Ep98: The D/s Dynamic

We were supposed to be talking about DYSTOPIA this week — but we had a weekend we couldn’t not talk about while it was still fresh, so we’re going off-script with you.This past weekend, Kitten & Wolf headed to Bournemouth for House of Hades: Gate Nine — the final chapter in a nine-part event series from Untamed Nights and Miss May of Alchemy Encounters. We stayed at The Alchemy, Miss May’s own kink-friendly space, both before and after the event, and came home with far too much to sit on until a planned slot.In this episode:Inside House of Hades — the ritual, the live band, and the spanking-bench moment that became the highlight of the nightBeing Gate Guardians again — why keeping an event safe is something we take seriously, and genuinely enjoy doingA spontaneous, surprise tattoo Kitten got mid-eventMeeting a couple in person for the first time — one of several already booked for VESPER’s 12 December Brighton nightA relaxed extra night at The Alchemy, and why we chose to slow things down rather than hit every Halloween-weekend party goingIf a kinky weekend away is on your list, The Alchemy in Bournemouth is Miss May’s own space for exactly that — find out more at https://alchemyencounters.com/.One Night in Brighton, our Great Gatsby-themed VESPER night on 12 December, is nearly gone — every room is sold out, and we’re down to the final seven tickets. Find out more at https://vesperevents.co.uk/.Curious what Kitten’s new tattoo actually looks like? Find us on SpicyMatch: https://www.spicymatch.com/kittenandherwolf/?ic=kittenNew episodes every Monday. Follow or subscribe on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss one — and if you’ve got a question for us, send it our way on Instagram or TikTok.

Nearly ten years in, and Kitten & Wolf finally sit down to unpack the dynamic that’s at the very heart of their relationship — properly, honestly, and completely unscripted.We met online — on what we jokingly call “kinky Tinder” — and negotiated what we each wanted from day one. Back then, our dynamic was far more structured: strict rules, a title to use, outfits chosen for me before a date. Ten years on, it looks completely different — looser, more natural, built into the everyday rather than switched on and off. This episode is the real story of how we got from there to here.In this episode:How our dynamic started — meeting online, early negotiations, and the rules and rituals we built in the first days of datingThe “kinky onion” — why a Dominant can’t deliver everything on a submissive’s wishlist at once, and how layering expectations over time is what makes a dynamic actually lastThe promised follow-up to episode 94 — Wolf opens up about a moment he couldn’t deliver on mid-play, and why there’s nothing wrong with a Dominant saying noHow the dynamic shows up day to day now, not just during play — noticing what the other needs, holding each other accountable, and the odd surprise waiting at homeHonest advice for anyone exploring D/s themselves — knowing your own limits, communicating them clearly, and why “I don’t have any boundaries” is a red flag, not a green lightAlongside the podcast, we run VESPER — our hotel takeover and weekender events. Find out what’s coming up at www.vesperevents.co.uk.If non-monogamy, swinging or lifestyle events are new territory for you, SpicyMatch is the platform that’s been part of our own journey for years — from the parties to the holidays we still can’t stop talking about. Join through our link for a free premium membership: https://www.spicymatch.com/kittenandherwolf/?ic=kittenNew episodes every Monday. Follow or subscribe on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss one — and if you’ve got a question for us, send it our way on Instagram or TikTok.

This week, Kitten & Wolf catch up with an old friendship three years in the making — and tell the honest, unfiltered story of a night that didn’t quite go to plan.We met this couple at a candlelit erotic dining experience back in 2023, and the friendship has stuck ever since — through Spicy Island, a Brighton weekend, and a milestone birthday celebrated together. This time, we headed down to see them for dinner at a pub with a brilliantly random name — The North Pole — before a night at Pleasures, a lifestyle club in Kent.In this episode:Catching up with old friends — how one chance introduction at a 2023 erotic dinner turned into a three-years-and-counting friendshipA night at Pleasures — what the club’s actually like, from the dance floor to the play roomsAn honest, unplanned moment during play, and the level-headed pharmacy run that followedWhy there’s genuinely zero shame in asking for the morning-after pill — practical, judgement-free advice for anyone who needs to hear itA live update on VESPER’s 12 December Brighton takeover — rooms and tickets are going fastIf you’re ever in Kent and fancy checking the club out for yourselves, find Pleasures at https://pleasures-in-kent.co.uk/.VESPER’s 12 December Brighton hotel takeover is selling out — as of this episode, just three rooms and 24 tickets remain. Grab yours on SpicyMatch: https://www.spicymatch.com/events/66071/If non-monogamy, swinging or lifestyle events are new territory for you, SpicyMatch is the platform that’s been part of our own journey for years — from the parties to the holidays we still can’t stop talking about. Join through our link for a free premium membership: https://www.spicymatch.com/kittenandherwolf/?ic=kittenNew episodes every Monday. Follow or subscribe on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss one — and if you’ve got a question for us, send it our way on Instagram or TikTok.

This week we’re pulling back the curtain on VESPER — our hotel takeover events brand — and what’s coming on Saturday 12 December.VESPER started because we wanted the kind of night out that doesn’t really exist anywhere else: a full hotel takeover, curated and hosted by us, built around consent, comfort and genuinely good people. In this episode we talk about what that actually means in practice, what a night at VESPER is really like, and why 12 December is one we don’t want you to miss.In this episode:What VESPER actually is — the standard we hold every single one of our events to, and why we built it that wayEverything you need to know about 12 December — a one-night hotel takeover in Brighton, strictly capped at 75 guestsWhat to genuinely expect walking into a VESPER night, from the moment you arrive to last callA standout moment from a previous VESPER night — the quiet afterglow after one of our wildest group scenes, and the compliment from the venue owner that’s stuck with us ever sinceTickets are moving — we’re down to 37 of 75 for 12 December, and we’d rather you hear it from us than find out it’s sold out. Grab yours on SpicyMatch: https://www.spicymatch.com/events/66071/If non-monogamy, swinging or lifestyle events are new territory for you, SpicyMatch is the platform that’s been part of our own journey for years — from the parties to the holidays we still can’t stop talking about. Join through our link for a free premium membership: https://www.spicymatch.com/kittenandherwolf/?ic=kittenNew episodes every Monday. Follow or subscribe on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss one — and if you’ve got a question for us, send it our way on Instagram or TikTok.

Trip Diaries is back — and we're starting with the one everyone asks us about. Cap D'Agde: the legendary naturist and lifestyle town on the French coast, and the trip that taught us more than almost any other.This week, Kitten & Wolf take you through the whole trip from start to finish, what we got right, what we'd absolutely do differently next time, and why Cap D'Agde deserves its reputation as the lifestyle world's bucket-list destination.In this episode:The trip as a whole — our honest, unfiltered take on Cap D'Agde, mistakes includedWhat we'd tell our past selves: the advice we wish we'd had before we wentHow Cap D'Agde actually compares to the UK lifestyle scene and why it genuinely is a different worldMaking the most of Glam Beach — what it is, what to expect, and how to enjoy it properlyGetting the evening dress code right, so you're not caught out on your first nightAlongside the podcast, we run VESPER, our hotel takeover and weekender events. Find out what's coming up at www.vesperevents.co.uk.If non-monogamy, swinging or lifestyle events are new territory for you, SpicyMatch is the platform that's been part of our own journey for years — from the parties to the holidays we still can't stop talking about. Join through our link for a free premium membership: https://www.spicymatch.com/kittenandherwolf/?ic=kittenNew episodes every Monday. Follow or subscribe on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss one and if you've got a question for us, send it our way on Instagram or TikTok.

When Kitten & Wolf are back. After two and a half years away, the UK's most honest open relationship podcast returns, picking up exactly where the honesty left off.We're Kitten and Wolf: a bisexual, non-monogamous couple closing in on ten years together, with a D/s dynamic at the core of our relationship. This is where we talk about the adventures, the mistakes, and the lessons that come with actually living that lifestyle out loud.In this comeback episode:Why we paused the podcast and the honest reason behind stepping back as SpicyMatch's UK brand ambassadorsAn unplanned, multi-partner encounter from Spicy Island 2025 that neither of us saw comingWhat real, in-the-moment consent actually looks like when things move fastNavigating rejection inside an open relationship — what it means when someone you've played with before says noWhat's coming next: our four pillars going forward are Adventures & Confessions, Trip Diaries, Behind the Events, and Advice & Mistakes — landing every Monday from here onAlongside the podcast, we run VESPER — our hotel takeover and weekender events. Find out what's coming up at www.vesperevents.co.uk.If non-monogamy, swinging or lifestyle events are new territory for you, SpicyMatch is the platform that's been part of our own journey for years — from the parties to the holidays we still can't stop talking about. Join through our link for a free premium membership: https://www.spicymatch.com/kittenandherwolf/?ic=kittenNew episodes every Monday. Follow or subscribe on Spotify and Apple Podcasts so you never miss one and if you've got a question for us, send it our way on Instagram or TikTok.

In today's episode, we sit down with a friend after dinner at our house and talk about their journey and find out about their perspective on a few things. We had a great evening with C and we hope you enjoy our chat as much as we all did! Tickets for The KINKSTER's Garden Party are here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-kinksters-garden-party-tickets-880280321137?aff=oddtdtcreator To find out more about travelling with SpicyMatch, sign up with the code KITTEN and start exploring: https://www.spicymatch.com/resorts/ Find out more about all our events on our website here: https://www.whenkittenandwolf.com/ To join the Discord, click here: https://discord.gg/cwsTMeVb To join Telegram, click here: https://t.me/+ttUj0qcayhM3Mjhk

In today's episode, we talk about unlocking new kinks, a little unexpectedly, our one off summer event at a new location and travelling over the summer!For more information on The KINKSTER's Garden Party and to get your tickets, click here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-kinksters-garden-party-tickets-880280321137?aff=oddtdtcreatorTo find out more about travelling with SpicyMatch, sign up with the code KITTEN and start exploring: https://www.spicymatch.com/resorts/And if you are interested in exploring your kinks more at events, DYSTOPIA is definitely a date to add to your diary: https://fetlife.com/events/1420915

We’re back, after a two week break where we just had to be kind to ourselves and spend the time we normally use for writing, recording and editing our podcast to rest and recover. As you’ll hear in the episode it has been a busy couple of weeks! We visited Pandora’s for the first time.  We travelled south to Untamed Nights for May 4th We went to Spicy’s Bi- Night at Jaydee’s. We spent two days at Heathrow AbFabs, celebrating their 5th birthday. We also host DYSTOPIA 2.0 which was something else. This is a much longer episode so we could fit it all in for you but normal service has now been resumed and we’ll be back with regular weekly episodes for you to enjoy.  (We’ve also been chatting to people and there’s more interviews to come!) Fancy taking a trip to Pandora’s, you can find out all the information you need here: https://www.pandoraswingers.com/ Fancy a trip to the coast, Untamed Nights are perfectly placed in Bournemouth, Click this link to find out more:  https://www.untamednights.co.uk/ You can find all the details for the next SpicyMinx’s Bi-Night here:  Heathrow Abfabs are a great option if you’re in London: https://www.spicymatch.com/heathrow-abfab/ And finally if you’d like to read more about DYSTOPIA then head to this link:   https://fetlife.com/users/18407089

This is a jam packed juicy episode where we talk through our recent adventures with others as well as discussing how we differ when it comes to play. We also talk about our upcoming events in detail as well as giving info on our new Discord and Telegram. Join the discord pack here: https://discord.gg/nAzvgmrd Join the telegram pack here: https://t.me/+ttUj0qcayhM3Mjhk Events in May links DYSTOPIA: https://fetlife.com/users/18407089 Content Creation Day: https://fetlife.com/events/1502127 We also have our own website, click here to visit: https://www.whenkittenandwolf.com/