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Death isn’t the most appetizing topic, but contemplating mortality can be a massive source of motivation, perspective, and even stress relief. In this episode, life lessons from a death doula, who helps people at the end.Description: There seems to be one clear bug in the human operating system — most of us do not like talking about death. Yet when we do talk about it, it can genuinely upgrade the quality of our lives.Our guest today is Alua Arthur, a former attorney who is now what’s called a death doula, which is someone who helps guide people through the end of their lives. Through this work, she has learned some extraordinary stuff about how to live life right now. Alua is also the founder of Going with Grace, a death doula training and end-of-life planning organization. Her debut memoir, Briefly Perfectly Human: Making An Authentic Life By Getting Real About the End, will be released on April 16, 2024.This conversation took place at the 2023 TED Conference in Vancouver, immediately after Alua delivered her triumphant talk, which is out now. Special thanks to the TED Audio Collective. You can listen to Alua's talk and other TED talks on the TED Talks Daily podcast. In this episode we talk about:How death can be a powerful motivator How consistently being aware that you’re going to die can be a “stress reliever” The utility of imagining your ideal deathHer view on reincarnation How the concept of “healing” can sometimes be used as a weapon against ourselves The importance of not leaving things unsaid How “hope” at the end of life can sometimes be unhelpfulWhat surprises her about death How her work helped her out of her depressionThe five steps that you should take when confronting your own death The harm that can sometimes result from too much medical intervention toward the end of lifeThe often fraught relationship that vulnerable and marginalized people can have with the medical community The benefits of thinking about what version of yourself you want to meet on your deathbedThe death meditation that she uses when working with people What to say and do when you are with somebody who is grieving And a practice she calls, “The dying things exercise” Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/Alua-Arthur-archiveWhere to find Alua Arthur online: Website: goingwithgrace.comSocial Media:Twitter Facebook InstagramYouTubeBook Mentioned:Briefly Perfectly Human: Making An Authentic Life by Getting Real About the EndOther Resources Mentioned:Link to Alua’s TED talkLink to Dan’s TED talkGail RubenGlennon DoyleAtīśa Dīpaṃkara ŚrījñānaRoshi Joan HalifaxLarry RosenbergAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Professor and writer Arthur Brooks on his recent book (co-authored with Oprah Winfrey): Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier. Arthur has seen the themes of this book play out in his own life. He started his career as a classical French horn player, then got his PhD in public policy analysis, and went on to run a think tank called the American Enterprise Institute. He is currently a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and Harvard Business School. He also does work with The Atlantic, where he writes a column and hosts a podcast called How to Build a Happy Life. Arthur was formerly on Ten Percent Happier to discuss his book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. In this episode we talk about:Myth busting about happinessThe three macronutrients of happinessThe perils of pursuing pleasureHow to be effectively and wisely ambitiousHow to ascertain if you have meaning in your lifeHow to manage your emotionsThe difference between healthy and unhealthy envy Related Episodes:The Good News About Your Inevitable Decline | Arthur BrooksWhy Dwight from The Office (Rainn Wilson) Is Calling for a “Spiritual Revolution”The Upsides And Downsides Of Living A More Examined Life | Matt HarrisSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/arthur-brooks-754See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get your blood moving, mindfully! You can cultivate relaxation, even when you’re walking at a faster clip.About Diana Winston:Diana Winston is the Director of Mindfulness Education at UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center and the author of several books including Fully Present: The Science, Art, and Practice of Mindfulness.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Brisk Mindful Walking.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How our false expectations and misunderstandings about relationships can create an incalculable amount of suffering — and the many problems of the "You complete me" model.Description: This episode was part one of our four-part series where we’re counter-programming against the way Valentine’s Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. Today’s guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine’s Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. Myisha Battle is the author of the book, “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between.” She also hosts the podcast How’s Your Sex Life?  Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. In this episode we talk about:Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnershipThe nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful waysUnderstanding men’s and women’s cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationshipsThe myth of finding “the one”The orgasm gapBromanceAnd if you’re looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easierFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-archive Where to find Myisha Battle online: Website: www.myishabattle.com/Social Media:Twitter: @MyishaBattleInstagram: @MyishaBattleBook Mentioned:This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between Other Resources Mentioned:Alain de Botton’s  Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person The School of Life #418. How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman#213: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel#464. How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther PerelHalf the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don’t Doctors Study It?Michael Vincent Miller’s Intimate TerrorismEsther Perel’s Mating in CaptivityAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hidden sources of stress — and how to beat them. Also: the myth of normal, the necessity of being disillusioned, and the disutility of comparing your suffering.Description: There’s so much to be grateful for in modern medicine. We can all agree that we would not do as well in a world with no Advil or dentistry. And yet, our guest today, who is a renowned doctor, says modern medicine is overlooking something crucial: the pernicious impact that modern living has on our minds and bodies. In other words, we are surrounded by these hidden societal and structural sources of stress and we aren’t thinking about how to treat and prevent these factors that are degrading our happiness and our immune systems. Dr. Gabor Maté is a bestselling author with an expertise on everything from stress to addiction to ADHD. His latest book is called, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic CultureContent Warning: This episode has mentions of child abuse, sexual trauma, suicide and addictionIn this episode we talk about:What he means by “the myth of normal”How diseases, such as autoimmune conditions, are an “artifact of civilization”How to begin to tackle what Dr. Maté calls, “the social sources of illness” His definition of trauma and the difference between “big T traumatic events” and the trauma of “wounding”How trauma in society is so normalized that we don’t even recognize itWhether the term trauma is overusedWhy comparing suffering is a fruitless endeavor What he means by “the necessity to be disillusioned” The power and possibility of psychedelics Why he thinks we should incorporate shamanic medicine into our western medical frameworkAnd what he means by “undoing self-limiting beliefs” and how these beliefs show up in our everyday livesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gabor-mate-archiveWhere to find Gabor Maté online: Website: drgabormate.comSocial Media:TwitterFacebookInstagramYouTubeBooks Mentioned:The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic CultureWhen the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease ConnectionScattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit DisorderIn the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than PeersOther Resources Mentioned:The Wisdom of Trauma Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Is Associated with Increased Risk of Ovarian Cancer: A Prospective and Retrospective Longitudinal Cohort StudyDecrease in depression symptoms is associated with longer survival in patients with metastatic breast cancer: a secondary analysisMarital Status, Marital Strain, and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease or Total Mortality: The Framingham Offspring StudyGeorge EngelHow spanking may affect brain development in childrenThe Trauma of Everyday Life by Dr. Mark EpsteinIntraConnected: MWe (Me + We) as the Integration of Self, Identity, and Belonging by Dr. Dan SiegelA. H. AlmaasSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The next time you’re in the grocery store, instead of the grind, step into a grateful state of mind.About Anushka Fernandopulle:Anushka teaches meditation, works as an organizational consultant, and does leadership coaching with individuals and teams. She has practiced meditation for over 25 years, including four years in full-time intensive training in monasteries and retreat centers in the US, India and Sri Lanka.Her work is informed by a BA in anthropology/religion from Harvard University, an MBA from Yale focused on leadership and organizational behavior, and certification in coaching from the Coaches Training Institute.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Gratitude in the Grocery Store.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Buddhist strategies for making money and being creative.Meditation teacher David Nichtern believes that business can be, in his words, an essential spiritual practice. He has been practicing and teaching meditation for over 40 years. He’s also the author of a book, Creativity, Spirituality, and Making a Buck. And he hosts a podcast by the same name. He began his career as a successful composer, producer, and guitarist. He’s recorded and played with Stevie Wonder, Jerry Garcia, Lana Del Rey, Paul Simon, and others. Recently, he’s become an entrepreneur, founding an online mindfulness based education platform called Dharma Moon.You can check out the video series based on his latest book, here. And on June 14, David’s leading a 100 Hour Mindfulness Teacher Training. For more info, check out the Dharma Moon website.Related Episodes:Duncan Trussell on: Being a Spiritual Omnivore, Whether Psychedelics Are a Bridge to the Divine, and How the Gates of Hell Are Locked From the InsideA Buddhist Approach to Money Worries | Ethan NichternSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/david-nichternSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why fear of other people’s opinions (FOPO) holds us back, and what to do about it.  Michael Gervais is a high performance psychologist and the host of the Finding Mastery podcast. His new book is called The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying About What People Think of You. In this episode we talk about:A handy new acronym: FOPO, Fear of People’s Opinions How the evolutionary roots of our desire for social acceptance work against us in the modern world Why caring about what others think is not the same thing as worrying about what others think The difference between a purpose-based identity and a performance-based identity The anti-FOPO power of things like: imagination, journaling, meditation, social support, and considering your mortalityWhy focusing less on yourself can be the greatest bulwark against FOPORelated Episodes:Michael Gervais and Pete CarrollMichael Gervais in conversation with Jon Kabat-Zinn Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/michael-gervais-returnsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Self-compassion can be really difficult. Imagining your younger self can soften your armor and help you receive the care you deeply deserve.About La Sarmiento:La Sarmiento (they/them) is a mentor for the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program (MMTCP) and a teacher with Cloud Sangha. They have taught meditation retreats for BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, Teens, and Young Adults, and everyone in-between around the United States since 2010 and are a 2012 graduate of the Spirit Rock Community Dharma Leader Training. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Receiving Self-Compassion.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How to build a career that is sturdy, meaningful, and doesn’t burn you out.Description: Christina Wallace is a senior lecturer of entrepreneurship at Harvard business school, an active angel investor, and even a co-producer of Broadway musicals. Her new book is called The Portfolio Life. Her varied resume should give you an idea of what she means by this. In this episode we talk about:how to design a portfolio life for yourselfher philosophy of ambition how to create the freedom to failhow to engage in sane time management.To order the revised tenth anniversary edition of 10% Happier: click here For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click hereSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/christina-wallaceAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.