368- Self-Reg with Dr. Stuart Shanker: Round 2

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we are rebroadcasting one of my all time favorite episodes. I got to sit down with someone I deeply admire—Dr. Stuart Shanker. His book Self-Reg was a game changer for me when I was teaching infants and toddlers, and honestly, it shaped so much of how I approach emotional development today.In this episode, we talk about what self-regulation really means, how it differs from self-control, and why so many behaviors we label as “bad” are actually stress responses. Stuart shares powerful stories and practical insights—from what’s going on in a newborn’s nervous system to what to do when your teenager melts down over the wrong hoodie.We explore the idea that all behavior is communication, how adults can become “stress detectives,” and why regulating ourselves is the first step in helping kids thrive. This conversation is packed with gems, and I’m so thrilled to share it with you.Alright folks, Let’s dive in. Connect with Dr. Shanker: Instagram: @self_reg Website: https://self-reg.ca/ Order the book: Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we’re diving into one of the most requested topics: what to do when rage takes over. I’m joined by parent coach Shelly Robinson to talk about what’s really happening when we lose it on our kids, why it feels so hard to stay calm during everyday routines like getting out the door, and how we can show up with more intention—even when our capacity is low. We also unpack what it looks like to raise multiple kids with completely different nervous systems, and how to co-create routines that actually reduce conflict. If you’re someone who feels like you’re snapping more than you’d like—or you’re navigating sibling tension, sensory mismatches, or that gnawing sense that you’re failing—you’re in the right place.  Alright folks, let’s dive in. Connect with Shelly: Instagram: @raising_yourself Website: shellyrobinson.com Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to chat with Leslie Forde about the unrealistic expectations of modern parenthood.  Leslie’s work is such a gift for those of us trying to do it all—and slowly realizing that “it all” was never sustainable in the first place. We talk about how burnout shows up, why moms in particular are feeling crushed under the weight of impossible schedules, and how to find moments of restoration that are actually doable in real life. We explore what it means to reclaim rest, joy, and self-trust—and why giving ourselves permission to stop striving for perfection isn’t indulgent, it’s necessary. Alright folks, let’s dive in. Connect with Leslie: Instagram: @moms_heirarchy_of_needs Website: https://momshierarchyofneeds.com/ LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/momshierarchyofneeds/ Order the book: Repair with Self-Care: Your Guide to the Mom's Hierarchy of Needs Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we’re diving into a question that has so many layers: When does parenting actually begin?In this episode, I’m joined by Kate Littlefield—a therapist, mom of twins, and all-around incredible human, to explore how parenting starts long before birth. We talk about how our own histories, our inner child work, and our nervous systems all shape the way we show up in the caregiving experience. From navigating different needs in a family of unique humans, to figuring out how to parent intentionally in a way that’s true to you, this conversation is about letting go of one-size-fits-all parenting advice and embracing the idea that thoughtful, connected parenting can look different for every family.Alright folks, let’s dive in. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @throughtothrive Website: www.throughtothrive.org Order the books: The First Year: A Workbook for Parents of Newborns, and Prep for Post: A Workbook for Expecting Parents Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we're bringing you a special rebroadcast of one of our most popular episodes. The village keeps coming back to this one, and for good reason. In this episode, Rachel and I dive into those moments when kids say things that feel rude, hurtful, or even shocking. We unpack why these behaviors often come from a place of dysregulation, what might be going on beneath the surface, and how to respond in a way that builds connection instead of shame. We also talk about what it looks like to model emotional regulation and healthy repair, even when we're triggered ourselves, and why it's okay to be a work in progress. These are themes we go even deeper into in our book Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, which is out now and full of tools to help you navigate these moments with more confidence and compassion. All right, folks, let's dive in. Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we’re diving into a conversation that so many parents are craving—but often don’t know how to start. I got to sit down with Dr. Hina Talib to talk about body image and development in the pre-teen years—those ages nine to twelve when so much is changing, inside and out. We explored how to navigate this stage with empathy, how to foster open communication with kids around their bodies, and how to create a home environment where curiosity and big feelings are welcomed—not shut down. We also talked about the impact of societal pressures, how to model healthy relationships with food and body image, and when it might be time to bring in expert support. This episode is an invitation to show up with compassion—for yourself, and for your growing-not-so-little one—as they move through this pivotal season of development. Alright folks, let’s dive in. VOYV Podcast Episodes Mentioned: ⁠How (and When) to Talk to Your Kids About Porn, with Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett ⁠ ⁠Setting the Stage for Shame-Free Puberty with Melissa Pintor Carnagey ⁠ ⁠How To Make Puberty and Sex Talks Less Awkward with Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett  Connect with Dr Hina: Full bio: here Instagram: @teenhealthdoc  Website: https://www.drhinatalib.com/ https://www.atria.org/ Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we’re getting into something that hits deep for so many of us, especially around the holidays.You plan something special—a magical outing, a thoughtful gift—and you’re met with “Is that it?” or “What are we doing next?” It can feel like a gut punch. In this episode, we’re unpacking what’s really going on when kids seem to crave more—more stuff, more stimulation, more everything—and why it can be so triggering for us as adults.We’ll explore the post-gift letdown, the impact of dopamine on kids’ brains, and the tension between gratitude and instant gratification in a world that moves fast. We’re also diving into the real-life challenges: navigating over-gifting from family, helping siblings through comparison, and what to say when a well-meaning grandparent crosses a boundary.This episode is full of practical strategies and gentle reminders that parenting during the holidays doesn’t have to feel like a performance. We talk about how to make space for both joy and disappointment, and why letting kids fully experience the moment—even if it’s messy—is actually the magic.Alright folks, let’s dive in. VOYV Episodes on Sensory Regulation: 315- When Your Nervous System is Overwhelmed by Your Child's Sensory Needs with OT Larissa Geleris: Round Two 316- Sensory Regulation for High Energy Kids with OT Julia Ieslin: Round Two 306-Sensory Need or Behavioral Challenge? With Madeha Ayub, OT 298- Update: After School Dysregulation with Lori Goodrich, OT Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before we dive in: this episode includes discussion of masturbation, sex and other adult topics. You're listening to Voices of Your Village and today's episode is such a treat. I got to sit down with Rachelle Bergstein to talk about her work on the incredible Judy Blume, and the impact her stories have had across generations. We talk about censorship, the importance of letting kids ask big questions, and what it means to create space for children to explore who they are without shame. We dig into the nuances of parenting and what it looks like to support individuality while staying deeply connected. Don't forget to check out Rachelle's book, The Genius of Judy Blume. All right, folks, let's dive in. Connect with Rachelle: Instagram: @rachellewb Website: https://www.rachellebergstein.com/ Order the book: The Genius of Judy: How Judy Blume Rewrote Childhood for All of Us Podcast Episodes Mentioned: How (and When) to Talk to Your Kids About Porn, with Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett  Setting the Stage for Shame-Free Puberty with Melissa Pintor Carnagey  How To Make Puberty and Sex Talks Less Awkward with Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett  Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to voices of your village. And today I'm joined by my incredible friend Dr. Tracy. She is a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and author of the new book, You, Your Husband and His Mother. This was such a fun conversation. We got honest and had just compassionate conversation about what it looks like to show up as both a partner and a parent, while also navigating those tricky extended family dynamics. We dug into the challenges so many of us face with in-laws, with our own parents, and how setting boundaries can actually create more connection, not less. We talked about the pressure to be everything to everyone, and how tuning in to your own needs and voice is a game changer for your relationship, your parenting, and your peace. I loved getting to connect with Tracy, not just as a professional, but as two humans sharing this season of life. All right, folks, let's dive in. Connect with Dr. Tracy: Instagram: @DrTracyD Website: drtracyd.com Order the book: You, Your Husband, and His Mother: Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law--and Your Spouse--in Five Simple Steps Podcast: Dear Dr. Tracy Alyssa's episodes on Dear Dr. Tracy: Big Kids Bigger Feelings: Parenting Through the Ages 5-12 Shift with Alyssa Blask Campbell Emotional Intelligence: Fostering it in Our Children Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Pre-order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I’m joined by Devon Kuntzman, toddler expert and author of Transforming Toddlerhood.Devon and I dig into the beautiful chaos of the toddler years—what’s developmentally normal, what we often mislabel as “bad behavior,” and how we can meet kids where they are, not where we wish they were. We talk about boundaries, temperament, and why embracing imperfection might just be your parenting superpower.Whether you’re deep in the toddler trenches or supporting someone who is, this conversation is full of permission, perspective, and practical tools.Alright folks, let’s dive in. Connect with Devon: Instagram: @transformingtoddlerhood Website: www.transformingtoddlerhood.com Order the book: Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums, End Power Struggles, and Raise Resilient Kids---Without Losing Your Mind Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew  Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now!  Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurkland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and  Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices