Learning to Do Things Alone After Divorce Even When It Scares You

Have you ever looked back on your marriage and wondered when you stopped listening to your own needs, desires, and intuition? For many people, especially those who have spent years trying to keep everyone else happy, divorce can bring an uncomfortable realization that somewhere along the way, they lost touch with who they really are. But what if this difficult transition could also become an opportunity to rediscover yourself, release old expectations, and create a life that feels more authentic and fulfilling?Mardi Winder, Strategic Divorce Consultant and High Conflict Divorce Coach, welcomes Dr. Steph Nash, Author, Spiritual Mentor, and Founder of Paradigm Expansions, for a conversation about the emotional patterns that can keep people stuck in unhealthy relationships and the possibilities for personal growth after divorce. Drawing from her own experience and her work with clients, Dr. Steph explores how cultural expectations, childhood experiences, and deeply ingrained beliefs about love and responsibility can contribute to people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and feelings of shame when a marriage ends.One of the most interesting aspects of this discussion is the distinction between being a genuinely caring, compassionate person and feeling obligated to sacrifice your own needs to maintain a relationship. Dr. Steph explains how people-pleasing can develop as a coping strategy and why learning to establish boundaries does not mean giving up the qualities that make you empathetic and generous. Instead, it means learning to value your own needs alongside those of others.The conversation also explores self-forgiveness and the tendency to judge ourselves for decisions we made without the knowledge and perspective we have today. Rather than viewing divorce as starting over or completely reinventing yourself, Dr. Steph offers a different perspective. She suggests that personal growth is more like uncovering a larger painting, where experiences that once seemed disconnected or disappointing can become part of a more complete understanding of who you are.Dr. Steph also shares insights from her book, The D Word: How Divorce Ended Self-Abandonment and Led to Self-Reclamation, including her personal journey of learning to trust her intuition, release shame, and embrace a more authentic life. Questions and Answers1. Why do people struggle with shame and feelings of failure after divorce?Many people grow up with cultural, family, or social expectations that marriage should last forever and that maintaining a successful relationship is a personal responsibility. Women, in particular, may experience additional pressure to preserve family harmony and meet the emotional needs of others. When a marriage ends, these expectations can contribute to guilt, shame, and the belief that they have somehow failed. Recognizing that these beliefs may come from learned expectations rather than personal shortcomings can be an important part of moving forward.2. How can people pleasing contribute to unhealthy relationship patterns?People pleasing can develop when someone learns that keeping others happy is necessary to feel loved, accepted, or emotionally safe. Over time, this may lead to consistently prioritizing a partner's needs while ignoring personal boundaries, preferences, and emotional well being. Dr. Steph Nash encourages people to consider whether their generosity comes from genuine choice or from a fear of disappointing others. Developing healthy boundaries allows individuals to remain caring and compassionate without continually sacrificing their own needs.3. How can you practice self-forgiveness after divorce?Self-forgiveness begins with recognizing that past decisions were made with the understanding, resources, and circumstances available at the time. Dr. Steph suggests examining the expectations and beliefs that shaped those choices rather than repeatedly criticizing yourself for what happened. Practicing self-compassion, acknowledging difficult emotions, and questioning unrealistic ideas about how life should have unfolded can help create space for acceptance and personal growth.4. Do you need to reinvent yourself after divorce?Dr. Steph offers the perspective that divorce does not necessarily require becoming a completely different person. Instead, it can provide an opportunity to expand your understanding of yourself and reconnect with qualities, interests, and desires that may have been overlooked during the marriage. By exploring previously limiting beliefs and recognizing how past experiences have contributed to personal development, individuals can build a more complete and authentic sense of identity.About the Guest:Dr. Steph Nash, PhD, OTR/L, is an author, spiritual mentor, and founder of Paradigm Expansions. She blends evidence-based modalities across psychology, rehabilitation, and neuroscience with the deeper truths found across major spiritual traditions to guide individuals to love themselves and unleash their gifts to the world. Her debut book, The D Word: How Divorce Ended Self-Abandonment and Led to Self-Reclamation, explores how to accept and release programming around self-sacrifice in order to live and give from genuine overflow.For Steph’s gift: https://www.paradigmexpansions.com/listenersTo connect with Steph:Web: paradigmexpansions.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanierouch/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paradigm_expansions/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@paradigm_expansionsAbout the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. 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What happens to your financial future when you get married, and what important steps might you be overlooking after a divorce? Whether you are preparing to walk down the aisle, navigating the end of a marriage, or rebuilding your life after divorce, understanding how to protect your assets and make informed legal decisions can save you considerable stress, conflict, and expense.In this episode, Mardi Winder, Strategic Divorce Consultant and High Conflict Divorce Coach, welcomes Cary Jacobson, Esquire, Founder and Managing Partner of Jacobson Family Law in Maryland. Cary shares her experience transitioning from traditional divorce litigation to helping couples resolve their differences outside the courtroom. Together, they explore the benefits of prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, including how these documents can create financial transparency, clarify expectations, and potentially prevent expensive disputes if a marriage ends.The conversation then turns to an often overlooked responsibility after divorce: updating your estate plan. Cary explains why retirement account division paperwork must be completed, how beneficiary designations can affect who receives your assets, and what to consider when deciding between a will and a trust. They also discuss important considerations for second marriages, protecting children from previous relationships, and the potential complications of owning property in multiple states.Whether you are newly married, considering divorce, or have been divorced for years, this conversation offers practical information to help you ask better questions and make more informed decisions about your financial and legal future.Questions and AnswersWhat is the difference between a prenuptial agreement and a postnuptial agreement?A prenuptial agreement is signed before marriage, while a postnuptial agreement is signed after the couple is married. Both can establish how assets, debts, and financial responsibilities will be handled. These agreements can help couples clarify financial expectations and potentially reduce disputes if the marriage ends. Working with a qualified attorney helps ensure the agreement reflects the couple's intentions and meets applicable legal requirements.Can a prenup or postnup be changed after it is signed?Yes. Prenuptial and postnuptial agreements can generally be amended when both parties agree and the changes satisfy applicable legal requirements. Major life changes, such as starting a business, purchasing property, or accumulating retirement assets, are good reasons to review an existing agreement. Regular reviews help ensure that financial decisions remain consistent with the terms of the agreement.What financial paperwork should be completed immediately after divorce?One frequently overlooked responsibility is completing the paperwork required to divide retirement accounts. Depending on the retirement plan, this may involve obtaining a qualified domestic relations order or another appropriate retirement division order and submitting it to the plan administrator. Failing to complete this process can create serious financial complications, particularly if a former spouse dies before the division has been finalized.Should you create a new will or trust after divorce?Divorce is an important time to review your estate planning documents. A will may be appropriate for someone with a relatively straightforward estate, while a trust may offer additional advantages for people with property in multiple states, complex family circumstances, or specific instructions about how beneficiaries should receive their inheritance. The best choice depends on individual circumstances and applicable state laws.About the Guest:Cary Jacobson, Esquire is the founder and managing partner of Jacobson Family Law. Cary has been practicing law for nearly a decade, having successfully represented clients in all facets of family law proceedings including separation, divorce, custody, child support, post-divorce enforcement, and other family law related matters. Through her experience litigating family law matters, Cary has found that the conflict associated with litigation often tears a family apart making it toxic for children and their parents. However, as a certified mediator and collaborative divorce attorney, Cary has also seen how these forms of alternative dispute resolution can lead to and foster successful co-parenting arrangements. Cary has chosen to dedicate her practice to working with clients who wish to resolve their family disputes without court intervention. She assists clients in choosing between mediation, collaborative divorce or separation agreements in order to keep drama out of their divorce.To connect with Cary:https://jacobsonfamilylaw.com/ https://www.facebook.com/jacobsonfamilylaw/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryjacobson https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1vZ9kkhd4LPpB1yEqK7U9w https://www.instagram.com/jacobsonfamilylaw/ https://www.tiktok.com/@jacobsonfamilylaw/About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. 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When life gets overwhelming, our natural response is often to work harder, do more, and push our own needs to the bottom of the priority list. But what if the secret to being more productive, managing stress, and finding greater satisfaction in life is actually doing less and taking better care of yourself?Mardi Winder, Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach, welcomes Lucy Dutton, Certified Peak Performance Coach, International Bestselling Author, and Transformational Speaker, for a conversation about why putting yourself first is essential, especially during major life transitions like divorce.Lucy challenges the traditional idea of work life balance, suggesting that creating alignment between personal and professional priorities is far more effective. Drawing on her experience as a professional dancer and performance coach, she shares why self-care needs to be a daily priority rather than something we squeeze in after everything else is finished.One of Lucy's most practical suggestions is to begin each day with time dedicated entirely to yourself. Whether that's ten minutes or an hour, creating a consistent routine can help you manage stress, improve focus, and approach your responsibilities with greater confidence. Mardi and Lucy also explore the importance of sleep, identifying your personal values, and learning to eliminate, delegate, or postpone tasks that aren't moving you toward your goals.This episode offers a refreshing perspective for women who feel they have to manage everything themselves and are constantly waiting for life to slow down before taking care of their own needs.Questions Answered in This EpisodeWhy is putting yourself first important during stressful life transitions?Taking care of your physical and emotional well-being helps you maintain the energy, focus, and confidence needed to manage responsibilities and make important decisions.How can you start a daily self-care routine when you're already overwhelmed?Lucy recommends starting with just ten minutes a day. The goal is to establish a consistent habit that gives you time to focus on yourself before responding to everyone else's needs.What's the difference between work life balance and personal alignment?Rather than trying to divide time equally between work and personal responsibilities, alignment means making choices that reflect your values, priorities, and what matters most in your life.How can doing less actually make you more productive?Identifying your most important priorities allows you to eliminate unnecessary tasks, delegate responsibilities, and focus your energy on activities that support your goals.How do personal values help reduce stress and overwhelm?Understanding your core values makes it easier to decide what deserves your time and attention, when to say yes, and when saying no is the better choice.About the Guest:Lucy is a certified Peak Performance Coach, international bestselling author, and transformational speaker with over 30 years of experience helping entrepreneurs, leaders, and business owners unlock their full potential. She empowers high-achievers to overcome limiting beliefs, boost productivity, and create alignment between their personal and professional lives, so they can thrive with greater fulfillment, confidence, and joy. A former professional dancer, Lucy spent 10 years honing discipline and resilience before becoming an entrepreneur and coach. Once painfully shy, she transformed her own confidence by pushing through challenges and building unshakable self-belief, an experience that now inspires her clients. Lucy, Grace and Grit Coach, combines health, fitness, and mindset mastery to help others achieve sustainable success and create businesses and lives that flourish with purpose and ease. Let’s connect and focus on you. You can reach me directly at www.lucyjdutton.com OR [email protected] For Lucy’s gift: https://lucy-er40t0fz.scoreapp.com/ To connect with Lucy:YouTube: Holistic Peak Performance Coach @lucyjdutton Website: lucyjdutton.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lucy.dutton.507 LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucy-dutton-mentor-and-coach/About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. 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Divorce can leave women wondering who they are outside of their marriage, especially after spending decades putting their spouse, children, and family responsibilities first. But what if one of the most powerful ways to rebuild your confidence is to start doing the things you've always been afraid to do alone?Mardi Winder, Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach, welcomes Bri Clay, Life Coach and Sexologist, for an uplifting conversation about moving beyond simply surviving divorce and learning how to thrive. Drawing from her own experience of ending a 25-year marriage, Bri shares how she went from feeling uncertain and overwhelmed to embracing independence, setting boundaries, and discovering new possibilities for her future.One of Bri's suggestions is to start doing something alone, whether that means going out for dinner, seeing a movie, or taking a trip without waiting for someone to join you. Together, Mardi and Bri explore how fear of being alone can hold women back, why emotional healing requires looking toward the future, and how reconnecting with yourself can create greater confidence and healthier relationships.They also discuss intimacy beyond physical relationships, learning to enjoy your own company, and giving yourself permission to pursue dreams that may have been put aside during marriage.Questions Answered in This EpisodeWhy is doing things alone an important part of rebuilding confidence after divorce?Learning to enjoy your own company helps you develop independence, recognize your capabilities, and become more comfortable making decisions for yourself.What are some simple ways to start becoming more independent?Begin with something manageable, such as having dinner alone, going to a movie, or exploring somewhere new. Each experience can help build confidence for bigger adventures.Why do some women rush into new relationships after divorce?Fear of loneliness can make another relationship seem like the easiest solution. Taking time to reconnect with yourself can help you make more intentional relationship choices.Can you grieve your marriage and still look forward to your future?Absolutely. Grief and optimism can exist together. Healing means acknowledging what happened without allowing the past to determine what is possible in your next chapter.About the Guest:Bri Clay is a Life Coach and Sexologist who helps women move from surviving to thriving after divorce and life's major transitions. Through her work, she empowers women to reconnect with themselves, reclaim their confidence, and embrace their next chapter with intention and joy.For Bri’s gift: http://yourlifeafterdivorce.comTo connect with Bri:Website: http://yourlifeafterdivorce.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/156219506504601/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/briclayharper/About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app.Leave an Apple Podcast ReviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.

Singer, songwriter, and author Machan Taylor has spent more than four decades in the music industry, performing alongside legendary artists including Pink Floyd, Sting, and Pat Benatar. But behind the excitement of international tours, glamorous performances, and a successful career, Machan was living through a very different reality in her personal life. One that involved emotional manipulation, controlling behaviors, and eventually physical abuse.What makes Machan's story so compelling is the contrast between her public success and the painful experiences she was navigating behind closed doors. She joins Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach Mardi Winder for an honest conversation about how childhood experiences can influence adult relationships, why even highly successful and independent women can find themselves in abusive marriages, and what it takes to recognize when a relationship has become dangerous.Drawing from her personal journey, Machan shares the difficult decision to leave her marriage, the emotional challenges of starting over, and the importance of seeking support to heal from past experiences. She also discusses overcoming shame, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, and finding happiness in a healthy and loving relationship. Now happily married for 30 years, Machan offers hope and encouragement to others facing similar challenges and shares insights from her memoir Naked Out Loud.Questions Answered in This Episode1. How can childhood experiences influence the relationships we choose as adults?Machan explains how the relationship dynamics we witness growing up can shape our expectations and behaviors in adulthood, sometimes making unhealthy relationships feel familiar even when they are harmful.2. Can successful and independent women find themselves in abusive relationships?Absolutely. Machan shares how she maintained an extraordinary international music career while privately experiencing emotional control, jealousy, and eventually physical abuse. Her experience challenges the misconception that abuse only happens to certain types of people.3. Why is it so difficult to leave an abusive marriage?Fear, emotional attachment, shame, and concerns about personal safety can make leaving extremely challenging. Machan describes the moment she realized that staying in her marriage could put her life at risk and the courage it took to make a change.4. What helped Machan rebuild her life after leaving her marriage?Machan discusses the importance of individual and group therapy, support programs, personal reflection, and addressing unresolved childhood experiences. She emphasizes that healing requires time, commitment, and a willingness to seek help.5. Is it possible to find happiness and a healthy relationship after experiencing abuse?Machan's story offers an encouraging perspective on life after an abusive marriage. Through personal growth and healing, she was able to move beyond her past experiences and build a loving relationship that has lasted 30 years.About the Guest:Machan Taylor is a singer, songwriter, teacher, and author with a four-decade career in music. She has performed with artists including Sting, Pink Floyd, Pat Benatar, and George Benson, and was the lead vocalist for the Grammy-nominated group Hiroshima. She now teaches at NYU and is the author of Naked Out Loud: From Yokohama to Pink Floyd and Beyond.To connect:https://www.machantaylor.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/machantaylorofficial/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/machantaylor/YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@MachanTaylorOfficialLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/machan-taylor-810196156/About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. 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Cryptocurrency can be one of the most confusing and overlooked assets in divorce. Many people assume that digital currency is anonymous, impossible to trace, or easily hidden by a spouse. But that isn't necessarily true, and overlooking these assets could mean leaving significant money on the table.In this episode of The D Shift: Redefining Divorce and Beyond, Mardi Winder welcomes cryptocurrency investigator and forensic expert Chris Groshong to discuss how cryptocurrency can impact divorce settlements. Chris explains how digital assets can be traced, warning signs that a spouse may own cryptocurrency, and why traditional financial investigations may not uncover the full picture. The conversation also explores what happens when someone claims their cryptocurrency has been stolen, lost, or become inaccessible, along with important considerations when deciding whether to accept cryptocurrency or a cash settlement.Chris also introduces the Crypto Recovery Alliance, a nonprofit focused on helping victims of cryptocurrency fraud through investigations, education, and mental health support. This conversation provides valuable information for anyone navigating divorce who wants to better understand digital assets, ask informed questions, and make strategic financial decisions.Questions Answered in This Episode1. Can cryptocurrency really be hidden during divorce?Although cryptocurrency is often considered anonymous, many transactions can be traced through blockchain analysis. Specialized investigators may be able to identify where digital assets have moved and uncover information that could be important during divorce proceedings.2. What are the warning signs that a spouse may own cryptocurrency?Previous conversations about investments, unusual bank transfers, transactions involving cryptocurrency exchanges, or purchases of hardware wallets may provide clues. Reviewing financial records with qualified professionals can help identify potential digital assets.3. What happens if a spouse claims their cryptocurrency was stolen or they lost access to it?These claims can sometimes be investigated through cryptocurrency tracing. Even when someone genuinely loses access to a digital wallet, the assets may remain visible on the blockchain, allowing investigators to monitor whether they move in the future.4. Is it better to accept cryptocurrency or cash in a divorce settlement?There is no single answer. Cryptocurrency values can fluctuate dramatically, and the appropriate decision depends on immediate financial needs, long-term goals, and individual circumstances. Understanding the potential risks and benefits is essential before agreeing to a settlement.5. Why is specialized financial expertise important when cryptocurrency is involved in divorce?Traditional forensic accountants and divorce attorneys may not have the specialized tools needed to investigate complex cryptocurrency transactions. Working with professionals experienced in digital asset tracing can help ensure that important financial information is not overlooked.About the Guest:A tenured veteran of the crypto industry, Chris Groshong has been operating CoinStructive Inc. for over 11 years. Seven of those years he’s been performing cryptocurrency investigations helping victims directly and acting as an expert witness. His first expert witness case was in 2019 in US Federal Court, the Southern District of California. Chris shifted his expert witness practice in 2024 to focus on family law, specifically divorce. As of today, the quality of the evidence he has presented has allowed the parties to settle without the need for a trial or to testify in court. He also is the Executive Director of a new non-profit called the Crypto Recovery Alliance which focuses on assisting victims of crypto fraud by providing free blockchain forensics analysis, access to low or no cost mental healthcare and scam awareness & prevention education. It is also noteworthy that Chris is a member of Infragard for public private partnerships with the FBI and has worked on cases involving cryptocurrency directly with them. For the gift:Step 1. Visit CoinStructivehttps://www.coinstructive.com/special-interrogatories-cryptocurrency-divorceStep 2. Follow link to Product Page from CoinStructive siteStep 3. Add Product to CartStep 4. Checkout and Use Promo Code "MARDI_75" To connect:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@coinstructive X: https://x.com/CoinStructive Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coinstructive/ About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. 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A parenting plan might look perfectly reasonable when both parents are getting along, but what happens when circumstances change? A new relationship, a change in work schedules, disagreements about medical decisions, or even something as simple as who picks up the children from school can create unexpected conflict. The details that seem unimportant during divorce can become major problems months or years later.Family law attorney Nicole Sodoma returns for another conversation with Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach Mardi Winder, this time focusing on how to create parenting plans that actually work in everyday life. Drawing on her experience as an attorney, parenting coordinator, and divorced parent, Nicole explains the differences between nesting, cooperative co-parenting, and parallel parenting. She also shares why clear, specific language in parenting agreements can prevent misunderstandings and protect families when communication becomes difficult.One of the most interesting parts of this discussion is the importance of planning for disagreements before they happen. From deciding how to make major parenting decisions to setting expectations for communication, Nicole offers practical suggestions to reduce conflict and keep children's needs at the center of the conversation. She and Mardi also explore when a parenting coordinator may be helpful, how technology can support healthier communication, and why learning to pause before responding can change the direction of a difficult interaction.Questions and Answers1. What should be included in a co-parenting plan after divorce?A well-developed parenting plan should address parenting schedules, exchanges, decision-making responsibilities, communication expectations, and procedures for resolving disagreements. Nicole emphasizes that even seemingly minor details, such as who can transport children or what happens when school is closed, deserve consideration.2. What's the difference between co-parenting, parallel parenting, and nesting?Co-parenting generally involves parents communicating and working together to raise their children. Parallel parenting offers more structure and limited direct interaction when conflict makes cooperation difficult. Nesting is typically a temporary arrangement where children remain in the family home while parents alternate living there.3. Why can flexible parenting agreements create problems later?Vague agreements may work when parents are getting along, but they can create opportunities for disagreement when circumstances change. Nicole recommends establishing clear expectations as a backup while allowing parents to cooperate and make mutually agreed adjustments when appropriate.4. When should divorced parents consider using a parenting coordinator?A parenting coordinator may be helpful when parents struggle to communicate, repeatedly disagree about decisions, or experience ongoing conflict over parenting arrangements. Although there are additional costs involved, a qualified professional can sometimes help families resolve disputes and establish more effective communication practices.About the Guest:Nicole Sodoma is a nationally recognized family law attorney, author and thought leader redefining divorce, co-parenting and modern family dynamics. She is the founder and managing principal of Sodoma Law, the largest family law firm in North and South Carolina. A former litigator, certified parenting coordinator and collaborative law attorney, Nicole draws on her own lived experience as a step-parent, mother, ex-wife and entrepreneur to provide personalized strategies and tools for families navigating complex transitions. She is the author of Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry, which helps readers navigate the challenges of marriage and divorce with insight, humor and practical tools to move forward. Nicole is also the founder of the Sodoma Law Foundation, and sought-after source on all things divorce and family, having been featured in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, USA Today and Business Insider.To connect with Nicole:Website: https://sodomalaw.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SodomaLaw Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesodomaway/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sodoma-law/ YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCi51C8Ks0u6xISNhixNKoMgAbout the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? 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Being newly single often brings unexpected financial challenges, especially when someone is suddenly responsible for supporting themselves or their children. Whether you're a newly single parent, navigating gray divorce, returning to work after years at home, or simply looking for more flexibility, finding a way to earn income that fits your life can feel overwhelming. But what if there's a career opportunity you haven't considered?Today, Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach Mardi Winder welcomes Melissa Broughton, accountant, entrepreneur, and founder of One Hour Bookkeeping, to explore how bookkeeping can offer opportunities for financial independence and flexible work. Melissa shares how her own experience as a divorced single mother inspired her to build a successful business that allowed her to support her son while being present for the moments that mattered most. She also explains why bookkeeping may be more accessible than people realize, even without an accounting degree or strong math skills.The conversation explores what bookkeepers actually do, how technology has made remote work more accessible, and why bookkeeping might be worth considering as a second career, part-time income opportunity, or work-from-home business. Melissa also shares her free three-step guide to creating better work-life balance and encourages listeners to think about the possibilities available as they create their next chapter after divorce.Questions Answered in This Episode1. Is bookkeeping a good work-from-home career after divorce?Bookkeeping can offer flexible opportunities for people looking to rebuild their financial independence after divorce. Whether you want a part-time business, additional income, or a full-time career, remote bookkeeping may allow you to work around family responsibilities and personal priorities.2. Do you need an accounting degree or strong math skills to become a bookkeeper?Not necessarily. Melissa explains that modern bookkeeping focuses on organizing, categorizing, and tracking financial transactions. With the right training and software, people without formal accounting backgrounds can learn the skills needed to become bookkeepers.3. What does a bookkeeper actually do?Bookkeepers help businesses organize their financial information by collecting transactions from bank accounts, credit cards, and other sources and categorizing them within accounting software. This allows business owners to better understand their financial situation and maintain organized records.4. Could bookkeeping be a good second career for someone going through gray divorce?Absolutely worth exploring! People returning to the workforce after raising children or leaving a long-term marriage may find bookkeeping appealing because it offers opportunities to develop new skills and potentially work remotely. It can also be an option for retirees or empty-nesters looking for supplemental income.About the Guest:Melissa Broughton is an accountant, entrepreneur, author, and nationally recognized bookkeeping educator. As the co-owner of Busy Bee Advisors, she has spent more than 20 years helping small business owners gain financial clarity through proactive bookkeeping, accounting, and tax strategies. Through her education company, 1-Hour Bookkeeper, Melissa has trained thousands of aspiring bookkeepers to launch profitable remote bookkeeping businesses using her proven systems and streamlined processes. She is the creator of the 1-Hour Bookkeeper Method™, author of multiple bookkeeping books and training programs, and co-host of *The Real Buzz: Taking the Sting Out of Taxes* podcast. Melissa's mission is simple: empower entrepreneurs to build profitable businesses, create financial freedom, and reclaim their time.For Melissa’s gift: https://gift.1hourbookkeeper.com/thedshiftTo connect with Melissa:Website: 1hourbookkeeper.com Website: melissabroughton.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/406399388656035 Skool: https://www.skool.com/1-hour-bookkeeperAbout the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app.Leave an Apple Podcast ReviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.

Divorce may end a marriage, but it doesn't erase decades of shared experiences, family connections, or emotional history. For women navigating gray divorce, the death of a former spouse can bring an unexpected wave of grief, guilt, sadness, and complicated emotions, even when the marriage ended years earlier. Losing someone who was once such a significant part of your life can be difficult to explain, particularly when others assume that divorce means those emotional connections have disappeared.In this episode of The D Shift: Redefining Divorce and Beyond, Strategic Divorce Consultant Mardi Winder welcomes Carol McGehe, founder of the Living Forward Ministry for Widows and author of Becoming a Widow's Advocate, to discuss the importance of connection, understanding, and ongoing support after the loss of a spouse. Drawing on Mardi's personal experiences with both divorce and widowhood, they explore how grief can affect women at different stages of life and why the death of a former spouse can reopen emotions that may have seemed resolved.Carol shares how her desire to help widowed friends grew into a supportive community offering practical assistance, meaningful friendships, and opportunities for women to rediscover purpose after loss. Their conversation highlights the challenges of navigating grief, the importance of asking for and accepting help, and why support should continue long after the initial period of sympathy has passed. Whether you are grieving the loss of a spouse, experiencing complicated emotions following the death of an ex-partner, or supporting someone through either experience, this discussion offers valuable perspectives on finding connection and moving forward.Questions Answered in This Episode1. Why can the death of an ex-spouse bring unexpected grief after gray divorce?Even when a marriage has ended, the emotional connections and shared history of a long-term relationship do not simply disappear. The death of a former spouse can bring back memories, unresolved feelings, guilt, or sadness, particularly when the couple spent decades together or remained on friendly terms. Mardi discusses how women may experience these emotions even years after their divorce and why acknowledging that grief is an important part of understanding the experience.2. Why is ongoing support so important after losing a spouse?Friends and family often provide considerable support immediately following a death, but that attention may diminish while the grieving person is still dealing with significant emotional and practical challenges. Carol explains how ongoing community connections can provide companionship, understanding, and assistance with everyday responsibilities. Having people who continue to check in, offer help, and provide a safe place to talk can make a meaningful difference in navigating life after loss.3. What is a widow's advocate, and how can someone provide meaningful support?A widow's advocate is someone who comes alongside a grieving person to offer compassion, practical assistance, encouragement, and understanding. Carol explains that advocates do not need to have experienced widowhood themselves. They may be friends, neighbors, family members, or community volunteers who help with transportation, household tasks, financial questions, or simply provide companionship. Learning what to say, what to avoid saying, and how to offer support without making assumptions is an important part of helping someone through grief.4. How can women rebuild their sense of identity and purpose after losing a spouse?Losing a spouse can change daily routines, relationships, responsibilities, and a person's understanding of their future. Carol discusses how the women in her Living Forward community support one another in discovering new interests, recognizing their strengths, and finding meaningful ways to engage with life. Rather than focusing exclusively on loss, the group encourages women to explore what comes next while recognizing that grief and personal growth can exist together.About the Guest:CAROL McGEHE lives with her husband Larry in Daytona Beach, FL. Carol is the founder of The Vine Church’s Living Forward Ministry for Widows and author of "Becoming a Widows' Advocate." She enthusiastically helps others begin widows’ ministries in their local communities and will be launching her own podcast "Serving Widows NOW" this fall. She and Larry are co-authors of the award-winning Christian historical novel, "In Search of My Heart," the first book in the "In Search" series. During her career in Mathematics Education, Carol received the Presidential Award for Excellence in the Teaching of Mathematics, which led to a meeting with President George H. W. Bush at the White House. In addition to writing and serving as a Widows’ Advocate, Carol enjoys traveling, Bible Study, tutoring mathematics students, playing pickleball, boogie boarding, and spending time with friends.For Carol’s gift: email her at [email protected] connect with Carol:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/insearchseries YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@McGeheBooks Instagram: https://instagram.com/mcgehebooks “Becoming A Widows’ Advocate”: Website/ordering: McGeheBooks.com/Widows_Advocate/ “In Search of My Heart”: Website/ordering: https://McGeheBooks.com Use “In Search of My Heart” with your Book Group or Bible Study: https://mcgehebooks.com/discussion-groups-in-search-of-my-heart/About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? 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Deciding what to do with the family home during divorce can be one of the most emotional and financially significant decisions you make. For many people, particularly those navigating gray divorce after decades of marriage, the family home represents much more than a financial asset. It holds memories, provides a sense of stability, and may represent a significant portion of the couple's shared wealth. Understanding your options before making decisions can help you avoid unnecessary financial and emotional complications.In this episode of The D Shift: Redefining Divorce and Beyond, Strategic Divorce Consultant Mardi Winder welcomes experienced real estate professional Jim Mazziotti to discuss the challenges of managing real estate during and after divorce. Drawing on more than 30 years of real estate experience, Jim explains why selling or keeping a home during divorce requires a different approach from a traditional real estate transaction.Together, they explore the importance of understanding home equity, mortgage obligations, property ownership, and the financial realities of maintaining a home independently. They also discuss common mistakes, including making decisions too quickly, choosing a real estate agent without divorce-specific experience, and assuming that keeping the family home is always the best option. Jim shares why having the right professional team and reliable information can make a significant difference in protecting your financial future.Questions Answered in This Episode1. What should you do first when deciding what happens to the family home during divorce?Before making decisions, obtain a current market evaluation of the property and review your mortgage information, including the outstanding balance, interest rate, and whose names appear on the loan and title. Understanding how much equity exists and what financial obligations remain provides a starting point for evaluating your options. Jim also emphasizes the importance of getting professional guidance before making major decisions about moving out or selling.2. What are some common real estate mistakes people make during divorce?One of the biggest mistakes is reacting emotionally instead of gathering information and developing a plan. Moving out of the family home without legal advice, failing to understand the property's value, or assuming a particular outcome is guaranteed can create unnecessary complications. Jim encourages people to slow down, ask questions, and build a team of professionals who understand the unique financial and legal considerations involved in divorce.3. How do you know if you can afford to keep your home after divorce?Keeping the family home involves more than determining its current market value or negotiating who receives it in the settlement. You also need to establish whether you can qualify for a mortgage independently, particularly if you have been out of the workforce or have relied on your spouse's income. Working with a divorce lending professional can help you understand financing requirements and whether keeping the home is a realistic long-term option.4. What happens when divorcing spouses disagree about selling the family home?Disagreements over the listing price, selection of a real estate agent, or timing of the sale can quickly become additional sources of conflict. Jim explains why objective market evaluations, accurate local property information, and an experienced real estate professional are important in these situations. He also discusses the challenges that arise when one spouse believes the agent is favoring the other and why trust and transparency are essential.5. Why is it important to choose a real estate professional experienced in divorce?Selling a home during divorce often involves additional legal, financial, and emotional considerations that are not part of a typical real estate transaction. Jim recommends looking beyond an agent's years of experience or number of sales and asking about their specific experience with divorce-related transactions. Professionals who understand the importance of neutrality, communication, and collaboration with attorneys, financial specialists, and divorce consultants can help clients make better-informed decisions while minimizing unnecessary conflict.About the Guest:With 34 years in real estate spanning Iowa, Oregon, and now the Dallas–Fort Worth Metroplex, Jim Mazziotti brings rare depth to every transaction. A former franchise broker/owner, Principal Managing Broker, published author, and certified Coach, Trainer, and Speaker with the John Maxwell Team, he holds designations including SFR, SRES, and MRP. He is the founder of the Senior To Seniors podcast and serves clients at EXIT Realty Elite in Grapevine, Texas. He has spent more than 20 years coaching agents and speaking nationally on real estate strategy, mostly to real estate agents and brokers. Married 46 years to Leann, father of three, and grandfather to two — Jim understands that behind every real estate decision is a real human story. Today he's here to help you navigate yours and to provide you with information that will directly benefit you. For Jim’s gift: https://www.jimmazziotti.com/To connect with Jim:Website: JimMazziotti.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jimmazziotti Senior To Seniors Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/senior- to-seniors/id1774531212About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinder/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. 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