Ep. 151 Bekah Martinez on Becoming Pro-Choice, Politics + Parenting, and Performative Activism

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In this week’s mini episode, I wanted to give you an update on the upcoming tell-all episodes with my Mom and sister, express my appreciation for each and everyone of you, reflect on the past 3 years of Recovering From Reality, and say one last goodbye!        If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today’s episode is icon, influencer, and confidence queen Serena Fucking Kerrigan — otherwise known as SFK. After graduating from Duke University, Serena was hired as a producer at Refinery29. In February 2020, she quit her job to launch her own company that would empower women to live their lives unapologetically and authentically. Since then, she has hosted the first ever Instagram Live reality show, Let’s Fucking Date, launched a hugely successful line of card games, and amassed a huge following on social media—bringing her followers along on her dating escapades and adventures, all for the plot!(bio adapted from letsfuckingdate.com) In this episode, we discuss how Serena manifested her dream life, exactly how you should be approaching dating apps (prompts, banter, getting on the first date, etc), hyping yourself up, making yourself unavailable at the beginning of a relationship, leaning into your devine feminine when dating, and so much more! We answer so many of your questions and give advice on everything from confidence to dating to boundaries and more!    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am sitting down with Bekah Martinez—cohost of Chatty Broads and founder of Good Alma! We discuss performative activism in the influencer community, where we go now post-Roe society, how growing up in a Conservative Christina home has impacted Bekah’s political views today, politics and parenting, the adoption process, childhood resilience, how you’re helping to heal net suffering, setting boundaries on the internet, and so much more!       If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week’s episode is my last solo episode on the podcast. I’m choosing to listen to the signals my body is sending me and take a step back and slow down.   In this episode, I dive into the Roe v. Wade reversal, the trauma of Covid, and answer your questions about what I wish I saw in the wellness community, my favorite workouts, getting in the mood when you’re not feeling it, my boyfriend, summer plans, if I regretted opening my marriage, letting go of relationships, and what’s to come in the next few weeks of RFR!        Our lovely sponsor this week:   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I had a profound conversation with activist Ashlee Marie Preston. Ashlee is a proud black, transgender woman who is constantly advocating for LGBTQ+ youth and those who are struggling. She is now 8 years sober, and has the humility and kindness to share her story of recovery from childhood abuse, meth, prostitution and homelessness with us. Ashlee is now the messenger she has been waiting for her entire life, and I believe she is a messenger for all of us too. Ashlee grew up unsure of her gender identity in the conservative state of Kentucky. She shares her harrowing story of sexual abuse, being institutionalized as a child, and how her drug addiction began. She moved to California at 19, and found herself struggling to fit in. She was fired from her retail job for being trans and became homeless, without a shelter that would accept her and her trans identity.   On the streets, Ashlee resorted to sex work as a means of survival. She turned to substances to numb out and survive. It was finally Ashlee’s understanding of her relationship with God/universe, that brought her to the breaking point. She began recovery, and found her voice in activism through working with nonprofit organizations, and seeing how poorly people like her were being treated.   Everything that Ashlee thought made her broken and unworthy are now symbols of strength and beauty in her life. Without the work she’s done (in spirituality, sobriety, and service), she would not be helping people like she is today.   Ashlee’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleemariepreston/    Our lovely sponsor this week:   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today’s guest is Brandi Jordan! Brandi has been helping new families grow, adjust, and find balance for almost two decades. She is a Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Pediatric Sleep Specialist, Newborn Care Specialist and a Postpartum Doula. (bio via thecradlecompany.com) She’s also the host of the Dear Doula podcast on the Dear Media network! In this episode, we discuss how Brandi became a Doula, the importance of the postpartum period, the cultural differences of parenting between France + the US, how socioeconomic status can impact breastfeeding, our thoughts on the formula shortage, the importance of using your intuition when parenting, and hospital vs. home births.    Dear Doula Podcast: https://dearmedia.com/shows/dear-doula/ Brandi’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandi_jordan_official/     Our lovely sponsor this week:   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.     Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today’s guest is Caroline Stanbury—host of Divorced Not Dead and cast member of the brand new Real Housewives of Dubai.We dive into our experiences on reality tv, common misconceptions about being a reality star, being a single and working mother, building the life of your dreams, and going through a public divorce.   Our lovely sponsor this week is:   Coterie Diapers and Wipes: Right now, Coterie is partnering with my podcast to offer you 20% off your first order plus free shipping at Coterie.com/REALITY    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy Pride Month! In this week’s episode I am sitting down with one of my closest friends—Jeff Epstein. We dive into my unhinged 30th birthday in Vegas, Grindr vs. lesbian Tinder, what pride means to us, Jeff’s coming out story, queer terminology, why you shouldn’t go to your family to vent about your partner, our thoughts on AA, first times, one-night stands, and so much more!    Jeff’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsjeffepstein/   Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code REALITY at www.upstart.com.    Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.     Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode I am sitting down with Nicole Sodoma—a Marriage-loving Divorce Attorney and Author. We discuss our shared backgrounds of growing up in divorced households, the importance of dual devotion in a partnership, what you should know about prenups, why you shouldn’t say “I’m sorry” when someone tells you they’re divorced, explaining divorce to kids, and so much more.   Shop Nicoles’ book: https://nicolesodoma.com/    Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Your new favorite shoes are waiting. Discover the versatile styles you can wear absolutely anywhere and get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/ REALITY.   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.