Alex Lehmann Podcast - Masculinity, BDSM, Leadership

ALEX LEHMANN PODCASTTOPICS:What can men get out of BDSM training?Holding FRAME vs. Giving CONTAINMENT.Leadership is needed to be a good Dom, to hold a scene from beginning to end.A man needs to be self-contained first if he is going to contain anyone else.It takes a while for men to come into their own.  It makes sense that women pair with men older than themselves.First contain your woman, then see what problems still exist in your dynamic.Women are getting sick of weak men, en masse.There is a difference between showing a woman your heart and asking her to contain you.Arousal lives on the other side of Containment.Understanding archetypes and their necessity.The Dom & sub archetypes hold the erotic reservoir; the husband & wife archetypes do not hold eros.Role Play is a gateway to switching over from domestic archetypes.Human beings seem experts today in screwing up great Loverships.Mastery as a genuine source of self-esteem.Contribution as a genuine source of self-esteem.The man who finds himself right is very attractive.It’s good for men to fail early and often.Leadership mastery translates to different domains — from erotic to professional.Leaders promise a brighter future.— Om Rupani BALI COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WEBINAR—COURTESAN TRAINING FOR PERSONAL EXPANSIONLauren and I have designed our COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM to be a robust enough training to create superlative practitioners.  But this is also a training that can be tremendously valuable to women simply for their own activation and expansion.  A good 30%-40% of women who have done our training have done it simply for their own benefit.In this conversation, we focus on these personal aspects that each of our course modules can serve for women.COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/—  Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

DOM-SUB WISDOM FOR OTHER DOMAINSLauren and I discuss how mastering the Dominant and Submissive archetypes can have applications in other areas of our life.COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/www.OmRupani.org

THE ART OF CONCENTRATED RELATING.  OR, WHY WOMEN ARE IN A DISAPPOINTMENT SPIRAL WITH MEN.Courtesan Mastery Curriculum : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/www.OmRupani.org

MIKAAL BATES PODCASTTOPICS:What it means to be a dangerous man?To be loyal, a man needs to be dangerous.Who were the mothers of feminism?Men need to build before pursuing women.Men need a hierarchy to climb.Men want to be of use to others.Women don’t want to lead their men.Women are in shadow about their desire for submission.It’s difficult for women to create what they are in shadow about.Dominance is about leadership.Don’t try to lead people who don’t want to follow you.Men need to build their life before chasing women.Men should fall in love with women before falling in love with a particular woman.I don’t hate women; feminism hates women.Women are the biggest cock-blockers of other women’s eros.Have the mindset of incremental change in your eros and relationships.Men need an appetite for hearing the bad news in their life.A man in denial is not a good look.You cannot lead if you live in denial.Failure and getting off the dirt is how men are forged.Men should be reality-testing other men.Women’s unconditional eros is indeed magnificent; and it is so big that it scares even women.Women’s eros stops following rules after a certain point.Focus on what you have to offer the other — men to women; women to men.Acquire more mastery so you have more to contribute to others.Give to the right people, and then look for reciprocity.UPCOMING WORKSHOPS : https://omrupani.org/workshops-test/— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

SOMATIC PRACTITIONERS WILL THRIVE IN THE COMING AI JOB DISPLACEMENTLauren are I are thrilled to be launching the next cohort and version of our very successful Priestess of Dark Eros — a premier BDSM training for women — for women who want to be practitioners, as well those who simply want to have this expansion for their personal growth.For those of you who do want to bring the BDSM arts into your mastery as practitioners, let us just say that our graduates are doing quite well and lucratively with our training.  And, we believe that in the coming few years, the need, desire and demand for somatic practitioners is going to skyrocket, while so many other lines of work become obsolete by the coming onslaught of technology.Our Level I of Dark Priestess launches in Tulum in December, 8-14.  Please reach out if you have any questions.  Lauren and I are happy to get on a zoom call with you to answer any questions.Hope to see you in Tulum.COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/the-priestess-of-dark-erosWarmly,Om www.OmRupani.org

PODCAST - ABOUT UPCOMING BALI WORKSHOP TOPICSTimestamps : 02:53        Why Relationships Thrive With Good Sex 05:54        How Containment Unlocks A Woman’s Femininity 09:03        Why Women Feel Attracted To A Man Who Leads Her11:56        What You Can Do To Improve Your Sexual Mastery 15:01        How Men & Women Can Build Genuine Esteem 21:02        The Trait That Helps Men Get Good Fast 38:07        Why Misrepresenting Yourself Is A Bad Deal 41:58        What Is A Permission Field49:10        Exploring Edgy Topics: Cuckolding and Open Relationships56:06        Navigating Eros in Long-Term Relationships01:01:09   The Alchemy of Desire01:05:35   The Science of Desire and Functionality01:12:37   The Importance of Discovery in RelationshipsCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursePlease reach out if you have any questions.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM Lauren and I are very excited to have expanded our very successful THE MODERN PRIESTESS OF EROS into a wider COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM.This new curriculum contains 6 Modules.  Each Module will be taught as an independent week-long retreat.Here’s more information about the curriculum : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/Please reach out if you have any questions.Omwww.OmRupani.org

Q&A ABOUT UPCOMING RETREAT IN AUSTRIA - AUGUST 5-11, 2025.1.  WHAT IS CONTAINMENT?2.  CHALLENGES OF EROS BETWEEN HUSBANDS AND WIVES3.  SELF-INTERESTED REASONS FOR DOING HIERARCHY4.  BDSM PLAY THROUGH THE CHAKRAS5.  WOMEN’S HESITATION IN EXPLORING THIS MATERIALCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WHY MEN SHOULD ATTEND MY TRAININGS — BECAUSE WOMEN ARE INDEED SCARY!Many men out there follow my writings and podcasts.  They write to me expressing that they are benefiting from my material.  They express desire to deepen their mastery and to learn more and go deeper.  When it comes time to show up for a workshop I’m offering, many of those same men hesitate, stall and disappear.I can be pretty hard on men when I coach them.  My first inclination tends to be to yell at them for not following through.  But this phenomena of not showing up has been going on for so long that I’ve had the opportunity to talk to many of the men and gain some understanding of what is happening for them underneath the surface.  The more I see and understand, the more I sympathize.What keeps men from showing up to be trained in sensuality in a class alongside women is FEAR.  It not just one fear, it is a stack of fears.  It is a layer-cake of fears.And these fears the men are facing are nothing to scoff at.  This is tender stuff.  I will list three main categories of their fears:They fear getting a report card from women that they, the men, have always been mediocre lovers.2.  They fear getting a direct and live confirmation from women in front of others that the women don’t prefer this particular man.  That the women prefer other men over him.3.  They fear being publicly humiliated by being publicly evaluated as sexually incompetent and undesirable.This is a pretty scary list!  I feel like hiding under the covers when I read.I can’t completely assuage these fears for men.  I know they are real and they are brutal.  What I can try to do is express some counterpoints to these concerns in this video.  I have the follow 3 counter propositions for you:1.  LET WOMEN INITIATE YOU!2.  ENTER THIS HUMILIATION SCENE VOLUNTARILY!3.  KNOW THAT ANY FAILURE IS NOT FINAL!Hope to see some of you in class.Next Course : Austria, August 5-11.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org