The Divorce Podcast

This week, Kate sits down with Josh Tomeoni, founder of Narrative Financial Group and host of The Derelict Podcast, to explore why men often struggle in silence during divorce and separation and what they can do about it.Men's mental health during divorce: practical tips from a divorced dadDivorce can be isolating - especially for men. Josh candidly shares his own separation story and opens up about the loneliness many men face during divorce. Together,  he and Kate discuss the impact separation can have on mental health and offer actionable advice: from finding the right sources of validation to pausing and making space for yourself when everything feels overwhelming.What we cover:Josh’s personal separation storyWhy divorce can feel lonely for menThe hidden toll on men's mental healthTop tips for looking after yourself during and after divorceTrigger Warning: This episode mentions miscarriage. We understand this can be a sensitive topic, so please take care of yourself while listening.Josh Tomeoni - podcast host, author and financial plannerJosh Tomeoni is a founder of Narrative Financial Group and host of The Derelict Podcast. He spent over 20 years in wealth management and financial strategy, specialising in helping high-earning divorced men rebuild both their finances and their lives. As a divorced dad himself, he combines practical guidance with a deep understanding of how divorce impacts wealth, identity and fatherhood. Josh’s passion is equipping men with the tools to recover financially, protect their lifestyle and thrive in their next chapter.Connect with Josh:Get in touch with Josh on Instagram - @joshthederelict and ask to speak to him directly. You can also purchase his book The 5 Traps Men Face in Divorce...and How to Triumph Over Them! on Amazon.More divorce resources:Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world #EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate is joined by Sarah Furness, performance expert and former combat helicopter pilot, to hear her story of separation and what she’s learned along the way.Mindfulness and resilience during divorceSarah opens up about her experience of divorce in the military, the emotional challenges that came with it, and how her family helped her through. She shares how these experiences led her to focus on mindfulness, resilience and wellbeing.Kate and Sarah explore practical techniques for managing emotions during divorce, reframing your mindset and finding calm during change. They also talk about common myths around co-parenting and how sharing personal experiences, both at work and in everyday life, can help build stronger connections.A summary of what we cover:Navigating the practicalities of divorce in the militarySarah’s go-to techniques for managing emotions and mindsetWhy your child isn’t “broken” because of your divorceHow openness and authenticity can build stronger human connectionsSarah Furness and her workSarah is a Founder of Well Be It, a coaching consultancy specialising in employee resilience and empowered leadership. She’s a keynote speaker, bestselling author and former helicopter pilot. After graduating from Cambridge University, Sarah followed her dream to become a combat helicopter pilot in the RAF. As a Squadron Leader she led on operational combat tours in Iraq and Afghanistan and she was the first female helicopter pilot to fly and lead UK Special Forces missions in Iraq. So she has a proven track record leading teams to victory in the most extreme conditions. As a qualified mindfulness coach and human factors facilitator Sarah combines her military expertise with proven cognitive techniques to expertly guide people on their own journey of discovery. More divorce resourcesYou can learn more about Sarah Furness on her website, you can purchase her book Fly Higher on Amazon and you can find out more about her coaching services on Well Be It website.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #SeparationStory

This week, Kate is joined by Candice Bull, Divorce Specialist at amicable, to unpack what a prenup is and why you might need one.Prenup 101Kate and Candice talk through everything you need to know about prenuptial agreements - what they cover, how long they last and whether they’re automatically legally binding. They explore how to make sure a prenup is fair for both partners and why these agreements are not just for the wealthy.Candice also shares why more couples are choosing prenups today, how often they need to be updated and how to start this conversation with your partner.Here are some points covered in this episode:What a prenup is and what it includesWhen to update your prenupHow to keep things fair when one partner has more moneyWhy prenups are becoming more common among younger couplesTop tips for discussing a prenup togetherCandice Bull from amicableCandice is a Negotiation Divorce Specialist and part of the Negotiation Team at amicable. After qualifying as a family law solicitor in 2019, she gained invaluable experience in private family law practice. Passionate about supporting couples through separation, Candice is dedicated to empowering them to make informed decisions about their future and guiding them through constructive negotiations which are kind, collaborative and truly amicable.More divorce resourcesGot a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world #LegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by Susie Giles and Liz Harrington from Family Flow, and Anthony Syder from amicable, to explore what being truly amicable looks like when relationships end.Amicable divorce: expectation vs realityKate and her guests discuss how Family Flow supports women through separation with a compassionate, trauma-informed approach, and how amicable helps couples navigate divorce. Together, they dive into why an ‘amicable separation’ is often more of an aspiration than a reality, how things can shift from calm to conflict when solicitors and finances get involved, the common concerns women face when using joint divorce services and how to create a fairer balance around money. Anthony also shares what support couples can expect from amicable’s experts during negotiations, and we wrap up with practical tips for staying amicable - and redefining your relationship post-split.Family Flow and amicableSusie Giles is a trauma-informed coach specialising in separation, divorce and family wellbeing. ICF-trained and grounded in evidence-based approaches, she supports individuals - particularly mothers - in navigating the emotional and practical complexities of family breakdown with clarity, confidence and compassion. Her work is informed not just by professional expertise but by lived experience. Alongside her coaching, Susie offers specialist guidance on post-separation communication, co-parenting and keeping children emotionally safe through transition.Liz Harrington is a Somatic Trauma Therapist and coach with over 12 years’ experience supporting women through the complex aftermath of toxic relationships, coercive control and high-conflict divorces. Her work is deeply informed by both her professional expertise and her personal journey - including the power imbalances she has witnessed and lived through, pre- and post-divorce. She is currently finishing a bold, potentially controversial book that challenges the systemic issues within the divorce landscape - from how professionals handle family breakdown to the wider cultural forces at play.Anthony Syder is a Negotiation Specialist and the team lead for amicable's financial consent order drafting team. His areas of interest include the voice of the child in separation and diverse families. Anthony was previously an accredited family mediator and also sat on the board of the Family Mediators Association.More divorce resources:You can learn more about Family Flow on their website and you can listen to the previous episode of The Divorce Podcast with Liz Harrington on your favourite platform.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #LegalBit

This week, Kate is joined by James Hayhurst, founder of The Parents Promise, to discuss a new school initiative designed to help children cope with the impact of family separation.How parental conflict impacts children at schoolJames introduces The Parents Promise and its mission before he and Kate explore the statistics behind this education initiative. They discuss how parental conflict during separation can affect children’s wellbeing and performance at school. James also shares his Five to Thrive steps that schools, teachers and parents can take to make a real difference.Here are some points covered in this episode:What The Parents Promise is and how it supports familiesThe impact of family separation on children’s school lifeFive to Thrive steps for teachers and parentsFree resources available to support teachers, parents and childrenJames Hayhurst and The Parents PromiseJames Hayhurst is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise. Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the numbers of children and parents affected, James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation. In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations, the Parents Promise was launched.More divorce resources:You can learn more about James and his work on The Parents Promise website and you can connect with him on LinkedIn. You can learn more about the Education Initiative here and you can listen to our episode about the HR Initiative here.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jonathan Fitter-Harding, a creative entrepreneur and proud dad of two, to hear his separation story and share some practical co-parenting insights.About the episode: Jonathan opens up about his separation and shares how well-meaning friends and family unknowingly made things more challenging. He and Kate dive into co-parenting, focusing on the ‘nesting’ arrangement and explore the practical day-to-day details of this approach. They also talk about the benefits of joint therapy and how it can help separated couples maintain a positive relationship for their children. Jonathan shares how therapy even supported them in navigating finances during the separation. Finally, he explains how he continues to co-run a business with his ex-partner and how their approach to separation has made this collaborative journey possible.A summary of what we cover:Jonathan’s separation story‘Nesting’ co-parenting arrangementBenefits of joint therapy for separated couplesRunning  a business with an ex-partnerAbout our guests:Jonathan Fitter-Harding is a proud dad of two, a creative entrepreneur and one of the key people behind Pride Canterbury - the main LGBTQ+ event in the South East. He helped lead the way in bringing secure dog fields to Kent, runs a boutique hotel and juggles a property business too. After an amicable split from his husband, Jon has built a strong, respectful co-parenting setup that puts their kids first. His story is a great reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean conflict, it can lead to clarity, connection and even a well-earned glass of champagne now and then.More resources:You can get in touch with Jonathan’s counsellor, Jenny Blain, via her website.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

In this episode, Kate unpacks what it’s like to navigate shared friendships after a high-conflict split - and offers guidance for the friends caught in the middle.About the episode:Kate begins by exploring how high-conflict separations can disrupt friendships and social circles, often leaving ex-partners feeling sidelined or isolated. She then shares practical guidance for separated couples - from setting clear boundaries to allowing space to grieve the loss of old friendship dynamics. The episode wraps up with advice for friends who want to support both sides, including why it’s important to avoid acting as a go-between and how to check in privately in a way that feels safe and supportive.How to help a friend through a high-conflict separationIf someone in your friend group is going through a separation, small gestures of care can make a big difference - especially if there is a lot of tension between them. Here are some simple ways to support both people:Offer to listen without providing solutionsMake sure they feel safe and cared forShare compassion, but avoid taking sides or being the go-betweenIf certain boundaries are set, do your best to honour them (where practically possible)Accept that your friendship with both of them (and the wider group) could changeTry to avoid being pulled into gossip or rumoursRemember to prioritise your wellbeingYou can find out more from our guide to helping a friend or family member through separation.More resources:The studies mentioned in this episode are Amato (2000), Afifi et al. (2015) and Symoens et al. (2013).Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram. They might be the topic of our next podcast!We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world #LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by Annmarie Chereso, a relationship coach and author, to discuss the role of fear in divorce and separation - and what you can do about it.About the episode: Annmarie starts by sharing her own story of divorce. Kate and her then talk about the role of fear and uncertainty and how they might hinder the separation process. Annmarie also gives some tips on how to talk to yourself in those difficult moments and how to accept the contradictory nature of your present situation. They move on to talk about the importance of taking responsibility for your own actions in the divorce - to stop the blame game and move to a more amicable outcome. They also discuss the importance of supporting each other’s growth and evolution, even if it might result in the relationship ending. Annmarie shares how fear can create drama in relationships ending and, more importantly, how to stop that from happening. She finishes off by discussing how all these principles apply in keeping peace and harmony in her large blended family of nine.  A summary of what we cover:Annmarie’s personal divorce storyHow fear makes separation harder and creates dramaTaking responsibility to reduce blame in divorceWays to overcome fear and reduce unnecessary conflictBuilding peace in a large blended familyAbout our guests:Annmarie Chereso is a conscious relationship coach, speaker and author of the #1 International Best Seller Anthology, The Perfectly Imperfect Family. She is devoted to helping women lead empowered, fulfilling lives from the inside out. With over two decades of experience, she blends deep wisdom with practical tools to help women break generational patterns, navigate conflict with clarity and reconnect with their true selves. Her mission is to help women let go of conditioned beliefs, embody unconditional love and step into their full potential. Living her teachings, Annmarie resides in Chicago with her husband, where they joyfully navigate life with their beautifully blended family of nine - a living testament to her work in cultivating harmony and conscious connection.More resources:You can learn more about Annmarie and get in touch with her on her websiteGot a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

In this mini-episode, Kate shares practical tips on how to navigate shared friend groups after an amicable separation. She also offers advice for friends of separating couples. This episode focuses on situations where things end on good terms - guidance for higher-conflict separations will be covered in an upcoming episode.About the episode:Kate begins with tips for separated couples, from discussing social plans in advance to the importance of not oversharing personal details. She finishes the episode by sharing advice for friends who want to support both people - from handling group invitations sensitively to avoiding the trap of over-praising the couple’s maturity.How to help a friend through separationIf someone in your friend group is going through a separation, small gestures of care can make a big difference. Here are some simple ways to support them both:Offer to listen without providing solutionsMake sure they feel safe and cared forShare compassion, not comparisons to your own situations or too much adviceOffer practical help, like meals or pet carePoint them towards trusted resources You can find out more from our guide to helping a friend or family member through separation.More resources:Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram. They might be the topic of our next podcast!We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: amicable divorce  #LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate Daly is joined by Stephen Wildblood, King’s Counsel and a playwright, to discuss non-court dispute resolution (NCDR).About the episode: Kate and Stephen start by unpacking what NCDR (non-court dispute resolution) is, the main types available and the key benefits of choosing this route over going to court to finalise a divorce. From there, they explore why NCDR isn’t as widely considered as it could be, and discuss simple ways to raise its profile with the public. Stephen then shares how the plays he writes are helping to shine a light on NCDR - and why this creative approach is such an effective way to spread awareness. Finally, we look ahead, imagining other ways to reach a wider audience and ensure NCDR becomes the go-to choice for untying the knot.A summary of what they cover:Main types of NCDR and their key benefitsWhy NCDR isn’t as widely considered as it could be during divorceUnorthodox ways to make NCDR people’s first choice when separatingAbout our guests:Stephen Wildblood KC was the Designated Family Judge for the Bristol area for ten years before stepping down in November 2023. He continues to sit as a Judge, part-time, in the Family and High Courts. He practised as a Family barrister for 27 years – the last eight and a half as a KC. His practice was divided equally between children and financial remedy cases. Stephen has written for over 20 legal textbooks and regularly lectures on all aspects of family law. He and Dr Freda Gardner (a consultant clinical psychologist) have set up a business which helps couples resolve family issues relating to money and children without litigation. They are both trained mediators. Stephen is a qualified Family arbitrator in relation to children and financial issues. He has joined 3 PB barristers' chambers as an associate member offering private financial hearings, early neutral evaluation and arbitration. You’ll learn more about this in the podcast episode. He is a man of many talents and is a playwright and author too. He believes that going to court should be a last resort in divorce and children cases.More resources:You can learn more about Stephen and get in touch with him through Gardner Wildblood LLP or 3 Paper Buildings.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at [email protected] or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Legal