An Intimate Conversation with Barry Goldstein about the more than 769 Murdered Children of Custody Cases in Family Court
10:00 WARNING: Judge decides the father's concerns about the children being dressed the same was worse than the children's disclosure to the judge that they saw their father take a knife to their mother's throat.
11:00 SOLUTION: Add health and safety to the laws and implement Ace research is implemented,
12:00 BUZZ WORD: Best Interest of the Child
13:00 "Courts need to use Ace & Saunders, peer reviewed research. Without Ace, they minimize the significance of DV and child abuse; without Saunders they are relying on the wrong experts and repeatedly disbelieve true reports of abuse."
14:00 SOLUTION: Make health & safety the first priority and use Ace & Saunders research
15:00 BUZZ WORD: Coercive Control
15:45 BUZZ WORD: high conflict, only physical abuse matters, only recent abuse matters -
ACTION FOR COURTS: STOP USING PRACTICES THAT THE RESEARCH SAYS IS WRONG. IMPLEMENT ACE & SAUNDERS
18:55 BUZZ WORD: Parental Alienation
21:09 BUZZ WORD: GAL Collusion
21:32 PROPOSAL: Early hearing that is limited to hearing of domestic violence and child abuse within 60 days of filing 22:49 Saunders says court professionals need training in 4 specific subjects: 1) Screening for DV 2) risk assessment 3) post-separation violence and 4) the impact of DV on children
23:30 WARNING: Examples of why they disregard and what screening for DV will do to help
25:15 BUZZ WORD: The Pattern of Abuse: isn't just physical, it's also psychological, emotional, monitoring behaviors, isolating behaviors, economic abuse
29:54 6 States have introduced the Safe Child Act - Kayden's law & Kiera's law
31:00 WHY HAWAII DIDN'T PASS
33:20 Obstacles to passing 1) Defensive judiciary 2) court professionals who like the current system because they make good money 3) abuser rights groups
33:52 "In the last 10 years, over 750 children involved in contested custody cases have been murdered"
34:10 Dr. Bartlow did a follow up on child murders interviewing judges and court administrators in the communities where these tragedies occurred. She asked the most important question, "In response to the tragedy in your community, what have you done to create reforms to prevent this from happening again?"
34:57 The shocking answer
35:11 Shocking reality
37:00 Fundamental mistake of the courts are making are erring on the side of keeping the abuser is the child's lives, instead of erring on the side of protecting children
37:48 GOAL: An intolerance in the listening of society that post-separation abuse is no longer acceptable.
38:05 Failure of the media to expose the scandal
38:49 Sexism and gender bias in the court rulings and how taboo it is and how it creates defensive judges
39:35 Jennifer's Law, including coercive control in the law, Barry's opinion, good law, but not comprehensive enough
40:19 Women's coalition, using a jury instead of a judge, Barry's opinion, "I think that's a mistake"
42: 45 Being forced to testify against abuser for the first time, in itself is a threat, "I dare you to testify against me", a coercive threat in itself
43:35 Are there options for these cases to not
