writing rejection stories to protect you. The problem? Those stories create anxiety, sabotage connection, and keep you stuck. In the 2nd episode of the Self Esteem Series, Sabrina Zohar explains the 3 biggest story patterns: rejection, mind reading, and timelines. She also breaks down why your nervous system jumps to the worst-case scenario. You’ll learn the neuroscience behind why wrong stories feel so real, how confirmation bias fuels your fears, and simple tools to separate fact from fiction. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available. $300 off your first Prenuvo scan at https://prenuvo.com/?discount=SABRINA Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! My listeners can save 30% on their first order at Cornbread Hemp! Just head to cornbreadhemp.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA at checkout. Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code SABRINA at checkout. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Are you actually seeing red flags, or are your insecurities making you spiral? In this week's episode of In the Trenches, Sabrina Zohar unpacks why so many of us sabotage good relationships by searching for problems that aren’t there. You’ll learn how timing and distance can trigger feelings of abandonment, what it really means when you feel ‘not enough,’ and how to tell the difference between your intuition and old fears. Sabrina also shares personal stories, practical tools for calming anxiety, and thoughts on having honest conversations about your needs. If you’re tired of second-guessing love and want to start showing up with confidence, this video will give you clarity, compassion, and a reminder that you are already enough. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available. $300 off your first Prenuvo scan at https://prenuvo.com/?discount=SABRINA Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Do you ever feel unlovable, undeserving of good love, or just “too much”? These aren’t facts, they’re core beliefs running the show. In this episode, Sabrina Zohar explains how these beliefs form, why your brain clings to rejection, and how to reframe the stories you tell yourself. You’ll learn practical tools to reparent yourself, release old programming, and finally step into the love you’re worthy of. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available. Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/mlzhc53l #CashAppPod  As a Cash App partner, I may earn a commission when you sign up for a Cash App account. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.  Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Are they genuinely taking things slow or just stringing you along? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down how to tell the difference between healthy pacing and someone wasting your time. You’ll learn why consistency matters, what science says about early relationship timelines, and the red flags of stagnation. Sabrina also shares personal stories, practical scripts for communicating boundaries, and tools to stop overanalyzing and start trusting yourself. If you’re tired of the "go with the flow" trap, this video gives you clarity and confidence in dating. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available. Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Visit https://trovatrip.com/trip to find your next adventure! The $100 promo code SABRINA applies to all trips. Go to Leesa.com for 30% off mattresses as a part of the Labor Day Sale PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code SABRINA, exclusive for my listeners Head to www.greenchef.com/50SABRINA and use code 50SABRINA to get fifty percent off your first month, then twenty percent off for two months with free shipping. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their Function Health membership. Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA or use gift code SABRINA100 at sign-up to own your health. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Why does heartbreak feel like the end of the world while your ex seems fine? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain gets stuck on your ex, why nothing feels enjoyable anymore, and why closure is a myth. You’ll learn the three brain systems that keep you looping, along with practical tools to rewire your mind, stop obsessing, and finally move forward. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available. Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their Function Health membership. Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA or use gift code SABRINA100 at sign-up to own your health. Get 15% off your first Fatty 15 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going HERE! and using code SABRINAZOHAR at checkout. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp HERE! Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In this episode, Sabrina dives deep into one of the toughest relationship struggles—emotional shutdowns. She breaks down how to recognize silent treament or stonewalling, why it happens, and how to reclaim your power when you're left emotionally abandoned. Learn how to set boundaries and communicate your needs without enabling unhealthy patterns. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available. Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Save 25% off your entire purchase at CBDistillery. Visit cbdistillery.com and use promo code SABRINA. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In this episode, Sabrina sits down with Tom Stroud from Love Is Blind UK to tackle your biggest dating dilemmas—avoidant attachment, emotional intelligence, and why modern dating feels so polarized. They debunk myths like "if he wanted to, he would", discuss texting anxiety, and share personal stories of growth from avoidance to security. Want to submit your questions or profile to the show? Send in your text threads, your profile screenshots, or anything else to [email protected] for a chance to be featured on a future episode. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 35% off your entire order at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. Visit https://trovatrip.com/trip to find your next adventure! The $100 promo code SABRINA applies to all trips. Function includes over 160+ lab tests—so you can better see what’s happening under the surface and actually take action. . Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code SABRINA at checkout. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In this episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina explores the complexities of non-platonic friendships, diving into the truth behind friends with benefits, situationships, and the challenges of dating a close friend. Sabrina shares her personal experiences, backed by research and psychology, to give you practical advice on navigating these relationship dynamics. Tune in to learn how to navigate these complex relationships with confidence and clarity. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! For a limited time, IDEO U is offering my listeners FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF SITEWIDE! Go HERE! Function includes over 160+ lab tests—so you can better see what’s happening under the surface and actually take action. . Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp HERE! Head to www.livemomentous.com and use code SABRINA for up to 35% off your first order. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In the final episode of the Attachement Styles 101 series, we dive deep into the truth about secure attachment and how it plays a pivotal role in building resilient, healthy relationships. Sabrina Zohar breaks down the myths surrounding secure attachment, explaining why it’s not about being perfect or emotionless. Instead, it's about learning emotional regulation and bouncing back after challenges. Whether you’re just starting the journey or already on your path to emotional security, Sabrina gives actionable steps to start building a secure attachment style, including how to handle triggers and navigate relationship conflicts with resilience. Tune in to learn how you can build lasting emotional strength and trust in your relationships. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their Function Health membership. Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA or use gift code SABRINA100 at sign-up to own your health. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp HERE! Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Shop my favorite bras, underwear, and more at Skims HERE! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select The Sabrina Zohar Show in the dropdown menu that follows. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In Part 3 of Sabrina Zohar’s attachment style series, she dives deep into the most misunderstood style — disorganized attachment (a.k.a. fearful avoidant). If you’ve ever craved love but ran from it the second it got real, or found yourself in push-pull dynamics that feel more like emotional whiplash than romance, this episode is for you. Sabrina unpacks the neuroscience, psychology, and survival roots of disorganized attachment — and gives you tools to break free. Plus, she explains how to spot it early, how to navigate it in relationships, and what healing really looks like. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 15% off your first Fatty 15 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going HERE! and using code SABRINAZOHAR at checkout. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their Function Health membership. Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA or use gift code SABRINA100 at sign-up to own your health. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.