This Trusted Place with John-Paul Davies: Mental Health, Therapy & Becoming a Therapist

What happens when you tell your partner you're bisexual and it goes well?A lot of conversations about bisexuality and coming out understandably focus on fear, conflict, rejection and relationship difficulties. But that isn't everyone's experience.In this video, I share five real experiences of bisexual people telling their partners, including stories of acceptance, relief, greater intimacy and relationships that continued to thrive.I also look at why telling a partner can feel so frightening beforehand, what the experience might be like for the person being told, and why coming out doesn't have to be one dramatic event.We also explore an important question: do you need to tell your partner, or anyone else, if you're genuinely comfortable with your bisexual identity and your relationship?There isn't one bisexual experience. Some people realise early, some later. Some tell everyone, some tell one person, and some choose to keep it private. Some explore their bisexuality, while others choose monogamy because their relationship matters more to them.Perhaps sometimes the question isn't “What if it goes wrong?” but: What if it goes well?🎧 Podcast version of this video: (http://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here: (https://mybook.to/Z8i2)**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:*"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."*and*"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."*Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Is there an advantage to being a male therapist? It's a question I've been asked a number of times, and after around 15 years working as a therapist, I have quite a few thoughts about it.Psychotherapy is a profession that is overwhelmingly female, so does being a man give male therapists an advantage? Are there particular reasons why some people actively choose a male therapist? And are there things about working with men that male therapists may bring a different perspective to?In this video I talk about my own experience of training as one of only a few men in my cohort, why some women have specifically chosen to work with me because I'm a man, my experience of working with male clients, and some of the assumptions and expectations we can have about men, women, masculinity and femininity.I also explore some of the challenges that can arise when men struggle with vulnerability, emotional intimacy or talking about feelings, and why I don't think we should lower our expectations of men when it comes to emotional awareness.Ultimately, I don't think being male automatically makes someone a better therapist. But I do think there can be advantages and disadvantages depending on the client, the therapist and the relationship and that having more men in psychotherapy could bring something valuable to the profession.I'd really like to hear your experience. Are you a male or female therapist? Have you ever specifically chosen a therapist because of their gender? Or do you think gender makes very little difference to the therapeutic relationship?Snow White video mentioned: https://youtu.be/0EQWlq_sjUoMen's mental health playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbzuc1SEOTxjOjWWxvDBn1HI3Ma2o3tfk🎧 Podcast version of this video: (http://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here:https://mybook.to/Z8i2**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:“John-Paul’s course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.”and“The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul’s warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend.”Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

In this conversation, I talk to therapist Dr Josh Gebhardt about three important questions that can arise when bisexuality intersects with relationships.What happens when a partner comes out as bisexual? How can you support the partner who is processing that news? And what are some of the myths, assumptions and stigma that bisexual men can face?Josh has particular expertise in working with couples where bisexuality, coming out, sexuality, trust and identity have become sources of significant distress or conflict. We talk about what can happen when one partner comes out, including the fears, uncertainty and grief that a straight partner may experience, and how couples can begin to navigate very different needs and expectations.We also discuss mixed-orientation relationships, sexual boundaries, infidelity and trust, pornography, shame and sexual identity, and some of the different ways bisexual men and bisexual women can be perceived. Josh also talks about his work supporting women whose husbands or partners have come out as bisexual or gay.Importantly, bisexuality is not inherently a relationship problem. Many bisexual people are in happy, loving and fulfilling relationships. Being bisexual does not mean that someone is less capable of loving their partner, is necessarily unhappy in their relationship, or wants to leave it. This conversation focuses particularly on situations where bisexuality has become part of a relationship crisis, while recognising the much wider range of experiences of bisexual people and couples.Josh is a therapist who works extensively with couples and relationships, including people navigating bisexuality and mixed-orientation relationships. This conversation is part of my ongoing series exploring bisexuality, identity, relationships and what it means to navigate sexual identity within a long-term relationship. Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/show/VLPLEZFrC4g0W2o?sbp=QAE%3DFind out more about Josh and his support groups:Women Navigating Marriages with Gay or Bisexual Men (only for the State of Georgia)https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-0jju_kpELwu9HPnwP6LA720NcnkYR7UR3lGRcdedqrWqgg/viewformCommunity for Women Navigating Mixed-Orientation Relationships (virtual, national & international)https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd6pT5avhn6CW9h_vuasH7H4mDHBGrRwa6sSFO1cVgDHfJVAg/viewformWebsite: https://www.thegebhardtgroup.co🎧 Podcast version of this video: (http://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here: (https://mybook.to/Z8i2)**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:*"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."*and*"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."*Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Can you actually make a living as a counsellor or therapist in private practice?This video comes from a question I was asked by someone who loves counselling but is considering further training and needs around £40,000 a year in income. Her concern was whether private practice can provide a reliable enough income and whether building a practice is partly down to luck.I look at what earning £40,000 might mean in practice, including the number of clients you might need, hourly rates, holidays and turnover. I also talk about the things you can't control when you're running a private practice and the many things you can influence.We look at:• How many clients you might need to earn around £40,000• Why qualifying as a therapist doesn't guarantee an income• How private practice can become more predictable over time• Finding clients through websites, directories, networking and social media• Developing a reputation and particular area of expertise• The importance of confidence when you're starting out• Why comparing yourself with other therapists can be unhelpful• Building a practice that is sustainable rather than simply seeing as many clients as possible• How to think about the number of clients, hourly rate and income you actually needMy experience is that it is absolutely possible to make a sustainable living from private practice, but nobody can guarantee what you will earn. There are things outside our control, but there are also many things we can do to increase the likelihood of building the practice we want. If you're thinking about becoming a counsellor or therapist, changing career, or starting a private practice, I'd love to hear your experience and questions in the comments.I also have other videos about setting up and developing a private practice, including a more detailed look at the numbers involved in earning £100,000. Other videos mentioned in this video: How Much Can Therapists Actually Earn? | Can You Make £100k as a Counsellor or Psychotherapist?: https://youtu.be/xUb3E9U5oXkWhy I Changed from Being A Lawyer to A Therapist/Counsellor: https://youtu.be/84CKgb-YuGcHow I Found Therapy Clients (Therapist Private Practice Tips): https://youtu.be/PXwaHiXBx4IHow I Started My Private Practice (Therapist/Counsellor Private Practice Tips): https://youtu.be/lZCBWF2tX1cHow I Found The Confidence To Leave Corporate Life and Become A Therapist: https://youtu.be/T5sGJ-IedFIWhat They Don't Teach You About Running a Therapy Practice: https://youtu.be/6CrL0Hq3I2Q🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here:https://mybook.to/Z8i2**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:“John-Paul’s course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.”and“The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul’s warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend.”Flickpie – Video Production & YouTube GrowthEmail: [email protected]: www.flickpie.comSupport the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Following the recent article in GQ Magazine “Everybody wants to be a therapist - but should they?”, in this video, I explore some of the qualities I think matter in becoming a good therapist, and some of the things that can get in the way of developing and maintaining good therapeutic relationships.I talk about empathy, feelings and emotional awareness, the relationship between thinking and feeling, and why having strong feelings or having experienced difficult things doesn't necessarily mean we have deep empathy for others.I also look at therapy training itself: the importance of developing a clear therapeutic framework, the culture and ethos of training institutions, and why it's worth thinking carefully about where you choose to train. Finally, I talk about what it means to be human and why I don't think being human necessarily means being messy or chaotic, or that we should become identified with our wounds.These are my reflections based on my own experience, and I'd really like to hear what you think. What qualities do you think are important in a good therapist? And should everyone who wants to become a therapist actually do it?If you're considering therapy training, already in training, or have been working as a therapist for years, I'd love to hear your perspective.Videos mentioned:5 Great Reasons to Become a Therapist: https://youtu.be/IEnZOU75FHw5 Reasons Why I Love Being a Therapist: https://youtu.be/qvUrvcXjwnoAm I Cut Out for This?: https://youtu.be/bv5sDWM-7TIShould You Become a Therapist?: https://youtu.be/q0FT3jEKjXIThe Hard Parts of Being a Therapist: https://youtu.be/SVlXtUfSoOUThe Cons of Being a Therapist: https://youtu.be/cOYTKMFWsG8🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here:https://mybook.to/Z8i2**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:“John-Paul’s course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.”and“The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul’s warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend.”Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

In this deeply personal interview, Paul Drayton opens up about his journey through ADHD, addiction, recovery and the process of finally discovering his authentic self.Paul reflects on his life in the public eye, his marriage to Alan Carr, his friendship with Adele and the challenges of finding his own identity while being the partner of a hugely successful public figure. He also talks openly about his late ADHD diagnosis and how understanding himself better changed the way he viewed his past.In this video, we discuss:Paul's experience with ADHD and addiction.His journey through recovery and mental health challenges.Life and identity during his marriage to Alan Carr, including his friendship with the music artist Adele.People-pleasing and learning to put himself first.Finding self-compassion and his authentic self.Resilience, recovery and what comes next.Paul is the author of Ride or Die Trying, with profits from the book going to dog charities.Paul's Instagram: @pauldrayton1Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ride-Trying-before-during-laughter/dp/1918428441🎧 Podcast version of this video: (http://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here: (https://mybook.to/Z8i2)**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:*"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."*and*"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."*Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

What does it really take to build a private therapy practice that you can sustain for years?There are lots of things we learn during psychotherapy training, but there are also many practical realities of being a therapist that we only discover once we're actually doing the job.In this conversation, I'm joined again by psychotherapist Lindsay Percival to talk about what it takes to build a therapy practice that is sustainable, both professionally and personally.We talk about therapist burnout, managing your caseload, setting boundaries, choosing the right clients, trusting your intuition, the importance of assessment and supervision, self-care, money, administration and managing your diary.We also discuss some of the myths around being a psychotherapist, including the idea that we should have endless amounts of empathy, compassion and emotional availability.Lindsay talks openly about her own experience of burnout and why learning to understand your own limits is so important if you want to do this work well over the long term.This is particularly aimed at people considering becoming therapists, trainees, newly qualified therapists and those setting up or developing a private practice, but there is plenty here for more experienced therapists too.🎧 Podcast version of this video: (http://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here:https://mybook.to/Z8i2**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:“John-Paul’s course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.”and“The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul’s warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend.”Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

If you've recently realised you're bisexual while in a long-term relationship, one question often comes up:"Do I have to explore this?"In this clip, coach and author Rob Brooks Cohen explains why there's no one-size-fits-all answer. For some people, exploration feels important. For others, simply understanding and accepting their sexuality is enough.The real question isn't what everyone else does, it's what's right for you, your relationship and your values.Watch the full conversation for a much deeper discussion on bisexuality, mixed-orientation relationships, authenticity and self-acceptance.🎧 Podcast version of this video: (http://www.buzzsprout.com/2067601)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here: (https://mybook.to/Z8i2)**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:*"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."*and*"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."*#Bisexuality #Relationships #Marriage #MentalHealth #Therapy #LGBTQ Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

How do you know when sexual behaviour has become an addiction rather than a healthy expression of sexuality? Why do some people find pornography or compulsive sexual behaviour so difficult to stop? And what actually helps people recover?In this conversation, I'm joined by *Dr Paula Hall*, one of the UK's leading specialists in *porn addiction, sex addiction and compulsive sexual behaviour*. Drawing on more than 30 years' experience as a psychotherapist, Paula explains why porn addiction develops, the role of attachment and trauma, why shame and secrecy keep people stuck, and the practical, evidence-based approaches that help people recover from porn addiction and rebuild healthy relationships.We also explore the impact of addiction on partners and relationships, including betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, therapeutic disclosure, forgiveness and what gives couples the best chance of moving forward together.Whether you're struggling with pornography or compulsive sexual behaviour yourself, trying to understand a partner's behaviour, rebuilding trust after betrayal, or you're simply interested in the psychology of addiction, relationships and recovery, I hope you'll find this conversation both helpful and thought-provoking.**In this interview we discuss:**• Porn addiction and sex addiction• Compulsive sexual behaviour (CSBD)• Healthy sexuality versus addictive behaviour• Why pornography can become addictive• Attachment, trauma and emotional regulation• Shame, secrecy and honesty in recovery• Why the digital world makes pornography harder to escape• Practical strategies to overcome compulsive behaviours• Group therapy and accountability• Betrayal trauma and relationship recovery• How couples rebuild trust after addiction• Therapeutic disclosure versus "full disclosure"• Supporting a partner through addiction recovery• Sexuality, sexual orientation and recovery• Whether abstinence is always the best approachDr Paula Hall's linksFor affordable, anonymous, professional self-help: (https://pivotalrecovery.org)For therapy, assessments and group recovery programmes: (https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk)🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here: (https://mybook.to/Z8i2)**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:*"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."*and*"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."*Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

Tired of the "post and disappear" cycle of traditional social media? I talk in this video about why I think YouTube is the most sustainable way to grow an aligned therapy practice and connect with the right clients.I share my journey of moving beyond short-form platforms to build a sustainable presence on YouTube, covering the unique benefits for mental health professionals, including: • Why YouTube’s search power (and connection to Google) gives you huge visibility• How long-form content helps clients feel connected before they even meet you• Why YouTube is a slower burn, but far more sustainable than Instagram• How to use YouTube as part of a wider ecosystem (website, directories, podcasts, social media)• The role of AI, search, and community in growing your reach• How YouTube can lead to multiple income streams (clients, talks, mentoring, collaborations)• The personal and professional growth that comes with creating a channel and posting consistently• What I wish I’d known before starting (including unpredictability, consistency, and visibility)More than half of my clients now come through YouTube and, more importantly, it’s enabled me to build a practice that feels aligned and sustainable.🌐 Website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)If you find this video helpful, please do LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more content like this. It really helps the channel and means a lot, thank you!🎯 1:1 Mentoring & ConsultancyThinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)✅ If anything in this video resonates with you or brings up something you'd like to explore further and you're thinking about therapy, I'd love to hear from you. You're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.📖 My book *Finding a Balanced Connection* is available on Amazon here:https://mybook.to/Z8i2**My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**Whether you're looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this free course is carefully designed to help you do that.'Life Unlimited' Course testimonials include:“John-Paul’s course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others.”and“The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul’s warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend.”Support the showIf there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk