06 - why are we (I) so afraid to change?

"Our fear of being exposed in a culture where everybody else is wearing a mask can be a major obstacle to our reaching out for help" - Sobonfu Somé. Let's get even more vulnerable on the internet, as this week I discuss why it is so hard to ask for help. Let's talk about the difference between being selfish and selfless, rejection sensitive dysphoria and the pressure to appear as perfect. I tell you childhood stories and one about my ex... This week on Clareification.

On today's episode on Clare-ificaiton I ask myself, what are the benefits to being an outsider? When I was younger, standing out was painful. Now living in Holland as a foreigner I've grown accustomed to not fitting into the mould and have now found ways to embrace and enjoy this as a privilege. Listen to the episode to learn about solo theory, how it impairs your judgement, and what it felt like for me to be "invited to the cookout" <3

In this episode I get into what it means to be neurodivergent, how do you get a diagnosis? What did it mean for me to wear these labels? I open up a lot about the ups and downs I faced and how it got me here. I have ADHD and although it can feel like a superpower, it can also be incredibly debilitating. Let's talk about it!

We've discussed some uncomfortable road blocks on the path to self actualisation and enlightenment. But what about the physiological barriers that keep our bodies tied to cycles of toxicity? Why are some habits so hard to break? Tune into this weeks episode of Clare-ification to get to know me a bit better, but truly join me in knowing yourselves better!

In this compelling episode of Clare-ification, let's dive deep into the intricacies of the human mind as we explore voice confrontation also known as the Mickey Mouse effect. Join me in unravelling the complexities of self-concepts, and delve into effective strategies for overcoming insecurity, while I share with you some of my own!

What an outrageous thing to admit on the internet... Or is it? Jealousy like all emotions ebbs and flows through us, what if we would use it as a teacher? In this episode, I delve into the different facets of jealousy and reveal what it is about jealousy that makes it so shameful to admit. I tell you exactly who I'm jealous of, and how I challenged myself to go after those things.

Welcome to the third episode of Clare-ification! Today I share something deeply personal and honest with you all, a little story of my life as I try to explain where I am from. As a person with parents from two cultures, I've had the privilege of having an abundance of experiences. But sometimes, this world of binaries and strict classification has left me feeling excluded in ways I haven't been able to describe... Until now. Listen along to learn about racial essentialism, visual saliency theory and read an excerpt from The Sex Lives of African Women with me!

Do you ever find yourself shifting your accent when you talk to someone new? I'm definitely guilty of doing this, so let's figure out why, together.

I've been feeling so much embarrassment lately when I share "I have a podcast!" But what is embarrassment really? Why do we feel embarrassed to start new things? What is this emotion trying to teach us? And most of all, how can we get over it???