Understanding Love Languages (1)

Still missing someone you know you need to move on from?Moving on isn’t always as simple as deciding to let someone go. Sometimes, you can know the relationship wasn’t right and still find yourself thinking about them, missing them, or wondering if you made the right decision.In this episode, I talk about why it can be difficult to let go of someone you still miss, what may be keeping you emotionally attached, and practical ways to begin moving forward.You don’t have to pretend you never cared. You just have to learn how to move forward without allowing the past to keep pulling you back.If this episode resonates with you, like, share, and leave a comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Feelings matter in relationships, but feelings alone are not enough to choose a life partner. You can have chemistry, attraction, butterflies and deep emotions with someone and still be fundamentally incompatible.In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to choose beyond feelings and pay attention to the things that actually shape a healthy, lasting relationship like character, values, emotional maturity, compatibility, communication, faith, conflict resolution, life goals and readiness for commitment.If you’re dating, considering marriage, or simply trying to become more intentional about the kind of relationship you want, this conversation will help you look beyond “How do they make me feel?” and begin asking better questions.Choosing a partner isn’t just about finding someone you love. It’s about choosing someone you can build a healthy life with. If this episode helps you, don’t forget to like, subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear this.

Can you build a healthy relationship while carrying unresolved hurt from previous experiences?Our past experiences can influence how we see ourselves, how we interpret other people’s actions, how we respond to conflict and how comfortable we feel with emotional intimacy.Sometimes, the fear of being abandoned, difficulty trusting, people-pleasing, emotional withdrawal, constant suspicion or the need for reassurance may have deeper roots in experiences we have never fully processed.In this episode, I explore the connection between emotional healing and healthy relationships, helping singles and intending couples understand how unresolved experiences can show up in their present relationships.This session explores the importance of acknowledging emotional wounds, identifying unhealthy patterns, taking responsibility for our healing, developing self-awareness, establishing healthy boundaries and learning new ways of relating to others.Healing doesn’t mean pretending the past never happened. It means processing what happened, understanding how it has affected you and intentionally choosing healthier ways to live, love and relate.You don’t have to be perfectly healed before you deserve love, but you do need to be willing to confront the things that may prevent you from experiencing and participating in healthy love.The goal isn’t to find someone who loves you. It’s also to become emotionally prepared to give and receive love in healthier ways.Listen, reflect and share with someone who needs this reminder.

What does it really take to build a healthy, fulfilling and lasting marriage?In this teaching from the Before You Say Yes Conference, I explore the essential foundations of a healthy marriage and the intentional work required to build a relationship that can thrive beyond the excitement of falling in love.Marriage is more than finding someone you love or saying yes to a proposal. It requires preparation, emotional maturity, shared values, healthy communication, mutual respect, commitment and a willingness to grow together.This session challenges singles and intending couples to look beyond attraction, wedding plans and romantic expectations and begin paying attention to the character, habits, values and relational skills required to build a healthy marriage.Whether you are single, dating, engaged or simply interested in understanding what makes marriages healthy, this teaching will help you reflect on what you are building before you say yes.A beautiful wedding lasts one day, but a healthy marriage is something you build intentionally, every day.Listen, reflect and share with someone preparing for marriage.

Today's video is one of the most important ones I have made. Addiction affects so many families silently and the silence is part of what makes it so devastating. We are breaking that silence today with honesty, compassion, and real hope. Watch the full video. Share it with someone who needs it. If you or someone you love is in this battle, know that help is available and recovery is real.

Why do some people feel most loved when they hear words of affirmation, while others value quality time, thoughtful gifts, acts of service, or physical affection?In this episode of Understanding Your Love Languages, I explore the five love languages popularised by Dr. Gary Chapman and how they shape the ways we give and receive love.I’ll break down each love language, explain why people experience love differently, and discuss how understanding these differences can help us communicate better and build stronger, healthier relationships.I’ll also highlight why knowing someone’s love language is not enough. Healthy relationships require respect, honesty, consistency, accountability, and an understanding of personal boundaries.Ready to learn more about yourself? Take the Love Languages Test by scanning the QR code on screen or clicking the link here.If you find this episode helpful, like, share, and leave a comment.

In today's video I'm talking about something I see every single week in my counseling practice which is how unhealed trauma silently destroys relationships. I cover: why you attract the same people, how triggers hijack your reactions, why intimacy feels dangerous, the cycle that keeps repeating, and what healing actually looks like.My new e-book 'The Wounds We Carry' goes even deeper. You can find the link on my Instagram bio.Subscribe for weekly content on emotional health, relationships and healing. @heartdropswithsuess

Why do so many Christian women keep choosing the wrong men?In this video, I break down the real reasons godly women enter unhealthy relationships, from emotional wounds and loneliness to spiritual confusion and lack of discernment.If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong man?” or “Why do my relationships fail?” this conversation is for you.We’ll talk about dating mistakes Christian women make, red flags, emotional readiness, and how to choose wisely moving forward.Watch till the end and share with a woman who needs clarity before commitment. 🩷

Conflict are inevitable in relationships. I think of them as a necessary evil. We may not like them, but they provide a better understanding of each other as well as ourselves. Conflicts can reveal hidden trauma and pain that trigger us.The Bible says in Amos 3:3 that two people cannot walk together without agreeing on a direction. Some times, we need to disagree to agree on a destination, and how we intend to arrive there safely. It’s not so much about the disagreements, but how they are resolved and how both parties proceed moving forward. It’s not always about trouble free journeys, but safe landing.For questions and counseling, send a DM to @heartdropswithsuess

Are you constantly saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’? Do you feel guilty setting boundaries? In this episode, I dive deep into the heart of people-pleasing—where it comes from, why it’s exhausting, and how to break free while still being kind and Christlike. It’s time to stop living for approval and start living in your purpose. Tune in, take notes, and let’s grow together!