Filled to Flourish

In this episode, I chat with therapist and coach Anna Holtzman to explore what really happens inside our bodies when we step into the spotlight. Whether you’re sharing your work online, speaking up in a meeting, or launching a creative project, visibility can stir up deep-seated fears and stress responses. Anna shares practical tools to regulate your nervous system, reframe the discomfort of being seen, and cultivate safety as you expand into greater authenticity and expression. Tune into this episode to learn how caring for, not bypassing, your body’s signals can help you show up with more ease, confidence, and self-compassion.

Join Luke as he interviews Lauren on her newly released memoir, Golden Child. Golden Child: My Descent to Scapegoat and Rise to Freedom is a self help memoir that details the collapse of illusory goodness within a family system through the disruption of Christian Nationalism, ultimately leading the token golden child to walk out of her gilded golden cage. Through an arduous journey with grief and wonder, she courageously unravels from fundamentalism and steps into her authentic and free self.Available in ebook, paperback and audiobook on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FKSZFWR9?ref_=pe_93986420_775043100

After taking a break, we're starting up a new season of the podcast focusing on dysfunctional family systems and healing. In this episode, we explore in detail 7 PRESENT-day reasons for going no-contact. ❤️‍🩹 Parents’ inability to accept the individuated version of their adult-child❤️‍🩹 Parents’ refusal to stop upholding rigid roles adult-child have been playing since childhood ❤️‍🩹 Parents’ chronic lack of healthy attunement❤️‍🩹Chronic use of manipulation, gas-lighting, denial, triangulation, guilt-tripping, blame-shifting, projection by the parent/s❤️‍🩹Defensive posture vs. a receptive posture of repair❤️‍🩹 Parents’ chronic lack of interest in the adult-child’s genuine well-being❤️‍🩹Refusal to get help and become a healthier person and in turn a safer parentListen in and share with someone who needs this kind of support!

BONUS EPISODE! Luke and I had the privilege of chatting with Jodi Carlton on her podcast, "Your Neurodiverse Relationship".Jodi says: "Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a #neurodiverserelationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into #neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate similar challenges.✅ Navigating ADHD & demand avoidance✅ Anxious + avoidant attachment in marriage✅ Overfunctioning, burnout & masking✅ When to accept… and when to seek changeCheck out the rest of the neurodiverse couples interviews Jodi does on YouTube. ‪@JodiCarlton‬ is a leading world expert in mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal and direct style of educating and coaching is a favorite with all neurotypes around the globe. Her unique blend of personal and professional experience with neurodiverse relationships positions her to help people with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity. Check out all her offerings and freebies at her site: ⁠⁠https://jodicarlton.com/⁠⁠

Have you ever heard my experience with brain retraining? It’s been a few years since I did an episode about it, and because it’s SUCH valuable information I wanted to talk about it again, and add in my new insights and perspectives from this point in my journey.In this episode I share:-an overview of my healing process through brain retraining-a guide to explore what is behind you dysregulation and chronic symptoms through mining your story, early conditioning, unique vulnerabilities such as neurodivergence, and your present environments and relationships to understand the reasons behind why you became dysregulated in the first place-the important concept of sustainable nervous system regulation-brain retraining or trauma healing? which should go first-finding the important healing balance of grief/trauma work and beauty/goodness seeking-who I would recommend brain retraining for-what I recommend if you’re noticing symptoms crop up, but you’re not really unwell yet-how brain retraining has changed my life and opened me up to possibilities I would not have had without it Make sure to check season 2, episode 18 if you want to hear more details about brain retraining! Share this episode with a friend who might benefit!

Join us for the third and final episode in our series on neurodiversity! In this episode we interview Jodi Carlon, a Neurodiverse Relationship Expert. We had an amazing conversation, evidenced by the number of times Luke and I said “beautifully said” to Jodi!We cover:🌿how trauma affects the brain🌿the role of safety🌿fleshing out what accommodation really is🌿how to figure out healed and what needs to be accommodated🌿the nature of neurodivergent nervous system and it’s highly likelihood of becoming traumatized🌿expectations, needs vs preferences in relationships🌿how some difficult neurodivergent traits are made more intense by trauma🌿common co-occuring mental health conditions with ND🌿how much neurodivergent people accomodate for neurotypicals🌿masking as a survival response and way to accomodate neurotypical folksWe hope this episode and entire series is an encouraging support on your personal journey, and in your neurodiverse relationships! Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal and direct style of educating and coaching is a favorite with all neurotypes around the globe. Her unique blend of personal and professional experience with neurodiverse relationships positions her to help people with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity. Check out all her offerings and freebies at her site: ⁠⁠https://jodicarlton.com/⁠⁠

We’re back for episode 2 in our series on neurodiversity! This episode is quite personal, as Luke and I detail several of the challenges we experience navigating a neurodiverse relationship. We explore three main areas of struggle in neurodiverse relationships: communication, emotional regulation and conflicting needs. We flesh out some of the differences between Luke’s trauma responses versus neurotype characteristics, and give disclaimers about abuse in relationships. After years of doing it the wrong way, we offer advice for both the neurotypical partner, as well as the neurodivergent partner, and invite you the audience to take the hard road of accceptance so that you can (possibly!) discover how much there is to celebrate about your neurodiverse relationship!

We are so excited to offer this series to our audience as a route to more deeply understanding a really big aspect of ourselves and our relationships: NEURODIVERSITY. Luke shares a bit of his history recognizing his own neurodivergence, how is shows up in his life, and the windy-road process of accepting it. In this episode we explore RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria), demand avoidance, special interest (+ hyperfocus), stimming, imbalanced energy and catastrophic depletion. We also talk through what characteristics are representative of innate neurodivergence, vs a neurodivergent person experiencing trauma symptoms (very common!) We hope this introductory episode is thought-provoking and supportive for neurodiversity novices and beyond. Let us know your thoughts!

In this episode, we tackle the hard-to-talk-about realities of harm in relationships (i.e. betrayal, addiction, abuse...) and the necessary imbalance needed for repair of such relationships. What does it take to create trust and safety after it's been lost? What does the timeline for recovery of connection look like? How much will genuine repair cost you? You won't want to miss this conversation if you have a difficult partnership and you're not sure what healing and relational repair should look like.