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Disempowered to Empowered: Meltdowns, Boundaries & Donuts   In this heartfelt episode, Patricia (she/her) shares three powerful personal stories that highlight the challenges—and wins—that come with being a sensitive, creative, neurodivergent human. From navigating family dynamics around living arrangements, to reclaiming power after a disempowering volunteer experience, and even exploring the emotional depth behind a simple craving for an apple fritter, Patricia offers an intimate and validating glimpse into what it's like to be an AuDHDer who feels things deeply—and still chooses to show up.   KEY TAKEAWAYS ·      You don’t need to justify your needs. “They don’t have to understand why I need two months. I just do.” ·      High masking + high empathy often = emotional invisibility. You're not alone if you feel overlooked or undervalued. ·      Internalizers often seem fine while falling apart inside—naming your pain out loud is a radical act of self-love. ·      Disempowerment doesn’t mean you're weak. It often comes from past trauma, sensory overload, or lack of support. ·      Communication isn't always immediate. It’s okay if clarity or assertiveness comes a day (or three) later. ·      There's no such thing as “too sensitive”—just systems that weren't built for your needs.   HIGHLIGHTS   ·       Patricia emphasizes the importance of asserting one's needs without feeling apologetic. ·       She shares her experience of feeling disempowered in family dynamics and how she navigated that. ·       The conversation highlights the challenges of communication in relationships, especially for neurodivergent individuals. ·       Patricia discusses the significance of volunteering and how it contributes to her sense of empowerment. ·       She reflects on the internal struggles (and unrealistic desire) of wanting others to understand her needs without explicit communication. ·       The importance of processing emotions and taking time to understand one's feelings is emphasized. ·       Patricia shares her journey of finding strength in her volunteering experience with horses. ·       She discusses the impact of trauma on her ability to communicate effectively. ·       The conversation touches on the theme of sensitivity being a unique aspect of one's identity, not something to apologize for. ·       Patricia encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity and understand its value.   SOUND BITES "I need to have a meltdown." "It's my responsibility." "I felt seen and I felt heard." "I think we’ve learned to just detach from our feelings, to dissociate, and go along to get along—but it just doesn’t work for us anymore." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren’t built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are.   TOPICS COVERED  ·       Autistic meltdowns & internal regulation: How Patricia recognized an impending meltdown and advocated for space and support. ·       Family boundaries & accommodation: The emotional toll of giving up a beloved workspace, and the grief that often goes unseen. ·       Losing & reclaiming joy: When creative hobbies fade and space feels scarce, how do you reconnect with yourself? ·       Assertiveness without apology: Speaking up about needs, even when it's hard, awkward, or overdue. ·       Feeling invisible in groups: Disempowerment during horse volunteer training and the journey to feeling confident and capable again. ·       Processing delays & trauma: Why it sometimes takes days to realize something didn’t feel okay—and that’s valid. ·       The donut story (yes, it matters): What a pastry can teach us about needs, unmet expectations, and healthy communication. ·       Relational repair & emotional safety: The delicate dance of vulnerability, misunderstanding, and being met with care. ·       The problem with people-pleasing: When masking and fawning keep you from honoring your own feelings. ·       What sensitivity really means: Reframing neurodivergent traits as strengths, not flaws. PODCAST HOST Patricia (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia’s website, podcast episodes and more: twww.unapologeticallysensitive.com   LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Podcast UnapologeticallyAuDHD-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/  e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Friendship, Boundaries, and Other Olympic Sports for Autistic Brains   Patricia gets real about friendship challenges, navigating communication mismatches, and how OCD and autistic wiring can shape our relationship expectations. She shares a behind-the-scenes peek into her new podcast project, the insecurities that surfaced while collaborating with her co-host, and how unexpected moments of validation reminded her that what she brings to the table is more than enough.   HIGHLIGHTS    ·      Patricia plans to release the podcast bi-monthly to avoid burnout. ·      Insecurities can arise when starting new projects, but validation helps. ·      Everyone has unique strengths, even when they feel insecure about them. ·      Communication in friendships can be challenging, especially for neurodivergent individuals. ·      It's important to recognize that others' actions are not always about us. ·      Self-reflection is can be helpful in understanding relationships. ·      Sharing experiences can have a profound impact on listeners. ·      Validation from others can remind one of the importance of one's work. ·      It's okay to change and evolve over time, both personally and professionally. ·      Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining comfort and well-being.    SOUND BITES ·      "It's not about me." ·      "It's okay for things to change." ·      "What I have to share is enough." ·      "You’re not for everybody and everyone’s not for you." ·      "Reliability, plans, and clear communication are high values of mine and they calm my nervous system." ·      "We can’t know what we don’t know."    SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren’t built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are.   CHAPTERS (please add time for addition of introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Changes 01:30 Navigating Insecurities and Trusting Strengths 05:30 Friendship Dynamics and Communication 09:14 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth 14:23 Validation and Impact of Sharing Experiences 21:17 Recognizing and Embracing Strengths PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people. LINKS   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Breaking Down Internalized Ableism  Summary In this conversation, Patricia explores the concept of internalized ableism, particularly among neurodivergent individuals. She discusses how societal stigma and expectations can lead to negative self-perceptions and feelings of inadequacy. Patricia shares personal experiences and insights on how internalized ableism manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, self-acceptance, and the pressure to conform to neurotypical standards. She emphasizes the importance of unlearning these hurtful beliefs and embracing one's neurodivergent identity with compassion and understanding.   HIGHLIGHTS   ·       Internalized ableism is the unconscious adoption of negative beliefs about oneself due to societal stigma. ·       Neurodivergent individuals often feel pressure to conform to neurotypical standards, which can lead to trauma. ·       Resting is a valid need and should not be seen as a failure. ·       Asking for accommodations is essential for well-being and should not induce guilt. ·       The concept of 'high functioning' can be harmful and does not reflect true capabilities. ·       Time agnosia is a common experience for neurodivergent individuals. ·       Self-compassion is crucial in overcoming internalized ableism. ·       Relationships can be affected by the fear of being a burden. ·       Unlearning internalized ableism involves recognizing and challenging societal expectations. ·       Embracing neurodivergence includes acknowledging strengths and practicing self-acceptance. 115 SPECIFIC POINTS DISCUSSED 1.     How internalized ableism shows up in everyday life o   Masking, pushing through burnout, or feeling "lazy" when you're resting. 2.     Messages we absorbed growing up o   From school, parents, peers, or media about being "too much," "distracted," "weird," or "wrong." 3.     Perfectionism and people-pleasing as survival o   How needing to be “better” or “easy to manage” is often rooted in internalized shame. 4.     The trap of “not disabled enough” or “faking it” o   How we invalidate our own struggles because we don't “look” stereotypically disabled. 5.     ADHD, autism, OCD & “high-functioning” narratives o   The myth of being “high functioning” and how it reinforces ableist expectations. 6.     Feeling guilt for needing accommodations or rest o   That voice that says “you’re being difficult” when you ask for what you actually need. 7.     Shame around executive dysfunction o   Struggling to start tasks, follow through, or manage time — and blaming yourself. 8.     Rejecting your own needs to fit in o   Forcing eye contact, avoiding stimming, hiding rituals, not using noise-canceling headphones in public, etc. 9.     The pressure to be “independent” all the time o   How internalized capitalism + ableism equates needing support with being a failure. 10.  Comparing yourself to neurotypical peers ·       Especially in productivity, relationships, or emotional regulation. 11.  “If I can do it sometimes, I should always be able to” myth ·       Inconsistent ability = inconsistent worth? Nope. Talk about spoon theory and fluctuating capacity. 12.  How OCD-specific traits are misunderstood or mocked ·       And how that seeps into how you see yourself (e.g., feeling “crazy,” “irrational,” or “a burden”). 13.  Internalized ableism in dating & relationships ·       Fear of being too much, too emotional, or too rigid — and minimizing yourself as a result. 14.  How healing looks like reclaiming your needs unapologetically ·       Self-accommodation, boundaries, rest, and neurodivergent joy as rebellion. 15.  Relearning self-compassion and identity pride ·       Ending with hope: unmasking, connecting with community, and defining success on your own terms.    SOUND BITES ·       "Rest is resistance." ·       "You are not broken." ·       "You deserve rest, joy, and support."    SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren’t built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are.    CHAPTERS (please add time for addition of introduction) 00:00 Understanding Internalized Ableism 02:40 The Impact of Societal Expectations 05:31 Navigating Personal Experiences with Internalized Ableism 08:18 The Struggle for Accommodations 10:55 Executive Dysfunction and Inconsistent Abilities 14:01 The Pressure of Productivity 16:53 Feeling 'Not Enough' in Neurodivergence 19:43 Unlearning Internalized Ableism 22:27 Building Self-Compassion and Acceptance  PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Rest Is Resistance: Free yourself from grind culture and reclaim your life by Tricia Hersey. Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Some Challenges in Neurodivergent Communication Summary In this episode, Patricia discusses the challenges faced by AuDHDers and other neurodivergent individuals in communication, particularly regarding lack of responding to messages. She explores the concept of internalized ableism and how it affects self-perception and interactions. Patricia shares personal experiences and insights on the importance of flexibility in relationships and the need for authenticity in communication. The conversation emphasizes the struggles of neurodivergent individuals, including executive functioning challenges, and the significance of self-acceptance and understanding in navigating social situations.   HIGHLIGHTS It's not uncommon for neurodivergent individuals to struggle with responding to messages. ·       Internalized ableism can affect how we perceive our struggles. ·       Flexibility in relationships is helpful for understanding each other's challenges. ·       People often have their own timeframes for communication. ·       It's important to give ourselves permission to not always follow plans. ·       Authenticity in communication can foster better relationships. ·       Neurodivergent individuals often attract other neurodivergent friends and partners with similar experiences. ·       Comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy among neurodivergent individuals. ·       Being open about our struggles can help others feel validated. ·       Sensitivity is a natural part of being neurodivergent and should be embraced.  SOUND BITES "I have so much room for that." "We have a hard time taking breaks." "It's hard for me to not compare." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED ·      You have a right to be joyful, forgetful, ableist, non-ableist, stimmy, non-stimmy.  ·      You're not for everyone. Everyone's not for you.   ·      It's okay to push through.  ·      It's okay to rest.      It's okay to compare.  ·      It's okay to trust that how you show up in the world is fine and all you have to do is be you and who is meant to be in your life will be there and the people that aren't, will drop away.   CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating Communication Challenges 06:35 Understanding Internalized Ableism 11:39 The Struggles of Neurodivergence 17:24 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, she/her was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Coping and Prepatory Strategies for Overstimulating Situations   Summary   In this episode, Patricia discusses her experiences with content creation, coping strategies for overstimulation, and managing sensory sensitivities during significant life events like weddings. She shares insights on emotional preparation, adjusting to changes in family dynamics, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance to prevent burnout. Throughout the conversation, she emphasizes the importance of self-care, embracing imperfection, and recognizing the rights of individuals to rest and be themselves.    HIGHLIGHTS  ·       I struggle with overstimulation at events. ·       Earplugs help me manage sensory sensitivities. ·       Having a plan can reduce anxiety before events. ·       It's okay to slow down and take breaks. ·       I feel a little jealous of my husband's attention to our kids. ·       Managing workload is about finding balance. ·       I have a right to rest and take care of myself. ·       Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for. ·       Embracing imperfection is key to self-acceptance.   SOUND BITES "Done is better than perfect." "It's okay to slow down." "I have a right to rest."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED ·      You have a right to rest. ·      you have a right to push through. ·      you have a right to be nervous and anxious and to overthink. ·      You have a right to use tools that help you. ·      You have a right to be stimmy and happy and loud and bouncy. ·      You have a right to be quiet and reserved and to rest and to take care of yourself. CHAPTERS   00:00 Navigating Content Creation Challenges 01:22 Coping Strategies for Overstimulation 05:35 Managing Sensory Sensitivities at Events 10:17 Emotional Preparation for Major Life Events 15:42 Adjusting to Changes in Family Dynamics 18:45 Work-Life Balance and Preventing Burnout 25:22 Overcoming Perfectionism and Embracing Imperfection PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Overstimulation & Recharge and the Impact on Relationships   In this conversation, Patricia explores the themes of overstimulation, the importance of recharging, and the dynamics of friendship, particularly in the context of neurodivergence. She shares her personal experiences with protesting, the challenges of feeling safe in crowds, and the emotional complexities of friendships, including rejection sensitivity, and the trauma that many Autistics have experienced in relationships. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-care, understanding one's limits, and the significance of connection in navigating life's challenges.   HIGHLIGHTS   ·       We often need to recharge after overstimulation. ·       Protesting can be a positive experience despite initial fears. ·       It's important to communicate needs in friendships. ·       Rejection sensitivity can affect how we perceive relationships. ·       Predictability and routine can provide comfort for neurodivergent individuals. ·       Self-care is essential for emotional regulation. ·       Understanding our triggers can help in managing our responses. ·       Friendships can change, and it's okay to let go. ·       We should honor our sensitivity and the way we connect with others. ·       It's important to recognize that not everyone is meant for us.   SOUND BITES "You have a right to rest." "You are not meant for everyone."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You have a right to reach out to friends. You have a right to rest. You have a right to be playful. You have a right to be serious and quiet. Our idea of fun is not always what a neurotypical's idea of fun is, and that could be studying a language, studying something that you're interested in, doing a craft project, spending time with animals. You have a right to be quiet. You have a right to be loud. You are not meant for everyone and everyone is not meant for you.   CHAPTERS   00:00 Navigating Overstimulation and Recharge 06:04 Experiencing Protest: A Personal Journey 11:54 Friendship Dynamics and Rejection Sensitivity 18:48 Patterns of Engagement and Disengagement PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com    

Performative Expectations vs. Honoring Your Neurodivergent (AuDHD) Needs     In this conversation, Patricia discusses the challenges of navigating personal truths, autonomy, and performative expectations, particularly as an AuDHDer. Patricia reflects on her struggles with body image, the importance of self-trust, the need for autonomy (PDA), honoring her needs as a neurodivergent human, and prioritizing her comfort. She also addresses social anxiety, the joy of spontaneity, and the balance between assertiveness and sensitivity in relationships. Ultimately, Patricia emphasizes personal growth and the acceptance of one's unique identity through the planning and execution of her son’s wedding.   HIGHLIGHTS   ·       Navigating personal truths is essential for autonomy, and working with PDA (pervasive or persistent drive for autonomy) ·       Performative expectations can override the needs of the human. ·       Body image issues are apt to come up when asked to wear clothes one doesn’t normally wear. ·       Self-trust is crucial in making personal choices. ·       Finding comfort in clothing is important for self-regulation, and feeling authentic. ·       Fear of overwhelm and dysregulation can be mitigated with preparation. ·       Embracing spontaneity can enhance connections with others. ·       Assertiveness is necessary in family dynamics. ·       Personal growth often comes from challenging experiences. ·       Sensitivity is a strength, not a weakness.   SOUND BITES "This is not about getting married." "I felt so present." "I really wanted to honor the bride." "I was very disheartened." "I fell in love with it."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You have a right to trust that you are exactly where you need to be. There's not anything you need to do. Your value and worth does not come from being productive. You can be stimmy. You can be joyful. You can be quiet.   You can be assertive. You can be moving your body. You can be still. You can want to touch all of the dogs in the world, and all of the horses. You can want to be left alone. You can enjoy being with people not being with people. Every single part of you is okay exactly the way you are.   CHAPTERS   00:00 Navigating Personal Truths and Autonomy 03:01 The Impact of Performative Expectations 05:55 Body Image and Self-Trust 09:11 Finding Comfort in Personal Choices 12:11 Overcoming Social Anxiety and Overstimulation 14:52 Embracing Spontaneity and Connection 18:08 Balancing Assertiveness and Sensitivity 20:46 Reflections on Personal Growth and Relationships   PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Lessons From the Past and Moving Forward In this episode, Patricia reconnects after a long break to discuss personal growth through relationships, dealing with OCD, and navigating self-disclosure. Patricia shares experiences with past friendships, lessons learned, and the journey of forming new connections while managing neurodivergence. Tips for content creation and future podcast plans are also highlighted. HIGHLIGHTS ·       Patricia’s return to podcasting after a long hiatus. ·       Struggles with OCD and its impact on relationships. ·       The emotional journey of navigating challenges in a significant friendship. ·       The importance of respecting privacy and boundaries in self-disclosure. ·       Learning from past relationships and embracing outcomes. ·       Reconnecting with old friends and forming new connections at 61. ·       The impact of neurodivergence on forming and maintaining relationships. ·       The significance of reciprocal relationships and understanding others' limitations. ·       Realizing the need for balanced expectations in friendships. ·       Reflections on societal pressures for lifelong friendships. ·       The role of stress and personal triggers in relationship dynamics. ·       Exploring new creative projects and podcast collaborations. ·       The challenges and rewards of working with a co-host on a new podcast. ·       Differences in preferences and vision while designing a new podcast logo. ·       Plans for shorter, more manageable podcast episodes moving forward. ·       The importance of embracing vulnerability and authenticity in content creation. ·       Steps taken to ensure the sustainability of the podcast. ·       Emphasizing self-acceptance and the value of personal growth. ·       Encouragement to reach out for personal coaching and share feedback on the podcast. SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOU’RE WIRED It's okay to have hard times. It's okay to feel lonely. It's okay to feel lonely when you're with a bunch of people. It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to be happy, joyful, and stimmy. It's okay to be quiet and reserved. It's okay to want to be out and doing things. It's okay to want to be in your bed, in your home where it's cozy and comfy. There is no way that you can screw up being who you are because who you are is really okay. It's even when it feels like you're not okay. You are enough. You are perfect as you are. You're wired differently and finding people that are wired like you can really make a difference. If you have that great and if you don't have it PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/  Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Taking a Podcast Break: Self-Acceptance & Self-Worth     Patricia announces that she will be taking a break from the podcast. She discusses the challenges of OCD and attachment injuries in relationships and shares tools that have been helpful for her, such as identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations. She also talks about the importance of rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships. Patricia expresses gratitude to all the listeners, and emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and self-worth.   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   Taking breaks for self-care and healing is important, even in professional endeavors. Identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations can help navigate relationships and attachment injuries. Rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships can strengthen the therapeutic alliance. Self-acceptance and self-worth are essential for personal growth and well-being.   Sound Bites "I'm going to be taking a break from the podcast." "We struggle, especially if you're neurodivergent, if you're autistic, if you identify as a highly sensitive person." "I can regulate on my own and I am able to stay connected." Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 00:00 Taking a Break for Healing and Self-Care 02:16 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Injuries 04:10 Tools for Identifying Wants, Needs, Desires, and Expectations 09:41 The Challenges of Containing Emotions in Relationships 15:04 The Power of Rupture and Repair in Therapy and Coaching 20:37 Embracing Self-Acceptance and Self-Worth PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Attachment Injuries and OCD: The Healing Continues Summary   Patricia discusses her experience with OCD and attachment injuries while Jen, is on vacation. She explores her fears and insecurities about asking for support and needing connection. Patricia reflects on the importance of consistent communication and creating containers to improve nervous system regulation. She also delves into her childhood experiences of feeling invisible and not belonging, and how this impacts current relationships.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   ·         Consistent communication and connection can help soothe attachment injuries and provide a sense of security. ·         It's important to ask for support and express your needs, even if it feels uncomfortable or vulnerable. ·         Childhood experiences of feeling invisible or not belonging can impact current relationships, but healing and corrective experiences are possible. ·         Managing medication and mood during challenging times requires self-awareness and flexibility. ·         Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for, and everyone has the right to take up space and ask for what they need.   Ways to navigate attachment injuries and related OCD   ·         Acknowledge and accept personal wounds and trauma. ·         Establish consistent connections with a supportive individual. ·         When possible, engage in regular communication to ease nervous system and promote relaxation. ·         Reflect on past experiences to differentiate from current relationships. ·         Practice self-awareness and internal reflection. ·         Identify personal needs and communicate them. ·         Let go of expectations and embrace uncertainty ·         Challenge negative thoughts and OCD lies. ·         Stay present and focused on current tasks. ·         Acknowledge intrusive thoughts without acting on them. ·         Engage in corrective work to address attachment injuries. ·         Cultivate a sense of security and belonging through consistent connections.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Context 01:29 Navigating OCD and Attachment Injuries 08:05 The Importance of Consistent Communication 20:38 Healing Childhood Wounds in Relationships 26:08 Managing Medication and Mood 29:18 Embracing Sensitivity and Taking Up Space PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com