Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

What happens when surrender becomes sacred? When boundaries are not barriers—but bridges to deeper intimacy? Meet one of the most influential voices in modern kink culture. Janet Hardy is today’s guest. She’s the co-author of the revolutionary The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures and Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence … to name just two of her books. She has a wealth of knowledge and experience. Listeners of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast, sent in a lot of questions and inspired this intimate conversation.Topics include:The intersections of power, pain, love and liberation.Myths and fears about ethical non-monogamy in kink spaces.Details about the new Workbook for The Ethical Slut.When Janet shares about how real change begins with honest self-inquiry, not permission from others, all three women talk about claiming their own personal erotic power. What does it mean to really choose who you are in your relationships? And, what is beyond tolerating a relationship. Hint: it’s not always easy or safe to open up to this view of love and pleasure.  Janet talks about building emotional resilience when having these vulnerable conversations.You’ll hear Mistress Olivia’s personal reflection on how Radical Ecstasy transformed her understanding of Dominance and submission — not as control, but as co-created surrender. “Pain is not the goal. Surrender is.” That one line shifted everything. Together, they explore how power exchange is one of the most intimate acts we’re capable of — a dance where trust becomes tangible, and vulnerability becomes strength.We also tackle real listener questions:A trans woman shares her experience of feeling Dominant with male partners and submissive with female ones — is this a known dynamic? Janet offers thoughtful insight into gendered power dynamics and erotic archetypes.For the nervous beginner — especially the "vanilla wife" being asked to step into Dominance — what are the real fears women face? Spoiler: It’s not about lack of interest. It’s about responsibility, judgment, and the weight of expectation.And then… the eternal debate: Who’s really in control — the Domme or the sub? Janet’s answer may surprise you. (Hint: It’s not a power struggle — it’s a paradox.)Finally, for those walking the spiritual edge of kink, we explore how to distinguish emotional overwhelm from authentic spiritual surrender — because not every tear in a scene is transcendence. Some are signals. Learning the difference? That’s where true mastery begins.This episode isn’t just for kinksters. It’s for anyone who’s ever loved deeply, feared openly, or longed to be seen. It’s about coming into power — not over others, but within yourself.Janet Hardy WebsiteThe Ethical SlutRadical EcstasyMistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

Today’s episode is an intimate dive into one of the most misunderstood — yet deeply rewarding — dynamics in the world of Femdom and distance domination: the submissive sissy.Spoiler: It’s not just about lace, lipstick, or humiliation.It’s about surrender, self-discovery, and the quiet power found in your devotion to your Mistress.Have you ever asked yourself:“Why do I feel drawn to this role?”“Is wanting to serve a woman… weak?”“How do I truly become the sissy my Mistress deserves?”…then this episode is your permission slip to lean in.What We Explore:Why not all sissies are submissive — and not all submissives are sissiesThe emotional and psychological journey of embracing feminizationHow a true Femdom Mistress guides, shapes, and transforms her sissyThe paradox of control: giving up power to gain freedomThe sacred art of being of service — beyond just sex or choresWhy communication is the most important part of a D/s relationshipNavigating boundaries, vulnerability, and trust in a D/s dynamicThe myth of “more is better” — and why following her lead beats initiative every timeAnd the big one: How submission changes you… and how the submissive also changes Mistress.Remember, it's not about escaping who you are — it’s about uncovering who you were meant to be under the gaze of a woman who sees you, owns you, and refines you.A skilled Femdom Mistress doesn’t just dominate — she mentors.She holds space for your fears, your shame, and your curiosity.Above all, she rewrites your future whether you are:New to sissy trainingStuck in a cycle of self-sabotage or secret shameOr already serving but craving deeper connection and purpose…this episode will remind you:You’re not broken. You’re becoming.Get in touch:Mistress Olivia: email:  [email protected]: LDWOliviaTwitter X: @MistressOlivia1blog: ExperiencedMistress.comMistress Erika:email:  [email protected]: LDWErikaTwitter X: @ErikaEnchantrixblog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika crack open the candy bowl of taboo for this episode which is inspired by a listener question. Jen Jenn asks about sissy costume suggestions for Halloween and your Femdom hosts decide to talk about all sorts of fun, festive and naughty costumes.First though, we go off on safari about CANDY CORN. This is the perfect holiday for feminization in public. We give some specific ideas how you can be femme and get away with your sissy play at a Halloween party.Costume ideas for sissies:a Hooters Girlslutty costumescomics cosplayand more.Speaking of cosplay, a perfect blend of feminization and humiliation bondage could be a Harley Quinn costume with literal restraints!Hear what each Mistress is thinking about for her Halloween costume. We also talk about blending BDSM, kink and creativity for this fun holiday.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]: LDWOlivia and LDWErikaAvailable for phone or texting sessions800-356-6169 

Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine, hosts of the new podcast FILTHY MILFS return to have a candid conversation about sex, foreplay, power exchange, kink and more. If you’ve ever seen a group of women having a fun, lively conversation and wondered what they’re talking about then you’re in luck.This is like we’re all sitting around with cocktails and dishing about:Blow JobsHow to make cum taste goodReaction of women to sucking cockSnowballing and cum eatingSharing erotic fantasies with your partnerIntimacy and great sexSexual wellnessAging and keeping sex juicy and excitingNormalizing the conversation around all aspects of sexBeing open minded about different kinds of erotic pleasureSwingers lifestyleTaking viagra for phone sex sessions Sex work and sex workersLuxury lingerie and why it's so fun to dress up.Finally, we have a conversation about women and power. Could either or both of these ladies want to be a Femdom? We talk about myths and misconceptions about BDSM as well as the relaxation and release for the submissive.FILTHY MILFS podcast is available on all podcast platforms, YouTube, Instagram, Facebook and maybe even Linkedin.Here’s the link to FILTHY MILFS on SpotifyMistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

They say they’re FILTHY and MILFY and this is a new podcast you will thoroughly enjoy! Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine are the FILTHY MILFS. Sophie says, “We’re just a couple of randy, curious, highly intelligent horny ladies.”  What a fun conversation!Topics include:The power of female sexualityEmbracing the SLUT labelSocial standards for the sexual behavior of womenSelf empowerment that comes with BDSM, kink, Femdom, and sex work.Sexual pleasure and agingExploring the popularity of MILFSSexually experienced women and confidence.What did family and friends think of the name of the podcast?Join us for this uncensored and intimate conversation with the FILTHY MILFS.Look for the FILTHY MILFS podcast on all the podcast platforms and Youtube!Here’s the FILTHY MILFS on SpotifyMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

What is rough kink or BDSM pain play? What makes that different from other kinds of rough sex?  Why does a Femdom enjoy delivering pain? This episode explores pleasure and pain to answer listener questions about BDSM.Topics include:What is rough kink in the framework of BDSM pain play?How rough does it need to be to be considered BDSM?Who gets to define it?What are some of the items used in rough kink?Does someone need a spanking or CBT to be considered pain play?How do you know you’re ready to explore rough kink?How do you communicate with your partner?The role of BDSM negotiation in safe scenes.What is a safe word and how does it apply in BDSM?How does a Mistress gauge when to push your boundaries?What sorts of questions should a Dominatrix ask you before pain play?BDSM terms:SSC: safe, sane and consensualRACK: risk-aware consensual kinkPRICK:  personal responsibility, informed, consensual kink or personally responsible in consensual kink.AndThe 4 C’s:  caring, communication consent and caution.The importance of aftercare for the submissive and the Mistress.Personal stories, behind the scenes of Distance Domination, and more. You never know what you’ll hear and we appreciate you enjoying the podcast!Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyDISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

Popular adult entertainer with multiple accolades from AVN, XBIZ and Transgender Erotica Awards (just to name a few) returns to the podcast to talk about the porn industry, changes in the adult industry and being in control of her career.Topics include:Why being a porn star used to be more glamorous.The role of Only Fans in changing the porn industry.How Only Fans allows adult entertainers to connect directly with fans.Creating custom adult content on demand.Being a trans woman in the adult industry:Exploring sex, sexuality and a variety of partnersDating while being in the adult industryObjectification as a trans womanObjectification as a sex workerComing out to her conservative familyBeing a business woman:Ways in which the adult industry allows for financial freedom Why working for a porn studio is often not worth itBeing part of the all trans cast of the Lily Wachowski’s sci fi film D.O.L.L.SThis conversation is a thoughtful peek behind the scenes of porn, the adult industry, stigma and sex work. Listener questions inspired many of the topics in this interview.Here’s to all of us living life without regrets!Eva Maxim’s Only Fans pageTwitter X: @Eva_Maxim      AdultTime (where to watch D.O.L.L.S)Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyDISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

Get to know one of the hottest porn stars in the adult industry, Eva Maxim. This trans woman is the winner of a lot of awards. You know her from her hot sex scenes but today you’ll get a peek behind the scenes.Today’s episode talks about:Adult industry awardsThe business side of pleasureWhy and how Only Fans has changed the adult industry.Why she prefers producing content for Only Fans rather than filming a scene for a traditional porn studio.Eva graciously answers listener questions about:When she fully realized she is a STARPrepping for a porn shootConnection to the sissy communitySpeaking of sissies, since Eva is a Top, it’s natural to ask her about trying some Femdom scenes with a sissy or two.  Ms Olivia and Ms Erika offer to team up with some Domme content.This is the first of a 2 part interview and Eva will be back again!Eva Maxim Only FansTwitter X:  @Eva_MaximMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

Are you curious about threesomes, foursomes and moresomes? This episode has tips on group sex, personal stories and lots of advice.Adult entertainment publicist and author Lainie Speiser joins us to talk about her book: Threesomes: For couples who want to know more.The Weekly Hot Spot podcast listeners sent in lots of questions. How often does a threesome “just happen”?How can you spot someone asking you to be in a threesome?Do you think you’ve ever missed an opportunity for group sex?Should you have a safe word, like in BDSM, for swingers encounters?What happens if you find yourself in a situation where you just aren’t into it and you want to lease?How to negotiate consent with group sex?Who gets to do what?Do men ever get performance anxiety when with two women?What about a couple who want to add another man or, even, a sissy?How to find a threesome if you want to be the third to a couple?How to talk to your partner about exploring non-traditional sex?Hear personal stories, solid advice and so much more.Link to books by Lainie Speiser (get all of them!)Twitter X and Insta:  @MissLainie    Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

Questions about blow jobs? We’ve got answers in this episode with adult entertainment publicist Lainie Speiser.  How do women feel about giving blow jobs?What do these three sexy women like most about giving a blow job?Do porn stars actually enjoy giving blow jobs or do they fake it for the camera?How do porn stars give great blow jobs?Using your hand along with your mouth for blow jobs.Tips for learning to deep throat a big cockHow to control your gag reflex.How to make sure your teeth don’t ruin the blow job.Find out who came up with the term deep throat.What is a fellatio fiesta?Learn about Michael and his blow bros.Find out how many loads of cum Michael the cum junkie has slurped up this year.Freezing cum loadsBDSM, kink and being submissiveDoes a Femdom give a blow job?Can a blow job be part of an elaborate mindfuck?Do porn shoots still use fluffers and how does someone get that job?Listener questions inspire this episode. You’ll learn some sex education, hear intimate behind the scenes stories and so much more!Link to books by Lainie Speiser (get all of them!)Twitter X and Insta:  @MissLainie    Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone [email protected]:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika