35: Falling In Love Is Wack (with Chaneé Jackson Kendall)

What is a yuletide? Is Matty Healy the Jess Mariano to Taylor's Rory? Is Joe reading smut??Also: Joe's breakup, parenting fails, polyamorous guilt, Jes is over avoidants (for real this time), and Jes went on a date with a girl!JOIN OUR PATREON TO LISTEN TO THE REST OF THIS EPISODE, PLUS YEARS OF EXCLUSIVE CONTENT!***You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ !***Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!Nuclear Fusion's ⁠⁠⁠alpha network⁠⁠⁠ is live, and you can join or ⁠⁠⁠donate⁠⁠⁠ now!Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

It is really important to Jes that you know this episode was recorded BEFORE Thanksgiving and that it was supposed to be out BEFORE Thanksgiving, and she's really sorry it's only coming out now on Christmas Eve Eve. Good ol' ADHD and general overwhelm. Also, now that the live event for "Off the Table" has passed, you can still purchase the recording! In this episode, The Daylovers and friend-of-the-pod Chaneé Jackson Kendall sit down to hash out some of the common difficulties and pitfalls polyamorous folks face during the holiday season. They answer 3 listener emails, including one about working through the emotions of your partner missing traditions to be with their new partner, one about navigating the holidays as a hinge, and one about being the new partner entering into an established family's holidays. Head to bit.ly/chaneespeaks to learn more about Chaneé's offerings and sign up for her newbie cohort. You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠ ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Nuclear Fusion's ⁠alpha network⁠ is live, and you can join or ⁠donate⁠ now! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

Episode highlights: There are only 8 (actually 3 now) tickets left for Jes and Chaneé's "You Wanna Be Polyamorous But You..." workshop on 11/2 Jes is willing to be ruined by the "Homosexual Lesbian Spirits", and also she made merch about it. Jes is back on dating apps for the first time in almost 2 years because of a tv show, and Joe is really happy for her for it Joe makes Jes late to her first first date in almost 2 years Jes suddenly has the ability to go on a first date without making the person jump through her autistic demisexual screening hoops Jes suggests Joe becomes a bull so he can fuck some hot wives This episode's Intrusive Thots include: Jes will never be free of all toxins, and Joe wonders if folks will look nostalgically back at this era You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠ ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Nuclear Fusion's alpha network is live, and you can join or donate now! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

In this episode, Jessica and Chaneé (@chaneespeaks on all the socials) spin off of their last episode together where they talked about earning your "polyamory stripes" through "fuckin' up and fixin' it," as Chaneé says. In this convo they dive into specific mistakes they've each made over the last 10 years, and the character arcs that came out of that journey. Some themes include: -security and stability are illusions of monogamy -impulsive, addict-like behavior during NRE -the nuances of having a more intense sexual chemistry with a new partner -getting tired of your own bullshit -the role psychedelics can play in helping your non-monogamy journey -and, as always, Chaneé's giant ( . Y . ) Make sure to sign up for Chaneé's newsletter, and stay turned for a workshop from the two of us coming up soon!

Welcome to the first episode of Fusion Radio, produced and hosted by Nuclear Fusion App's CEO, Jessica Daylover. Fusion Radio is an enterprise of the Nuclear Fusion App. The Nuclear Fusion App is a project whose mission is to help folks across the world find, build, and sustain modern villages and chosen families. In this short episode, Jessica introduces you to the Nuclear Fusion App project, and the context of its existence. The alpha version of Nuclear Fusion App launches on Monday 9/23/24 across the globe. The best way to stay up-to-date is to sign up for our newsletter, and subscribing to all of our social medias, including our new podcast channel! We are excited to see you in the network. Now, let the Fusion begin! --- Nuclear Fusion App - website Nuclear Fusion App - Instagram Nuclear Fusion App - Facebook Nuclear Fusion App - Tiktok Nuclear Fusion App - YouTube

In this episode of our podcast (now on video!) The Daylovers sit down with their beloved friend and colleague Chaneé Jackson Kendall (online at @ChaneeSpeaks). They talk about what's new with Chaneé's project "Intentional Polyamory", Remodeled Love, and the Nuclear Fusion App. They get into why there's no point to anything and, as always, a reminder that love sucks. Finally they dive into a very complex polyamory problem as part of their advice portion of the show called "Dear Daylovers". Make sure to follow Chaneé @chaneespeaks on all socials, and signup for her newsletter by subscribing for free at chaneespeaks.substack.com. You can submit a question at ⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠ ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF RITUALS FOR CONNECTION!

In this episode Jes, Joe, and Dr. M sit down for a templated episode: What's New with Remodeled Love? Hot Goss (what's new in their super salacious and obviously exciting polyamorous lives?) Existential Thoughts I've Been Having Lately (the trio share the most recent existential dread that's been plaguing their brains) Dear Daylovers (the trio answer a listener advice question about polyamory) You can submit a question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF RITUALS FOR CONNECTION

In this episode Jessica, Joe, and Dr. M discuss all the big and new changes in the polycule, regrets they have as content creators, and the fuckery of ignorant ass people. You can hear the rest of this episode and support Remodeled Love by joining our Patreon at www.patreon.com/remodeledlove. Plus you'll receive 3 years of exclusive content when you join! You can also subscribe on Spotify to receive access to all the exclusive podcast episode.

I've been waiting so freakin' long to tell y'all that, after 43 years of monogamous marriage, my in-laws (Dr. M's parents), have discovered the joys of swinging...and now they're both big ol' bisexual sluts having the time of their lives—in their 70s! And they sat down with me and my husband in our recording studio and spilled all the tea on their adventures, how they got here, and the expansion and growth it's required. Prepare yourself for an episode that's somehow as pumpkiny as it is DIRTY, and most especially, semiology expanding. *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF RITUALS FOR CONNECTION

Alternative episode title: Famous Last Words In this episode, The Daylovers (Jes, Joe, and Ash) talk about:  *what Datty is learning in polyamory (fear of trying and failing at finding compatible partners), *what Ash is learning about parenthood and co-parenting (letting go of attachment, not trying to immediately nip things in the bud or cast judgment, learning to pause...), *what Jes is learning in polyamory, which she breaks down to what she is learning through each of her partners:     >>with Joe: are we "just" gay best friends?      >>with Dr. M: learning to lean into my fear of my partner's expansion, which is really just fear of my own,     >>with Loverboy: (GASP. WHO IS LOVERBOY?? Find out inside this episode!) Most heatedly, they talk about the dreadful art of "Downplaying" after Joe accuses Jes of downplaying her connection with Loverboy. Downplaying in polyamory can be a really contentious topic. Downplaying can be: pretending that new connections don’t have a sexual or romantic vibe when they actually do, dampening one's excitement or hope about a new connection, dampening how you actually feel about a new connection, downplaying the possibilities of what may come, etc... This convo gets real and honest as fuck, and we're excited to bring y'all into the room with us and how we work through conflict/call each other out on our bullshit. Hear the rest of this episode, and receive access to all our exclusive episodes plus 2+ years worth of exclusive content on our Patreon: www.patreon.com/remodeledlove.