Assess Your Stressors & Supporters (Part 2)

In part two of this stress series, Amanda walks you through a practical, honest assessment of your stress by examining both sides of the see-saw—your stressors and your supporters. She breaks stressors into baseline (chronic) and daily (variable) inputs, helping you identify where your load is actually coming from. This episode emphasizes that real change starts with awareness, and gives you a framework to understand whether your reactions are coming from accumulated stress (overflow) or deeper unresolved patterns (triggers). 3 Takeaways: Your stress bucket is filled by both baseline (ongoing) and daily (fluctuating) stressors, and understanding the difference helps you identify where your leverage for change is.  An honest assessment of your supporters—what’s actually present, not what “should” be—reveals the gap that needs to be addressed for your nervous system to feel more supported.  Big reactions to small things are either triggers (linked to past experiences) or overflow (a full bucket), and knowing which is which helps guide whether you need deeper healing work or better stress management.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork) Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.—Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, Amanda introduces a new four-part series on stress by reframing what stress actually is, and why stress itself isn't really the problem. She explains how stress is a natural, necessary nervous system response, but becomes harmful when it remains unresolved and accumulates over time. Using the stress bucket and see-saw metaphors, she offers a more honest and actionable way to understand and work with stress in modern life. 3 Takeaways: Stress isn’t the problem—chronic, unresolved stress is. A healthy stress response activates, completes, and returns to baseline.  Stress is either processed or stored. When the cycle doesn’t complete, it accumulates in the body and shows up as symptoms.  Effective stress management isn’t about eliminating stress—it’s about balancing your stressors with enough consistent support to help your nervous system recover.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork) Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.—Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Amanda shares the nervous system framework behind a real family decision — getting a puppy with three kids under five — and why saying yes to something stressful can still be the regulated choice.Using the seesaw model (stress bucket on one side, supporter blocks on the other), she introduces a simple filter for everyday decisions:"Does this give more than it takes?"She walks through two examples, the puppy she said yes to and the ceramics class she said no to, and names the two hardest directions this question cuts.If your season doesn't allow you to reduce stressors, the question becomes: where can you add more supporters? Hit play for a simple decision-making filter for anything you're considering adding (or removing) from your life.3 Takeaways:The goal isn't less stress, it's better balance. Supporters on your seesaw let you carry a heavier load without exceeding your window of tolerance.Run decisions through the filter: Does this give more than it takes? It works for big commitments and small ones alike, and the answer is always season-specific.The filter cuts both ways. Saying no to things you want and saying yes to things that aren't "productive" can both be hard, and both are part of more regulated living.—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more  or  book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork) Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, I'm breaking down the song "You'd Never Know" by Blu Eyes—a devastatingly honest look at what depression actually feels like from the inside, and why it so often goes unseen from the outside.We talk about what dorsal vagal shutdown really looks like, why the gap between "you look fine" and "I'm screaming inside" is so dangerous, what happens when a doctor says "everything looks good" and you turn that into self-blame, and why healing isn't a straight line—even when you're functioning again, your body can still be carrying the weight of what you went through.If you've ever asked yourself "what's wrong with me?" —this episode is for you.Hit play for the full song here:Spotify "You'd Never Know" by Blu EyesYoutube "You'd Never Know" by Blu Eyes→ Check out Regulated Health | Functional Labs for Mental Health—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more  or  book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork) Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.—Disclaimer: The Regulate & Rewire podcast and content posted by Amanda Armstrong is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information from this podcast, materials linked, or content found elsewhere is done so at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Our launch week didn't go as planned — the website crashed, emails went out in the wrong order, and it was, well, a dumpster fire. So instead of pretending it didn't happen, we're leaning all the way in.For 48 hours only, join the Regulated Living Membership for $7 for your first month with the code DUMPSTERFIRE.What you get when you join:Course Club — our 5-week guided onboarding experienceRegular Live Q&A Support callsDaily regulation toolsThe full Regulated Living CourseOur private, trauma-informed communityAfter your first month, membership continues at $47/month. Cancel anytime.→ Join for $7Code: DUMPSTERFIREWebsite: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, I'm breaking down the song "Dear Anxiety" by Blu Eyes—and why it might be the most accurate description of anxiety and nervous system regulation I've ever heard set to music.We explore why anxiety isn't a disorder or a malfunction but a protective response, what it actually looks like to be in relationship with your anxiety instead of at war with it, and how this one song captures the entire arc of regulation work—from somatic awareness to sending signals of safety to letting emotions move through.This is a song that hits you in the feels while providing such deep validation.Hit play for the full song here:Spotify: "Dear Anxiety" by Blu EyesYoutube: "Dear Anxiety" by Blu Eyes—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Do you ever finish a conversation and realize you’ve just given a twenty-minute dissertation to justify a simple "no" or a basic need? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on chronic over-explaining. It turns out, this isn't just a quirky personality trait—it’s a sophisticated nervous system response. Whether you’re trying to preemptively defend yourself against being "the bad guy" or you learned early on that your needs weren't valid unless you built a legal case for them, this episode offers a roadmap to reclaiming your voice.In this episode, you’ll learn:The "Origin Story" of Over-Explaining: Why we learn to justify our needs to get them met and how misattunement in childhood creates a blueprint for hyper-communication.Over-Explaining as a Survival Tool: The science of how your amygdala flags "emotional risk" and tries to negotiate safety through a flood of information.The High Cost of Justification: How over-explaining leads to emotional exhaustion, self-abandonment, and the weakening of your own self-trust.The "One-Sentence Rule": A practical challenge to state your truth clearly and then—the hardest part—stop talking.Embracing the Pause: Why silence feels like danger to a dysregulated nervous system and how to tolerate the "awkwardness" of letting your words land.3 Takeaways:Over-explaining is a protective nervous system response that served you at some point. If you had to prove your feelings were valid in the past, your brain adapted by explaining itself into safety. You’re not "too much"; you’re practicing a survival skill that you no longer need.The cost of over-explaining is self-abandonment. When you lead with a defense, you’re inadvertently saying your needs aren't legitimate on their own. Trusting your truth means realizing your "no" doesn't require a dissertation.Practice the "One-Sentence Rule" and embrace the pause. Challenge yourself to say what you need in one clear sentence, then stop. Let the silence be there. People who truly see you don't need an essay to respect your boundaries.—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more  or  book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork) Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.—Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

When you witness suffering at scale, your capacity to care can feel like it’s running on empty. In this episode, we’re diving into the biological reality of compassion fatigue and the potent "antidote" found in moral elevation. We discuss why "looking for the helpers" isn’t just a sweet sentiment—it’s a vital nervous system intervention that activates the vagus nerve and restores our ability to hope. This conversation is an invitation to honor your personal capacity, embrace complexity, and find your own sustainable way to show up.In this episode, you’ll learn:What compassion fatigue actually isThe "Compassion Budget"The science of Moral Elevation: How witnessing acts of goodness triggers the vagus nerve to slow your heart rate, reduce inflammation, and release oxytocin.Dialectical Thinking: The "both/and" logic that allows you to acknowledge horrifying truths without losing sight of community resilience.Matching Capacity to Advocacy: Why "offering the shovel" is sometimes exactly enough, and how to match your current resources to the causes you care about.3 Takeaways:Compassion fatigue is real—and so is your capacity limit. Not every cause can be your cause. Ask yourself: What do I have to give right now? And where do I want to give it? Be honest about your capacity and kind to yourself about your limitations. Sometimes offering the shovel is enough.Looking for the helpers activates moral elevation—a biological antidote to compassion fatigue. Practice dialectical thinking: both/and, not either/or. Horrifying things are happening AND people are showing up for each other. You can witness harm AND witness helpers. Resources mentioned:Book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve by Amanda Armstrong—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

When the world feels like it's falling apart, how do we stay connected to ourselves while still showing up for what matters? In this episode, we're talking about collective trauma, what it actually means to be "regulated" (hint: it doesn't mean calm), and the tangible nervous system tools that can help you stay resourced during ongoing crisis. This isn't about fixing everything—it's about staying grounded enough to keep going.In this episode, you'll learn:What collective and vicarious trauma actually are, and how your nervous system processes witnessing suffering even through a screenWhy "regulated" doesn't mean calm—and what regulated activism actually looks like in practiceThe neuroscience behind tools like predictability, warmth, and nostalgia as primitive safety signals for your nervous systemWhy "tangible help kills the helplessness" and how micro-acts of care keep you connected and resourcedHow to practice dialectical thinking: holding both the horror and the helpers at the same time3 Takeaways:Regulated doesn't mean calm—it means connected. You can be furious, heartbroken, and activated AND still be regulated. Regulation is about staying connected to your body, your breath, and your capacity to respond (not just react) while you feel all the feelings and fight for what matters.Tangible help kills the helplessness. When everything feels too big and overwhelming, do something small and real. Drop off coffee for a neighbor. Text a friend "thinking of you." Bake bread and share it. These micro-acts of care aren't trivial—they're how we stay connected and resourced enough to keep going.Look for the helpers—it's neuroscience, not toxic positivity. Witnessing acts of courage, kindness, and resistance activates your vagus nerve and counters compassion fatigue. Your nervous system needs evidence that while the monster is real, the protector is active too. Practice dialectical thinking: horrifying things are happening AND people are showing up for each other. Both are true.Resources mentioned:CLICK HERE to join my monthly release class. Use the code "REGULATE" for 100% off.CLICK HERE to get 10% off my favorite phone boundary support (BRICK)Post from @meghanbreentherapy—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

New intro, repeat episode of one I published almost exactly a year ago. While the examples I offer are a year old, the suggestions offered apply just as much to some of the chaos we're all experiencing this week as well. Hit play on this episode again, see what resonates, and I'll be back next week with some new thoughts.-In this episode of Regulate & Rewire, we explore how to navigate collective trauma and maintain mental health in a world that feels increasingly chaotic. From California wildfires to global conflicts, we discuss why our ancient nervous systems struggle with modern information overload and offer practical strategies for staying regulated while staying informed. Learn about the concept of "conscious oscillation," tips for healthy information consumption, and why finding moments of joy isn't just allowed - it's necessary for sustained resilience and impact.Three Takeaways:Our nervous systems evolved for a world of immediate, local threats - not the constant stream of global catastrophes we now face through modern technology. Understanding this mismatch helps explain why we feel overwhelmed and gives us permission to set boundaries.Balance Information and Regulation: Limit news consumption, take meaningful action when you can, and prioritize rest and joy to keep your nervous system balanced.Finding joy and allowing moments of lightness during dark times isn't privilege or denial - it's a biological necessity for nervous system regulation. Conscious oscillation between engagement and rest helps us stay resilient and effective.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise