The Overwhelm Trap: This is Why You Justify Self-Sabotage

If you've ever felt stuck in overwhelm, dismissed important decisions out of sheer exhaustion, or justified actions you later regretted by saying, "I'm just stressed," this episode will transform your understanding. Today, we're decoding overwhelm as more than just a vague feeling. It's an emotional trap created by cycles of fear, anxiety, and anger. You'll learn exactly why these feelings keep showing up, how to spot your unique emotional addiction cycle, and how subtle shifts in perception and language can stop the spiral before it starts. Using practical analogies and real-life examples, you'll see how overwhelm isn't inevitable. It's a predictable pattern that can be broken. By the end, you'll have the tools to stop justifying behavior with vague terms and start reclaiming control over your emotional landscape.Highlights 00:00 Defining the word “overwhelm” 03:23 What “emotional mud” is hiding05:10 Defining emotions08:05 The emotional addiction cycle13:33 Recognizing your emotional shift17:16 Signs you’re about to self-sabotage20:48 The shame loop after emotional escalation24:10 How emotional state distorts perception29:23 Why rapid-onset emotions block new strategies40:38 Real language of emotional patterns52:30 The “white shag rug” analogy for emotional damage55:27 Relationships can be rewired56:12 Self-deception in every brain pattern57:28 Breaking the cycle is possibleResourcesOrder your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HERE.Get YOUR Brain Pattern Map HEREUse code “BGHEAL” for $200 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode!FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

If you’ve ever stayed quiet to avoid conflict, mistaken chemistry for compatibility, or found yourself reliving the same relationship pattern with different people, this episode will give you clarity. Today, we’re breaking down It Ends With Us through the lens of behavior cycles and brain patterns, and decoding why Lily’s dishonesty, Ryle’s black-and-white thinking, and Atlas’ wounded savior energy created a perfect storm of emotional chaos. You’ll see how characters like Lily, Ryle, and Atlas aren’t just fictional people – they’re blueprints of real, lived trauma loops. And if you see yourself in them, this will show you how to break the cycle.Highlights00:00 What Lily’s brain pattern reveals about dishonesty. 05:00 What 92% on Team Atlas gets wrong about the real abuse cycle.12:00 Break Method’s 4-phase cycle and how it plays out in relationships.23:30 Lily’s pattern: hiding, appeasing, and walking on eggshells.35:30 When avoidance meets obsession: Ryle and  Lily’s dynamic.47:45 The moment things turn physical and why it didn’t have to.59:20 Why Atlas and Lily lack true chemistry.01:04:45 Can abuse cycles be broken?ResourcesOrder your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HERE - https://www.amazon.com/YOUR-BRAIN-FILTHY-LIAR-Self-Deception/dp/1967424284 Get YOUR Brain Pattern Map HERE - https://thebreakprogram.com/checkouts/cn/Z2NwLXVzLWNlbnRyYWwxOjAxSlk2WVZOODczRTVaTkE4MUJEUjVRREpW?cart_link_id=kcX8Qyst&channel=buy_button Use code “BGHEAL” for $100 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode - https://login.circle.so/sign_up?request_host=break-method.circle.so&user%5Binvitation_token%5D=b2b1c15193329679a65ab1cf60f0b452b9a34430-36bb2bfe-b201-4f00-a407-c76ceeaaa7db#email FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

Are beige flags low-key warning signs of emotional chaos, self-deception, and pattern-level dysfunction? In this episode, I dive into what beige flags are and why they matter way more than you think. I break down the five brain pattern types that drive these subtle behaviors and why what you call annoying is often a subconscious survival strategy in disguise. I talk about chaos addiction, relationship sabotage, and why your brain keeps labeling stable people as boring. I also share tips to spot performative behaviors, manage the “ick” response, and use pattern opposition to rewire your attraction style. SponsorsHealing Sauna – Get $100 off with code BGHEAL at healingsauna.comHighlights00:00 What is a beige flag?05:15 The six most common beige flags.10:45 The 5 five brain pattern types that drive beige flag behavior.16:30 Why being “too chill” might be a trauma response.22:45 What happens when two trauma patterns fall in love?27:30 The difference between dysfunctional polarity and true polarity in a relationship.33:30 What is synaptic plasticity?37:00 How to rewire the “ick” response and stop pushing away the healthy ones.40:00 The toxic patterns in the movie It Ends With Us.ResourcesIs it a Beige Flag? Or are you addicted to chaos? Download the free resource HERE!Order your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HERE.Get YOUR Brain Pattern Map HEREUse code “BGHEAL” for $100 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode!FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

You’ve been told to “trust your gut,” but how do you know if it’s really your intuition talking? If you’re walking around with unresolved trauma making you hard wired to chase chaos on repeat, I have good news, you can change it with the right tools used in the right order. In this episode, you’ll not only learn how to clearly discern between instinct and intuition, but why your “gut feelings” are often a trauma response, and the role of self-trust, presence, and rewired emotional patterns in making clear, intuitive decisions.If you’ve ever second-guessed a decision, chased a “bad vibe,” or thought intuition was guiding you only to end up in a familiar spiral, this episode is your roadmap out. I’m here to give you the tools to stop the cycle of miscategorizing fear as wisdom, quiet the internal chatter, and connect with your true intuition (maybe for the first time ever.)Highlights00:00 What’s the difference between instinct and intuition?06:15 The core instincts that drive your daily behavior.14:30 What intuition really feels like when you’re not in survival mode.20:30 How to build real intuitive discernment instead of reacting emotionally.24:30 The rare moments when instinct and intuition overlap.32:30 How your brain justifies self-destruction (are you mislabeling these signals?)38:00 When does unhealed trauma turn intuition into a weapon?43:45 How emotional wounds contaminate your intuitive signals.47:30 Why self-trust is essential to acting on intuition (and how to build it.)55:00 What happens when control freaks try to follow their intuition?59:15 Is it divine intuition or just your chaos pattern in disguise?01:07:30 Three ways to tell instinct from intuition.ResourcesOrder your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HERE.Get YOUR Brain Pattern Map HEREUse code “BGHEAL” for $100 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode!FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

You’ve been sold a lie that academia is the beacon of truth and progress. In this episode, I expose Big Academia’s facade and how it crushes innovation to protect corporate cash, government grants, and billionaire reputations. I'll reveal shocking stories of brilliant scientists Dr. Tyrone Hayes, who were silenced for challenging dominant paradigms, break down how multimillion-dollar clinical trials create impossible barriers for true innovators, and explain why some of the world's most disruptive entrepreneurs actually dropped out of college. If you've ever wondered why we're stuck in broken systems and why real solutions never seem to emerge, this episode will challenge everything you thought you knew about education, research, and who really controls knowledge in our society.Highlights00:00 Why is Big Academia more taboo than Big Pharma or Big Ag?03:00 Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, and Mark Zuckerberg dropped out because of this system.08:00 Who’s really controlling your curriculum? 13:15 Is academia safeguarding science or gatekeeping your ideas?15:30 Why alternative medicine and systems theory are still marginalized.18:00 How controlled dissent turns universities into echo chambers.25:00 Why paradigmatic entrenchment traps your mind in a box.34:30 How academic echo chambers are created and sustained.38:00 How academic funding biases prioritize corporate-friendly research.44:00 Why were scientists like Dr. Judy Mikovits silenced?52:00 How corporate partnerships block independent research.56:30 The staggering cost of clinical trials.01:01:00 How regulatory hurdles bury small-scale innovators.01:06:00 How citizen-driven research is breaking academia’s monopoly on knowledge.ResourcesOrder your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HEREGet YOUR Brain Pattern Map HEREUse code “BGHEAL” for $100 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode!FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

How do I KNOW if it’s love bombing? The term lovebombing is all over social media, and it’s doing more harm than good. In this episode, I rip the label off of this viral pop psych buzzword and reveal what’s actually happening beneath the surface of hot-and-cold relationships. I break down the psychological patterning behind so-called lovebombing and the 3 archetypes that receive this label – and how to handle each type. We also get into how YOUR brain’s patterning is distorting your relationships. I’m here to give you the tools to see beyond the labels being thrown around and understand the motivation (and HUMAN) behind the behavior.Highlights00:00 What is love bombing?06:15 What the IDD cycle looks like in everyday relationships.08:00 The shift no one talks about after the honeymoon phase ends.12:00 The psychology behind ghosting.17:00 How self-deception leads us to mislabel and misunderstand others.22:00 Three reasons psychiatric labels are dangerous.26:00 Why I refused to accept the label doctors gave my daughter.33:00 The sociological shift that’s quietly redefining what’s considered “normal”.36:00 Why love bombing behavior isn’t always what it seems.40:00 The three love bombing archetypes.48:00 The most common type of love bomber today.54:00 Why do opposite patterns attract?59:15 How to speak to the pattern without shaming or labeling it.01:03:00 Three strategies to stop the IDD cycle.ResourcesOrder your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HEREGet YOUR Brain Pattern Map HEREUse code “BGHEAL” for $100 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode!FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

Ever find yourself repeating the same toxic patterns, making the same painful choices, or wondering why all your “awareness” still hasn’t changed anything? Good news, not only are you normal, but it’s also possible to change that toxic cycle and I’m here to show you how. It all comes back to what is driving those decisions. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on self-deception—why your brain lies to you, how it distorts your reality, and why even the smartest, most self-aware people can’t seem to break their cycles. Get ready for proven methods to decode your subconscious drivers and change your brain's distorted wiring for good. This is Decoded, the podcast.Highlights03:15 Who this podcast is for and what you can expect here on Decoded, the podcast?06:00 Great news, healing doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out process.10:00 What does self-deception look like in day-to-day life?11:30 The difference between positive and negative self-deception.16:15 Mental illness isn’t a mystery, it’s math.19:45 Why are we in a mental health crisis and what is causing mental illness?26:00 How can I decode and rewire my brain to stop self-deceptive patterns?ResourcesOrder your copy of Your Brain Is A Filthy Liar HERE.Get YOUR Brain Pattern Map HEREUse code “BGHEAL” for $100 OFF my favorite portable infrared sauna - go to healingsauna.comJoin the Decoded Community HERE for exclusive content, live recordings, and asynchronous learning experiences to go deeper on topics like this episode!FollowBizzie: @bizziegoldBreak Method: @breakmethod

Your biggest problem isn’t what you think—IT’S WHAT'S BEEN HIDDEN FROM YOU ALL ALONG. Decoded exposes the silent force sabotaging your decisions, emotions, and relationships: self-deception. Season 1 LAUNCHES March 5th, 2025 - Weekly Episodes