229: The What If Loop and How Craving Certainty Keeps Overachievers Stuck (plus what to do instead)!

What if time isn't actually the reason you haven't reached your goal? As high-achieving women, it's easy to believe that we simply need more time, a calmer season, or fewer responsibilities before we can finally follow through. But in this episode, I'm challenging that idea and sharing a clip from a recent coaching call inside The Unstoppable Group about what actually creates results. We're talking about the difference between letting time pass and intentionally putting in high-quality reps, especially on the days when you don't feel motivated, excited, or perfectly on track. If you've ever told yourself, "I'll start tomorrow," this episode might change the way you think about your timeline entirely.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/235

The TEDx talk is officially done. After months of preparing, rehearsing, getting rejected, trying again, and thinking about those 12 minutes on the Red Circle, I expected to wake up afterward feeling completely different. But that's not exactly what happened. In this bonus episode, I'm sharing what surprised me most on the other side of accomplishing an "impossible" goal, including the patterns that showed up right before I stepped on stage, what helped me stop performing and start connecting, and why the biggest transformation often happens long before anyone else can see it. We're also talking about the people and environments we surround ourselves with, and how much they can shape what we believe is possible for us. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/234 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

This is the final chapter of my TEDx story before I step onto the stage, and this time, I'm not telling it from the other side. I'm recording it in real time, just days before the talk, while the nerves, perfectionism, and overthinking are very much alive. In this episode, I'm sharing what surprised me about getting close to a big goal, why success can sometimes make our stress patterns louder instead of quieter, and the shift that's helping me stay grounded as the red circle gets closer. Because sometimes the hardest part isn't starting. It's letting yourself arrive. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/233 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress  

This week, I'm sharing part three of my TEDx journey, and the part that I believe matters most when you're going after a big goal: what happens when you get rejected. As an overachiever, rejection can feel like so much more than a simple "no." It can quickly turn into questioning whether you're good enough or whether the goal was ever meant for you in the first place. In this episode, I'm sharing what my TEDx rejections brought up for me, how my 60-pound weight loss journey prepared me for these moments, and the skill I believe every overachiever needs if they want to create a bigger life. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/232 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

This episode starts with a surprising realization: making the decision to chase a big dream isn't actually the hardest part. The real challenge begins after the excitement fades. In part two of my TEDx journey, I'm sharing the mindset shift that helped me move forward when motivation disappeared, and why this lesson changed not just my TEDx experience, but my weight loss journey too. If you've ever wondered why you procrastinate on the goals that matter most, or found yourself waiting to "feel motivated" before taking action, this episode will help you see those moments in an entirely new way.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/231 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

A few years ago, I had a dream that felt way too big, and I almost talked myself out of it before I ever took the first step. In this episode, I'm sharing a milestone I've been waiting months to announce and the mindset shift that finally helped me stop dismissing my own dreams. This is the first episode in a four-part series that takes you behind the scenes of my TEDx journey. If you've ever had an idea that excited you only to immediately convince yourself it probably wasn't for you, this episode is for you.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/230 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

We're wrapping up the six-part summer series with the mindset pattern I see most often in the smartest women I work with: wanting to feel completely certain and in control before you take action. It sounds responsible. It even feels productive. But if you've ever spun through every "what if" scenario, you already know what this really is: a time machine that takes you out of the only moment you can actually control, which is right now. In this final bite-sized episode, I'm sharing the exact process I use to get myself out of the loop.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/229 Loving the series? A big announcement is coming to my email list first: http://burnstressloseweight.com/email

If you've ever made a plan on Sunday and thought, "But what if I don't feel like eating that way by Thursday?" and then quietly made no plan at all, this one is for you, friend. In Part 5 of the Success Mindset summer series, I dig into the mindset that keeps so many of us overachievers stuck: the fear of feeling boxed in, and the way that fear quietly hands your most important decisions to the most depleted version of you. Here's the uncomfortable truth underneath it. The freedom you think you're protecting by "staying flexible" is the very thing draining your time, your energy, and your results. This is a short and sweet episode with a concept that gave me hours of my life back, and it reaches far past the plate. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/228 Loving the series? A big announcement is coming to my email list first: http://burnstressloseweight.com/email

If you're the kind of woman who gets a little hit of satisfaction every time you cross something off your list, this one's for you, friend. Because here's what I've noticed after years of chasing those tiny checkboxes: the small, easy tasks we tell ourselves are "productive" are often the exact thing keeping us from the goal that actually matters. I call it procrasto-working, and overachievers are dangerously good at it. In part four of our six-part Success Mindset summer series, I'm sharing the shift I personally made that changed how I move through my entire day — starting with the hard thing instead of saving it for a version of me that has more time, more energy, and fewer emails (spoiler: she never arrives). It's a small reorder with a surprisingly big ripple effect, and it's less about discipline than you'd think.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/227 Join my email list: http://burnstressloseweight.com/email

If you're the kind of woman who scans the room to make sure everyone else is comfortable before you even think about yourself, this one is for you. Somewhere along the way, a lot of overachievers picked up a quiet belief: that rest has to be earned. That you can take care of yourself once the to-do list is finally done, once the fires are out, once everyone else is handled. It sounds generous on paper. But in Part 3 of the summer Success Mindset series, Priyanka does the real math on what that belief actually costs you, on the scale and off, and why the version of you that's running on fumes is never the version that gets to show up at your best. This episode is a permission slip. It's also a little uncomfortable, in the way the most important shifts usually are. If you've ever undone a whole week of wins between Friday and Sunday because you were desperate to squeeze in a break, come sit with this one.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/226 Join my email list: http://burnstressloseweight.com/email