When do you step in?

When do you take responsibility for someone else?In season 2, episode 2 of Unguarded, we explore two confronting stories and the questions they raise about courage, complicity and the power of a group. What makes people work together to protect someone, while others participate in harm or look away?For us, that conversation comes back to parenting. How do we raise kids who stand up for others, even when staying quiet would be easier? How do we help them resist the pressure to follow the crowd?We share how coaching our son through a difficult conversation with a friend brought these questions into our own home. Because learning to speak up starts long before the stakes are high.Join us for an honest conversation about the choices we make, the responsibility we have to one another, and what we're teaching our kids along the way.Content note: This episode discusses sexual assault.

Why is change so hard—even when we know it’s needed? This week on Unguarded, we explore how we navigate transition, especially when we didn’t see it coming. From losing a job to shifting friendships or the end of a relationship, change can leave us questioning who we are and what comes next.We talk about making space for grief, finding our focus in uncertainty, and growing stronger and more resilient through it all. An honest conversation about letting go, moving forward, and taking the next step when you don’t have the whole picture.We hope you enjoy!

We’re back! After a whirlwind month of travel, transitions, and launching Mosaic Calabasas, we’re jumping into a deeply honest conversation about love, timing, and knowing when to let go—or when to fight for what you have.In this episode, we talk about the quiet signs that a breakup might be coming, the tension between chemistry and commitment, and why so many people delay decisions they already know they need to make. We also explore how faith, alignment, and confidence shape our relationships and help us find clarity in moments of uncertainty.Plus, we celebrate our first Unguarded wedding (shoutout David and Melissa!), reminisce about wildflowers and Italian escapes, and ask: are you willing to be empty so something greater can be unlocked in you?This one’s for anyone standing at a relational crossroads—unsure whether to keep going or walk away. You’re not alone, and your next step might just be your most courageous one yet.

In this deeply vulnerable follow-up on red flags in relationships, we explore the nuanced space between truth-telling and tearing someone down. Is it possible to speak honestly about past pain without dragging someone through the mud? We unpack why discretion isn’t just wise—it’s healing. From the aftermath of betrayal to the quiet power of emotional restraint, this conversation is about how to move forward without being held hostage by the past.We also open up about jealousy, long-distance growing pains, and learning to celebrate your partner’s joy—even when you’re not part of it. What does it look like to truly want someone to thrive? We reflect on our own journey—messy, complicated, and full of growth—and how small choices like a kind text or a little space can become sacred turning points.Finally, we get real about manipulation, isolation, infidelity, and the difference between red flags and redemption. With a surprise appearance from our friend Robbie, we explore why community can be your greatest compass in love. If you're navigating heartbreak, healing, or hope for something better, this one’s for you.

We all know the red flags — the obvious ones and the ones that creep in quietly. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the subtle signs that something’s off in a relationship, why so many of us ignore them, and how to recognize the difference between real caution and just cold feet.From respect and curiosity to how someone treats a barista, we unpack the moments that matter. We talk defensiveness, emotional maturity, exes, excuses, and how to trust your gut without letting your eyes lie to you. Plus, we get personal — sharing our own stories, the red flags we dodged, and the green flags we held onto.Whether you’re dating, thinking about dating, or helping a friend through it all — this one’s for you.👀 Part two drops next week!

With an empty house and a rare moment of quiet (thank you, spring break grandparents!), we’re diving deep into all things relationships—specifically that in-between, exciting, and often misunderstood season of engagement.From hilarious groomsmen invites to heartfelt reflections on pre-engagement counseling, we share stories from our own journey and celebrate the engagements of friends like Marcos & Jory and David & Melissa. But more than that, we unpack why feedback, honesty, and curiosity are the real foundations of a strong relationship—before and after the ring.We talk about inviting others into your process, what it means to fully engage with your partner, and how humility and curiosity can make love (and life) more expansive. From slaying personal dragons together to redefining what growth looks like in relationships, this episode is for anyone dating, engaged, married—or just passionate about becoming more whole.

Can you really go 15 years without a single argument? Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz say they have, but we (and most of our listeners) call cap. In this episode of Unguarded, we dive into what they really meant, why healthy conflict is crucial, and how to fight in a way that strengthens your relationship instead of tearing it down. We share our own experiences with disagreements—yes, even over something as small as a T-shirt—and talk about why avoiding fights entirely might not be the flex you think it is.Beyond conflict, we explore the importance of staying engaged—not just in marriage but in every area of life. Whether it’s friendships, faith, or personal growth, disengagement happens gradually, and sometimes we don’t even realize it until we’ve drifted too far. We discuss how intentionality and vulnerability are game-changers, and why staying connected requires work, honesty, and a willingness to chase after the people we care about.Plus, some personal updates! Our kids are off with their grandparents, which means we have two weeks to fully recharge—and with a birthday trip to Italy coming up, we’re soaking in every moment. We also talk about the latest happenings at Mosaic, including our new campus launch and some exciting merch drops. Join us for a real, unfiltered conversation about love, communication, and what it takes to keep showing up for the people in your life. Don’t forget to subscribe, share this episode, and let’s keep the dialogue going!#Unguarded #Relationships #Marriage #FightingFair #BetterTogether #Engagement #Communication

In this episode of Unguarded, Bec and Joe reflect on a milestone moment—their very first live podcast recording at Mosaic. They share their excitement about the experience, the unexpected depth of the Q&A session, and the powerful conversations that unfolded in real time. With a couple hundred people in attendance, the event was a testament to the growing Unguarded community and the impact of open, honest discussions about relationships. If you missed it, they encourage you to listen back, subscribe, and join the journey as they continue creating spaces for real connection and transformation.Beyond the live episode, Bec and Joe open up about a whirlwind season of life, from leading relationship classes to working on new merch (hint: vintage hats might be involved!). They dive into the chaos of balancing marriage, parenting, and ministry while navigating big life transitions. One of the biggest? Moving to Calabasas to help launch a new Mosaic campus. While Bec wrestles with the bittersweet reality of leaving behind something she loves, Joe embraces the adventure of change, seeing it as an opportunity to grow, risk, and trust in the unexpected. Together, they explore how seasons of uncertainty can actually refine and strengthen relationships.The conversation also touches on personal growth, ambition, and the tension between comfort and change. Joe challenges the idea that stagnancy is safer than stepping into the unknown, while Bec shares how pushing herself outside of her comfort zone—whether in communication, leadership, or creativity—has helped her become more confident in her voice. They leave listeners with a powerful thought: thriving relationships require movement, risk, and a commitment to growth. Whether in love, faith, or purpose, choosing to live unguarded means embracing change, leaning into discomfort, and showing up fully for the people who matter most.

In this episode of Unguarded, hosts Bec and Joe dive into listener-submitted questions about relationships, self-growth, and dating with intentionality. They kick things off by celebrating the podcast’s growing international reach—now spanning 51 countries—and encouraging listeners to keep sharing, engaging, and supporting the Unguarded community.✅ Supporting the Podcast & Community Growth – Exciting updates on upcoming Unguarded merch and live podcast episodes.✅ Are Men Really Trash? – A lighthearted yet insightful discussion on perspectives, grace, and personal growth in relationships.✅ How Do You Know If You’re Ready for a Relationship? – The importance of self-awareness, community, and emotional health before diving into dating.✅ Is There Someone for Everyone? – A deep dive into whether God has a plan for every person to find a partner or if some people are meant to be alone.✅ Red Flags in Dating – Warning signs to watch for, including lack of community, inconsistency in behavior, and defensiveness.✅ Balancing Waiting vs. Being Too Picky – Encouragement to focus on becoming the right person rather than just finding the right person.✅ Dating in Church & Being Healthy Exes – How to break up well, maintain honor, and navigate relationships in shared communities.Bec and Joe emphasize the importance of investing in personal growth, being open to the right opportunities, and trusting that good things will come in time. Their message: Prepare yourself to receive the best, and don’t settle out of fear or impatience.📌 Listen, Share, and Stay Connected!Listeners are encouraged to like, comment, and share the episode to help expand the Unguarded community. With more live episodes, Q&As, and new projects on the way, there’s plenty to look forward to!

In this special live episode, hosts Joe and Bec dive deep into the unfiltered conversations we all need but rarely have. Reflecting on what they’d tell their single selves, they share hard-earned lessons from 14 years of marriage, tackling topics like overcoming the fear of rejection, setting healthy boundaries, and choosing someone who truly sees you. They also explore why wanting love but not needing it is the key to finding the right person.With live audience Q&A, Joe and Bec answer tough questions on dating after heartbreak, navigating cultural differences in relationships, and knowing when to take the next step. Plus, they get real about flirting in church, dating in LA, and taking bold risks in love. Packed with wisdom, humor, and heartfelt moments, this episode is all about breaking down walls and embracing authentic connections. Follow & Subscribe for more raw conversations on love, faith, and relationships! 💛🎙️