A Stoic Mantra For Your Sh*ttiest Moments (And Other Ancient Wisdom That Holds Up) | Jonathan Haidt

We live as if we'll live forever, then die as if we've never lived. A Zen nun and MD on the daily practices that break that pattern. Sister Dang Nghiem, MD, has a new book called Live Beautifully, Die Beautifully: Field Notes from the Edge of Impermanence. Sister D was born in 1968 in Vietnam during the Tet Offensive, the daughter of a Vietnamese mother and an American soldier. She lost her mother at the age of twelve and immigrated to the United States at the age of seventeen with her brother. Living in various foster homes, she learned English and went on to earn a medical degree from the University of California – San Francisco. After suffering further tragedy and loss, she quit her practice as a doctor to travel to Plum Village monastery in France, founded by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, where she was ordained a nun in 2000. Sister D is the author of a memoir, Healing: A Woman's Journey from Doctor to Nun (2010); Mindfulness as Medicine: A Story of Healing and Spirit (2015); Flowers in the Dark: Reclaiming Your Power to Heal from Trauma with Mindfulness (2021); and The River In Me: Verses of Transformation, Collected Poems (2024). In this episode we talk about: The Buddha's Five Daily Remembrances, and why you'd want to practice them Why our denial of aging and death causes far more suffering than aging or death How thanking your changing body can turn dread into gratitude Thich Nhat Hanh's wisdom of "the non-toothache moment" and hidden everyday happiness Treating despair and negative self-talk as small deaths we can release Why it's natural to fear death, and how to fear it less Why grief has no finish line, and the cost of rushing through it Related Episodes: Buddhist Strategies for Reducing Everyday Addictions Your Negative, Ruminating Mind: Here's Your Way Out This Episode Will Make You Stronger Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  This episode is sponsored by: Tin Can: Go to tincan.com/HAPPIER to get $10 off your first order. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Plus: how to actually change a habit, how to get distance from negative thoughts, why the spark fades, and whether what doesn't kill you really makes you stronger. Jonathan Haidt is a social psychologist at New York University's Stern School of Business and the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Anxious Generation. He is also the author of the recently re-released The Happiness Hypothesis, and of The New York Times bestsellers The Righteous Mind, and The Coddling of the American Mind (with Greg Lukianoff). He has given four TED talks and been named a TIME100 Health leader. In this episode we talk about: A two-word Stoic mantra that keeps you from suffering twice Why willpower alone won't change your habits, and what will Tricks for getting distance from negative thoughts Why the spark fades, and what actually makes love last Whether Buddhist non-attachment can be squared with loving your family The growing bipartisan backlash against smartphones, social media and AI Whether what doesn't kill you really makes you stronger Why ancient wisdom matters more in an age of uncertainty Related Episodes: Jonathan Haidt's first appearance on the show Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  This episode is sponsored by: QUO: Try QUO for free PLUS get 20% off your first 6 months when you go to quo.com/HAPPIER. Planet Visionaries: In partnership with The Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative, listen to or watch Planet Visionaries wherever you get your podcasts. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Plan for the worst without spiraling, catch trouble early, and turn bad news into fuel. Dr. Raj Panjabi, MD is the author of Safer: A Playbook—Turning Fear into Action and Crisis into Community. He served as Senior Director for Global Health Security and Biodefense at the White House National Security Council (2022-2023) where he co-led the largest vaccination campaign in history against COVID-19 and U.S. responses to other public health crises, including mpox, influenza and Ebola. A Harvard Medical School physician, Dr. Panjabi is the co-founder and former CEO of Last Mile Health, which has trained thousands of community health workers to bring care to communities beyond the reach of any health system. One of TIME's 100 Most Influential People in the World and TIME's 50 Most Influential People in Healthcare, twice named to the FORTUNE World's 50 Greatest Leaders list, and to FORBES 250 Most Successful Immigrants, Raj has received the TED Prize, Clinton Global Citizen Award, and World Economic Forum's Social Entrepreneur of the Year award. In this episode we talk about: Why denial is hardwired: the evolutionary roots of normalcy bias How pre-mortems and Stoic "premeditation of evils" calm the nervous system Setting triggers in advance to avoid both overreacting and underreacting Missing his infant daughter's heart failure, and what it taught him Fleeing Liberia's civil war The three circles of community Curiosity over control: asking "what's in the way?" instead of blaming Holding your purpose tightly and your plans loosely, especially in a disrupted economy Why to embrace uncertainty, and how to come out of it stronger Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  This episode is sponsored by: Planet Visionaries: In partnership with The Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative, listen to or watch Planet Visionaries wherever you get your podcasts. FIGS Scrubs: Take fifteen percent off your first order at wearfigs.com with the code FigsRx. OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code HAPPIER at www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER #oneskinpod To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Why it's OK to go to bed angry, be awkward, and not like your coworkers. Plus, the three kinds of friends you need and the one-line script that makes hard feedback land. Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at the Wharton School, where he has been the top-rated professor for seven straight years. His new book is Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World. Adam's books have sold millions of copies, he's one of TED's most popular speakers, and his podcast Re:Thinking has over 100 million downloads. He's been recognized as the world's second-most influential management thinker and one of Fortune's 40 Under 40. In this episode we talk about: The four kinds of relationships, and which ones most people are missing How to stop replaying awkward conversations in your head Why men struggle to make friends Turning a pal into a companion, including the haunted house trick How to give feedback without putting people on the defensive Why "agree to disagree" keeps relationships from handling friction Why it's OK to go to bed angry Why great teams don't require liking your coworkers or daily office time Related Episodes: Adam Grant on Perfectionism and Procrastination Adam Grant on the Science of Potential and Achievement Adam Grant on Languishing Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  Hidden Potential Think Again Originals Give and Take This episode is sponsored by: Giving Done Right: If you want your giving to feel intentional and truly meaningful, check out Giving Done Right wherever you listen to podcasts. Rosetta Stone: 10% Happier listeners can get 20% off their Rosetta Stone Sapphire subscription when they sign up today. Gusto: Try Gusto today at gusto.com/HAPPIER, and get three months free when you run your first payroll. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris  

Plus: the only two things you really take with you when you leave a job, why following a great boss beats chasing a hot company, and why she thinks "I've missed the boat" on AI is a lie. Molly Graham is the host of TED's WorkLife podcast, co-founder of the leadership communities Glue Club and the Guild, and writer of Lessons on Substack. In this episode we talk about: What a flock of starlings can teach you about your career Why not having a long-term plan might be your secret advantage How to navigate your career when you don't have a map Why joy at work might not be a luxury after all The simple calendar exercise that reveals what's quietly draining you Why being great at something doesn't mean you should keep doing it The career currency most of us chronically undervalue Why you should follow people instead of rocket ships How to spot a "LinkedIn crush" before it steers your next move The kind of fear that's actually a green light Why your calendar is a war zone of unfortunate yeses Molly's antidote to the doom narrative around AI at work Why it's not too late to get comfortable with AI Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: BetterHelp works with more than 125 health plan networks, and eligible members have an average copay of just $23 per session with insurance. Visit betterhelp.com/happier to explore your payment options. Planet Visionaries: In partnership with The Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative, listen to or watch Planet Visionaries wherever you get your podcasts. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

A tongue-in-cheek jaw release, a 30-second shake-off, and a two-finger trick that tells your body it's safe. Plus: why scrolling feels relaxing but isn't. Nadia Narain and Katia Narain Phillips are the authors of the international bestsellers Self-Care for The Real World and Rituals for Every Day. Their most recent book, Glimmers: Tiny Moments to Transform Your Life, was published in January 2026. In this episode we talk about: Why staying calm all the time isn't actually the goal The sneaky state that masquerades as rest How to find glimmers in even the most ordinary moments Why glimmers turn out to be contagious The odd little trick for releasing tension you didn't know you carried What animals know about stress that we've forgotten How your field of vision talks to your nervous system Why your chores might be a secret meditation practice What rushing does to even the best of intentions Why leaving dishes in the sink can be a sign of progress The overlooked basics behind so much everyday stress Why rest isn't one-size-fits-all What it means to reparent yourself Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel This episode is sponsored by: Cash App: Download Cash App Today: click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Planet Visionaries: In partnership with The Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative, listen to or watch Planet Visionaries wherever you get your podcasts. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Why tensing against pain makes it worse, the difference between acceptance and passivity, and how to plan for the future while staying present—from two of Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh's senior students.   Brother Thích Chân Pháp Dung is a Vietnamese American Buddhist monk ordained in 1998 and a Dharma Teacher in the Plum Village tradition, founded by Zen Master Thích Nhất Hạnh. He currently practices and teaches at Deer Park Monastery in California and is the founder of the Thích Nhất Hạnh School of Interbeing. Kaira Jewel Lingo is a senior Dharma teacher in Thich Nhat Hanh's Plum Village Zen lineage who also teaches Vipassana in the Insight tradition. After 15 years as an ordained nun in Thich Nhat Hanh's monastic community, she now teaches internationally, integrating mindfulness with creative expression, social and racial justice, and care for the Earth. She is the author of We Were Made for These Times and co-author of Healing Our Way Home: Black Buddhist Teachings on Ancestors, Joy, and Liberation. You can also read Kaira Jewel's essays on Substack.  In this episode we talk about: Why we need to hear the same teachings over and over What it means to be alive while you're alive The hidden gifts of turning toward difficulty How to plan for the future without leaving the present The one sentence legendary teacher Thich Nhat Hanh said summed up all his teachings Where our true home really is How to accept things without becoming a doormat The difference between surrender and giving up Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel This episode is sponsored by: Northwest Registered Agent: Visit northwestregisteredagent.com/HappierFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/HAPPIER — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad Tonal: Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase at tonal.com with promo code HAPPIER.  Additional Resources:  More offerings from Kaira Jewel: Beloved Community information (Monastery & Buddhist-Christian meetings) On-demand course with Sangha Live: Growing the Good, Cultivating Courage, Clarity and Care Insight Timer course: We Were Made For These Times: 10 Lessons In Moving Through Change, Loss & Disruption To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

The liberation that comes from realizing that you're never going to get everything done. Oliver Burkeman is the author of the Sunday Times bestselling Four Thousand Weeks, The Antidote, and most recently, Meditations for Mortals. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies and New Philosopher. He has a devoted following for his writing on productivity, mortality, the power of limits, and building a meaningful life in an age of bewilderment.  This episode originally appeared in April 2024.  In this episode we talk about: What the term "imperfectionism" means The illusion of reaching a point where "everything's done" Why there's liberation in seeing how finite we are  Why small, imperfect actions are more valuable than perfect plans Why overplanning is a kind of avoidance How to make decisions  The importance of finishing things Who you should develop a taste for problems Why effort doesn't always equal value Why we need to stop protecting other people's feelings And the paradox of mattering immensely and not at all Related Episodes: The Power of Negative Thinking  Time Management for Mortals Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: BetterHelp works with more than 125 health plan networks, and eligible members have an average copay of just $23 per session with insurance. Visit betterhelp.com/happier to explore your payment options. Instant Hydration: For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/10HAPPIER and use my promo code 10HAPPIER for over 40% off your first subscription order - it's Instant Hydration's best offer available. Square: Run your business smarter with Square. You can get up to $200 off Square hardware at square.com/go/happier.  To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

You don't get to choose what's thrown at you — only how you respond. Karma as a tool for agency, attention sovereignty as a political act, and what to do when you feel completely helpless. The news is a lot right now. And for most of us, the usual options — doom scroll until midnight, or unplug entirely — don't actually help. Meditation teacher Pascal Auclair joins Dan for a live community conversation on how to stay engaged with what's happening in the world without letting it wreck your nervous system, your relationships, or your sleep. In this conversation, Pascal Auclair and Dan Harris discuss: Why reading the news can be reframed as an act of love — and why that changes everything What Buddhism actually says about karma, and whether the bad guys get theirs How to balance staying informed with protecting your mental health The difference between passive equanimity and wise, engaged action How much news is too much — and why the answer is different for everyone Why attention itself has become a battleground, and how mindfulness is your best defense Pascal Auclair has been immersed in Buddhist practice and study since 1997. He was mentored by Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield at IMS and Spirit Rock, where he now teaches retreats. He is a co-founder of True North Insight and one of its Guiding Teachers. Find more of his guided meditations in the 10% with Dan Harris app. Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Which conflict style are you? Plus: avoiding the "trance of nice," walking the high wire, and an uber-hack for getting over irritation. devon + nico hase serve as guiding teachers of the online dharma community Refuge of Belonging. They teach at the Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and other centers, offer online and in-person retreats, and speak with students in one-on-one sessions. They are the co-authors of How Not to Be a Hot Mess and the new This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership.  In this episode we talk about: Why friction in relationships is a feature, not a bug The three directions of listening Why joy isn't a nice-to-have How contemplating death can dissolve everyday irritation Whether you're a volcano, a diplomat, or a dodger How to rupture like a pro Why real patience has teeth What it means to walk the high wire in a conflict Related Episodes: The Sex Episode Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris