162 Caring For Your Tomorrow Self

When biological needs are not met, the body will feel worse and worse until they are. And there will often be a period when high performance is not possible if we went long enough without meeting the need. The more intense the need is, the less it meaningfully feels like a choice to avoid meeting it. One thing this means is that a lot of our coping mechanisms sometimes have deep needs underneath them, and it's extremely difficult to ignore those long-term. So how do we get those needs met?AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Making "good choices" now to hopefully make a future version of us feel better is extra difficult for our brains. Especially to maintain in a long-term way. It may be more helpful to think about taking care of your tomorrow self (and for me, my tonight self since I'm not naturally a good sleeper). What can you do to support tomorrow you feeling a little better? AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do small unfairnesses hit some people so much harder? Dr. J breaks down justice sensitivity: The intense reaction to perceived wrongdoing that’s especially common in ADHD and AuDHD brains. Learn about the four types of justice sensitivity, why emotional dysregulation, hyperfocus, and impulsivity make it stronger, and how lived experience shapes it. Plus, practical in-the-moment and long-term strategies to channel your sense of fairness — without burning out or blowing up.Thanks to The ADHD Channel for Women from Understood.org for letting me post this episode.You can find all of their episodes here.(And Sep 22 2026 they put out an episode on ADHD & PMDD, which is a thing people ask me about a lot!)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A thought I've been having recently... how different am I as a human from the other humans who don't (yet lolol) share a neurodivergence label?I like to remember that we still have a lot in common.(And in particular am thinking of Dr. Altheria Caldera's talk at BloomCon about connecting first as humans)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes things are feeling better than usual, often because routines & supports are going well... and then it all falls apart.The first week of October was rough for me. Here's that story: what happened, how I handled it during, and how I'm gently starting to put supports back in place. Slowly!Mentioned in episode: BloomCon26 Speaker Seriesbday wish listAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Something I've noticed: my brain seems to be in "not doing things" or "doing things" mode.Pushing myself too much during okay executive function days tends to lead to multiple days of recovery.So ironically, doing a bit less on those days has made for a more consistent capacity...AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)® Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A silly hack I use to calm my brain down. You can also use it to track your interests or other patterns over time.AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

AuDHDer Cate Osborn (Catieosaurus) interviews Adam Reid about idea overload... relevant whether or not you're a creative professional or writer like Adam! Thanks to The ADHD Channel for Women from Understood.org for letting me post this episode. You can find all of their episodes here. (And Sep 22 2026 they put out an episode on ADHD & PMDD, which is a thing people ask me about a lot!)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many AuDHDers have shared stories with me about some version of the following: There is a problem staring them in the facePeople in power don't want to hear about it This comes up a lot at work. The more subtle version is trying to get someone to give a straight answer about exactly what needs to be done, or how. And they act like it's somehow an affront to their authority... so confusing! If you struggle with communicating with someone who seems resistant to the truth, this episode offers the big picture understanding of what might be going on. AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Part of what hyperneuroplasticity means is that your brain learns quickly on many fronts... including from negative data. This has some obvious downsides!The good news is that what might feel like excruciatingly slow learning in other areas (8-18 repetitions) is actually normal. Your brain just learns fast sometimes ;)The other good news is that 2 data points does NOT equal a predictive pattern yet, no matter how much your brain may want it to.Join me in person at BloomCon 2026! (Online options too)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.