New Life Live

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Alice tells the story of a woman whose husband calls her a nag for questioning his secretive behavior. Is she being gaslighted? Dr. Alice shares three things to consider. How can I help my 37-year-old son, who has a PhD but hasn’t been able to find a job in two years? He has about $50,000 in credit card debt, and I’ve stopped letting him borrow money. Would there be any benefit to telling my 54-year-old son that I had two abortions when he was about 5 years old? Would he be sad or glad if I told him? I’m autistic. Would it be wrong for me to attend a couples’ Bible study with my wife instead of a men’s Bible study, as you suggested when I previously called?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill discusses the different stages of life and encourages us to recognize that others may be in different stages of life and have different concerns. What should I do when my adult children reject me? I had an affair that resulted in a pregnancy; when I recently told our son the truth about his biological father, he rejected me, alongside most of my other children. What do you think about romantasy novels? Can these romance fantasy books affect adult relationships and intimacy like pornography does? How do they affect teenagers who read them?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jacqui discusses Veterans Day and the challenges military veterans and their families may face. Am I wrong to set a firm boundary with my younger sister when she’s crying out for help? I cared for my older sister before she passed away, and my younger sister said she was the only one who loved her. Now she’s acting like she never said it. We’re two of only three surviving siblings out of 12. How can I discern God’s direction for my family when I feel overwhelmed, unsupported, and afraid that nothing will ever change? How can I help my friend who feels physically sick and emotionally drained every time she texts or talks with a friend who is suicidal?

Caller Questions & Discussion: JJ shares how Every Man’s Battle went last weekend and how the men who attended opened up to one another, sharing secrets they thought they would take to the grave. At Every Man’s Battle, we say, “To be known is to be loved; to be loved is to be known.” Any advice for me? My 22-year-old twin daughter is in a controlling relationship, and all my daughters are distancing from me and gravitating toward my abusive ex-husband. How can I help my 43-year-old son, a military veteran who is weaponizing the Bible, especially the passage about wives submitting to their husbands? I’m concerned about my grandkids. I remarried last November after my wife passed away, but my new wife left in October without explaining why. Before she left, she would get angry with me and ask if I ever shut up.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc asks: Have you ever felt overwhelmed, but someone came and sat with you, and you immediately felt better? We never outgrow our need for comfort and connection. What does the Bible say about divorce and separation in cases of abuse? I have a friend who is trying to leave her abusive husband. I’m turning 70, struggling with GERD, and traveling to visit family, including my daughter and her seven children. Could anxiety be making my acid reflux worse? How can I encourage my husband, who is in the military, struggles with pride, and is controlling? Our 13-year marriage has always been tumultuous.

Caller Questions & Discussion: JJ shares how he recently spoke at a retreat about getting irritated with his wife over contact lens solution left too far away on the bathroom counter. A painful pool slide mishap reinforced the lesson: don’t seek personal glory, but point people to God. I’ve looked at porn for decades since I found it among my dad’s things. I recently betrayed my wife by looking at porn; can I still be saved? My ex-husband told my kids not to let me visit while he and his wife are having a family reunion. None of us have all been together for about 10 years. How can I help my 24-year-old autistic son get a job if he can’t interact with coworkers? He graduated from college and is job hunting, but he has no social life or friends.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc discusses the identified patient dynamic, in which one person is blamed for relationship problems. He shares three things to consider when someone blames you and refuses to take responsibility for their part. Why am I still struggling with feelings of betrayal after discovering in 2009 that my husband and his circle of friends were exchanging hardcore pornography? One of the friends involved was on his recent golf trip. Why do people settle for unhealthy relationships, make excuses for their spouse’s behavior, or accept less than they deserve?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris explains that trauma often comes from the people we love and trust most. Coping mechanisms that once helped us survive in the past can turn into unhealthy patterns that keep us from building healthy relationships today. I need to grieve leaving my church of nine years because I don’t participate and they never supported me after my husband died. How do I write a letter explaining why I’m leaving? Churches reject me when I tell them that the church is not a building but a community of people. Should I give money to churches that want to build larger facilities? Would a New Life intensive workshop help my friend who is divorcing a narcissist?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Chris discusses how despair can often overshadow everything else in our lives. Drawing from Lamentations 3:22-23, he explains how we can practice gratitude and recognize God’s goodness while remaining honest about the pain and sorrow we experience. How can my 14-year-old nephew’s parents encourage him to take his ADHD medication? How can they help him stop cursing and exhibiting aggressive behavior? How can I help my daughter, who is addicted to meth and fentanyl and sells herself to obtain drugs? I gave her a Life Recovery Bible, but she says someone stole it. She also lies and tells me she is clean when she is still using.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Laura shares a dynamic she’s seen in her counseling practice that she calls “Different Face, Same Place.” She shares three steps we can take to replace negative relationship patterns. I’m in my third marriage, and I provide 100% of the financial support for my husband! My husband of 25 years hid that he was a drug addict. I started taking care of others when I was a child because my parents made me take care of my 15 siblings. Are there any tools to deal with my son’s mother-in-law hitting me two years ago at my son’s wedding? I recently saw her at a baby shower and still feel hurt and confused. If I ask my husband about finances or ask him to help with the kids, he tells me he’s not a bank and that I’m ungrateful! Will this work in the long term?