The Male POV: Why Dating Feels So Hard Today

Send us a textThe holidays are here, and Needs To Be Studied is diving into the two things everybody stresses about this season: money and sex.Billy and special guest Wolf break down the real questions couples are scared to ask out loud:✨ How much should you actually spend on someone you’re dating?✨ Is there a “right” budget for holiday gifts in NYC when rent is basically a second partner?✨ What do you do when you genuinely don’t know what to ask for… or what to get them?✨ And of course—how do you keep your sex life fun, spicy, and freaky during the holidays?Wolf opens up about feeling the financial pressure this year and shares why he’s not sure he even wants to celebrate Christmas—because when bills, rent, and responsibilities are hitting from every angle, gift-giving hits different.Billy gets honest about being overwhelmed, not knowing what to ask for Christmas, and navigating holiday dating without losing your sanity… or your pockets.If you’re dating, budgeting, stressed, or just trying to keep your bedroom warm this winter—this episode is for you.Support the show

Send us a textIn this holiday edition of Needs to Be Studied, we’re diving deep into the pressure, chaos, and unspoken rules of meeting the family during the holidays. From awkward introductions to hidden red flags, we break down everything you need to know before walking into someone’s holiday dinner.And for the first time ever, Billy opens up about being scared of love — for REAL.The fear of being seen, being chosen, and letting someone in becomes part of the conversation in the most honest, vulnerable way yet.Whether you’re newly dating, getting serious, or questioning if you should meet the family at all, this episode gives you clarity, reassurance, and the real talk you need.Class is in session — holiday edition. 💛🎄Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode of Needs To Be Studied, Billy and his guest co-host get wide open about a topic most people only whisper about — dating downlow men. We’re breaking down the real truth behind DL situationships, secret links, hidden relationships, and why so many gay men fall into these emotional trap doors.From sneaky late-night pull-ups to the emotional confusion that comes with secrecy, we share our raw experiences with DL men, what really happened behind closed doors, and the lessons we had to learn the hard way.We also dive deep into a huge issue in the gay dating world:👉🏽 confusing lust for love👉🏽 why attraction gets mistaken for compatibility👉🏽 how DL dynamics intensify fantasy👉🏽 and why so many of us catch feelings for men who can’t show up publicly.If you’ve ever dealt with DL men, questioned your own attachment, or wondered why these connections feel so addictive, this episode is a must-listen. Expect honesty, laughter, storytelling, and some much-needed clarity on the DL experience.Topics Include:    •    The real behavior patterns of downlow men    •    Emotional vs physical connection in DL hookups    •    Why DL men feel “safe” but chaotic at the same time    •    How lust tricks you into thinking it’s love    •    DL red flags, green flags (do they even exist?), and recovery    •    Our personal stories, lessons, and the tea we’ve never toldThis episode is messy, relatable, unfiltered, and needs to be studied.Support the show

Send us a textBilly links up with the ladies of Code Name Coochie for a wild, unfiltered study session on the unrealistic expectations we all drag into dating and relationships. From fantasy-level demands to the pressure of “perfect chemistry” on day one, nothing is off limits. Then we get into the juicy stuff: what it’s really like having sex with someone for the first time, the nerves, the surprises, and the stories we definitely weren’t prepared for.If you’re trying to understand your own dating patterns, laugh through the mess, or just feel seen in your situationship era, this episode is your new homework assignment. Tap in, take notes, and share with your group chat.Support the show

Send us a textBilly’s in his chef era, y’all 🍝🔥 — cooking dinner for the guy he’s been dating for the very first time, and suddenly craving more than just seconds… he’s craving marriage 😩💍. In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, Billy breaks down the difference between soft launching vs. hard launching relationships, how social media makes us overthink love, and what it means when you’re secretly planning a wedding after one good date.Tune in for a mix of real talk, romantic delusion, and a side of pasta, as Billy gets transparent about modern dating, emotional intimacy, and the anxiety of going public with your heart.If you’ve ever wondered when it’s time to post “your person” — or if you’re just soft launching in the stories like a coward 👀 — this one’s for you.Support the show

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Send us a textEverybody’s swiping, linking, and ghosting… but is anybody actually finding love anymore? 👀In this episode of Needs to Be Studied, we get real about LGBTQ hookup culture and the struggles of dating in a world obsessed with instant gratification. From late-night “u up?” texts to emotional burnout, we break down how hookup culture has changed the way queer folks connect, date, and love.Join Billy the Bad Guy and friends as they unpack the truth about modern queer relationships — the good, the messy, and the complicated in-between. If you’ve ever wondered why finding love feels impossible in today’s dating scene, this one’s for you.Tune in, laugh, and maybe even reflect a little — because finding love in 2025? That definitely needs to be studied. 🎓🌈Support the show

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Send us a textIt’s the 50th episode of Needs to Be Studied — and you know Billy couldn’t celebrate quietly. What was supposed to be a chill Q&A with supporters turns into pure chaos when Billy and Wolf start swapping stories… including the time Billy thought he was going to a sex club but somehow ended up in a full-on freak off 👀.After the laughs (and confusion), things heat up when Billy dives into the real convo: Casual Dating vs. Intentional Dating. Are you vibing just to kill time or dating with purpose? This episode breaks down the blurred lines, the mind games, and the moment you realize you might be the one keeping it casual.Tune in for story time, unfiltered truth, and a little birthday energy for the 50th class session of Needs to Be Studied. 🎉Support the show

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