The Relationship Rehab

Welcome back to The Relationship Rehab Podcast! After seven months away, I'm finally back behind the microphone. And,  soooo much has happened that I need to fill you in on!  Life has flipped me upside down and has taken me through a huge period of change, grief, growth and transformation! In this episode, I'm opening up about my own rebuilding season, leaving Thailand after 10 years of living there, coming back to Wales, navigating an unexpected house renovation, and pressing pause on my business, to stepping into a completely new chapter of life. I'll be sharing some of the biggest lessons I've been learning along the way in this episode in the hope that it will help you out if you're in your own rebuilding season.  In this episode, we explore: Why I stepped away from the podcast for seven months and what has been happening behind the scenes. Leaving Thailand after 10 years and navigating the grief of saying goodbye to a life and identity I had become deeply attached to. Why not every ending means something has gone wrong or failed. The importance of grieving one chapter before rushing into the next. Learning to recognise when a dream, relationship, career or lifestyle has reached its natural completion. Trusting God's guidance and learning to surrender when the next chapter doesn't make logical sense. Why we often choose familiar pain over unfamiliar freedom, and how our nervous system influences our resistance to change. The importance of committing to your decisions rather than keeping one foot in and one foot out. Understanding that some people will show up for you during your transitions, while others won't — and learning to accept both. The difference between being supported and being saved. Taking ownership of your life, reclaiming your autonomy and recognising that you have the power to make different choices. Creating structure and a timeline for yourself when life feels uncertain. Why the dream you once had doesn't have to be the dream you carry forever. Let's stay connected! If this episode resonated with you, I'd absolutely love it if you could: 🌹 Leave a rating and review on your podcast platform. It helps the podcast reach more women who might need these conversations. 💬 Leave a comment and share your biggest takeaway from this episode. I'd love to hear what season of life you're currently navigating. 📲 Follow The Relationship Rehab on Instagram for more conversations around secure relationships, attachment, nervous system healing, personal growth and becoming the woman you're meant to be. Thank you for being here, for your patience during my little disappearing act, and for allowing me to bring you along on this next chapter! Love, Samantha 🌻

I’m excited to be joined by Sophia for a real, honest conversation about sobriety, anxious attachment, and what it’s actually like to date without using alcohol as a confidence crutch. If you’ve ever felt like you need a drink to relax on a date, to feel “fun,” to be more open, or to handle the intensity of your own emotions… you’re going to feel very seen in this episode! Sophia shares her journey to sobriety, the identity shift that came with it, and how getting sober didn’t take her life away, it actually gave her more clarity, confidence, boundaries, and a deeper connection to herself. Whether you’re sober-curious, healing anxious attachment, or just tired of abandoning yourself in dating… this episode is for you. In this episode, we cover: Sophia’s turning point moment that led her to sobriety (and why breakups can be the catalyst) How alcohol can create a false sense of confidence, connection, and intimacy The fear of “who am I without drinking?” and the grief of letting go of the party-girl identity What sober dating actually looks like and how people’s reactions reveal instant red flags How anxious attachment shows up when you’re sober (and what changes when you stop numbing) Why sobriety can help you follow through on boundaries instead of self-abandoning The “mirror moment” of dating someone anxiously attached and how it can heal your past self About Sophia Sophia Graniela is the podcast host of Her Journey Home, a storyteller, and an EFT tapping practitioner devoted to the art of sharing your truth. She explores sobriety, reclaiming your 30s, and the messy, courageous work of becoming yourself. Her work centers on helping women release fear, reconnect to their voice, and remember that their story holds power. Connect with Sophia Her Journey Home Podcast Instagram: @sophiagraniela If you loved this episode… Share it with a friend who’s sober-curious and share your sober dating stories in the comments below! Love, Samantha xx If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: https://www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab/ Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a deeply personal life transition and the powerful lessons I’m learning when it comes to finally listening to our intuition, releasing control and surrendering to God, even when things feel uncertain. Whether you’re questioning a relationship, a job, or a place you’ve outgrown, this conversation will help you understand the difference between anxiety and intuition, and how to access clarity when you feel stuck. In this episode, we cover: Why I’ve been taking time off and the “big adult decision” I’ve been sitting with The feeling of being “stuck” on a soul level (even when life looks fine on paper) How fear shows up loud and urgent and why intuition is quiet, gentle, and steady Why anxious attachment can override your inner knowing in relationships The difference between emotion (nervous system activation) and feeling (deep inner truth) The role of grief when you choose alignment (even when it’s the right choice) Why “uncertainty” triggers anxiety and how faith helps you tolerate the unknown ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored 7-Day Breakup Detox Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/detox-checklist Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

In this episode, Samantha sits down with Clover — a divorce money coach and creator of The Divorce Glow Up, to talk about the thing so many women go through when facing divorce: financial dependence and worries. Clover shares her own story of moving countries for her marriage, losing financial footing, and facing the terrifying (but transformational) moment of having to rebuild from scratch. Together, they explore how financial fear keeps women stuck in relationships, why “I can’t afford to leave” often needs clarity (not shame), and how rebuilding self-trust is the real glow-up. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: The moment Clover’s intuition warned her… before the divorce even happened How money becomes a safety issue The hidden cost of self-sacrifice in relationships What “Divorce Glow Up” actually means The #1 fear women carry around money A practical first step for women who feel financially trapped Using fear as fuel (instead of letting it freeze you) Clover Lam is a post-divorce reinvention coach for women. Divorced at 30 and retired at 40, her own journey brought her to understand the complexity of rebuilding life after divorce. Through her signature 8-pillar framework, “The Divorce Glow-Up Roadmap”, she provides practical tools to help women regain confidence, reclaim their identities and rebuild a life that’s true to them. Her holistic approach combines mindset coaching, somatic healing, financial and lifestyle planning to create a one stop shop for women to turn pain into a glow-up. Clover’s Links: Freebie: Money glow-up journal https://thedivorceglowup.myflodesk.com/moneyjournal Website: http://thedivorceglowup.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/thedivoreceglowup The Glow Up Reset: https://www.thedivorceglowup.com/glowupreset If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

You’re about to hear a powerful snippet from my live masterclass “How to Let Go of Your Ex” — and this part is the one everyone needs to hear. In this clip, I share the most dangerous mistake people make after a breakup (and why it’s a huge reason the dating pool feels so chaotic right now). If you’ve been trying to “move on” by staying busy, staying strong, or jumping back into dating… this episode will land. Want the full masterclass replay? The full replay of “How to Let Go of Your Ex” is available for a limited time. Watch it by January 30 (then it will be taken down). 👉 https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/let-go-of-ex Ready to go all-in on detachment? My 30-Day Reset Program: Breakup With Your Breakup is now open. This is for the person who’s ready to commit to the 4-step detachment process — to release the grip your ex has on your mind, heart, and nervous system… and finally feel lighter, calmer, and confident again. We start Tuesday, February 3. 👉 https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/breakup-with-your-breakup If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored 7 Day Breakup Detox Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/detox-checklist Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

If your ex is living rent-free in your head (and charging you emotional interest)… this episode is for you. Whether the breakup was last week or years ago, if you’re stuck in rumination, craving contact, stalking socials, comparing everyone to them, or feeling like you’ve turned into a needy 5-year-old when you’re actually a grown, capable human… I’ve got you my love ❤️ Inside this episode, I break down the 5 biggest reasons it feels so hard to let go from an anxious attachment lens, and what to do so you can finally reclaim your peace. Grab the resources mentioned in the episode: ➡️ “How to Let Go of Your Ex” FREE Masterclass (Jan 20th) I’ll walk you through the exact framework I teach to help you start the detachment process so you can stop looping, stop internalising, and start rebuilding your secure self for real. In this episode, we talk about: ✨ Why you might still be “re-opening the wound” (even if you swear you’re fine) through contact, checking socials, keeping the chat thread, or staying close to their family ✨ How the dopamine breadcrumb loop keeps you addicted to tiny hits of attention… and then spiralling into shame ✨ What’s actually happening when your abandonment wound gets activated and why breakups can feel like survival-level panic ✨ Why “closure” can become a trap when things feel unfinished or confusing (especially after situationships and mixed messages) ✨ How to knock them off the pedestal without revenge spirals and come back to choosing yourself ✨ Why trying to “move on already” can backfire and how to stop rushing the grief If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Freebies: “How to Let Go of Your Ex” FREE Masterclass (Jan 20th) The 7Day Breakup Detox Checklist Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment The Relationship Rehab Podcast: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/podcast Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Breakthrough Sessions: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/breakthroughs Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

I debated with myself whether to share this story but it’s such an integral part of my anxious attachment healing journey, I had to. Especially after some encouragement from others who always wondered if they “should” meet up with their ex after a few years of no contact. So this is my experience meeting up with the ex I thought was “the one who got away”… DISCLAIMER: This isn’t a gossip episode. It’s about my experience, what I’ve learnt from it, and what it really looks like to meet someone from your past after you’ve done the work to heal anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, and old relationship patterns. Grab the resources mentioned in the episode here: ➡️ The 7Day Breakup Detox Checklist ➡️ ”How to Let Go of Your Ex” Free Masterclass on Jan 13th. In this episode, you’ll hear: ✨ The backstory of the relationship I was sure I’d never get over – the one I believed I’d “ruined” with anxious attachment ✨ Why no contact was absolutely essential for both of us (even when I tried to cling to his family + crumbs of connection) ✨ How it felt when he unexpectedly reached out six years later… and why my “full body yes” wasn’t about rekindling romance ✨ The difference between needing closure and being genuinely curious and grounded enough to reconnect ✨ The 3 big realizations I had about detachment. ✨ …and so much more! ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment The Relationship Rehab Podcast: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/podcast Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Breakthrough Sessions: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/breakthroughs Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

Can we really be friends with our exes? Spoiler: there’s no black-and-white answer… but there are some very clear red and green flags. >> Download the 7 Day Breakup Detox Guide HERE. In this episode, we talk about: ✨ Whether we can really be friends with our ex… or are we just clinging to crumbs? ✨ The BIG red flags that friendship with an ex is actually keeping you stuck ✨ How anxious attachment shows up as “situationship cosplay” (calling it friendship, still secretly hoping they’ll come back) ✨ The avoidant ex who “feels safer” as just friends – and how that can mess with your head ✨ My personal stories about being friends with MY exes ✨ Green flags for when friendship with an ex can actually work ✨ How to use your body (not your fantasy) as your compass for what’s right for you ✨ Why choosing space and no contact is not immature – it’s self-respect ✨ …and so much more! ➡️ Leave a comment and let me know your biggest takeaway from this episode – are you team “friends with exes” or team “block and bless”? 👀 Love, Samantha xx If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Freebies: 7 Day Breakup Detox Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/detox-checklist LIVE MASTERCLASS: How to Let Go of Your Ex [Jan 6th 2026]: **https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/let-go-of-ex** Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

If you’ve ever been stuck in the push–pull with an avoidant partner and wondered, “Is this actually fixable, or am I just torturing myself?”… this episode is the reality check (and hope) you’ve been needing. In this conversation, I’m joined by Rebecca and Pablo from Connection Counseling – a formerly anxious–avoidant couple who not only stayed together, but did the deep work to become secure in themselves and in their marriage. Rebecca opens up about her experience as an anxiously attached partner, raised by an avoidant mother and unconsciously repeating that pattern in love. Pablo shares honestly from the avoidant side – the shutdowns, the urge to flee, the shame, the rock bottom moment, and what finally made him choose to change. Together, we explore the real truth about anxious–avoidant relationships: ✨ When they can work ✨ When they absolutely shouldn’t ✨ And what it actually takes for both partners to move toward secure attachment. If this episode hits home and you’re ready to start healing your own anxious attachment, I’ve created a free guide to help you take your first steps: 👉 Download: The Anxious Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Connect with Rebecca & Pablo Website: connection-counselling.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncounselling.ca/ YouTube Channel: @ConnectionCounselling Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

In this deeply personal episode, I’m taking you all the way back to my first love, my most toxic relationship, and the breakup that completely shattered my world… and eventually led me to booking a one-way ticket to Thailand, which completely transformed my life. I share the real story I usually “brush over” when people ask, “So what brought you to Thailand?” — the emotional rollercoaster of an 8-year codependent relationship with an avoidant partner, the red flags I ignored, the moment I finally said “enough,” and how that pain became the portal to the biggest breakthrough of my life. I share this story with those who are stuck in toxic relationships, terrified to leave, or trying to rebuild their lives after a breakup. I want you to know that you are not alone and to inspire hope in your broken heart that this painful chapter of your life is about to crack you open. In this episode, I talk about: Meeting my first love at 15 and how our “obsessive teenage romance” slowly turned into codependency The early red flags I ignored How I lost myself completely and made him my whole world The emotional abuse that chipped away my self-worth The exact moment I knew I had to leave and how I actually found the courage to end it The aftermath: depression, anxiety, social anxiety, and rebuilding myself piece by piece How solo travel, self-love, and spiritual connection led me to a completely new identity The nudge from God that led to Thailand and why I never looked back ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! ➡️ Join my IG Lives at the end of every week where we unpack each episode & your questions Love, Samantha xx If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver Freebies: Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored Workshops & Courses 1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver