How to Turn Sexual Fantasies into Reality

Let’s face it: casual sex often gets a bad rap. It’s thought of as just another swipe, a fleeting moment, a reflection of society’s current hookup culture, or something disposable. But hold up! It doesn't have to be that way. When you bring a little intention and mindfulness into the mix, casual sex can be the spark that reignites your erotic energy. In my opinion, the secret sauce is all about knowing yourself and being crystal clear about what you want from your casual encounters. This episode, I’ll be teaching you how to dive into casual sex with purpose and channel your inner Samantha Jones. In this episode you’ll learn:  All the different types of casual sex out there How to know if casual sex is right for you (because it isn’t for everyone!)  When it’s best to turn down a potential partner Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! 7 Myths of Non Monogamy Friends With Benefits: A Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) LOKI WAVE 2 The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I had the pleasure of talking to the “Scientific Carrie Bradshaw”, a.k.a Amy Chan, the revolutionary mind behind Renew Breakup Bootcamp, to talk about all things relationship. We chat about how her heartbreak helped in creating Breakup Bootcamp, why being present during dates is hard but necessary, and why dating outside of your comfort zone might be the key to finding the one. If you’re sick of swiping left and tolerating toxicity, this one’s for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to measure your chemistry compass  Why it’s important to date that short person (even if they aren’t exactly your type!) How to spot the “green flags” in a relationship Show Notes: Attend Dating Bootcamp!  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Eager to transform your hottest sexual fantasy into reality? Then today’s throwback Ask Emily show is for you! I'll be taking calls about fantasies and offering concrete tips on how to actualize them. However, it's essential to recognize that this journey is a blend of creativity and strategy. You must embrace your sensual desires, visualize intensely passionate — and perhaps even forbidden — scenarios, and explore what genuinely excites you! Lucky for you, I’ve given you tips on how to do just that. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery… In this episode you’ll learn:  How to go about finding a “third” if your partner’s been hinting at cuckolding The 411 on play parties (and how to stay safe if you go to one!) What to do if you’ve been craving a sexual fantasy, but your imagination’s been letting you down Show Notes: The Yes, No, Maybe List Fetlife Feeld #Open SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It’s my favorite month of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s throwback show, I’m honoring the month of self-love and giving you a brief history of the celebration, the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys and lubes for bringing you pleasure this May and all year long. In this episode you’ll learn:  What to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator Why masturbation can help you have orgasms during sex with your partner Signs that you’re masturbating too much Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE  SEX WITH EMILY VESPER SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I continue my conversation with my friend, YouTube personality, public speaker, and author Matthew Hussey. We chat about his latest book, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily No Matter What, Matthew’s texting skills, and why it’s best to follow your path and not your feelings. And if you were wondering about the texting cliffhanger from Part 1, it’s answered in today’s show. Enjoy! In this episode you’ll learn:  Why “avoiders” can be more of a red flag in relationships than liars When to make things work and when it's not worth it Why speaking your truth is sexy Show Notes: Find Your Person & Lead Your Love Life w/ Matthew Hussey Pt. 1 Matthew’s New Book: Love Life LELO Tor 3 (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

When it comes to sex, a lot of us find ourselves getting in our head about the way it “should” go down. “I should look a certain way.” “They should kiss me a certain way.” “We’ll both orgasm at the same time.” In other words, we expect things to be straight out of a movie… But here’s the real deal: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s throwback show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your senses. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, I’ve got sensory tools you can use to remove mental blocks and seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why you’re dissociating during sex and how to stop Ways to talk dirty without swearing How to bring back an MIA orgasm Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide or use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout!) Come As You Are - Dr. Emily Nagoski SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Listen in on my conversation with my friend Matthew Hussey. You may know him as the inspirational YouTube personality, author, and public speaker who has revolutionized the world of dating advice with his amazing methods. We chat about emotional journeys, what Matthew has learned in his experience as a relationship coach, and ways to take charge of your love life. If you've been in a dating slump, this is the episode for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to take charge of your love life Why reflecting on your instincts is a game changer The value of valuing yourself first Show Notes: Matthew’s New Book: Love Life More Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Youtube SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I continue my candid convo with my friend Falguni, answering all your hottest and most personal sex questions. From my experiences in threesomes to my favorite positions, no question goes unanswered. If you’ve ever wondered what the mile high club is like or how to tell your partner they could step up their sex game, tune in. Trust me, this is an episode you won’t wanna miss.   In this episode you’ll learn:  Why penetration alone might not always give you an orgasm    How to take control of your orgasm  Why communication is the most important part of your threesome Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO DOT Travel (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Happy 4/20! While direct research is still in development, there's no denying the potential benefits of cannabis for enhancing your sexual experiences. Researchers theorize that the plant can unlock a world of heightened eroticism, tranquil minds, and pain-free sex. On today’s show, I chat about ways cannabis might light up your sex life, my favorite products and delivery methods for the occasion (I’m a huge edible fan!), and how to figure out if cannabis is right for you.  In this episode you’ll learn:   How cannabis can affect sexual performance   How to decide if you should bring cannabis into the bedroom My fave product recommendations for 4/20 fun Show Notes: 6 Ways to Use Cannabis for Sex: A Guide The Journal of Cannabis Research Study SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide until 4/30/24) For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE   Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Buckle up: Today’s show is one you’ve all been waiting for…and spoiler alert, it’s all about me! I sat down with my good friend Falguni to flip the script and spill the tea on what sex with Emily is actually like (pun intended)! Tune in to hear me get up close and personal about my sexual journey, why I faked my orgasms until my 30s, and sex trends that I see making a comeback in the near future.  In this episode you’ll learn:   How I stopped having performative sex  How to push past the pleasure thieves for fulfilling sex  My go-to positions and products for the best orgasms Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.