14. Your libido isn't broken. Try this!

If you don't make your own meaning about sex, it'll be made for you. (And often, that meaning is not one that is helpful or leading to more fulfilment!) From navigating intimacy as youths to community influence, media consumption and our lack of consciousness in an AI era, our mindset is sneakily shaped by our experiences. Let's talk about how to redefine sex for ourselves to actually start enjoying it!  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram! Find my resources or info on coaching here: https://linktr.ee/cometobed

It's my birthday! Since I'm turning 32, I want to celebrate with a little chit-chat about 32 things that are top of mind for me lately. From moaning and queer sex, to libido and communication about intimacy, this is a speed round of bite-sized advice and observations that I hope will inspire even more reflection within yourself long after listening!  Mentioned in episode: Waitlist for Vibes Not Vibes, 50% off first week of launch Unlocking O's Guide  Desire Menu Freebie Tease Tower affiliate link (use code CTB20 for 20% off) https://stan.store/cometobedbysarah Working with me: https://www.cometobedbysarah.com/coaching Ethical Corn: Afterglow, Aorta, Cheex ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram!

Your libido isn't broken, babe. Instead of thinking of it as a fixed trait or something we cannot change, here's a new way to approach your libido to rewrite your identity around it! Email me here for 1 of the 3 free Breakthrough Sessions mentioned in this episode: [email protected]  Or message me on Instagram at @cometobedbysarah Download the free Desire Menu now and start building your practice of recharging your libido!  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram!

If knowledge is power, this stuff is going to supercharge you. Learn more about the true size and functions of the clitoris to tap deeper into your pleasure, dust off centuries-old shame, and get new ideas for further exploration. Mentions: My Unlocking O's Guide 2001 orgasm gap study: Understanding orgasmic frequency: A case of Finland 2022 New York Times piece: Half the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don't Doctors Study It? 2024 Urology Foundation survey: Sexual wellbeing is still a mystery for many UK men Betty Dodson Draws the Internal Clitoris Vibrator use statistic: OMGYES.com ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram!

Are you having enough sex? What does "enough" even mean? Despite what Google or your best friend may tell you, there isn't one answer to this question—only a correct answer that is unique to you. In this episode, I chat you through some questions that'll help determine what "enough" sex means for you and why you may be feeling distress over this in the first place.  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram!

This is for my stubborn babes. Look, I love our feistiness but we have to be real about the damage it can have on our relationships! Listen for an actionable tip you can use in these moments. We unpack why this is unhealthy, some of the reasons we may be having an intense reaction, and how to bring our partners in on helping us shift it. You got this! ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram!

When it comes to a topic as vulnerable as sex, it's critical not to make assumptions. To remember that 1+1 doesn't always equal 2. When things don't go as expected or uncomfortable emotions bubble up, lead with curiosity instead of panic or disappointment towards partners.  If not, we can start to form blocks and doubts within our intimate relationships. These are trickier to overcome than the initial discomfort of investigating it in the first place! Let's talk about it. ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok and Instagram!

This is for manifestation babes and skeptics alike. These practical tips will help you become more aligned with your desired relationship so you can actually step into it.  After all, manifestation is not just wishful thinking. It is about embodying small changes to reach new outcomes!  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok!

If you've been grinding too hard to experience pleasure lately, this is for you. TLDR: In order to feel like a sensual being, you need more being. And less doing.  I can already feel your resistance to slowing down, but just press play and hear me out. ;) We're in this together.  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok!

Why can there be so much resistance around using lube during play? Let's unpack many of the reasons we may need it, lubrication's relationship to arousal, how to decide which lube to use, and more.   ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identities, close pleasure gaps, intimacy as an HSP, dissolving shame, and how to navigate all the noise that comes from social media and societal pressures. My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling seen, comforted, having had a shift in perspective, or simply having enjoyed listening while you go about your day. Join me on TikTok!