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Hey NerdLovers, did you know that Doc has a new podcast? I've teamed up with my good friend (and actual doctor) Dr. Liz Powell to bring you some of the best dating discourse and relationship advice on the Internet, as well as some of the most eye-opening and jaw-dropping stories and topics around sex, love and dating. And hoooo doctor is this one a doozy.  If you've been missing the old PDNL podcast, this is one for you! Find us on all your favorite podcatchers, YouTube and Spotify! Do Women Actually Care About Load Size…or is it Just Other Men? Have you ever cared about the amount of someone's…ahem…ejaculation?   In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell talk about the men who really, really care about shooting ropes like Spider-Man. That's right. They're talking about nutmaxxers. Fueled by the fantasies of porn and a desire for self-optimization, these men might say their "enhanced performance" is for their partners, but Dr. Liz and Harris have their doubts.    Highlights of the episode: Porn "money shots" aren't what you think Fast and Furious movies are a little like porn Having sex…with your balls?! 👀   If you're interested in staying blissfully unaware about the secret lives of nutmaxxers, turn away now, because things are about to get a little sticky.   Time Stamps 0:00 – Intro bloopers & ADHD brains unite 2:00 – Why this podcast is pre-recorded 5:00 – Meet the Nutmaxxers: semen obsession & supplement culture 10:00 – Cum fetish vs. the unbearable cringe of this article 14:00 – Porn isn't real 20:00 – Male insecurity 26:00 – Fantasy vs. reality 34:00 – "I don't want a gallon on my face" 38:00 – Micropenises, oral skills, and redefining good sex 45:00 – Bad partners, poor communication, and load shame 52:00 – Actually useful advice 58:00 – Why men need to listen (and not just to each other) 1:06:00 – What's really sexy 1:12:00 – Final thoughts: Be a person, not a cum performance robot   Stay Connected 📩 Business Inquiries: [email protected] 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doaswesaypod/ 💙 BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doaswesaypod.bsky.social 🐦 Twitter: https://x.com/DoAsWeSayPod 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/doaswesaypod ⏰ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@DoAsWeSayPod

Let's be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn't something you enjoy, it's something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date... it's more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner. Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Because, if you're checking out these episodes, then the odds are good that, frankly, you think dating… kinda sucks. And in fairness: you're not entirely wrong. Dating for men can be kind of awful. But not for the reasons you might think.  In fact, the biggest reason why dating can suck is because of how much harder we men make it for OURSELVES and in the process, make ourselves miserable… even when we think we're doing everything right.  So let's look at 5 reasons why dating can SUCK for men… and what you can do about it. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why men have a conflict mentality when it comes to dating The secret to passing women's "tests" Why so much of what you believe about women, dating and sex is WRONG. How guys get caught in a cycle of dating failure Why you're taking the wrong advice about how to meet women ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: How To Meet Women, Effortlessly What Men Need To Know About Attraction The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It)  This Is Why Online Dating Sucks The Fear of Being Invisible  The Love Gap  Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex and the Truths They Reveal What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Sexual Desire  Simplified Dating Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren't popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples' lives. These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone around you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why genuine likeability and personal magnetism are rare qualities, even in Hollywood Why sharing the spotlight makes you more popular How triggering one emotion in people makes them like you, instantly Why passion is so attractive in others How authenticity and vulnerability make people want to spend more time with you ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: These Are The Things You Only Learn When Your Friend Dies Popularity 101 The Value of Authenticity  The "It" Factor  How To Be Charming  Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you're in a relatively good place, we're all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say "how am I supposed to have the strength to keep going?"  But you need that emotional strength, powerful confidence and positive attitude more than ever. And the first step is to recognize the things that are stealing your happiness and sabotaging your life and learn how to build the emotional strength it takes to persevere, that appealing confidence and the positive attitude that can help build strong relationships and help you face and overcome the challenges in your life that seem impossible. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why one simple word can ruin your self-confidence How we convince ourselves that we're powerless... when we're not The mistake we make that makes us miserable... no matter what we do How we talk ourselves out of success Why your rivals can be your greatest allies ... and so much more.  RELATED LINKS: The 5 Things You Need To Know To Succeed At Dating  What "Forged In Fire" Can Teach Us About Manhood  Unlearning Helplessness  You Are Your Own Worst Enemy  "Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success"  Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you? Maybe you've been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your values. Or perhaps you've had family members who would leverage guilt or reciprocity to make you do whatever they want, even if it's a huge inconvenience to you or emotionally draining or even damaging. Or you were constantly being made to feel as though your interests, desires or wants were unimportant or inconvenient… even if it's simply "don't treat me like sh*t." One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships — with your wife or girlfriend, your friends, your family or even your co-workers — is to have strong boundaries. Today, I'm going to teach you how to build strong boundaries... and how to enforce them. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What one viral video teaches us about toxic relationships Why abusers and toxic people prey on people with weak boundaries How abusers trick you into lowering your boundaries for them How to push back when people push against your boundaries The most important part of maintaining healthy relationships ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating Enforcing Your Boundaries How Do I Avoid Abusive Relationships? How Do I Get My Family To Respect My Boundaries? Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why. Now, after a lifetime of searching, I finally have the answers.  This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how it can affect you and your relationships, and my experiences with getting diagnosed and getting treated.  Here's what happened. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What people get wrong about ADHD Why so many people don't get diagnosed or treated when they need it How having ADHD can affect your confidence and your relationships Why people with ADHD have anxiety and depression How getting treatment has changed my life ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS:  Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - https://www.doctornerdlove.com/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection/ Top 5 Dating Mistakes — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/top-5-dating-mistakes/ This is What Happened After I Tried Meditation for 30 Days — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/this-is-what-happened-after-30-days-of-meditation/ You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-unlearn-what-you-have-learned/ When It's Time To Ask For Help — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/when-its-time-to-ask-for-help/ ADHD In Adults — https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-in-adults/ Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a checklist; having all the right "stats" isn't going to magically make you attractive to women. Learning to succeed with women isn't about having the right car or the right body, it's about learning how to become your best, most desirable self.  That's why this week, I'm going to teach you the 5 things YOU need to know in order to succeed with women, become the man you've always wanted to be and build the love life you've always wanted.  SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why the men who have everything women want still struggle with dating How to build your dream life... by working backwards from success Why attraction ISN'T about your body, your height, or your income How to escape the trap of your comfort zone Why your own brain tricks you into failing with women ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: NerdLove Academy Merchandise Book a Private Coaching Session Level Up: Facing Your Dating Fears  How To Take Your Love Life To The Next Level  "I Took The Red Pill. Why Am I Still Not Happy?"  What Women Wish Men Knew About Attraction  The Value of Failure  Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Rejection hurts... but the fear of rejection can often hurt even worse. In fact, when we give into the fear of rejection, we often set up a pattern that can affect us throughout our lives. Rejections we've experienced in the past can end up affecting us NOW. When we give into the fear of rejection, we can end up reliving that fear, long after it's happened... feeling the pain as though it's happening to us again, right now. When that happens, it becomes a way that we almost give up our free will; life becomes a series of steps that you take to try to AVOID feeling the discomfort and pain of rejection. It's time to learn how to break the cycle and learn how to stop letting your fear control you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What science can teach us about rejection and rejection sensitivity How our brains work against us and keep us in a cycle of fear and avoidance Why rejection hurts, even years later How a fear of rejection can CAUSE the very rejection we're trying to avoid How understanding your body can help you conquer your fear of rejection ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS:   Face Your Dating Fears Overcome Your Fear of Rejection A Man's Guide To Improving Your Emotional IQ This is What Happens After Meditating for 30 Days How To Deal With the Awkward Rejection Sensitivity and the Defensive Motivational System: Insights From the Startle Response to Rejection Cues How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria The Social Skills Survival Pack  Playlist Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Send your dating advice questions to [email protected] Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books  

What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn't mean that everything is going to work out on it's own. If you've ever wondered whether she's "the one", or you want to know if your relationship has what it takes to go the distance, then you need to answer these questions.  SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why people end up in cycles of relationships that SEEM great, but fall apart within six months How "New Relationship Energy" can hide relationship destroying flaws What you REALLY need to have in common to make a relationship last Why the way you fight may be more important than your "love languages" What sexual compatibility REALLY means ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Are You Ready For A Girlfriend? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/are-you-ready-for-a-girlfriend/ Is She Right For You? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/is-she-right-for-you/ 5 Questions You Should Ask Before You Start Your Next Relationship — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-questions-you-should-ask-when-you-start-relationship/ Are You Sexually Compatible? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/are-you-sexually-compatible/ How To Have The "Defining The Relationship" Talk — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/defining-the-relationship/ Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

It's very easy to feel like you're forever going to be defined by your worst decisions or your biggest mistakes. But while you can't change your past, you can change your future. By examining one of the best redemption arcs in modern media, we can learn how Prince Zuko overcame trauma and earned his redemption... and find how we can learn to find our own in the process. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How our response to trauma can shape our lives... and why it can transform us into different people Why a desire for acceptance can turn people into villains How to make a break with the past to build a new future Why it's so hard to make amends Why you have to let go of your desire to be "right" ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: How Do You Find Redemption? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/find-redemption/ How Toxic Masculinity Hurts Everyone — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/toxic-masculinity/ Recovering From Failure — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/recovering-from-failure/ Why It's So Hard To Be A Good Man — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/why-is-it-so-hard-to-be-a-good-man/ Solving The Incel Phenomenon — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/incel-phenomenon/ Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don't forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books