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At what point is male horniness a national security threat? This week on Boy Problems I'm getting into the NVIDIA cheating scandal and the nerve it takes to call women “too emotional to lead.” Plus, we dig into millennial optimism vs. gen z cynicism, answer a Thanksgiving boy problem about a dad with a separate-bedrooms rule, and react to some breaking news that proves our entire point.Remember to leave a comment, subscribe to the show, and send this episode to your designated debrief friend. Every share helps us continue to make the show 💞Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.CHAPTERS0:00 — Horny Men Are a National Security Threat (Cold Open)0:35 — Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang Chinese Spy Affair Explained5:13 — Are Men the Rational Gender? + "Can Women Lead?" NYT Debate9:54 — Elizabeth Holmes, Billionaire Divorce & Income Redistribution12:06 — Trump, Russell Brand, Andrew Tate: The Timeline Is Shifting13:50 — 2024 Election Results: Processing the Blue Wave17:28 — Millennial Optimism vs Gen Z (NY Times Feature)20:42 — Why I Was Dissociating After the Election25:44 — Thanksgiving Boy Problem: Dad's No Shared Room Rule26:50 — Strict Parents Storytime: My Boyfriend Jumped Out the Window33:31 — BREAKING: Nvidia CEO Caught in Second Affair

This week on Boy Problems, Liz sits down with the most overqualified panel in the history of heterosexual dating advice: Priya Parker, author of The Art of Fighting, and Anand Giridharadas, author of Man in the Mirror. Together they unpack the fight under the fight — why men and women are more divided than ever, what happens when hope in men makes you better prey, and why cancelling people isn't the same as having a plan. Don't forget to follow the show, let us know how you're feeling in the comments, and please share the episode with a friend! Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

This week on Boy Problems we sit down with doctor, Michigan Senate candidate, and the internet’s “Mean Mamdani,” Dr. Abdul El-Sayed!! We talk the viral “Tommy” clip, RFK Jr.’s racist rant, and why men fear the group chat more than losing women’s respect. Plus: can men change, or do they just become podcast hosts?Women love him, bigots fear him, and he's here to answer your boy problems. The doctor will see you now. 🔥Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EVERYONE who signs up to my giveaway will receive a FREE Rose suction toy with their Bellesa Boutiqueorder! 🌹 bbvibes.com/BoyProblems#bbpartner—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

I watched Nathan Fielder's Elizabeth Holmes movie so you don't have to, and honestly? It's not a documentary. It's a three-hour masterclass in manipulation and I know I'm going to make enemies by saying that out loud. I also read an entire Reddit thread about why I suck (self-harm behavior, truly), so we're getting into my most controversial take on men yet. If you have thoughts on the Nathan Fielder movie or our boy problem of the week, I genuinely want to hear from you! Drop a comment, vote in the polls on Patreon, and share this episode with a friend, it really helps us keep making the show 💕Respond to our Patreon poll! Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

Are you falling in love or in love with the fantasy? This week on Boy Problems comedian Chloe Radcliffe returns to the show to talk falling for the fantasy, parasocial relationships with your ex’s ex, and why they feel hotter in New York than LA. Plus, a listener’s fantasy football dilemma raises the question: are you a girlfriend or an unpaid intern?Subscribe, comment if you’ve ever dated someone entirely in your head, and submit your boy problems. Imaginary relationships count.Stay tuned for Chloe’s big announcement and join her on Instagram @chloebadcliffeSubmit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

This week on Boy Problems, Liz is angry — and she's not apologizing for it. In the wake of the Cornell 57 case, she breaks down why women's rage is no longer remarkable, but the absence of male rage absolutely is. She recounts a wild story from a recent conference where she was asked to moderate a panel on "raising boys into better men" — only to flip the script, give the women in the room (including Malala) an hour of rest, and grill the men instead. Ten years after starting #WhyWomenDontReport, Liz grapples with how little has changed, has a literal menty-b mid episode, and finds unexpected solace in the strength of women and the men who actually show up. If this hit you, drop a 🔥 in the comments — and tell us how you're channeling your rage this week. Remember to subscribe so you never miss an episode, and join the Patreon for behind-the-scenes content and FaceTimes with Liz! Go yell at a man, do something nice for a woman (especially yourself), and we'll see you next week.Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

Boy problems family, meet my boyfriend!!! This week, I'm officially introducing my Tall Green Flag to the pod because I simply cannot keep him to myself anymore. We get into our second date (spoiler alert - it involves the airport), the pink pillow he banished from my bed, and your boy problems — from a woman whose husband won't touch her while she's pregnant (SIR???), to a 30-year-old VP who froze her eggs and is losing hope. Drop P2 if you want a part two with Scott because I WILL be using your comments as evidence to get him back on the pod. You make the Boy Problems family what it is. Leave a review, subscribe, and share with a friend who needs a little hope in their feed. Every bit helps us keep going 💝Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

Elizabeth Chambers lived the picture-perfect life: 10 years of marriage, beautiful kids, glamorous red carpets, but then the picture cracked. Her marriage to Armie Hammer ended in one of Hollywood's most disturbing scandals, and entire world weighed in. But Elizabeth didn’t just survive the ultimate betrayal, she rebuilt, got a PhD in toxic relationships, and turned the unthinkable into a mission to help other women. And now she’s on OUR show!! This week, Elizabeth shares her expert opinion on how to spot a red flag, what it actually takes to co-parent with someone who betrayed you, and all the signs you need to know to spot a toxic relationship. If you've ever looked at a red flag and thought, "That was weird," but kept going anyway — first of all, same. Second, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Leave a comment, share the episode with a friend, and if you want the real uncensored chaos, come hang out with us on Patreon!Episodes of TOXIC premiere Tuesdays at 10PM ET/PT on ID. Episodes are available to stream on HBO Max!Find more from Elizabeth on Instagram! Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

David Farrier is back on the show with two VERY special guests - the adorable, adoptable frenchie bulldog he rescued at Griffith Park (🥹) and Liz’s Tall Green Flag!! This week, we discover that David — yes, THIS David — was the mutual friend who knew them BOTH and somehow never introduced them. David, respectfully: WHAT WERE YOU DOING???We also get into what Nathan Fielder is actually like IRL (spoiler: he somehow did David’s signature move… TO DAVID), a wildly brilliant New Zealand website helping women anonymously report predators and find community, and a listener Boy Problem involving two beds + a female best friend. 👀Next week, we have an iconic conversation with THE Elizabeth Chambers. You won’t want to miss it. 🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode. 🐶 Help Alan the rescue dog find a home! If you’re in LA and want to adopt Alan, email David at [email protected]:00 - Intro & David's Rescue Dog Alan1:32 - Alan Gets A Boner On Camera5:07 - Liz Meets Her Boyfriend Through David9:32 - David Farrier Walks Like There's An Emergency15:40 - Nathan Fielder In Real Life23:59 - The Website Catching Predators30:37 - Men vs Women: Worst Dates34:15 - Boy Problem: Two Beds, One Red Flag43:17 - The Elon Musk Problem48:50 - Duct Tape Men More

A man got duct-taped to his airplane seat, and honestly? Feminism is healing.This week, we’re getting into that, paying tribute to the icon Gloria Steinem, and revisiting her wildest undercover stunts, funniest quotes, and her theory that patriarchy is still a prison for men, it's just “cushy.” Plus: Phoebe Bridgers’ leg hair, why the queer Ultimatum is infinitely more watchable, what’s actually behind the orgasm gap, and our boy problem of the week: why do I only want men who are already taken?If you love the show, subscribe and leave a review. Our Boy Problems family wouldn’t be the same without you, and keeps growing thanks to your comments, subscribes, and shares with a friend or two. It makes all the difference and helps us compete with the manosphere, too!Submit your boy problems ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Check out⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Airplane Mode with Liz Plank⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠Join the Patreon! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Read Gloria Steinem's essay "If Men Could Menstruate!" --Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.00:00 Intro: What's Coming Up01:21 A Man Got Duct-Taped to His Airplane Seat12:05 Remembering Gloria Steinem17:05 The Ultimatum: Why the Queer Season Wins28:10 Phoebe Bridgers, Leg Hair & the Red Carpet Double Standard32:08 Boy Problem: Chasing Guys Who Are Already Taken48:22 Listener Comments & Nick Update49:42 Patreon Recap: Body Counts & First Dates51:28 Outro & Thank You