The Power Within: Internal vs External Regulation Unpacked

What does it mean to truly regulate internally? ✅ It means you understand your brain and body. ✅ You understand what your body physically needs, what it dislikes, what it likes. ✅ You know what self care will really support you. ✅ You understand if you’re an introvert versus an extrovert. I want you to check in with yourself to see if you are externally emotionally regulating yourself or are you internally emotionally regulating yourself… AND what are the steps you can take to shift that? Deep dive into WHY.. 👉 Why do I feel this way? 👉 What do I need? 👉 What do I want relationships in my life to look like? 👉 Is this something that I can give to myself? 👉 Does this feel scary? 👉 Am I capable of giving this to myself? Go down that rabbit hole and explore all those different things. Because what’s waiting for you on the other side is freedom. Freedom from resentment and anger. Freedom from holding permission in everyone else’s hands for your happiness and your mental health. Freedom from needing to feel worthy from others, and most importantly, regulating through someone else and other things externally. Internal vs external regulation unpacked on this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast. XOXO, Dr. B #thrive #thrivelikeaparent #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #newepisode #internalregulation #emotionalhealth #emotionalregulation #sensoryoverload #overstimulatedmind #copingskills #podcast #podcastshow #podcastepisode #sensoryregulation #sensoryintegration #sensory #emotionalwellbeing #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters

EP:107 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast we are going to talk about the importance of setting boundaries and enforcing natural consequences for children without resorting to anger or resentment.    We must set consistent, firm boundaries and natural consequences, such as chores or writing lines, to teach our children respect and responsibility.    You get to decide what behaviors are and aren't acceptable in your home, and enforce boundaries for unacceptable behaviors. You must claim the driver's seat in your home.    I encourage you to parent the child in front of you, not the child you fear they will become. Don’t let fear hold you back.    If you hold boundaries, if you give them natural consequences, what they are going to do is actually build a stronger relationship, trusting dynamic with you, a greater bond of respect with you. And I guarantee you, they will be happier humans, because you've made a very structured life, and they know what's expected of them. And we're going to continue down that path.   We are their teacher, and it is okay to teach. You got this.    XOXO, Dr. B   #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #podcast #newepisode #parenting #adulthood #sensoryregulation

In this week's Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I dive deep into the importance of setting boundaries with kids with caution against doing it in a mean or angry way.   I share my views on ADHD, and argue that the diagnostic system is too focused on labeling people with "disorders" rather than embracing the diversity of human experiences. I also emphasize the need for better education about how the brain functions, as many ADHD symptoms are common experiences that people may think are "normal."   I also discuss the concept of being a "sensory seeker" and how it relates to ADHD-like symptoms, encouraging everyone to embrace their power and brilliance while learning to manage their intense experiences.   Check out this episode to learn more about this thought-provoking perspective!   #thrivelikeaparent #throvelikeaparentpodcast #newepisode #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #neurosensory #neurosensoryparenting #sensoryregulation #emotionalregulation #selfregulation #parenting #parenthood #podcastformoms #toppodcast

New episode on Thrive Like a Parent Podcast. Trust me you don’t want to miss this one. XOXO, Dr. B #thrivelikeaparent #throvelikeaparentpodcast #newepisode #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #neurosensory #neurosensoryparenting #sensoryregulation #emotionalregulation #selfregulation #parenting #parenthood #podcastformoms #toppodcast

On this week's episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I dive into the challenges and rewards of raising strong-willed children, especially when it comes to their sensory and emotional regulation. Storing willed kiddos often struggle with societal expectations, like sitting still or staying organized, because they’re trying to navigate their own unique needs.   I want to reassure you that while raising strong-willed children can be exhausting and sometimes overwhelming, it’s so important to trust your parenting instincts. Understanding the root of their behavior—whether it’s driven by sensory needs or emotional intensity—can make a big difference in guiding them effectively. I promise you can support your strong-willed child while still maintaining your own sanity.   I keep it real, the tough moments and the frustration that can come with them is 10000% there. But I also want to offer you hope and encouragement, reminding you that these traits often point to brilliance and resilience in your child. The key is finding the right balance between supporting their development and creating a harmonious household where everyone thrives.   #ParentingTips #StrongWilledChild #ThriveLikeAParent #ParentingChallenges #RaisingKids #ChildDevelopment #ParentingAdvice #MindfulParenting #SensoryAwareness #EmotionalRegulation #MomLife #ParentingPodcast

EP:103 In this week’s Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I share my personal journey with setting boundaries and the importance of prioritizing your needs. I describe a time when I had zero boundaries, leading to anxiety, insecurity, and relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms. But through self-reflection, I’ve learned to establish healthy boundaries and strategies to manage my daily life as a parent and caretaker. I also share about being honest and speaking up, even when it’s uncomfortable. I’ve found that being more authentic has allowed me to feel more comfortable in my own skin. I also discuss the importance of setting boundaries with children, and not being afraid to have difficult conversations. The goal is to help kids develop self-regulation and independence. Check out this inspiring episode on the transformative power of boundaries! XOXO, Dr. B #newepisode #thrivelikeaparent #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #hardconversations #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #boundaries #emotionalregulation #podcast #podcastshow #podcastersofinstagram #vulnerabilityisstrength #couragetogrow #sensory #podcastformoms #podcastforwomen #podcastforparents #overstimulatedparent #overstimulatedmind

EP:102 Putting on your oxygen mask first… that’s you’ve heard over and over and over and over and over again. The problem that I’m finding is that just because we know that phrase doesn’t necessarily mean that I’m seeing that we’re doing it as parents, and when you don’t do it, what happens is you place yourself at the bottom of the totem pole. If you are currently ✅ Exhausted and depleted. ✅ You’re waking up in the morning saying, I can’t believe this is my life. I don’t know how I got to this place. ✅ You resent your partner. ✅ You are so frustrated and annoyed with your kids. ✅ You’re on antidepressants. ✅ You have high anxiety. ✅ You are unhappy. That probably means you are and that means that you’re probably dysregulated and miserable. There are so many of you that we work with who just that simple phrase, I matter. You don’t believe it. You don’t trust it. There are so many individuals who we work with who just have built their own worth within taking care of everyone else around them. I just want to remind you today, if you haven’t taken care of yourself in a while, to please do so if you need support, skip the vacation and pay for the support so that when you go on vacation, you’ll enjoy the damn vacation. Find someone who feels best and right for you to guide you through your own journey of life. And most importantly, stop wasting time, because time is the most valuable commodity you will ever have, and you can’t get it back. So this is your kick in the ass to start climbing that totem pole all the way up to the top, and take a breath once you’re up there and enjoy. For more on this topic - tune into the Thrive Like a Parent podcast. XOXO, Dr. B #podcast #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #thrivelikeaparent #newepisode #parenting #parenthood #podcastformoms #podcastfordads #selfcare #selfcareformoms #selfcareforwomen #selfcareforparents #settingboundaries #youmatter #youmattertoo #sensoryregulation #nervoussystemregulation #nervoussystemhealth #joyinparenting #emotionalregulation #thrive #selfregulation

EP:101 Are you feeling like more like roommate than a loving partner in your dynamic but are hiding from everyone? It’s more common than you think… Why??  Because we all want to put our best faces forward, especially with what’s happening inside the four corners of our homes! What usually causes the drift?? Overfamiliarity, too much comfortability, overwhelming tasks, and routines, piled up work, new responsibilities, raising kids, insecurities, lack of intimacy, fear, resentment and the list goes on! But this doesn’t have to be your situation forever. It doesn’t have to be just “Is what it is” The shift and dynamic of moving from disconnected roommate to connected loving partnership CAN happen. It can through both partners supporting their own mental health through both regulating their own nervous systems and through both having the communication, carving out time for one another and sharing the vulnerability piece of life. It’s doable. I want you to know it is possible. So have hope. Have faith and take one small step every single day. And trust within where you’re at in this life. Curious how?? Check out this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast. XOXO, Dr. B #thrive #thrivelikeaparent #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #partner #partnership #familydynamics #communication #communicationinrelationships #vulnerability #relationships #healthyrelationships #intimacy #strongpartnership #healthypartnerships #parenting #parentingpodcast #podcastformoms #podcast

EP:100 You might have heard this one before but it was such an important topic I wanted to touch base on again… What most don’t quite understand is that emotional eating is not psychological. It’s neurological. And on this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I am going to give you the tools you need to break that cycle through regulation! You absolutely can have an intuitive and healthy relationship with food. Without any shame. Recognition Awareness Trust Create awareness behind how you’re feeling and why you might feel dysregulated or heightened or overstimulated. Why is your brain seeking regulation? I urge you to BE CURIOUS, listen to your body and what it wants.. Go slow. Tune in with your body and your brain. Building new patterns takes time. Be kind and loving to yourself through the process. Join me to dive deep into the steps to break the cycle of emotional eating, trust yourself and create a healthy and intuitive relationship with food on this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast. XOXO, Dr. B #parenting #podcast #parentingpodcast #podcastforwomen #podcastformoms #podcastforkids #newepisode #thrive #thrivelikeaparent #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #emotionaleating #emotionalregulation #nervoussystem #nervoussystemregulation #nervoussystemhealth #awareness #understandyourbody #interoception #parents

EP:99 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.. The dreaded public meltdowns and how to support yourself and your child through them by understanding what’s happening within the nervous system. Every child has a tantrum. That does not mean you're a terrible parent. That does not mean that you suck. It means that your child chose the wrong time to do it and the absolute worst thing we can do during a public meltdown is give in. We live in a world where we think our children will just get it, and unfortunately, we have to teach it. Unfortunately, it is effort. It requires work on our end. Curious to know the details? Tune in on this week;s episode! XOXO, Dr. B #thrivelikeaparent #podcast #newepisode #parenting #boundaries #healthyboundaries #mentalhealth #childdevelopment #creatinghabits #parents #parenthood #motherhood #joyinthejourney #happyparents #firmandlovingparenting