Ep. 342: You Can't Shame Yourself Sober

I spent years waking up after drinking and immediately attacking myself: What is wrong with you, Casey? Why can’t you just get your shit together? I thought being harder on myself would finally make me change. I criticized myself after drinking too much, obsessed over what I regretted and convinced myself that if I could just have more discipline or willpower, I’d finally figure out how to drink less. It didn’t work. And in this episode, I’m talking with Sara Kaufman Bradstreet, host of the No More Wasted Days podcast, about why you can’t shame yourself sober—and why changing your relationship with alcohol becomes a whole lot easier when you stop treating yourself like the problem. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/you-cant-shame-yourself-sober/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!! Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

“Maybe you should reevaluate your relationship with alcohol”.   That’s what my mother said to me when I was 23 after I told her I had spent a very long night on my bathroom floor throwing up bile. Mom was right. I definitely needed to examine my relationship with alcohol. My take? Ignorance is bliss. Nothing to see here. Move along.  Instead of examining my relationship with alcohol, I spent my 20s and 30s trying to control my drinking. Luckily, the world has changed a lot in the last 25 years.  Amanda E. White, a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen, is a big part of that change.  Amanda is here to share how to examine your relationship with alcohol and decide if it’s working for you or if you’re ready to take a break from drinking.  For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/how-to-examine-your-relationship-with-alcohol/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Do you ever know someone is upset before they’ve even said a word? Do you ever feel like you absorb everything? Someone else’s bad mood. A critical comment. Tension in the room. A conversation you replay in your head for hours. And by the end of the day, wine feels like the easiest way to finally turn it all down. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. I’m talking with psychotherapist, life coach, and host of Emotional Badass, Nikki Eisenhauer, about highly sensitive people, empaths, and alcohol—and why feeling things deeply can make drinking such an appealing way to cope. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/highly-sensitive-people-and-alcohol/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

What does an unhealthy drinking culture at work look like?  Is drinking a company-organized activity? Are company events centered around alcohol?  Are new employees taken out for drinks, team bonding gatherings hosted at a bar or holiday parties at a winery? Is drinking normalized as a coping mechanism for stress at work? Do you hear colleagues discussing “needing a drink” after a tough day or being hungover on a Monday morning? Is alcohol the reward for a job well done? Are champagne bottles left on desks after a big project or alcohol brought in to toast to a big win? Is alcohol available in the office or brought in for social events during office hours? Is “Beer on Tap” a company perk or is there a weekly happy hour in the office on Fridays? Are you expected to take clients out drinking as part of the job?  Do you feel pressure to drink at company events or do people throw around the phrase “Work Hard. Play Hard” to describe the company culture?  If you have an unhealthy drinking culture at work, the good news is that there are steps that you can take to change it, navigate drinking events at work alcohol-free and access support if you’re trying to change your relationship with alcohol.  For full show notes and to access resources mentioned in this episode, head to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/129 Ready to drink less + live more? Take my FREE MASTERCLASS on Five Secrets To Taking a Break From Drinking Sign up here to save your seat: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/class  If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol join The Sobriety Starter Kit.  It's my signature sober coaching course for busy women to help you drink less + live more.  To enroll go to www.sobrietystarterkit.com. Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

“Do you ever know someone is upset before they’ve even said a word? And immediately start wondering: Is it me? Did I do something wrong? How can I make this better? I do. I’m realizing how much of my life I’ve spent trying to keep the peace, absorbing other people’s moods, avoiding conflict and swallowing what I actually feel. And when I am angry, hurt or irritated, I have a habit of immediately questioning myself: Am I being too sensitive? Am I overreacting? Should I just let it go? This week on The Hello Someday Podcast, I’m doing something a little different. It’s just me, some coffee talk and some very personal therapy thoughts about people-pleasing, avoiding conflict,  life as a highly sensitive person, fawning, and my instinct to become the emotional “shock absorber” for everyone around me. And I’m talking about why all of this matters when you’re changing your relationship with alcohol. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/people-pleasing-avoiding-conflict-and-life-as-a-highly-sensitive-person/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

If you’re in your 50s, 60s, or 70s and wondering whether it’s really worth changing your relationship with alcohol now, I want you to hear Susan’s story. Maybe your kids are grown. Maybe you’re an empty nester. Maybe you’ve been drinking for 30 or 40 years and wine is woven into your marriage, friendships, holidays, vacations, Friday nights, and the way you relax at the end of the day. Susan Weiss, a member of The Sobriety Starter Kit® and now an SSK Ambassador, stopped drinking at 60. In this episode, Susan shares what finally helped her stop drinking after decades with alcohol, what those first difficult weeks really looked like, and why getting alcohol out of her life at 60 gave her something she didn't expect: a sense of peace, freedom, and pride in herself. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link:https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/its-never-too-late-to-stop-drinking-why-susan-quit-alcohol-at-60/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

If you’re a good mom, a capable woman, and the person everyone counts on—but wine has become the only part of the day that feels like it belongs to you—this episode is for you. In this SSK Member Story, I’m talking with Mollie Farrell, a former attorney, certified coach, mom of two, and now the community manager inside The Sobriety Starter Kit® private community. Mollie shares how mommy wine culture taught her that drinking was self-care, why her earlier 30-day breaks never created lasting change, and what helped her move from enduring life without wine to building a life she genuinely enjoys. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/i-thought-wine-was-the-only-thing-that-was-mine-mollies-story/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Sarena is a longtime listener of The Hello Someday Podcast and a member of the Sobriety Starter Kit® community. In this episode, she shares what finally made her stop trying to make moderation work, what surprised her about the first few weeks alcohol-free, how she navigated Italy without drinking at less than a month alcohol-free, and what her life looks like now at one year. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/i-spent-7-years-trying-to-make-moderation-work-sarenas-alcohol-free-story/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

If you’re the woman who holds everything together—the good mom, reliable friend, capable employee, partner who manages the schedules, emotions, details, and needs of everyone around you—this conversation might hit close to home. I’m talking with psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of Platonic and Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, about why real self-worth isn’t about convincing yourself that you’re confident or learning to appear more secure. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/what-if-being-fine-is-actually-keeping-you-stuck/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

What Are The Risk Factors For Alcohol Use Disorder? If you’ve ever wondered why you seem to struggle with alcohol more than your friends—or why cutting back feels so much harder for you—the answer isn’t simply that you need more willpower. There isn’t one single reason someone develops alcohol use disorder. Your risk is shaped by a combination of genetics, mental health, life experiences, environment, stress, culture, coping skills, and your relationship with alcohol itself. And understanding those risk factors matters because the earlier you recognize that alcohol may be becoming a problem, the earlier you can do something about it. Dr. Harrison shares an incredibly hopeful statistic in this conversation: 75% of people with substance use disorders go on to recover. And she encourages us to think about alcohol use disorder the same way we think about other treatable health conditions. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/know-the-risk-factors-for-alcohol-use-disorder/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday  💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com