ADHD and New Relationship Energy: Awareness, Safety, and Communication

In this episode of the Translating ADHD podcast, Asher and Dusty explore the concept of New Relationship Energy (NRE) and how it uniquely impacts individuals with ADHD. They discuss how ADHD brains are drawn to novelty and intense dopamine experiences, which can make the early stages of any relationship—romantic or friendship—feel overwhelming and all-consuming. The hosts highlight challenges such as impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and the difficulty in distinguishing genuine connection from the excitement of novelty. They stress the importance of time to truly know someone, managing expectations upfront, and being cautious to avoid rushing into commitments or overlooking red flags. Asher and Dusty also share practical tips for maintaining healthy relationships beyond the initial novelty phase. These include setting clear communication expectations, using reminders to retain important details about partners or friends, and regularly renegotiating relationship needs to ensure mutual well-being. They emphasize self-awareness about personal values, limitations, and compatibility, along with the necessity of protecting oneself from toxic relationships by moving at a comfortable pace. Overall, the episode offers both insight and actionable strategies for people with ADHD to navigate new relationships thoughtfully and sustainably. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of the Translating ADHD podcast, Asher and Dusty explore the various types and levels of ADHD coaching, highlighting how coaching can range from practical, day-to-day executive function support to deeper, transformational insight work. They emphasize that ADHD coaching is not one-size-fits-all; some clients benefit most from hands-on logistical help, while others thrive on open-ended reflective questions that spark new perspectives. Both hosts share real-life examples illustrating how coaches adjust their approach based on client needs and how experience plays a crucial role in recognizing when to dig deeper or focus on practical scaffolding. The episode also provides guidance for listeners on how to evaluate if their current ADHD coaching relationship is meeting their needs, cautioning against coaches who guarantee quick fixes. Asher shares a story about helping a client realize the importance of managing time as a resource, which was a breakthrough beyond organizing tasks. Dusty adds the importance of coaching clients to develop sustainable systems that work beyond the sessions. Overall, the conversation helps listeners understand what to expect from ADHD coaching and encourages them to seek the level of support that truly fits their unique challenges. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of Translating ADHD, Asher and Dusty explore the unique ways people with ADHD experience friendships and social interactions. They emphasize the importance of being intentional about the types of friendships and social situations that truly fulfill and energize you. Both hosts share personal stories illustrating their differing social preferences. They highlight that understanding your own needs and communication styles can help you cultivate relationships that support and nourish you rather than drain you. They also discuss common challenges such as managing expectations around communication, dealing with social anxiety, and coping with overstimulation. Both encourage listeners to embrace their authentic social selves, whether introverted or extroverted, and to set boundaries that honor their rhythms. The episode underscores the value of friendships that accept neurodivergent traits without judgment and the importance of mutual flexibility. Ultimately, Asher and Dusty invite listeners to rethink traditional social norms and find what genuinely works for their ADHD brains in building meaningful connections. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of the Translating ADHD podcast, Ash and Dusty dive into the diverse ways ADHD manifests in individuals, including their own experiences. Both diagnosed with combined type ADHD, Dusty leans more hyperactive while Ash leans inattentive, leading to strikingly different challenges and coping mechanisms. Dusty shares her "ready, fire, aim" approach, embracing complexity and constant activity, whereas Ash describes his struggle with inaction and getting stuck in neutral. They discuss how these differences influence their daily lives, time management, decision-making, and social engagement, emphasizing that ADHD is not a one-size-fits-all condition. The hosts highlight the importance of personalized coaching and self-experimentation in managing ADHD effectively. They caution against generic advice found on social platforms and stress the value of curiosity and adaptability in discovering individual solutions. By sharing their contrasting experiences and strategies, Ash and Dusty illustrate how coaching encourages people with ADHD to understand their unique profiles and engineer approaches that fit their lifestyles, ultimately fostering empowerment rather than frustration. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of Translating ADHD, Asher and Dusty explore the complex balance between showing up authentically as a neurodivergent person and the social accommodations necessary for healthy personal relationships. They unpack the nuanced difference between masking (hiding or changing one’s personality to fit in) and modulating (adapting communication and behavior appropriately to different social contexts). The conversation highlights how neurodivergent people often struggle with black-and-white thinking about authenticity, while real-life social interactions require constant give-and-take, consent, and mutual accommodation. Asher and Dusty also share personal experiences from their working relationship to illustrate concepts of regulating emotions and modulating behavior. They emphasize the importance of ownership of one’s neurodivergent traits alongside understanding the impact those traits have on others. The episode underscores that successful relationships rely on clear communication, willingness to adapt, and recognizing individual capacities for accommodation — all within a foundation of growing intimacy and trust. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of Translating ADHD, Asher and Dusty continue their conversation on social skills by focusing on advocacy and adaptation in the workplace for neurodivergent individuals. They discuss the challenges ADHD and autism can pose in professional settings, especially when colleagues and managers lack understanding of neurodiversity. Through client stories and personal experiences, they illustrate how behaviors like asking many questions or seeming disruptive can be misunderstood and lead to negative consequences, including job loss. They emphasize the importance of awareness about how neurodivergent traits show up and are perceived, as well as the need for workplace accommodations that go beyond task-related adjustments to include communication and social dynamics. The hosts also explore practical strategies for adaptation and self-advocacy, such as developing awareness of unwritten workplace rules, using clear communication about one’s working style, and collaborating with supportive managers who can provide backing and help set boundaries. They highlight the value of understanding “what’s yours, mine, and ours” in workplace conflict to identify where change is possible. Ultimately, Asher and Dusty stress that while some environments may be untenable, there are workplaces where neurodivergent strengths can be valued and flourished. The episode closes with the reminder that strength and challenge often go hand in hand, and cultivating intentional awareness helps individuals navigate and leverage their unique traits effectively in different contexts. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty CADDAC Workplace Accommodations Chart For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of Translating ADHD, Asher and Dusty explore the complex balance between adapting social behavior and advocating for oneself as a neurodivergent person, especially within the context of ADHD. They emphasize the distinction between harmful masking and healthy adaptation, underscoring the importance of choice in how one shows up socially. Dusty introduces the concept of “intimacy buckets” to help listeners understand social boundaries and appropriate sharing depending on the type of relationship, a framework she found highly useful for building social awareness. The conversation shifts to the workplace, where navigating social expectations can have significant economic consequences for neurodivergent individuals. Both hosts acknowledge how difficult it can be to find or create inclusive environments but stress the importance of awareness, social skills, and advocacy under the protection of disability accommodations when possible. They also highlight the harsh reality that sometimes adaptation is necessary for survival in non-inclusive settings. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of the Translating ADHD podcast, Asher and Dusty explore the challenges and opportunities involved in creating routines that work well for people with ADHD. They emphasize starting with what you already do and finding ways to add value without overcomplicating or overengineering your daily habits. The hosts discuss how routines don't have to be perfect or rigid but should instead be adaptable to individual capacity, positionality, and life seasons. They also provide real-life examples of small adjustments, such as using waiting times productively or breaking down tasks into manageable chunks, to help listeners build sustainable daily practices. Asher and Dusty also highlight the importance of self-awareness in designing routines, pointing out that some people thrive on structure while others need flexibility and novelty to stay engaged. They caution against forcing generic advice like strict checklists onto everyone and encourage listeners to find their own balance between formal systems and going with the flow. Ultimately, they remind listeners that routines serve the purpose of making life easier and more fulfilling, not more stressful or overwhelming. The key takeaway is that progress matters more than perfection and that routines should be tailored to fit one’s unique needs and energy levels. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of the Translating ADHD podcast, Asher and Dusty explore the challenge many people with ADHD face in capturing moments of high motivation and inspiration, often described as "lightning strikes." They discuss how the friction caused by disorganization or incomplete routines can prevent these moments from turning into productive or enjoyable experiences. Dusty introduces the concept of "making the stars align" — setting up one's environment and habits in advance to reduce barriers, so when motivation hits, it's easier to act on it. Both share personal examples, such as the frustration of not having clean clothes ready or art supplies prepared, illustrating how small daily habits can either support or hinder these moments of flow. The hosts also emphasize the importance of shifting motivation from external "shoulds" to internal, meaningful reasons that resonate deeply with the individual. They suggest practical strategies like future forecasting—considering consequences of inaction—and celebrating small wins to build awareness and positive reinforcement. The episode concludes with advice for listeners to start small by choosing one area to reduce friction and prepare for future inspired moments, highlighting that even minor adjustments can lead to greater success and satisfaction in managing ADHD challenges. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of Translating ADHD, Asher and Dusty discuss the crucial role of fun and joy as essential tools for managing ADHD. They explore how many people with ADHD fall into the trap of endless to-do lists and feel they must “earn” their fun, which leads to burnout, depletion, and a life spent in procrastination or the “dark playground” — a place of unproductive scrolling and disengagement. By prioritizing fun and incorporating playfulness into daily routines, individuals can create the mental capacity and motivation needed to tackle tasks more effectively. Dusty shares a personal story about transforming the mundane task of taking calcium pills into a joyful ritual, highlighting how small changes in aesthetics and mindset can make a significant difference. The hosts also introduce a framework called the "Forces of Fun," breaking down fun into four categories: create, consume, commune, and cavort. They emphasize the importance of making space for pure fun, even when it feels difficult due to executive dysfunction or burnout. Strategies such as pre-deciding activities or creating dopamine menus help overcome barriers to engaging in enjoyable activities. The episode concludes with a reminder that fun is a birthright and an essential part of self-care for people with ADHD—not a reward to be earned but a necessary part of living well. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com