Making Space in Your Relationships w/ Elizabeth Earnshaw

Dr. Sara, an expert on relationships, discusses the six ingredients for designing the love people deserve. These ingredients can be applied to all types of relationships, including those with parents, siblings, children, and coworkers. The conversation explores the importance of attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth in maintaining thriving relationships. It emphasizes the need to focus on the right aspects of a relationship and not rely solely on love to save it. The discussion also challenges common misconceptions about sex and physical attraction in relationships. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses the six key ingredients for a successful relationship: respect, vision, trust, compassion, acts of love, and knowing your own blueprint. He emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and communicating them lovingly and firmly. Vision involves imagining a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other, creating a harmonious relationship. Trust is built on reliability and consistency, and commitment is crucial even when you don't feel like it. Compassion is about being there for the other person without making it about yourself, and acts of love involve making the other person feel special in the way they want to be. Takeaways The six ingredients for designing the love people deserve are attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth. Love alone cannot save a relationship; it requires effort and focus on the right aspects. Physical attraction is important, but it is culturally constructed and can change over time. Respect involves continuously learning about boundaries and being respectable oneself. Trust is built through consistency, reliability, and vulnerability. Compatibility includes both individual attributes and interpersonal qualities. Effective communication goes beyond talking and includes understanding and valuing each other's perspectives. Relationships require growth and evolution to adapt to different stages and challenges. Set boundaries and communicate them lovingly and firmly. Imagine a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other. Build trust through reliability and consistency. Commit to the relationship even when you don't feel like it. Be there for the other person without making it about yourself. Make the other person feel special in the way they want to be. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:22 Dr. Sara's Journey into Relationship Work 05:20 The Role of Love in Relationships 09:16 The Focus and Efforts in Relationships 12:13 The Six Ingredients for Designing Love 22:41 Focusing on What Matters in Relationships 24:35 The First Ingredient: Attraction 26:36 The Second Ingredient: Respect 29:21 The Third Ingredient: Trust 31:46 The Fourth Ingredient: Compatibility 34:38 The Fifth Ingredient: Communication 38:03 The Sixth Ingredient: Growth 40:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 28:24 Creating a Vision for a Harmonious Relationship 29:21 Building Trust through Reliability and Consistency 35:06 Committing to the Relationship Even When You Don't Feel Like It 41:46 Being There for the Other Person without Making it About Yourself 49:16 Making the Other Person Feel Special --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Travis Thomas, a performance coach, discusses the importance of mindset and courage in sports and everyday life. He shares how his background in improv comedy led him to the mental performance space and how he incorporates improv principles into his coaching. Travis emphasizes the need to accept and embrace uncertainty, control the controllable, and focus on what's important now. He distinguishes between fearless and courageous, highlighting the importance of facing discomfort and taking action despite fear. Travis encourages individuals to validate their feelings and prioritize their locus of focus to make decisions that align with their priorities. Takeaways Accept and embrace uncertainty in order to adapt and respond effectively to changing situations. Focus on what you can control and take action in the present moment. Courage is the ability to face discomfort and take action despite fear. Validate your feelings and prioritize your locus of focus to make decisions that align with your priorities. BIO Travis Thomas is a performance coach who specializes in mindset, leadership, and culture. He is the former performance coach for the US Men’s National Soccer team, and is currently serving that role with FC Dallas and the St. Louis University men’s soccer team. He continues to serve as a corporate trainer, speaker, and consultant for some of the top companies in the world. He is the author of the book, “3 Words for Getting Unstuck: Live Yes, And”…in which he shares his experience from 25 years in improvisation and improvisational comedy - and how those principles apply to the happiness and performance in our lives.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Summary The Slumberkins founders, Kelly and Kaylee, discuss emotional health and wellness for children, the creation of their business, and the impact of their products. They emphasize the importance of emotional wellness for parents and children, the challenges of parenting in the digital age, and the need for a shift in the narrative around emotional growth and wellness. Kelly Oriard is the co-founder and Chief Therapeutic Officer at Slumberkins, a children’s education and emotional health brand. She holds a dual master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and School Counseling. As a licensed family therapist, school counselor, and mother, Oriard is passionate about changing how we support the mental and emotional well-being of children and families. As the author behind the character storylines at Slumberkins, Kelly is changing the way children and families can access the content and strategies, usually found in a family therapy session, in a fun, easy-to-use way that creates healing and brings meaningful moments of connection that make a lifelong impact on the emotional health of children. Callie Christensen is the co-founder and Chief Brand Officer at Slumberkins, a children’s education and emotional wellness brand. Callie holds a master’s in teaching elementary education and special education. As a mother and educator turned entrepreneur, she’s on a mission to use her educational background to create an accessible, meaningful, and purposeful brand that is useful in every home and school to help support families and communities on their journeys of emotional health. Slumberkins is at the forefront of brand building online as they expand into children’s entertainment by bringing the characters to life in a preschool television series produced by The Jim Henson Company for Apple TV+.   About Slumberkins Slumberkins is the leading early emotional wellness brand promoting healthy emotional development through stories and characters in the form of consumer products, books, content, music, school-based curriculum and more. Slumberkins uses original storytelling through its 50+ books in print and popular cuddly creatures to help children connect with a wide range of emotions and empower them to grow into caring, confident and resilient people. Slumberkins was founded in 2015 by Kelly Oriard and Callie Christensen, both moms with backgrounds in child development and family therapy.  Fueled by an appearance on Shark Tank and a growing community of more than 1 million, Slumberkins is continuing to expand its wildly successful consumer products and publishing business across multiple touch points, including a children’s music album, affirmation app, and mixed media puppet / 2D animation TV program produced by The Jim Henson Company, based on its plush toys, now streaming worldwide on AppleTV+. Slumberkins has sold more than 1.5 million books to date while also actively selling curriculum into schools nationwide. To learn more, visit Slumberkins.com and follow them on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Patrick McGrath, Chief Clinical Officer at NoCD, discusses the reality of OCD, its portrayal in the media, and the treatment approaches. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the true nature of OCD and the challenges faced by individuals with the condition. The conversation delves into the impact of OCD on daily life, the therapeutic process, and the distinction between OCD and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The conversation covers a wide range of topics related to OCD treatment, including the use of teletherapy, exposure therapy, the role of clinicians, the mission of NoCD, medication, and emerging treatments. The conversation also addresses common myths and misconceptions about OCD and offers hope to those struggling with the condition. With over 20 years of expertise, Dr. McGrath is recognized as a leading authority on OCD. His media presence includes appearances on the Discovery Health Channel’s “Panic,” TLC’s “Hoarding: Buried Alive,” and podcasts such as Inside Mental Health and We Met At ACME. He’s also authored “Don't Try Harder, Try Different” and “The OCD Answer Book.”  Takeaways OCD is not an adjective, it is a condition that involves obsessions and compulsions. The media often misrepresents OCD, leading to misconceptions about the condition. Exposure and response prevention therapy, combined with ACT principles, is an effective treatment approach for OCD. OCD and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder are distinct conditions with different characteristics and treatment approaches. Teletherapy has been successful in treating OCD and offers convenience for patients and families. Exposure and response prevention therapy is a key treatment for OCD, and clinicians play a crucial role in guiding patients through the process. NoCD is a leading organization in the treatment of OCD, providing accessible therapy and support for individuals across the U.S. and internationally. Medication is often used in conjunction with exposure therapy for OCD treatment, and the importance of proper prescription and dosage is emphasized. Emerging treatments, such as deep TMS and deep brain stimulation, show promise in the treatment of OCD. Common myths and misconceptions about OCD are debunked, and the conversation offers hope and encouragement to those struggling with the condition. Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Reality of OCD: Myths vs. Truth 06:38 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life 14:16 Treatment Approaches for OCD: ERP and ACT 25:17 Revolutionizing OCD Treatment: The Role of Teletherapy and Exposure Therapy 38:26 The Mission of NoCD: Accessible Therapy and Support for OCD 41:17 Medication and Emerging Treatments for OCD: A Look into the Future 46:23 Debunking Myths and Offering Hope: Understanding OCD Treatment --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this episode, Eli Weinstein interviews Rachel Sievers, a mental health professional, about relationships, boundaries, and authenticity. They discuss codependency and the distinction between codependency and caring for others. Rachel explains that codependency often stems from childhood experiences where showing up as oneself was not accepted or valued. She emphasizes the importance of reparenting oneself and learning to listen to one's own thoughts, emotions, and needs. They also explore the challenges of being authentic in relationships and the fear of disconnection. Rachel encourages listeners to trust that being true to themselves is the right path, even if it means losing relationships that don't accept them. Tune in to learn how self-acceptance can lead to a more fulfilling and courageous life. Takeaways Codependency often stems from childhood experiences where showing up as oneself was not accepted or valued. Reparenting involves talking to oneself in a supportive and validating way and acknowledging one's thoughts, emotions, and needs. Being authentic in relationships can be challenging, but it is important to trust that the right people will accept and appreciate one's true self. Being true to oneself may lead to the loss of relationships that don't accept or align with one's authentic self, but it also opens the door to new connections with people who do. Trusting in a higher power or greater energy can provide guidance and support in the journey of self-discovery and authenticity. Rachel Sievers is a retired psychotherapist and life coach with a master's degree of science in psychology. She's logged over ten thousand hours practicing psychotherapy. In addition to her podcast, The Answer to Everything, she's developed a workbook, Talk To Me, and an online anxiety course, Anxiety-Free in 21 Days, as well as running an expanded private practice in California. She began her career working with families of foster and adopted children. Since then, she's worked in private practice using Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Affirmative, and Gestalt therapy. She's been trained in the Gottman Method, and in Somatic Experiencing to help her clients effectively heal from trauma symptoms. Now, she works as a counselor and life coach in private practice using her experience as a psychotherapist in combination with action-based methods to fit the needs of her clients best.  Rachel doesn't have "bad days" at work. She loves her job, and is honored and each time someone allows her to walk alongside them on their journey.  For access to Rachel's book, podcast, and online course, or to work with Rachel 1-1, go to rachelsievers.com.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Discover the secrets to successful relationships on this episode of the Dude Therapist podcast with Eli Weinstein and Elizabeth Earnshaw. They discuss the shifting dynamics in relationships, from traditional issues like infidelity to modern stressors like work pressure and societal influences. Elizabeth emphasizes the impact of external stressors on relationships and advocates for boundaries and effective communication. Gain practical solutions like joint accounts for financial harmony and learn the importance of empathy and understanding in resolving conflicts. Explore the complexities of ending relationships with honest communication and self-reflection. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering harmonious and fulfilling relationships. Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age". She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at Ours, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She has also hosted  a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings, and creates relationship wellness content on Instagram @lizlistens. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

On this episode of The Dude Therapist join host Eli Weinstein as he delves into the world of inner healing and personal growth with clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie Carinia. Discover the power of inner child work and shadow work in overcoming past traumas and building stronger relationships. Learn how to transition from codependency to interdependency and the importance of self-compassion, self-acceptance, and setting boundaries. Gain insights on recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns, fostering emotional well-being, and attracting emotionally available partners. Tune in for guidance on self-reflection, communication, and navigating personal growth to achieve lasting emotional well-being. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

On this episode of The Dude Therapist podcast, Eli Weinstein and guest Emily Sanders explore the intricate dynamics of building and maintaining relationships. They delve into the impact of early family experiences on our ability to be open in relationships and stress the importance of pacing and avoiding rushing intimacy. The conversation highlights the significance of in-person interactions, clear communication, and expressing needs explicitly to prevent resentment. Sanders also addresses healthy conflict resolution and views disagreements as opportunities for growth, advocating for a nuanced approach to maintaining connections. Emily has been practicing for over 13 years, and knows from personal experience the courage it takes to walk on the road to healing and self-discovery; she works with compassion to support others on their path to restoration, empowerment, and fulfillment. ​ Emily has enjoyed working with individuals and families from all walks of life, both in the therapy room, classroom, and various speaking venues. She also has a desire to support the family unit, whether through caring for the youngest members of the home or guiding couples to a closer, more satisfying relationship. Of all the roles Emily plays, she most enjoys being wife to her husband of 16 years, Michael, and mother to their daughters and son. In her free time Emily can usually be found outside running, hiking, or riding her bicycle along Pacific Coast Highway. She also enjoys browsing Pinterest for new dinner recipes, chatting with her girlfriends, and spending quality time with her family. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this podcast episode, Eli Weinstein and Dr. Jennifer Guttman discuss the importance of prioritizing sustainable life satisfaction over fleeting happiness. Dr. Guttman, a clinical psychologist, shares insights on embracing a broader emotional spectrum and setting achievable goals for personal fulfillment. They also explore the impact of social media on perceptions of happiness and the need to find contentment in everyday moments. The conversation concludes with a focus on self-acceptance and celebrating progress toward goals for a truly fulfilling life. [00:00:00] Therapist promotes sustainable life satisfaction revolution. [00:03:29] Search for happiness within, not externally. [00:07:56] Chasing happiness on social media is harmful. [00:12:04] Happiness is externally driven; other emotions are not. [00:16:23] Pursuit of happiness through satisfaction revolution. [00:20:49] Achieve satisfaction by avoiding assumptions and comparisons. [00:24:09] Seeking fulfillment through presence and mindfulness. [00:27:40] Social media oversharing contributes to despair. [00:31:48] Good days are simple and satisfying. [00:35:22] Embrace authenticity, feel your feelings. Dr. Jennifer Guttman has a doctorate in clinical psychology. She launched a motivational brand called Sustainable Life Satisfaction® and produced a YouTube series, course, and workbook based on this method. This year Beyond Happiness, The 6 Secrets of Life Satisfaction was published by Post Hill Press. Dr. Guttman is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Thrive Global. She has written for national news outlets such as The Washington Post and Newsweek, has been a guest on several network television programs, including ABC News, and has been featured on dozens of podcasts. Dr. Guttman has an active and robust Cognitive Behavioral practice. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

On this episode of the podcast, Eli Weinstein and relationship specialist Mark Groves dive into the complexities of modern relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of accepting individuals as they are and avoiding the urge to change partners. They also emphasize the significance of open communication, self-care, and setting boundaries for true transformation. Tune in to learn how to foster healthy connections and celebrate individuality in relationships for growth and authenticity. [This week's episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/dudetherapist today to get 10% off your first month.] [00:00:00] Therapy can help guide and listen. [00:02:28] Mark Rose explores human connection authentically. [00:06:53] Identifying through wounds, growth comparison, relationships. [00:12:42] Resolve disconnection, prioritize self, communicate needs. [00:18:41] Fear of loss keeps people stuck. [00:23:56] Liberated love celebrates individuality in relationships. [00:29:59] Nurturing sacred space in relationships. [00:35:52] Relationships require courage and liberation. [00:40:11] Blind spots: guilt and blame. [00:45:58] Relationships require skill and self-awareness. Mark Groves is a Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love, and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark's work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection. Links: Preorder Liberated Love here! Website: createthelove.com + markgroves.com Podcast: markgrovespodcast.com Instagram: @createthelove --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support