Premature Ejaculation, Performance Anxiety, and the Truth About Sexual Enhancement with Jeff Abraham

Jennifer Kaylo has been podcasting about sex and relationships for years, and she's not afraid to show the messy, delicious, and transformative parts. Today, she's sharing how opening her marriage changed everything.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Jennifer Kaylo, host of The Open Bedroom Podcast and a sex and relationship therapist. Jennifer shares her journey from eight years of "great sex" to opening her marriage, exploring polyamory, and discovering a whole world of pleasure she didn't know existed. She's on a mission to show that adult sex can be so much more than missionary in the dark, and that pleasure is your birthright.We get into why novelty matters and how to bring play into your sex life without a complete overhaul. Plus, Jennifer shares the tree-by-the-stream analogy that changed everything, how she talks to her kids about polyamory, and the one challenge she has for you.We talk about:Why opening their marriage led to so much adventureThe intentionality of dating your partner (and yourself)How she found other open people in her communityThe difference between BDSM, swinger, polyamorous, throuple, and tantra scenesWhy vanilla missionary sex is not the only optionIf you've ever wondered about polyamory, wanted to bring more novelty and play into your sex life, or needed permission to take your pleasure to a 10, this episode is your invitation to start listening.Connect with Jennifer Kaylo:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/theopenbedroom https://www.theopenbedroom.com Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepodJoin Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

George Goulburn has spent the last three years helping women feel seen, desired, and celebrated. Today, he's sharing what male companionship really looks like—and what every man can learn from it.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with George Goulburn, a male companion, escort, and intimacy coach based in Australia. After a 25-year corporate career, George made the leap into this work and he's never looked back. We get into the rise of women seeking male companions, the difference between a companion and an escort, and why so many women feel invisible after 50. Plus, George shares his go-to tips: creating safety, the three-minute game, and the five types of touch that will change the way you experience pleasure.We talk about:Why more women are seeking male companionshipThe story of a 55-year-old virgin and the profound experience they sharedWhat George has learned about humanity through this workWhat men can learn from the male companion lensThe importance of taking orgasm off the tableIf you've ever wondered what male companionship is really like, wanted to feel more seen and desired, or wanted to bring more presence, play, and pleasure into your life, this episode is your invitation to start listening.Connect with George Goulburn:https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficial/https://www.georgegoulburn.com Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepodJoin Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Jeff Abraham has spent over a decade helping people have better sex through education and innovation. Today, he's sharing the truth about premature ejaculation and why lasting longer is about so much more than ego.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a sexual wellness brand focused on premature ejaculation and better intimacy. We get into the science behind PE, why the clinical definition is too narrow, and the truth about SSRIs, lidocaine, and what actually works. Plus, Jeff shares why communication is the ultimate sex skill, why every man should watch his partner masturbate, and the one thing he wishes everyone knew about lasting longer.We talk about:​The truth about Promescent​The physiological reasons for premature ejaculation​The vibrator stigma and why it's an addition, not a replacement​The importance of relaxing before intimacy​The many benefits of intimacy-enhancing supplementsIf you've ever wondered about premature ejaculation, wanted to last longer, or wanted to improve your intimacy and communication, this episode is your invitation to start listening.Connect with Jeff Abraham:https://www.instagram.com/promescent/https://www.facebook.com/Promescent/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/technicalresources/ https://www.promescent.com/aimee15Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepodJoin Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

Jill Lissner has built a platform teaching millions about sex education, one viral video at a time. Today, she's sharing how social media is changing the game and what's at stake.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Jill Lissner, a sex educator, PhD student in human sexuality, and the content creator behind Sex Ed Princess. Jill is on a mission to make accurate, shame-free sex education accessible to everyone - not just the people who can afford it or live in the right zip code.We get into the science behind social media and sexual health, why censorship is getting quieter (and more confusing), and how to become a researcher of your own body. Plus, we talk about the attack on sex education funding and why we all need to pay attention.We talk about:Why rural and urban communities want the same things (and why polarization is a lie)Why you should never use AI to search for abortion informationThe intersection of social media, sex education, and censorshipThe data behind what people are saving and sharing online (hint: edging and communication)Why social media is a lifeline for queer, trans, and vulnerable populationsHow to consume sex education content critically and intentionallyWhy media literacy and sex education should work togetherIf you've ever wondered how to find accurate sex education online, felt frustrated by censorship, or wanted permission to explore your own body, this episode is your invitation to start researching.Connect with Jill Lissner:www.instagram.com/sexedprincesss/ https://jill-lissner.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/jlissner01/ Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepodJoin Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

Sir Marvelous has been a requested guest since his first appearance, and he's back to take us deeper. Today, he's sharing what really happens in a dungeon and how to bring its wisdom into your bedroom.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Sir Marvelous, professional dom, educator, and season one favorite, for a conversation that picks up where the foreplay left off. We get into the truth about dungeons, why BDSM and sex are not synonymous, and how impact play is really about rhythm and blood flow—not pain. Plus, Sir Marvelous breaks down the orgasm gap and explains why you shouldn't rush to the nut.We talk about:Why most dungeons don’t allow sex at allThe magic of turning everyday objects into kink toolsThe art of negotiation: hard limits, soft limits, and everything in betweenHow to know if you're with a trusted partnerWhy sex doesn't end when the man comesWhy scheduling sex and setting intentions makes it betterConnect with Sir Marvelous:https://www.instagram.com/sirmarvelouskinks/https://www.sirmarvelous.com Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepodJoin Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

Erica Smith has helped countless people heal from purity culture and rebuild their relationship with sex. Today, she's sharing how to drop the shame and finally enjoy and own your pleasure.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Erica Smith, a sex educator, consultant, and the purity culture expert when it comes to all things sex. Erica is the author of "The Purity Culture Recovery Guide: The Shame-Free Sex Education You Deserve," and she's on a mission to give people the accurate, shame-free sex education they were kept from.We get into the science behind purity culture, why it injects fear into the most natural human experiences, and how to rebuild your relationship with desire, pleasure, and play. Plus, we talk about porn literacy, the truth about “porn addiction," and why it's never too late to explore your sexuality.We also talk about:What purity culture actually is and how it controls people through shameThe difference between intellectual deconstruction and nervous system healingWhy your body still carries shame even after you've left the beliefsHow to bring play and laughter back into the bedroomHow to explore fantasy without judgmentWhy erotica and romance novels can help you discover what turns you onIf you've ever felt broken by purity culture, wondered if you'll ever feel normal about sex, or wanted to reclaim your pleasure and play, this episode is your invitation to start healing.Connect with Erica Smith: https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.educates/ https://purityculturedropout.com https://www.ericasmitheac.com/read-my-book  Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepodJoin Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Shadeen Francis helps people get clear on what they actually want. In this episode, she shares how to reconnect with your desire, why play matters to our nervous system and capacity for pleasure, and what might be getting in the way of knowing what you want.Shadeen Francis is a licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and cultural strategist who helps people understand their desires, deepen their relationships, and create more space for peace and pleasure. She’s also the president of AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), and she brings a deeply embodied approach to the question at the heart of this episode: What do you actually want?This week on Come Talk with Aimee, we’re getting into the science and psychology of desire, why “I don’t know what I want” may be more complicated than it sounds, and how play can help expand our capacity for pleasure. Shadeen also walks us through her Desire Style Quiz, a tool for exploring the different ways we experience and express desire.We talk about:What it means to say “desire is embodied wanting”Why your relationship to desire affects every connection you haveShadeen’s Desire Style Quiz and what it can reveal about how we experience desire in the current moment The story arc of desire: who, what, where, when, why, and howHow AI is impacting our relational skills, connection, and desireWhy it can be especially difficult for moms and people of color to name their own desiresHow play connects to our nervous system and our capacity for pleasureThe role of vulnerability in experiencing desire Why orgasm is all about surrendering If you've ever felt disconnected from your desires, wondered why "fun" feels so hard, or wanted to bring more play into your life and your pleasure, this episode is your invitation to start exploring.Take Shadeen’s Desire Style Quiz: https://shadeenfrancis.com/quizConnect with Shadeen Francis: https://shadeenfrancis.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/shadeenfrancis/ https://www.instagram.com/shadeenfrancis Get Aimee’s Free Workbook: Reclaim Your Pleasure Power: https://cometalkwithaimee.myflodesk.com/claimyourpleasurepod Join Aimee on Substack:https://open.substack.com/pub/cometalkwithaimee Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

April Davis of Haus of Vagina has spent years teaching people about vulva anatomy and body literacy. Today, she's here to tell you why your vagina is normal.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with April Davis, a sex and menstrual cycle educator, founder of Haus of Vagina, and host of the Haus of Vagina Podcast. We get into what body literacy means and how the lack of it leads people to labiaplasty, vaginal bleaching, and a lifetime of shame about bodies that were never abnormal to begin with. We also dive into period sex, tampons, free bleeding, and why prioritizing pleasure is just as worthy as every diet you've ever tried.We also dive into: The difference between the vulva and the vaginaVulva myths about smell, tightness, and appearanceTampons vs. cups vs. discs vs. free bleedingWhy prioritizing pleasure is a worthy pursuitHow to talk to your kids about anatomy and protect them from groomingWhy you should never fake an orgasm againIf you've ever worried about how your vulva looks, smells, or functions, this episode is your permission slip to let that go and learn what you were never taught.Connect with April Davishttp://www.instagram.com/hausofvaginaDownload your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

Let's settle this once and for all: does size actually matter? Find out in this episode! Welcome back to Come Talk with Aimee. This season, we're bringing you a Q&A series for our quickies, and for the first one, I went straight to Instagram to find out what you wanted to talk about. The top question? Does size matter?I'm taking that question to Reddit, to the research, and into the exam room for a vital sign check. We're looking at the anatomy of both penises and vaginas, what the science actually says about length versus girth, and the 4 techniques that over 3,000 women that identified they use to make penetration more pleasurable! I also talk about: The pleasurable techniques: angling, rocking, shallowing, and pairingWhy the 2022 literature review found limited and inconsistent evidence on sizeThe public health issue hiding underneath the size questionWhy technique, arousal, communication, and anatomy matter more than sizeThe better question to ask: what are you doing with what you've got?If you've ever wondered whether size really matters, or if you've been anxious about it, this episode is your vital sign check. Let's break down the myths and get to the truth.Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Dr. Elliot Justin is on a mission to get men to finally listen to what their erections are telling them. If I were you, I’d better start listening.This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Dr. Elliot Justin, CEO and founder of FirmTech, a sex tech company that's revolutionizing men's sexual and cardiovascular health. Dr. Justin is an emergency medicine physician who has spent years developing a wearable device that tracks nocturnal erections, providing a leading indicator of cardiovascular and sexual health.We get into the science behind nocturnal erections, why they're a vital sign men need to pay attention to, and how the data from his device has already helped thousands of men avoid unnecessary procedures and optimize their performance. We talk about: Why nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of cardiovascular healthHow the FirmTech device tracks duration, firmness, and frequencyWhy erectile dysfunction has been misdiagnosed for decadesThe difference between physical and psychogenic EDHow performance anxiety can impact erection qualityWhy most men benefit from wearing a ringHow the ring keeps you hard longer and deepens intimacyIf you've ever wondered what your morning wood is really telling you, or if you want to optimize your sexual performance and health, this episode is for you.Connect with Dr. Elliot Justin https://www.instagram.com/myfirmtech/https://www.youtube.com/@myfirmtechhttps://www.tiktok.com/@myfirmtechhttps://myfirmtech.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee