Is It Polyamory Or Polyf*ckery?🤔

2025 Tantra Talks Throwback! If you followed spiritual communities online in 2025, you likely noticed this topic: Polyamory, Aubrey Marcus,  and “Radical Nonmonogamy”, etc., etc.But are all these radical liberating concepts simply code words for “Poly f*ckery” i.e. f*ck around without consequence?In this throwback episode of Tantra Talks from May 2025, we address one of the most common myths in Western Tantra:Do you have to be polyamorous to practice Tantra?Short answer: No.But we go way deeper than that. You'll discover how the unexpected choice of intentional monogamy could lead to more profound spiritual growth than you ever imagined, and learn about simple, powerful practices to transform any relationship context.Here’s what we unpack:Why Tantra is not inherently polyamorous or monogamousThe real danger of “poly-f*ckery” masquerading as spiritual awakeningHow non-monogamy can become another form of trauma reenactmentHow choosing “intentional monogamy” can serve as a powerful exploration in spiritual practice. How to make relationship choices from presence—not pressure or performanceOur personal experiences navigating polyamory, swinging, and monogamy within a Tantric context.The monogamy vs non-monogamy debate isn’t just a spicy trend—it’s a deeper call to examine your intention, nervous system, and patterns when it comes to how you love and connect. Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

​In this LAST Sex Is Medicine episode of 2025, we revisit a Tantra Talks episode from Spring 2025...And, this time, strive to set the record straight by offering authentic, lineage-based guidance on the most proper, respectful, and effective ways to engage with this medicine from the plant world.Tune in to learn about how to properly and respectfully engage with Grandmother Ayahuasca.Whether you’re curious, cautious, or committed, this episode equips you with lineage-tested principles. Discover:What we got wrong in the previous episode and WHYThe very real dangers of using Aya without proper lineage and guidanceHow to be in the right relationship with AyaThe dynamic dance of Tibetan Tantra and AyaWhy lineage matters in both Ayahuasca and TantraThe different lineages of Ayahuasca ceremoniesWhat to look for in an Aya facilitatorWhat to be aware of when looking to explore Aya useWhy Ayahuasca is not for everyone and how to know if it is right for youThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

How should we react when a partner is unable to maintain an erection?This episode of Sex Is Medicine answers listeners' questions about:Navigating psychosomatic ED as a coupleThe impact of aging on sex and the best remedies for addressing vaginal dryness, thinning tissues, and low libidoAre Throatgasms a thing?How to find your pelvic floor musclesThe use of fantasy to recover from porn addictionSit back, relax, and enjoy this week’s episode of Sex Is Medicine Reboot!Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

It's not often we get the opportunity to speak to living legends!  Join us for a conversation about Reproductive Justice with Loretta J Ross and Marlene Gerber -two prominent leaders in the social justice movement.ABORTION AND REPRODUCTIVE JUSTICE: An Essential Guide for Resistance, by Marlene Gerber Fried and Loretta J. Ross, emphasizes that the right to have and raise children is as essential for reproductive choice as the right not to.This critical approach—originating in Black feminism—provides grounding for radical abortion advocacy. Calling on us to join in, the book highlights abortion stories from individuals and organizations who are putting this analysis into action on the front lines, in the United States and beyond.By linking abortion rights to broader social justice initiatives, including Black Lives Matter, immigrant and refugee rights, disability justice, and LGBTQ+ rights, the authors expand the conversation at a critical moment.In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, we discuss:Why "reproductive justice" goes beyond abortion rights to include the right to parent- How this framework changes the conversation.- The connections between abortion access and broader social justice movements, including:- Black Lives Matter- Immigrant rights- Disability Justice- LGBTQ+ rights- Stories of activists and organizations on the front lines, and what they teach about building an inclusive, intersectional movement for the future.About Our GuestsMarlene Gerber Fried is Professor Emerita of Philosophy at Hampshire College and cofounder of the National Network of Abortion Funds.Loretta J. Ross is a MacArthur Fellow, Associate Professor of Women and Gender at Smith 1111 FRANKLIN ST OAKLAND, CA 94607 • UCPRESS.EDUCollege, and cofounder of SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Health Collective. They are coauthors, with Jael Silliman and Elena Gutiérrez, of Undivided Rights: Women of Color Organize for Reproductive Justice. Abortion and Reproductive Justice: An Essential Guide for Resistance (Universityof California Press, 9/9/25).By weaving together personal stories, historical analysis, and movement strategy, they expand the conversation and show how abortion rights are deeply connected to racial, economic, LGBTQ+, and immigrant Justice.Learn more about this episode at https://holisticsexologyinstitute.com/?p=2187Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Beyond The Clitoris: A Dissertation On Female Pleasure ZonesThere is a concerning phenomenon in the field of sexology involving the emergence of a nearly militant insistence that the clitoris is the ONLY source of female orgasm.This viewpoint not only dismisses the lived experiences of millions of women but is also simply anatomically incorrect.While the clitoris and its surrounding structures are indeed extraordinary, they are not the only sources of orgasm. Orgasms can vary significantly and can originate from various parts of the body, the brain, and even the energy body.After over a decade of teaching people how to expand their orgasmic capacity, we've discovered that orgasms come in many variations, influenced by a broad range of factors—physical, psychological, emotional, intellectual, and energetic. In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, Devi and Alaina explore the many types of orgasmic pleasure that do not originate from the CUV complex, such as:- Cervical and uterine orgasms- P-spot orgasms- Anal orgasms- Breast and nipple orgasms- Orgasms from stimulation of the skin, ears, or feet- "Throatgasms"- Exercise-induced orgasms or coregasmsTune in for a Ph. D. level dissertation on Female Pleasure ZonesThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

This is a true story of coercion, manipulation, and abuse….What happens when sexual healers engage in acts of sexual harm? Who can you turn to when an organization's leadership lacks a genuine interest in accountability?In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, Devi speaks with ISTA survivor advocate, Cara Cordoni, to explore how "sex-positive, trauma-informed" communities can sometimes function as high-control groups that cause harm to those they claim to serve.In this episode, Cara shares her experience of participating in several levels of ISTA training, the coercion, manipulation, and abuse she witnessed personally and vicariously, multiple survivor stories, and the results of her 2-year attempt to facilitate change within the heart of the ISTA organization.Find out:How ISTA uses the promise of healing, liberation, and "conscious" sexuality to attract students and clients.Validated reports of sexual harm filed against ISTA from 18 countries spanning back to 2008The troubling patterns of manipulation, neglect of participants in distress, financial exploitation, and the misuse of "trauma-informed" language without implementing actual trauma-informed practices.The 2-year attempt at mediation with ISTA that ended with defending actions that many considered rape, victim blaming, denial, and positioned themselves as victims rather than addressing the documented patterns of harm from numerous survivor reports.How ISTA's so-called "accountability process" ultimately harmed survivors furtherRed flags to watch for before joining trainings: lack of established lineage (teachers creating content without drawing from recognized traditions), spiritual bypassing, pressure to disregard boundaries in the name of "growth," financial exploitation, unclear processes for reporting concerns, and whether criticism is welcomed or punished.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Would you like to master the art of separating your orgasm from your ejaculation?Would you like to become a multi-orgasmic man, but don't know where to begin?Are you looking for guidance about how to practice semen retention and non-ejaculatory orgasms safely, but don't know who to trust?What would it be worth to you to have access to over 27 years of combined expertise in the art, practice, and skill of safe and effective semen retention methods?Well, here we are, serving it up to you on a silver platter!Join Devi and Alaina for this episode of Sex Is Medicine and find out the answers to:How and why you can practice "the million dollar point" safely and effectively.Why retrograde ejaculation is not as common as you thinkHow to relieve chronic tension in your pelvic floorHow to RELAX into your multi-orgasmic potentialWhy it's okay to fantasize during self-pleasureThey also discuss the importance of morning BJ's to maintain relationship satisfaction ;-)In honor of #NoNutNovember, Devi and Alaina are dedicating this episode to all of their fabulous Ejaculation Mastery for Men students to celebrate your success!Here’s to you guys! We’re so proud of you!Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

The topic of polyamory seems to be everywhere these days. From articles in The Atlanticdescribing it as the ruling class's latest fad, to the controversy surrounding Aubrey Marcus and “radical monogamy” (essentially polygamy), polyamory is highly present in the media right now.But is polyamory really a new trend? Is it even new at all? Or is it a way of relating that predates colonialism and recalls a time when humans were less isolated and more communal?In this week’s episode of Sex Is Medicine, Devi and Alaina speak with somatic relationship coach Mel Cassidy about their new book, Radical Relating: A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of MonogamyDescribed as a provocative, trauma-informed guide to post-monogamy, this book helps readers build liberated relationships rooted in empowerment, equity, and authenticity.Join Devi, Alaina, and Mel for an in-depth conversation about the myths and misrepresentations of polyamory and how to navigate non-monogamy from a “woke” perspective.In this episode, we will:- Deconstruct myths and misrepresentations surrounding polyamory- Explore the difference between polyamory and polyfuckery- Learn how and why the nuclear family was created (and how it does NOT reflect our human history)- Uncover how and why the nuclear family model creates suffering for families and communities- Highlight toxic approaches to non-monogamy that perpetuate patriarchy and white supremacy culture- Understand the role of queerness in non-monogamyAnd so much more!About Mel CassidyMel Cassidy is a somatic relationship coach committed to the path of liberatory love and rewilding intimacy. They specialize in working with queer and questioning humans (and those who love them), exploring post-monogamous relationships—with a focus on polyamory, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy.They are of Irish, Greek, and Romani descent and have lived in 3 countries, across 3 continents. They currently live in British Columbia, Canada, and work with clients and students worldwide. Their first book, Radical Relating: A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy, is published by North Atlantic Books.Find them on Instagram/Facebook/Substack/Insight Timer @radicalrelating or visit radicalrelating.caThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Is it possible for women to have orgasms from breast and/or nipple stimulation?The short answer is yes! And here's why...Studies have determined that there is, in fact, a neural link between the nipple and the clitoris. Stimulation of the nipples activates the same sensory area of the brain associated with the genitals.Stimulation of the nipples activates:Your Brain -Stimulating the nipples activates both the chest area and the genital sensory cortex in the brain.Your Hormones - Nipple stimulation also triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that can cause uterine contractions, which may contribute to sensations in the genital area.Your Pleasure - Research involving women who have undergone a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) suggests a direct neural link, as the genital sensory cortex is still activated during nipple stimulation, even without the uterus being involved.This neural connection provides a neurological basis for why nipple stimulation can enhance sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm for many women.Listen to the full episode for our step-by-step guide to activating breast orgasms using Pleasure as Medicine.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Erospirituality: Ancestral Remembering for Embodied Liberation with Mx. Lena QueenJoin Devi and Alaina for a deeply regenerative conversation about Erotic Liberation through Erospirituality with licensed, integrative somatic sex therapist, Mx.Lena QueenIn this episode of Sex Is Medicine, learn about:The Indigenous Roots of Erospirituality  Erotic Liberation as a radical, embodied state of being Erotic intelligence as a path to navigate love, desire, intimacy, and erotic powerReclaiming Embodied Intelligence to connect and integrate body, mind, spirit, and sexThe importance of Decolonizing ErosHow Healing the Erotic Self heals the WHOLE SelfAbout our guest:Mx. Lena Queen, LCSW, M.Ed. (Queen/they) is a licensed integrative somatic sex therapist, certified hypnotherapist, energy worker, TEDx Speaker, and Bliss breathwork facilitator.With over 23 years of personal and professional healing experience, they are an erotic liberation author, and creator of the erotic intelligence workbook and self-paced wellness plans, the 6-week erotic embodiment healing intensive, Healing The Erotic Self (HTES), in addition to the 5-weekSHIFT Somatic Healing Intensive, and founder of the non-profit healing and SHIFT Somatic Healing Intensive, and founder of the non-profit healing and learning space, Erospirituality Centre.Centering Black erotic liberation, Queen uses the erotic to help trauma survivors and healthcare professionals create embodied safety and self-trust to heal and create healthy relationships. Mx. Queen is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and an AASECT-approved continuing education (CE)Learn more about Mx. Lena Queen at https://www.erospirituality.com/Attend Lena’s upcoming events - https://www.erospirituality.com/storeDownload Healing The Erotic Self Workbook - Healingtheeroticself.comConnect with Mx. Lena Queen on Instagram @sistasexologistResources:Erospirituality Sex, ecology, evolution - https://mikmawarchives.ca/documents/erospirituality-sex-ecology-evolution-%E2%80%93-the-ontopoetics-of-soulThe African Roots of Tantra - https://www.tantradharmacenter.com/african-roots-of-tantraThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina