A therapist's guide to navigating trauma during relationships, breakups, and divorce

In this episode Kate is joined by Louise Oliver, a Certified Financial Planner, to discuss the recent budget announcement and how it will affect divorcing couples at different stages of the process.About the episode:Kate and Louise start by summarising the main headlines from the announcement. Then they go on to explore in detail how CGT, increased stamp duty on 2nd homes, tax on the sale of businesses, increased VAT on private schools and changes to the rules on inheriting pensions affect divorcing couples and their children. They finish off by giving tips on how to manage the anxiety that comes with financial changes by seeking timely advice as well as having important conversations about these changes at every stage of the divorce process. About our guest:Louise Oliver is a Certified Financial Planner with over 30 years of experience. She's often a go-to expert for commentary for the National and local media. Louise is also a member of Resolution, a community of family justice professionals who work with families and individuals to resolve issues involving the breakdown of your marriage in a constructive way.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Finances 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Paul Roseby OBE to talk about his separation and divorce story.About the episodeIn this episode, Paul opens up about his divorce, sharing the sudden shift in his long-term marriage when his ex-husband decided to end their relationship. He describes the emotional challenges of navigating the separation and how he coped with the pain. Kate and Paul explore the valuable lessons he gained from the experience, including the three G's. They end the episode by discussing his current relationship and the growth that came from his journey. About our guests:Paul is a broadcaster and CEO and Artistic Director of the National Youth Theatre. In over a decade at the helm of the world’s leading youth arts charity he has commissioned over 150 plays, pioneered the NYT REP Company, led a ground-breaking international cultural exchange programme and directed many hit productions. They include the London 2012 Team Welcome Ceremonies, Handel & Hendrix at Somerset House, Generation Sext for Sky Arts, When Romeo Met Juliet for BBC2, and Tom Stoppard’s abridgement of Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice at the Royal Opera House and the National Centre for Performing Arts in Beijing. More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jamie Cole, the co-founder of Sail Homes and Sail Legal, and Edwina Homfray-Davies, a Licensed Conveyancer with over 20 years of experience and part of Sail Legal, to discuss the most common property and divorce FAQs. About the episodeThe discussion starts by exploring the impact property ownership has during divorce and separation. Jamie and Edwina look at how property is treated in a divorce including options such as buying-out your ex-partner, joint ownership or selling and splitting the proceeds. They consider the various professionals you may need to use, such as conveyancers, mortgage brokers, estate agents and your bank, and which documents you need for buying and selling property during a divorce. Edwina and Jamie give great tips on Stamp duty land tax and how to ‘ensure you’re exempt from the additional 3% levy. They also discuss the customer journey in a transaction between ex-spouses, and how a Separation Agreement can speed up the process. Jamie and Edwina share the most common pitfalls and a few top tips for selling a property and explain how their expertise in dealing with transfers post-divorce can make the whole process a lot smoother and quicker. About our guests:Jamie Cole, co-founder of Sail Homes, has been involved in property since 2017, specialising in probate and conveyancing. He has successfully exited two businesses, and prior to his property career, worked in fitness software. Jamie now focuses on helping clients navigate property sales during life transitions, such as divorce, with a strong track record of delivering results. Edwina Homfray-Davies is a Licensed Conveyancer and Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Legal Executives (FCILEx) with over 20 years of experience in conveyancing. She brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to every property transaction, having successfully navigated clients through countless sales, purchases, and property law complexities.For the past three years, Edwina has been at the helm of Sail Legal, which offers a modern, client-focused approach to conveyancing. Known for her meticulous attention to detail and commitment to smooth, transparent property transactions, Edwina is passionate about delivering excellence in legal services.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Finances

In this episode, Kate is joined by Dr. Angharad Rudkin and Anthony Syder to talk about neurodiversity, divorce and separation.About the episode:In this episode, we look at what neurodiversity is and explore how it impacts both neurodivergent adults and children during family separation. Angharad and Anthony share their tips on navigating specific issues, such as the negotiation process, legal process and cooperative parenting. About our guests:Angharad is a Clinical Psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with children and their families and lecturing on child psychology at the University of Southampton. In collaboration with OnlyMums and OnlyDads Angharad designed and runs the popular "What About Henry?" course for family law professionals. Angharad has co-authored parenting books and children’s books and was the Consultant Editor for the divorce guide “101 Questions about Separation and Divorce with Children”. Angharad is the author of “The Split Survival Kit” which she wrote with children’s author Ruth Fitzgerald. Angharad regularly appears on TV and radio as an expert on child and family issues and has recently been shortlisted for the Resolution Children’s Champion Award.Anthony is a divorce specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 8 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families.Angharad is running a one-hour session titled ‘Neurodiversity – What does it mean?’. For more details and to book, please click here.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate was joined by Joe & Kate Sharp, two amicable customers, to share their divorce story.About the episode:In this episode, host Kate Daly was joined by two amicable customers, Kate and Joe, to talk about their amicable divorce and unique co-parenting arrangements. Kate is a home-educating parent and Joe works in IT, having given up he’s teaching career during the divorce process, to be able to provide more income to the family. In this episode, they talk about Kate & Joe’s relationship, the early stages of their separation, how they navigated the divorce process and negotiating a financial agreement using amicable’s services and their unique co-parenting setup. About our guests: Joe & Kate Sharp are two amicable customers who appear on the podcast to talk about their divorce journey and experience with amicable. More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate was joined by psychotherapist Lulu Sunnucks to explore trauma during relationships, separation and divorce. About the episode:Lulu Sunnucks is a psychotherapist who joins Kate to explore trauma. In the episode, they look at the varying degrees of trauma during and after a relationship breakdown. Lulu gives some great tips and advice about navigating trauma and how to break patterns when moving on to new relationships to healthy and happy relationships.  Trigger Warning This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing, including abuse, sexual violence and poor mental health.Organisations who can help:Women's aidRefuge ManKind Initiative Men's advice lineDads UnlimitedYour local GPMind - mental health charitySamaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19Is your life in danger? - dial 999Outside of the UK? Search for help hereAbout our guests: Lulu worked as a Lifestyle Strategist and Personal Coach to some of the world's most powerful individuals for twenty years before retraining as a Trauma Psychotherapist.  She completed her clinical placement in a Women’s refuge, working with survivors of rape, domestic violence, sex trafficking and sexual violence. Lulu now runs her own busy private practice in the Cotswolds and she is currently working towards registration as a clinical sexologist and couples therapist.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate was joined by the Founder and Managing Director of NameSwitch, Cécile Mazuet-Eller, to discuss navigating name changes in relationships, separation, and divorce. About the episode:Kate and Cécile focus on why people choose to change their name following a change in relationship status, including the practical and emotional factors. Cécile deep-dives into what happens during a separation or divorce. She provides her tips and advice around when's the best time to do this, as well as common pitfalls.   About our guest:Having experienced first-hand the pain and frustration of navigating through the name-change maze after getting divorced, Cecile set up NameSwitch to help others blitz through their name-change and embrace their next life chapter with simple, affordable packages. NameSwitch is the first and only service in the UK to offer name-change notification as well as deed poll packages.You can download NameSwitch's free name change checklist here and can find them on all social media channels, including; TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and YouTube. To order a certified copy of your original decree absolute or final order, click here.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning comedian, writer, and actress Harriet Kemsley to discuss her divorce.About the episode:In part two, Kate is joined by comedian Harriet Kemsley to talk about her marriage, separation, and divorce from fellow comedian Bobby Mair. Harriet talks about why Bobby and her separated, how they have managed to achieve an amicable separation, their child-centred co-parenting arrangements, and how they have navigated challenges during the process. About our guests:Harriet Kemsley is an award-winning comedian, writer and actress. She has starred in the Viceland reality sitcom Bobby and Harriet: Get Married, which she co-created and co-wrote with her ex-husband, Bobby Mair, to huge critical acclaim. She can also be seen on Dave's Hypothetical, ITV's Hey Tracey, Comedy Central’s Roast Battle, and is a recurring guest on 8 out of 10 Cats Does Countdown and 8 Out of 10 Cats. Her other credits include hosting the BBC Radio 4 Comedy Club, The Radio 1 Comedy Lounge, BBC3’s Comedy Marathon, The One Show (Edinburgh Special) and Kevin’s Hart’s LOL Live.Harriet’s awards include the Leicester Mercury New Act of the Year Finalist, Funny’s Funny Winner, Up The Creek New Act of the Year Winning and Leicester Square New Act of the Year Finalist.  She has been described by Time Out as ‘a very funny rising star’ and as one of Rhod Gilbert’s ‘Ten Comics to See’ in the Mail on Sunday.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate is joined by comedian Bobby Mair to talk about his divorce.About the episode:In this first of two episodes, Kate is joined by comedian Bobby Mair to talk about his marriage, separation, and divorce from fellow comedian Harriet Kemlsey. Bobby talks about how they have managed to achieve an amicable separation, created child-centred co-parenting arrangements, and the role of their friends and family during their separation. Kate and Bobby explore some challenges, and Bobby shares his tips on separating amicably. About our guests:  Bobby Mair is a Canadian stand-up comedian based in London. He starred in his own sitcom with his wife on Vice and Comedy Central called Bobby and Harriet: Get Married, he has appeared multiple times on Comedy Central’s Roast Battle including appearing in a battle with his wife that got millions of hits online. His other credits include 8 Out of 10 Cats (Channel 4), and Never Mind the Buzzcocks (BBC2). He’s opened for Doug Stanhope, Bill Burr and Bill Maher and appeared three times at Just For Laughs in Montreal. More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate is joined by Coach and Author Ali Mortimer to discuss navigating difficult moments in relationships and how finding joy can help in this journey. About the episode:Kate and Ali begin the episode by looking at Ali’s separation story, where she talks about how her relationship was taken to the brink following her husband’s infidelity and how they were able to repair their relationship following Ali’s journey of self-discovery and their joint relationship work. Ali then dives into the idea of 'finding joy' and how it is created on the foundations of holistic health and peace of mind, something Kate and Ali explore in navigating rocky patches in relationships. They also look at the idea that although Ali is still married to her husband, they both identify with being in their second marriage, having grieved the loss of their first. This is a fantastic episode for listeners in any stage of a relationship, whether you’re looking for tools to create a healthy, happy relationship or whether you want to understand if you’re relationship is past the point of repair. About our guests:Ali Mortimer is a Mentor, Coach, Speaker and Author who focuses on experiencing joy in life. Ali believes that to die happy is to have lived a joyous life, one of pure abundance, prosperity, generosity and fun.Ali has endeavoured to embody this philosophy after her own loss and trauma, finding her way out of darkness into light, overcoming and embracing obstacles of health, life, work and love, and creating her own business from her motivations.Ali believes Joy is created on the foundations of holistic health and peace of mind; amplified with love and dreams. She knows now that all paths lead to Joy when walked with love. Have the courage to take those first tentative steps towards joy.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#EmotionalJourney