Why Trying To Look Confident Backfires

Being ghosted hurts even more than a straight up rejection, because it leaves us asking: “What happened?” “What did I do wrong?” “Why would they treat me like this?” In this episode: ‣ Why people really ghost ‣ How to stop torturing ourselves ‣ How to finally let it go, without waiting for a text that may never come Chapters: 00:00  Intro 00:47  Why ghosting hurts more than rejection 04:12  Why we can't let it go 06:21  Why we blame ourselves 09:00  Why people ghost 11:05  How to get over it 13:36  Move on without closure 17:17  What if I messed it up? 18:47  What if I really like them? 20:48  What if they text back? 22:45  How to not feel like this again ——— Connect with Steve: https://www.instagram.com/stvsima/

Faking confidence isn't magnetic, it just feels needy. True confidence can't be faked, it has to be developed. In this episode: ‣ What we get wrong about confidence ‣ What people actually find confident and magnetic ‣ How to build confidence from zero ‣ Confidence vs. self-esteem Video Essay Mentioned: https://youtu.be/MGzByqgaky4 Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:43 Why we're obsessed with confidence 01:37 Performative confidence/Bravado 03:04 Extroversion and confidence 04:36 Skill/competence as confidence 06:11 Faking confidence 09:13 Bragging about money 10:27 Why we fake confidence 12:24 Steve's examples of faking confidence 14:15 What is "True Confidence"? 16:24 Morgan Freeman example 18:08 Sensitive vs Confident 20:06 How to handle embarrassment 22:18 Where true confidence comes from 24:37 How to build confidence Connect with Steve:https://www.instagram.com/stvsima/

Not sure what to do with your life? Hector Garcia — author of the multi-million copy bestseller, Ikigai — talks with Steve about:• How to find your purpose• How to discover your path in life • How money and purpose intersect• How to enter flow states, and more.—————(00:00) Intro(00:24) What keeps us stuck(07:27) What is “ikigai”?(07:56) How to find your purpose(12:33) Money and purpose(15:31) Quality Content vs Attention Hijack(20:05) Self-Promotion vs Providing Value(23:43) How Hector found his path(26:15) Flow States - How to enter flow consistently(30:15) Stop shaming yourself needlessly(32:42) How Steve enters the flow state(35:39) Japanese wisdom for finding meaning in life(38:17) What Hector is up to now—————Connect with Steve:https://www.instagram.com/stvsima

Harvard psychologist Dr. Roberto Olivardia explains the silent epidemic destroying men's self-worth – Muscle Dysmorphia, a term coined by Dr. Olivardia in his book The Adonis Complex. Men are more muscular than ever, but thanks to social media constantly bombarding them with images of perfect body builder and "superhero" physiques – more men than ever are dissatisfied with their bodies. This is leading to: • Extreme social isolation • Teenagers using steroids • Crippling insecurities and depression, and more. Dr. Olivardia and I break down the false promises behind fitness influencers and modern gym culture, as well as healthier ways to think about muscle building. -----(00:00) Intro (00:53) Perfect body ≠ Happiness? (05:15) Ripped = Attractive? (11:02) Muscle Dysmorphia, Body Dysmorphia, Anorexia (16:36) Symptoms (22:38) Being praised for unhealthy behaviors (25:32) What is your actual goal? (31:53) Missing the original point (33:02) Fitness influencers misguiding young men (38:19) Healthier ways to think about training ----- Connect with Steve: https://www.instagram.com/stvsima/

Author, Poker Champion, and Astera CEO Cate Hall joins Steve to discuss how we can develop high agency, why high-agency people get the most out of life, who the most agentic people in the world are, and much more. ----- (00:00) Intro (01:14) “High-Agency” vs “Low-Agency” (04:08) How to start developing agency (11:37) Low-agency beliefs more popular than ever (18:31) What to do when you’re feeling low-agency (21:14) Are we more agentic in some areas than others? (24:57) The best teachers are not naturally gifted (27:22) Steve’s initial skepticism of Cate (29:26) Who are the most high-agency people? (30:21) Elon Musk – The most agentic person? (32:09) You have more than 2 options (33:44) Agentic people aren’t necessarily good (34:33) Why good people need more agency (38:05) Don’t leave your potential on the table (41:08) Does AI make people more or less agentic? (43:57) The superpower all competent people have - Reframing (46:07) Cate’s new book and Substack --- Connect with Steve: https://www.instagram.com/stvsima --- Connect with Cate: https://www.catehall.com/

Do you feel unfulfilled? Author Derek Sivers – one of the all-around wisest human beings I've ever spoken to – teaches us how we can live our fullest, most purpose-filled life. ----- (00:00) How to reinvent ourselves (07:44) You don’t owe your family anything (13:31) You don’t have to fear dying alone (19:57)) How to have interesting friends (20:52) Why you struggle with dating (24:00) Stop waiting for someone to save you (26:24) Why you struggle to get rich (32:33) Focus on providing VALUE (34:33) Why we need good advice (35:26) “Level 100 Wisdom” (39:34) What Derek changed his mind about (41:49) Everything is figure-out-able ----------Connect with Steve: https://www.instagram.com/stvsima/ ----------Connect with Derek: https://sive.rs

Anne-Laure Le Cunff is a neuroscientist and author of the new book Tiny Experiments: How to Live Freely In a Goal Obsessed World. ----- (00:00) Intro (01:39) Procrastination – We’ve got it all wrong (06:37) Why “Hustle Culture” is so attractive (08:39) Finding purpose – why it’s dangerous (12:44) A healthy way to find purpose & meaning (14:22) How to deal with too many options (19:14) “I should…” – the most unhelpful idea (22:33) How to let go of goal-setting (24:13) Why we call people “geniuses” (26:49) Why we mean by “That’s impossible!” (29:10) The problem with fixating on outcomes (30:45) Growth Loops & Plus-Minus-Next (35:27) Communities - Why we should join & create them

Author and entrepreneur Derek Sivers joins Steve to discuss: How to live a full life on your own terms • How to recognize your limiting beliefs and stop holding yourself back • How to do what scares you • How to find your purpose. And much more. ----- (00:00) Intro (01:08) How to live by your own rules (07:25) How to discover your purpose (13:25) Explorer phase vs. Leader phase (16:56) Doing what scares you (19:48) Adjusting for our natural biases & tendencies (22:49) Being honest with yourself about your desires (24:05) Recognizing and overcoming limiting-beliefs (31:27) Beliefs are tools, which tool is the most useful? (33:56) Unhelpful stories we tell ourselves (36:12) Why Incel ideology is self-deception (37:32) "My culture is better than your culture" (39:50) Immersing yourself in different perspectives ----------Connect with Derek: https://sive.rs/

World-renowned body language and communications expert Mark Bowden joins us to discuss how to be a CHARISMATIC and ENGAGING speaker. ------ (00:00) Intro (01:17) Why gestures make you ENGAGING (05:09) Beat is boring, RHYTHM is interesting (08:22) Why you should PREPARE and not rehearse (10:51) The key to CHARISMA and ATTENTION (16:29) How to make people feel SPECIAL (23:50) Don't jump to conclusions when reading people----------Learn more about Mark's work:https://truthplane.com/

Do you struggle to say "no" or stand up for yourself? Today's guest is Nick Pollard, AKA @thepeopledispleaser. Coach Nick delivers an absolute masterclass on how we can set strong boundaries, stop people pleasing, and finally put ourselves first (without being a jerk!) Expect to learn: - The baby steps we can take to overcome fear and guilt when advocating for ourselves- Why boundaries make us MORE attractive, not less- The limiting beliefs that hold back people pleasers - Why boundaries aren't about other people at all- How people pleasers are secretly very full of themselvesConnect With Nick:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepeopledispleaser/Website: https://thepeopledispleaser.com/