Queer Collective Podcast

Why do queer people love horror so much? Lesbian vampires, forbidden desire, two men making a baby… this genre has some explaining to do. Cinema researcher Tamar Hanstke joins us to unpack queer horror, from 'Frankenstein' and 'The Vampire Lovers' to 'Jennifer’s Body' and 'The Rocky Horror Picture Show'. We’re talking LGBTQ+ representation, queer subtext, camp, and the suspiciously thin line between a monster and a gay icon. How did a genre that made us the monsters become our comfort watch? Grab your emotional support horror movie. We’re getting into it. Pair Eyewear: https://paireyewear.yt.link/AXgAX0T use code QUEERCOLLECTIVEGIFT15 for a free gift with purchase! Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Beducated: https://beducate.me/queercollective use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 50% off your order Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Why Do Queer People Love Horror? 01:09 Halloween Is Gay Christmas 03:53 Why We See Ourselves in the Monster 09:45 Sponsors: Pair Eyewear & Beducated 12:48 Frankenstein: Two Men Making a Baby 19:09 Trans Rage & Reclaiming Frankenstein 24:16 Mary Shelley’s Very Queer Letters 28:42 James Whale: Horror’s Gay Godfather 33:55 Sponsor: Feeld 35:57 Carmilla: Lesbian Vampires & the Male Gaze 46:34 Vampire Bites Are Never Just Bites 50:30 What Is Camp? A Love of Bad Taste 55:21 Rocky Horror & Jennifer’s Body: Queer Cult Classics 57:28 Freaky: A Body Swap with Trans Subtext 59:58 Why Horror Is Our Comfort Watch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Butch lesbians were once punished for being too visible. Now the internet claims they’re disappearing. So what happened? We’re investigating the so-called “masc shortage” with lesbian studies professor Dr. Tori Smith and masc lesbian coach Raia Carey. Are masc lesbians actually disappearing, or are dating expectations, changing identities, and decades of lesbian erasure shaping who gets seen? From butch and stud history to transmasculine identities, lesbophobia, and the lack of masculine lesbian representation in mainstream media, we’re unpacking why this dating complaint goes WAY deeper than you’d expect. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Beducated code: code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 50% off your order https://beducate.me/queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 0:00 Where Did All the Masc Lesbians Go? 0:47 What Does It Mean to Be Butch, Stud, Transmasculine & Masc? 6:46 Reclaiming “Dyke”: Empowering or Painful? 10:29 Are We Actually in a Masc Shortage? 11:51 What Kind of Masc Are You Actually Looking For? 13:35 The “Butch Flight” Panic: Why Trans Men Got Blamed 23:29 Are Transmasc People Welcome in Lesbian Spaces? 28:23 The Visible Lesbian: Creation & Criminalization of the Butch 30:13 When Dressing Butch Could Get You Arrested 32:55 The Shared History of Lesbians and Trans People 39:10 Why Patriarchy Fears Masculine Lesbians 42:14 How Lesbophobia Still Shows Up Today 53:27 Code-Switching for Safety as a Black Masc Lesbian 1:00:56 The Paradox of Butch Invisibility 1:03:36 Why TV Keeps Softening Butch Lesbians 1:06:28 The Fight for Butch Representation Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

After six years together, living together, building a business and opening our relationship, we broke up… and somehow stayed friends. Two years later, we’re finally unpacking what that actually took. With psychotherapist Jennifer Hanson, we get into why queer people keep their exes so close, when friendship is worth fighting for, when it keeps you stuck, jealousy, new partners, no-contact, boundaries, and the messy process of learning to love someone differently. Grow Therapy: https://growtherapy.yt.link/SRQ2Sj7! Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Beducated code: code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 50% off your order https://beducate.me/queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 We Dated for 6 Years… Now We’re Friends 01:44 Why Queer People Stay Friends With Their Exes 05:00 Should You Actually Stay Friends With Your Ex? 08:59 When Is an Ex Worth Keeping in Your Life? 11:45 When You Should NEVER Stay Friends With an Ex 12:10 What If Your Ex Doesn’t Want to Be Friends? 18:18 How Do You Actually Become Friends With an Ex? 19:57 The Boundaries You Need After a Breakup 23:58 Why Am I Jealous If I Don’t Want Them Back? 29:00 Are Non-Monogamous People Better at Breakups? 38:11 Sharing Friends When Your Ex Starts Dating Again 48:17 Do You Need No Contact After a Breakup? 52:30 How We Broke Up While Still Living Together 55:05 The Problem With Hoping You’ll Get Back Together 57:13 Should You EVER Hook Up With an Ex? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why do trans and gender-nonconforming people keep showing up suspiciously close to gods, prophecy and ancient religion? With trans historian Sophie Edwards, we follow a wildly gay historical trail through the ancient mediterranean to ask why people crossing gender boundaries were so often imagined as closer to the divine. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 0:00 Why Were Trans People So Close to the Divine? 1:00 Can We Call Ancient People Trans? 2:22 The Enarees: Trans Diviners Trusted by Kings 8:30 Why Was Gender-Crossing Linked to Prophecy? 11:50 The Galli: Rome’s Trans Feminine Priestesses 16:20 Ancient Gender-Affirming Care & the Day of Blood 23:15 How Did Ancient Rome Treat the Galli? 28:49 Where Did the Galli Go? 30:40 The Trans Saints of Early Christianity 31:55 Saint Pelagius: The Trans Saint & Former Sex Worker 42:42 Saint Marinos: Exiled Rather Than Out Himself 51:06 Is Transness Connected to the Divine? 54:15 Tiresias: Gender-Crossing, Gods & Prophecy 59:03 The Mystery of the Bearded Venus 1:04:37 We Have Always Existed Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Thin is back. Ozempic bodies, heroin chic nostalgia, shrinking celebrities, and suddenly the body positivity era feels like a fever dream. We’re revisiting one of our favourite conversations with artist and body liberation advocate Jennarie to unpack what fatphobia actually does to us, why thin privilege is so invisible, and how diet culture keeps turning our insecurity into profit. Because you can’t heal your relationship with your body while still being terrified of looking fat. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2633-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 0:00 Thin Is Back, and That Should Scare Us 1:09 Body Liberation Is Bigger Than Body Positivity 4:03 Growing Up Terrified of Being Fat 12:14 Why Fat People Aren’t Allowed to Be Desirable 20:32 Ads 23:17 Who Decided Thin = Attractive? 27:49 When Doctors Blame Everything on Your Weight 36:31 Why “Just Go to the Gym” Is Bullshit 44:25 What Fat Allyship Actually Looks Like 49:12 Ads 51:37 Why Plus-Size Shopping Is a Different Reality 60:15 Why Are We So Afraid of Looking Fat? 64:09 “You Don’t Look Fat” Isn’t a Compliment 67:14 The Fatphobia You Don’t Know You Have 72:30 Ozempic, Heroin Chic & Why Thin Is Back 75:19 How Do We Actually Find Fat Joy? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Your crush takes three hours to text back, and suddenly your brain has written, directed and cancelled the entire relationship. We’re unpacking queer neurodivergent dating, sex and intimacy with psychotherapist Frankie Talon Rose: rejection sensitivity, limerence, masking, sensory overload, autistic flirting, kink, consent and the ADHD brain thinking about laundry mid-hookup. From AuDHD dating chaos to shutdowns in long-term relationships, this is a practical, spicy guide to building love around the brain you actually have, not the neurotypical fantasy you were handed. Direct communication has never been hotter. FREE TOYS OR GIFT CARDS FOR TOYS! Everyone who signs up to our giveaway with @bellesaco wins something! https://www.shopbboutique.co/vibe/queercollective-yt Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2631-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Why Queer People Are More Likely to Be Autistic 02:26 Autism Self-Diagnosis vs. Formal Diagnosis 04:52 How Autism–Trans Research Gets Weaponized 06:24 What Is AuDHD? Autism + ADHD Explained 12:00 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria in Dating 19:59 Limerence, Hyperfixation & Obsessive Crushes 26:31 Autistic Flirting & the Double Empathy Problem 32:21 Sensory Overload on First Dates 37:41 Masking and Unmasking in Relationships 41:53 Autistic Meltdowns: How Partners Can Help 46:11 ADHD, Hypersexuality & Sexual Impulsivity 50:00 Why ADHD Brains Get Distracted During Sex 55:12 Autism, Kink & Sensory Needs in Bed 59:52 AAC and Nonverbal Consent During Sex 1:03:37 Neurodivergent Shame, Sex & Self-Acceptance Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We’re unpacking aromanticism. What if the person everyone calls cold, avoidant, or emotionally unavailable simply doesn’t experience romantic attraction? We’re tracing the misunderstood world of aromanticism; From the rise of the aro label and the pressure of amatonormativity to the myths that confuse aromantic people with trauma, autism, asexuality, or commitment issues. We’re also asking the gay little question society hates most: can intimacy, partnership, and sex exist without romance? Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2631-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Aromantic or Emotionally Unavailable? 01:26 What Does Aromantic Mean? 05:54 Sex Without Romance 13:30 What Falling in Love Feels Like 19:20 Am I Aromantic? 35:05 Aromantic vs. Asexual 39:17 The Aromantic Spectrum 47:28 What Is Amatonormativity? 51:34 Marriage Before Romantic Love 57:44 Aromantic People in History 1:06:15 How Aromanticism Got Its Name 1:14:26 Does “Love Is Love” Exclude Aros? 1:20:52 Aromantic Myths 1:35:15 Allo-Aro or Fuckboy? 1:42:14 Why Aromantics Aren’t Taken Seriously Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We’re dragging lesbian-bisexual relationship drama out of the group chat and onto the mic. From “she’ll leave me for a man” panic to bisexual erasure, biphobia, anxious attachment, queer gatekeeping, and the cursed phrase “basically a lesbian now,” we’re unpacking the insecurities sapphic couples whisper about but rarely say out loud. It’s messy, tender, deeply researched, and yes, someone is probably getting lovingly read. Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2626-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 The Man She Might Leave You For 01:02 Lesbian Insecurities, Unfiltered 05:08 It’s Not Really About Him 10:04 The First Sapphic Relationship Panic 15:32 What Am I Not Providing? 21:11 The Straight-Life Fantasy 24:48 The “Good Bisexual” Trap 31:06 Were You Really Left For A Man? 35:25 Are Lesbians Centering Men? 40:31 Bisexuality As The “Deviant Other” 46:35 A Listener Challenges The Narrative 1:00:47 When Queerness Becomes Political 1:12:58 Bisexual Insecurities Come Out 1:20:00 The Pressure To Identify As Lesbian 1:28:32 Sapphic Red Flags Game Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Bisexuality has been gaslit for literally thousands of years. We’re tracing the chaotic, horny, surprisingly academic history of bisexuality. From ancient queer goddesses and emperors building cities for their boyfriends, to Freud being confidently incorrect (again), 1970s sapphic beef, and the Bisexual Manifesto. It’s funny, messy, dramatic, and weirdly validating. Turns out bisexuals weren’t confused. History was just very committed to pretending they weren’t there. Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2620-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 The Bisexuality Smear Campaign 01:26 Before Bisexuality Existed 08:11 The Emperor and His Boyfriend 14:52 The African Queen With Wives 21:04 When Bisexuality Was Invented 30:56 The Degenerate Brain Theory 35:26 Alfred Kinsey Changes Everything 42:47 The Scale Everyone Knows 49:24 The Biphobia Wars Begin 01:02:18 Political Lesbianism 01:10:36 Why Bisexual Women Were Targeted 01:17:28 Bisexuals Fight Back 01:23:13 The Bisexual Manifesto 01:28:42 The Woman Who Built Pride 01:34:37 The Real Bisexual Legacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

From hanky codes, Polari, earrings, camp, gay voice, and all the tiny clues queer people have used to find each other in public; We’re unpacking why queer visibility has always existed somewhere between safety and recognition, and why so many femmes, nonbinary people, and straight-passing queers still feel painfully unclockable today. From secret codes to modern aesthetics, this episode asks what it means to look queer, be read correctly, and finally feel seen. Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective AJAHNIS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ajahnischarley/ NFB: https://www.youtube.com/@nfb CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Why Can’t Anyone Tell? 01:06 Secret Symbols of Queerness 08:12 Queer Codes and Survival 12:14 Polari: Secret Queer Language 16:55 When Queer Slang Gets Stolen 21:11 Lingo, Safety, and Community 27:19 Why Signaling Still Matters 31:08 Performing Non-Binary “Correctly” 39:34 Queerness and the Inner Child 46:42 Authenticity vs. Misgendering 48:05 Femme Visibility and Recognition 49:33 What Camp Really Means 01:00:06 When Signaling Feels Performative 01:10:30 Building Your Queer Avatar 01:26:25 Haircuts, Mustaches, and Signals Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.