Why Can’t You Remember That? Memory, Relationships + Why Some Things Stick

💭 Why can one tiny thing going differently than expected suddenly feel like the last straw? This week we take a deeper look at David’s frustration when expectations aren’t met — even over small things — and how those moments can pile up, feel personal, and become overwhelming.🧠 We talk about ADHD, low frustration tolerance, emotional reactivity, and some practical ways to interrupt the irritation before it takes over. And how David has to feel like everything is HIS idea above all else… so it makes a lot of little stuff so hard! ✨Referenced in this episode:https://www.instagram.com/p/DfalajKjO_i/?rpxt=MTF5dzIwcmNqN3Bldw==

🌅 We’re talking morning light, circadian rhythm, circ walks—and why getting outside around dawn ☀️ may matter more than we realize. We also get into our experiences starting a GLP-1, the changes we see right away, and how it is so many of us Gen X have elevated numbers.✨ And because this is Chiming In, there was also another one of those oddly specific 🦋“signs” that felt like pure magic ✨️

🧠 Why do some memories seem permanently etched into our brains while others are nearly impossible to pull up? This week we dive into memory — short-term, long-term, how memories get stored, and why two people can experience the exact same moment but remember it very differently.❤️ We also get into what that can mean in relationships, especially when one person remembers everything and the other — ahem, David — seemingly remembers nothing. Is it about caring? Paying attention? Or is the brain simply deciding what information is important enough to keep?And because one thought inevitably leads us to five others, we eventually wander into the past, the stories our memories create, manifesting, and whether the way we think about what has already happened can influence what comes next. ✨😂Click either link to see the 15 pennies test discussed at the end of the podcast:https://www.instagram.com/p/DfDAlAgmqwF/?psln=MXIyZ20zZGF3Zmc5eA==https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19rMfghE9G/BONUS TEST: Click the following link to take another short attention/memory test that will BLOW YOUR MIND!! I promise it's worth trying :) https://youtu.be/vJG698U2Mvo?is=oLe25LRTQSpcD7JiAND don't forget to let us know in the comments how many numbers you got correct on the 12 number memory test! - David & Elyse

💬 Sometimes a conversation ends, but something about it still doesn’t sit right. We talk about replaying conversations, wondering whether our words landed the way we intended, and why going back to say a little more isn’t necessarily overthinking — sometimes it’s simply showing someone that they matter.🍷 Elyse shares a story about her son breaking a special wine glass, how badly he felt, and realizing the next day that she hadn’t responded in quite the way she wanted to — so she reopened the conversation.And we also wander through the grocery store with a cookbook in hand, David’s healthy cooking kick, and the usual detours before eventually finding the point. 😂https://link.amazon/B0aw9BffJ

✨ What if we looked at an ordinary day by asking, “What magic do you have to share today?” We talk about finding magic in everyday life, noticing nature, and whether Elyse’s favorite word “magic” is really just another way of looking at the cool stuff that happen every day.🌱 Then we dig into roots — literally and figuratively — and what it means to grow something new from a cut, a loss, or a difficult chapter. Some things take root. Some don’t. And how big our orange-tree-from-a-seed is now!🍑Along the way: a meat thermometer, the surprisingly strange history of the ampersand, and further proof that David can recall completely random information… just never when he actually needs it. 😂✨

Season 2 is here! 🍂 We’re talking life changes, new chapters, changing seasons, and the uncomfortable in-between when the old days are gone but the new normal hasn’t quite settled in yet.We tried to remember what we actually did all summer, back-to-school, empty nests, autumn, favorite scents, gardening, and more 🍅🌻🍁Some seasons are easier than others. Some are brighter. And some just need a adjust the seasoning. ✨

“I thought it was real.”That is exactly what so many victims of today’s scams say after losing money to someone who sounded official, urgent, and convincing.In this episode, we have an important conversation about the growing world of scams — from people posing as government officials to fake companies demanding immediate payment.We discuss why even smart, careful people can be manipulated when fear, urgency, and authority enter the equation. The lesson isn’t to feel embarrassed — it’s to slow down, ask questions, and remember that you always have the right to verify who is on the other end of the phone, text, or email.We talk about:📞 Fake calls from people claiming to have authority💰 Scams demanding immediate payment⚠️ Fear and urgency as tools of manipulation🔎 Why it’s okay — and necessary — to double-check🧠 How staying calm can protect you and your loved onesThis is a public service conversation about awareness, skepticism, and protecting ourselves in a world where scams are becoming more sophisticated every day.This episode is also our final episode of the season. We’re taking a short summer pause to rest, recharge, and gather more conversations to share with you.Thank you for listening, commenting, and chiming in with us. We’ll be back soon 🤍#ScamAlert #FraudAwareness #PhoneScams #OnlineSafety #CyberSafety #ConsumerProtection #ScamPrevention #PersonalSafety #StaySafe #ChimingInPodcast

Do influencers inspire us, connect us, and help us discover new ideas — or do they quietly leave us feeling like we’re somehow falling behind?In this episode, we take a thoughtful look at influencer culture and the role social media plays in our lives today.We explore the pros and cons of a world where strangers influence everything from how we decorate our homes to how we think about success, beauty, relationships, and happiness.Along the way, David shares a story about being influenced to make the bed differently… with mixed results. 😄We also discuss:• Why humans are drawn to reality TV and “real life” content• How much of what we see online is actually real• The effect influencers have on our children and younger generations• Why some content makes us feel seen and understood• Why other content can leave us feeling like we’re not enough• The difference between inspiration and comparisonThis is a conversation about authenticity, influence, human connection, and learning how to consume media without losing ourselves in it.#influencers #socialmedia #authenticity #comparisontrap #mentalhealth #personalgrowth #digitalwellness #socialmediaculture #wellnesspodcast #chiminginpodcast

What creates a tipping point in our lives? Is it planning, vision, luck… or simply taking action?In this episode, we explore the surprising relationship between momentum and decision-making. David shares the story of launching a virtual reality business in just one week to prepare for a trade show and how the experience revealed something important: action often comes before clarity.We discuss the difference between focusing on the process versus focusing on the outcome. David tends to focus on the moments leading up to the tipping point, while Elyse prefers to visualize the end result and trust the path will unfold.Along the way we explore:• Why action creates momentum• How deadlines can motivate us to do our best work• Why the VR business wasn’t a failure, even though it didn’t become a long-term company• What we would create if we knew we couldn’t fail• The role of passion, purpose, and high-energy states in creativity• Why some people thrive under pressure• What a life-changing diagnosis can teach us about urgency• And what to do when you don’t love the work you’re doingThis conversation is about possibility, momentum, creativity, and learning to trust that the first step often reveals the next one.

What happens as we get older, reconnect with people who’ve known us forever? 🤍We start with a funny birthday story, the movie "The Fifth Element" and the idea that humanity can feel both beautiful and painfully unkind at the same time.Reconnecting with childhood friends and reflecting on the comfort of being fully known by people who have witnessed every version of you — like Russian nesting dolls with layer after layer of shared history.We talk about:• how friendship can survive even through dark periods and addiction• why mothers often struggle to sleep when their kids are out late• the difference between loving everyone and actually liking everyone• what we would tell our 80-year-old selves• and why the simple word “heard” might change the way we communicate with the people we loveThis episode is about aging, perspective, radical acceptance, and the deep human need to feel understood.#friendship #aging #personalgrowth #relationships #nostalgia #emotionalhealth #wellnesspodcast #chiminginpodcast #heard