34. Two years of being a whore has made me change my mind on some things...

You have been asking me - how do I become an escort? What tips do you have for beginners in the industry? I'm finally answering that, and giving my advice for anyone who is interested in entering the world of full service sex work. This advice will also be helpful for those who are already established in the industry in other locations, but are looking for logistical information about specifically working in Europe.To be clear, this episode is NOT a comprehensive guide that tells you everything you need to know about escorting successfully and safely. This is meant to be a starting point, and it is meant to encourage you to do your own research. Safety information specifically varies so much depending on your location - I touch briefly on safety in this work, but it is imperative that you do your own research and have multiple ways to keep yourself safe while working. Elise's article that I read out: https://open.substack.com/pub/nineseedyelk/p/agony-elise-how-do-i-become-a-sexElise's article on boundaries, do give this one a read: https://open.substack.com/pub/nineseedyelk/p/companionship-the-question-of-enduranceIf you are located in Berlin, Hydra is a fantastic resource that offers information, counseling, and even specific open office hours for information on how to start escorting in Berlin: https://www.hydra-berlin.de/

It's been a while since I sat down alone to share my opinions - and those opinions have changed. I'm taking back what I said in some of my previous episodes, and sharing some new things I've learned. Let's talk about spirituality, dating, and north american vs european men when they cheat.

Disabled men are rarely able to get their sexual needs filled. That's where Sonia comes in - she not only offers specific services as an escort to accommodate disabled clients, but also gives them a discount. They make up much of her clientele, and have shaped her outlook on both work and life. We chatted about her experiences in sex work - not just with disabled clients, but with pro submission, 6 week trips with clients, her female clientele and so much more. Follow Sonia on socials:https://www.instagram.com/sonia.von.sacherhttps://www.tiktok.com/⁨@sonia.von.sacher⁩ 

As one of the host cities for the FIFA world cup, Vancouver is already prepping for the alleged sex trafficking that comes with the event. But there's a catch - there is absolutely no proof to back up the claim that such sporting events cause an increase in sex trafficking, nor even an increase in demand for consensual sex work. Crystal from SWAN Vancouver joined me to discuss the tangible negative effects these trafficking myths have on sex workers, as well as current political changes in Vancouver that are making vulnerable worker's situations more dire than ever. SWAN is a non-profit organization that promotes the rights, health, and safety of im/migrant women engaged in indoor sex work through frontline service and systemic advocacy. They offer low-barrier, culturally-specialized, and non-stigmatizing services through both inreach and outreach programs.Donate to SWAN:https://swanvancouver.ca/donate/Follow SWAN on IG:https://www.instagram.com/swan_vancouver/Volunteer in Vancouver to help SWAN organizer safer sex supplies:https://swanvancouver.ca/volunteer/

Germany has been called "the brothel of Europe" due to it's thriving sex trade and relatively lax laws. But are those laws really all that lax? Anne Bonny, an activist and member of Hydra e.V. joined me to discuss the current and future realities of sex workers in Germany. We discussed the current "Prostitution Protection Act", the push to bring the Nordic Model to Germany, and the laws that sex workers in Germany want for themselves. Donate to Hydra: https://www.hydra-berlin.de/en/donationsLearn more about Hydra: https://www.hydra-berlin.de/en/Follow Anne: https://www.instagram.com/anne.bonny.berlin

Mistress Vera Von F is no stranger to racism in the sex industry, and she joined me in London to discuss both her own experiences as well as pervasive racism throughout the industry. We dove into race play, online harassment, beauty standards, and how sexual desires reflect subconscious prejudices. Follow Mistress Vera:https://www.instagram.com/von.floozy/

Lenina Crowne, a high class companion in London, joined me while I visited her city to discuss social media visibility as a sex worker, how plastic surgery has affected her life, how autism makes her a better escort, and how we feel about OnlyFans vs escorting.Follow Lenina on socials:https://www.instagram.com/leninacrownex/https://x.com/RequiemLenina

What is whorebaiting? Why do people pretend to be sex workers when they're not? Edie and I discussed this, along with the "female gaze" in sex work, working through recessions, my criticisms of Kayla Jade, and starting a business as a sex worker.Edie Montana is a stripper, performer, show director, and writer. She is the co-founder and director of Slut Riot, a growing platform that combines art and activism, aimed at de-stigmatising sex work through performances and art. Born and raised in the Italian countryside, she completed a master’s in Cultural Studies in New Zealand with her thesis on sex work representation, and now lives in Berlin. Her writing has been published in The New York Times and Huffpost, among other publications.Follow Edie on Socials:https://www.instagram.com/edie.montana/Check out Slut Riot:https://www.instagram.com/slvtriothttps://linktr.ee/slvtriot

Mahx Capacity joined me to discuss being a porn doula, keeping an indie queer porn company financially afloat, consent on porn sets, creators as a non-renewable resource, and finding community in the queer porn world.Mahx Capacity is a Brooklyn based performance maker, entrepreneur and postmodern pornographer. They are the co-founder and creative director of Aorta Films as well as a performer and consultant.Check out Aorta Films:https://www.instagram.com/aorta_studiohttps://bsky.app/profile/aortafilms.bsky.socialhttps://x.com/aorta_filmsFollow Mahx:https://www.instagram.com/mahxcapacity666

Trailblazer of queer porn Jiz Lee joined me on the pod to discuss their favorite sex trends, burnout in art vs porn, how the porn landscape has change for creators, fears surrounding AI in porn, and their advice for queer people who want to enter the industry.Find more of Jiz:https://www.instagram.com/jizlee/https://bsky.app/profile/jizlee.bsky.socialBuy their book, "Coming Out Like a Porn Star"https://jizlee.bigcartel.com/