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Join Over 9000+ Members At Charisma University:https://bit.ly/3UqHccKSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeWhether it’s an interview, a first date, or just a conversation with someone you don’t know well, we’ve all had times where things didn’t go well because we were uncomfortable or nervous. That feeling sucks.So in today’s video we’re going to go through some easy ways to look and feel more confident in those moments where you might have previously felt nervous.We’ll do this by breaking down clips of Tom Holland.⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - Intro0:22 - #1: Expand in awkward situations4:58 - #2: Look up and away6:55 - #3: Bounce between sharing and joking8:22 - #4: Tell embarrassing stories8:53 - #5: Re-enact your nerves10:27 - #6: Commit to your impressions10:40 - #7: Use a surprised pause11:35 - #8: Defend people if someone tries to elevate you above them-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #TomHolland #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Check out our video on Dave Chappelle:https://youtu.be/YZRxX1XYgoQConnect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Check out Charisma University:https://bit.ly/3UtzZc9Kevin Hart - 3 Tips To Instantly Tell Better Stories:https://youtu.be/vn_L4OPU_rgSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeWith 3 consecutive Grammy’s to his name, it’s safe to say that Dave Chappelle’s humor works.  If not for literally everyone then at least for the vast majority of people.So in this video we’re going to explore what we can learn from Dave’s admittedly difficult to imitate style. Because even though getting to Dave's level may be impossible, there are 5 core building blocks that anyone can use to immediately become much funnier.⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:35 - #1: Adopt different characters.1:31 - #2: Adopt the tone and mannerisms of the character.3:39 - #3: Have good comedic timing.6:29 - #3: The fake out.9:31 - #4: The comedic simile.10:28 - Final mindset.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #DaveChappelle #Comedy #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:http://bit.ly/2Frs8WXAnd for more on Dealing With Conflict, check out Charisma University: www.charismaoncommand.com/c-university_ _ _ _ _**Hello! Adding this in because some people missed the video on How To Stop People From Talking Over You. This is Ben! I'm the guy in this video. I founded Charisma On Command with Charlie four years ago. You can catch a bit of my story towards the end of this video when I introduce myself. Charlie is still creating videos! He's going to release his next one on Monday. Hope that clears things up a bit :-)_ _ _ _ _Have you ever had a tough conversation in front of you and not known exactly how to handle it?Maybe it was with your boyfriend or girlfriend, amongst friends or roommates, with your family, or at work. Difficult conversations are stressful because if you handle them poorly, it can do irreparable damage to your relationship or your career. And we never get taught how to do it correctly! So in this video I go over the principles you can apply to make almost any difficult conversation go well for you. You don’t need to use all of these in all situations. What I want to do is arm you with options so you can choose the right tool for whatever situation you're in.00:36 3 things to consider BEFORE tough conversations and difficult conversations00:42 Draw your line. Define what's acceptable and what's unacceptable.02:20 Thinking things through as if you're the other person 03:38 Set the tone that YOU want the conversation to have 04:10 Things to consider DURING a tough conversation04:30 State facts and feelings to prevent someone from being defensive05:30 What to do when someone is making jokes at your expense that you don't like06:48 Go on the record early so that a tough conversation isn't a surprise08:11 Have mutual understanding and don't assume about what the other person is thinking08:50 What to do when you're the one who made a mistake or how to receive feedback12:05 How to handle emotionally charged conversations and have confidence13:50 How to calm down a tough conversation that is getting heated15:40 A more formal introduction!Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + Charlie playing music):Instagram: @IamBenAltman and @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been out with a group of people, you start to say something or tell a story, and then somebody cuts you off?It can sap your confidence and leave you in your own head unsure how to get back into the conversation...So today we're going to cover how to captivate a group without getting interrupted!With 6 strategies you can use to engage a group of people so that instead of cutting you off, they're hanging on what you have to say.These strategies touch on both WHAT you say and HOW you say it.0:45 Put pregnant pauses mid-sentence NOT at the end1:17 Express excitement with your voice to activate listener mirror neurons1:48 Be loud enough with your voice and your body so as not to get interrupted2:13 Speak like you deserve to be heard which is also good in group dynamics3:06 Tell tight stories to captivate and develop those social skills3:47 Make yourself enjoyable to listen to4:28 Wrap complaints in story arcs4:50 Relate back to the listenerSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:http://bit.ly/2k2QHzHJoin The FB Q&A: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandHow To Be Sarcastic Without Being A Jerk - Deadpool/Ryan Reynolds BreakdownSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeWe often see the sarcastic moments of Ryan Reynolds, the actor of Deadpool, and in this video, we talk about how to use sarcasm without looking like a jerk. Sarcasm is one of the toughest types of humor to pull off. When executed improperly, it can leave people angry at you as often as it leaves them laughing. So in this video, we are going to take a look at the king of sarcasm, Ryan Reynolds, a.k.a. Deadpool. So how do you use sarcasm without leaving people angry or hurt? Well, if you're going to do it it cannot be a one-off potshot; otherwise, it feels like a pointed attack. So getting in the habit of joking all the time even in semi serious moments helps signal to others that your statements are usually to be taken in jest. We also talked about this at length in our video on Chris Pratt so check it out as well!0:34 Get into the habit of joking even in serious moments3:17 Lessen filtering words to blurt out and experiment5:16 Making yourself the buttt of your sarcastic comments helps6:09 Still utilize compliments so as to not look like a total jerkConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Over 9000+ Members At Charisma University:https://bit.ly/3v7qh3VSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Sometimes we know for sure we’ve done something to make people dislike us. But other times it’s less obvious and the slap isn’t the only thing that is causing Will to receive such backlash - there were several more common mistakes that turned people against him. That’s why in this video we’ll cover 3 of the more subtle things Will did so you can avoid these mistakes in your own life. We will also get into the real reason why Will Smith hit Chris Rock, something I have not seen anyone else talk about yet.⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - Intro0:24 - Mistake #1: Triangulating yourself into your significant other's relationships1:40 - Mistake #2: Dodging ownership of bad behavior3:12 - Mistake #3: Carrying emotional baggage to your interactions--------------------------------------------------------------------------------#WillSmith #Oscars2022 #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommand Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Read ANYONEhttps://goo.gl/Za6Y2JToday we are going to cover the skill of reading people. Which is an awesome skill - to be able to know what someone is thinking or feeling will save you a lot of grief. You won’t look silly talking to someone who is not interested, you’ll get a better of idea of who is interested and isn’t saying anything.But we won’t stop thereBecause one of the most amazing things that developing your ability to read an individual does is that it enables you to improve. And I saw in the comments, a lot of you were asking what I studied to be able to do the charisma breakdowns - truly there was no class - it was just a matter of doing these steps over and over. And there is a science to it. So let’s get into1. Increase self-awareness2. Find where their attention is (eye contact is huge)3. Get good at identifying micro-expressions, potentially use this site: http://www.microexpressionstest.com/m...4. Identify common patterns5. Make predictions based on people's body language6. Experiment in your own lifeHope you find that helpful in identifying the body language to read people.Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us.Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: @CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Littlefinger Controls The Game of Throneshttps://goo.gl/uNmVQHSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeSupport us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/charismaoncommandDiscover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:http://bit.ly/2FGX6ujLittlefinger Is probably the single best player in the Game of Thrones. He’s indirectly led to the downfall of at least 3 major houses and has advanced his station at every opportunity. In this video we’re going to do an analysis on what it is that he does that makes him win and how deviating from his strategy may lead him to the end of his winning streak.2 caveats. First spoilers through season 6 and some speculation into season 7. And two, don’t do the things little finger does. It’s fun to analyze Littlefinger manipulations and learn how you can avoid them in your own life - Sansa Stark would benefit for certain - just don’t be a liar and backstabber. It’s not cool.Let’s begin - Game of Thrones is all about power. Some people, like Cersei, use their position to command others. Or people like the Mountain who literally just dominate through brute force. But in the long run, it’s those who wield power more subtly who excel at the game. And perhaps no one is more subtle the Petyr Baelish. He is the ultimate power player in the game because he gets other people to do what he wants, without them even knowing he’s influenced them 01:10 Littlefinger got the power subtly and not by force in Game of Thrones07:53 Cersei Lannister is opposite of Petyr Baelish in terms of subtlety08:14 Petyr Baelish in HBO Game of Thrones lets other think they control him09:46 Marriage scene with Tyrion Lannister13:15 Littlefinger talks to Sophie Turner as Sansa StarkConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Visit http://www.audible.com/charisma or text "charisma" to 500 500 to try Audible today!How To Be Charming In Any Conversation:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oBzqzLa7-5MSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Whether we admit it or not we’ve all felt insecure at different points in our lives. And that insecurity can hold you back from things like pursuing your dream job, approaching someone you want to connect with, or just feeling good about yourself.But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are tricks you can learn to actually use your insecurities to your advantage. To instantly look more confident and eventually to build deep genuine confidence and stop caring so much what other people think about youThat’s exactly what we’ll be covering today in this video featuring Pete Davidson, someone who has stated many times that he battles with insecurity, yet still has a lot of friends, relationships, and career success.⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - intro1:05 - #1: Embrace that you are not good at everything2:38 - #2: Use self deprecating jokes4:23 - #3: Answer questions honestly where most people would lie6:06 - #4: Raise the people around you--------------------------------------------------------------------------------#PeteDavidson #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to work for Charisma on Command?https://www.charismaoncommand.com/writer2020/Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeToday's video is a fun one. Charlie will be reacting to some pick up videos, and potentially see what we can learn from them!Let us know what you think of this style of video by leaving a comment down below!⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:11 - Video #1: Are you Pikachu?0:43 - Video #2: Earthquake pick up line.1:46 - Video #3: Confidently speaking nonsense.2:29 - Video #4: Space buns pick up line.3:03 - Video #5: "You shine brighter than any diamond".3:50 - Video #6: Great attire.5:39 - Video #7: Girl picking up girl.5:56 - Video #8: Girl picking up guy.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #CharismaOnCommand #CharismaCoachReacts--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices