What I've Learned About Love

Have you ever felt like you weren't "queer enough"? Whether that be in how you look, dress, live your life, or how you do relationships... we might sometimes feel as though we're not visibly or overtly queer enough. Queer Gomeroi person and Sex Educator Shania Eddy joined me to speak on their experience coming out and finding language to authentically describe themselves, both in gender and sexual orientation. We talk about LGBTQ+ labels, STI stigmas, living with ADHD, dating with g...

In a world that tells us that one of the most meaningful things we can do with our lives is to have kids, what happens when we choose to be child-free? Well, we find meaning elsewhere and, shock horror, there's plenty of places to find it.Alex and Jay O'Neill-King joined me on the show to talk about their journey deciding not to have kids, biological or otherwise. They've been together 11 years, married for 5 of them, and although there were moments along the way where they considered having ...

Whether it's in marriage or the workplace, Sheilla Njoto-Thomson researches how women are discriminated against based on gender. Her recent PhD research looked into how hiring software and algorithms favour resumes that use "masculine" language (over "feminine"), therefore privileging male applicants over female. In this episode, Sheilla not only talks about her research findings of workplace gender-based discrimination, but shares her personal experiences of how she processes her ...

What does it mean to be sex positive? In this solo episode I define what sex positivity is at its core, while also challenging the ways in which it can be taken out of context. Why have I called it "the sex positivity paradox"? Well… I've noticed that, sometimes, people can unknowingly use the term in ways that defeat the whole purpose of what the sex positive movement set out to achieve. I talk about shame, trauma, pleasure, healthy relationships, celibacy and more. If you feel lik...

"Coming in" is a concept that came about as an alternative to coming out. Registered Psychologist and Narrative Therapist, Sekneh Hammoud-Beckett came up with the idea alongside her queer brother over a decade ago. In this episode we talk more about coming in, how Sekneh integrates narrative therapy with psychology, where "coming out" falls short for LGBTQ+ people, and what it looks like to challenge traditional relationship norms and discover for ourselves what fits for our identity and pref...

For an experience that happens to so many people, miscarriage is something that's hardly spoken about. Many suffer in silence. Not Jacqui Maloney, as she's come to learn. After having 2 miscarriages, part of Jacqui's healing has involved sharing her experience with loved ones and the people around her. We talk about processing grief, anger, blame and trauma. Jacqui reflects on the relationships she had throughout those chapters, offering her perspective on what can be helpful for people ...

When Kosta Lucas underwent gastric sleeve surgery in 2015, it dramatically altered the way he understood himself and the way people perceived him. In this episode, we chat about his multi-layered experience of masculinity, body image, fatphobia, privilege, dating, and his work - which, at its core, looks into humanity's need for belonging, meaning and connection.Kosta is a researcher and writer in the field of preventing and countering violent extremism. He holds a double degree in Law ...

Natasha Lama (or Lama for short) started her Instagram @browngirl.sexology shortly after being diagnosed with genital herpes (HSV-1) several years ago. Her goal: to add to the conversation of destigmatising STIs. Having grown up in Malaysia with a South Asian background, Lama uses her Instagram to celebrate South Asian and South-East Asian young adults being open, informed, and curious about their sexualities. She posts about sex, bodies, relationships, pleasure and STI education.In this...

Being single can often be treated as the "in between" phase, not the destination. Within the last year, I made the choice to be consciously celibate, meaning I not only happen to be single, but I've intentionally kept it that way. In this solo episode I share my reasoning behind this decision and why I'm absolutely loving it. Whether you've just gone through a break up, have been single for a long time, have never been in a relationship, or you're partnered - this episode is for everyone.&nbs...

IVF is a mystery to many. Where do you start? Who do you trust? If you're a same-sex couple, where do you go for queer-inclusive support? Through IVF, Rosie Thomas and her partner Stella welcomed their daughter Joey into the world just over a year ago. After dedicating the last 2 decades to her "first baby", PROJECT ROCKIT (the business she co-founded with her sister Lucy), Rosie is now leaning into a new chapter in life: motherhood. In this episode Rosie shares her experience of p...